Working during the day and part-time at night, this precious opportunity in life has left me physically and mentally exhausted. What should I do?

Hello. I'm sure you'll agree that no job is easy. Part-time work can often be more challenging than you might imagine. However, it seems to have brought you a lot of gains.

It might be worth considering that working during the day and then coming back at night to work part-time might not be the best long-term solution. It's important to rest.

It's important to remember that human energy is limited, as is energy and physical strength. If you try to do too much at once, you will naturally become tired. After all, we're not made of steel. I can sense that you're currently feeling anxious, hoping to succeed through hard work. You believe that everyone around you is laughing at you and that you should have made your fortune quietly, but you've told everyone around you about it.

I can sense your anxiety, pain, and confusion, but you are determined to persevere. You aspire to succeed through hard work, but at the same time, you are apprehensive about failure. You are currently working at a high intensity, thinking about how to improve your ranking and make money every day, which can sometimes lead to emotional tension, making it challenging to relax, and in turn, some negative emotions.

If you really like this part-time job, it might be helpful to try not to put too much pressure on yourself. It's probably not a good idea to always think about what other people will think of you or whether you can do a good job. These things are not the most important thing. It might be more helpful to focus on being happy in the process.

It's important to remember that you don't need to worry too much about what others say. We all have our own thoughts, and not everyone is going to have the same opinion. It's not always possible to control what others think, so it's better to focus on doing your best and being true to yourself. Learning to relax and letting yourself be comfortable is a great way to improve your mental health. And remember, there's no need to think about success all the time.

I hope you can soon find ways to overcome your anxiety and discover a lifestyle that truly suits you, one that is full of motivation and hope.

Hello, question asker!

From what you've told me, it's clear you're really passionate about this part-time job and you've gained a lot from it. It's so sad that, at the moment, it's causing you a lot of pain.

So, let's take a look at what's causing the pain, shall we?

It's so sad when you share something as personal as your part-time job with people close to you and they don't offer you any help or advice. It's even worse when they ignore you, which makes you feel disappointed and angry.

I can see that your body is feeling the effects of the part-time job, and I know you're feeling tired and run down. It's totally understandable!

You have higher expectations for your part-time job. You were just trying it out, but it's going really well! You may be able to change your life, and even become financially free. However, this expectation has also increased some confusion.

Right now, you're feeling a bit stretched thin, aren't you? It's totally understandable! You've got a part-time job on the go, and it's taking up a lot of your time, energy, and skills. It's only natural to feel a little nervous and anxious, especially when you're worried about missing out on this amazing opportunity.

If the above analysis feels right to you, then ask yourself:

Do the opinions of others matter to your success? From your response, I can already tell that when others suppress you, you don't let it get you down. You stand up for yourself and don't give up. Instead, you get angry, which shows that you don't agree with their views. This anger is your determination to persevere, and I admire you for it!

It's so important to take care of ourselves, especially when we're feeling down. Make sure you're looking after your body, too!

Could a lack of skills be the main cause of our anxiety? If so, what can we do to improve these skills and clear some obstacles to our success?

For example, have you ever thought about joining a group of people who do similar things and learning coping skills from them?

As for whether you can succeed and change your fate, no one seems to be able to say. But what makes you different from others is that you already have a chance, which ordinary people may not be able to encounter. So, keep up the great work!

So what I want to say is, don't take it personally when people around you don't understand. Look after your health, brush up on your skills, grab the opportunity with both hands, and you'll be on your way to success in no time!

Hello, question asker! I'm June Laile, and I'm here to help.

I totally get it. You're probably feeling pretty wiped out, both physically and mentally. And juggling a daytime job and a nighttime part-time job is no easy feat.

In the hustle and bustle of city life, many of us work a day job and a part-time job in the evenings to pursue more income and growth opportunities. While this can be a great way to build our careers, it can also lead to feelings of physical and mental exhaustion. From a psychological perspective, there are multiple factors at play.

First and foremost, we'd like to mention stress and the stress response. We all know that prolonged work and a lack of sufficient rest can lead to a gradual accumulation of physical and mental stress, which builds up like a mountain.

This long-term state of stress is like a time bomb that could trigger a series of physical and mental problems at any time, such as anxiety, depression, and other negative emotions, as well as a weakened immune system.

Secondly, it's really important to think about work-life balance. We humans need to rest and relax to recharge our batteries and be ready to take on new challenges!

However, when the long-term workload weighs like a boulder on the mind, this balance can be upset, leading to a significant decline in quality of life. It's so important to remember that rest and recreation are not only a physical necessity, but also key to maintaining mental health.

And we can't forget about self-realization and satisfaction! If part-time work doesn't align with your interests and career goals, even if it brings in income, it might not fill that empty feeling in your heart.

This lack of satisfaction can be like an invisible wound that quietly erodes your mental health.

On top of all that, time management is also a biggie. Learning how to reasonably allocate and plan time to achieve a work-life balance is a skill that takes some practice, but it's worth it!

When you feel like you're running on empty, it might be time to take a step back and see if there are any areas of your life that could use a little more balance.

We're here to help! We have some practical tips for these problems.

First, it's really important to make sure you're getting enough rest and relaxation every day. This means making sure you're getting enough sleep, eating a healthy diet, exercising moderately, and doing relaxing activities like meditation, reading, or taking a hot bath.

You might find it helpful to adjust your working hours or workload to reduce stress.

Second, it's really important to clarify your career goals and choose a job that matches your interests and career development. Think about what you really want, and if part-time work isn't in line with your career goals, it might be time to make a new choice.

It's also a great idea to ask for help from your family, friends, or even professionals if you need it!

Then, it's really important to draw a clear line between work and life and not let your part-time job take over your personal time. It's also a good idea to learn to say "no" and, if you can, reduce some unnecessary tasks or social engagements.

And there are some lovely relaxation techniques, such as meditation and yoga, that can help relieve stress.

And finally, make sure you set a reasonable schedule to make sure you get the right balance between work, rest, and entertainment.

Remember, your physical and mental health is your most valuable asset. Don't overstretch yourself, okay? You've got to find the right balance for yourself if you want to get good results at work and in your personal life.

Listen to your body and mind, and don't ignore the signals if you feel overworked or stressed. We all need a little help sometimes! Take action promptly and adjust your lifestyle and work patterns to maintain balance and good health.

I love you, world! And I love you too! Have a great day!

You initiated a side venture related to your primary occupation with an exploratory and receptive disposition. When this ancillary enterprise yielded a series of advantages, including a platform and a following, a source of income, and interview opportunities with prominent organizations, you discerned the potential of the ancillary enterprise and commenced contemplating long-term strategies.

Additionally, the combined pressures of managing the demands of primary and secondary employment, performing to a high standard, and responding to external commentary and feedback can be significant.

In particular, external evaluations are a significant source of distress. The opinions of platforms and fans have the potential to influence the outcomes of one's side business. To a certain extent, individuals may associate the opinions of others with their abilities and value, which can subsequently impact their self-evaluation in response to external feedback. Initially, individuals may have exhibited high levels of confidence. However, in the face of external opposition, they may experience feelings of inadequacy and a sense of being devalued. This can lead to a heightened sense of rejection and defeat, as if the success of one's side business has suddenly become a measure of their worth.

Indeed, a secondary occupation can be considered a form of employment in its own right. The primary distinction between a secondary job and a primary position is the nature of the work, with the former often involving freelance or variable income, and the latter typically entailing full-time employment and a fixed salary. Additionally, the working environment differs, with the secondary job often being a solo endeavor, whereas the primary position is often part of a larger company team. It is not uncommon for individuals to perceive a secondary job as less stable than a primary position. However, this generalization may not fully align with reality. In the current economic climate and job market, the long-term stability of a full-time position may not necessarily exceed that of a freelance role. The income from a full-time job is often predictable, yet it may have limited growth potential. In contrast, a part-time job can be viewed as a form of entrepreneurship, which carries inherent risks but also potential for significant rewards.

Therefore, both paths possess distinct advantages, and the pivotal consideration is to ascertain which path is more congruent with one's career interests, development goals, and personal growth.

Career development is a process of short-term trade-offs and long-term integration. The current dilemma is not one of a lack of options, but rather that the available options are all beneficial, and thus choosing one entails a certain degree of compromise.

Given that you are young and have only recently embarked upon your career, it is evident that you have already established favourable opportunities for yourself. It is also apparent that the feedback you have received from those around you represents their own subjective views, which have been influenced by their own experiences. Consequently, this feedback has limited relevance to your future development.

With regard to the comments on platforms and fans, regardless of one's actions, there is a similar pressure in all walks of life. This pressure pertains to the acceptance and purchase of products and services by consumers, as well as the implementation and market release of innovative concepts. One can distinguish oneself appropriately from the content, services, or works one provides. One can devote oneself to researching and releasing results, testing market feedback, and then making improvements. However, this is all part of work, not life.

Good day. I am a heart exploration coach. I wish you well in your future endeavors. Life is a beautiful journey, not for appreciation, but for growth and development.

I understand your ambivalence. The part-time position has brought you greater value and a sense of accomplishment, proving your abilities and talents. It has also allowed you to explore a new direction in your career. However, the success of the position has also brought you greater pressure. You have begun to worry about what you have gained and lost, to care about what others think of you, and your original confidence has gradually turned into self-doubt.

Rose 1. Focusing on part-time work is driven by an internal desire for a sense of worth and security.

From the initial stages of starting a part-time job to consistently performing at a high level and gaining the attention of the platform, you have effectively established a new avenue for personal wealth accumulation through your own initiative and dedication.

Your objective is to achieve financial independence by excelling in your part-time role and becoming a top performer.

We tend to direct our efforts towards tasks that enhance our sense of value. Despite working part-time, you are investing more time and energy than you would in your main role.

Your efforts are therefore worthwhile, and the part-time job has brought you greater value and more wealth.

As performance improves, anxiety levels may rise due to the desire for greater security. This can result in a focus on rankings, traffic monitoring, higher evaluations, and ultimately, greater wealth.

Security is derived from an internal sense of worth. In other words, the higher our sense of worth, the higher our sense of security.

Our sense of worth is derived from our self-perception.

Flow, wealth, ranking, and evaluation are all external factors that can enhance self-confidence to a certain extent. However, losing them can result in a return to self-doubt.

Your concerns about what you will gain and lose stem from your focus on external pursuits. However, it is essential to recognize that your personal value is fundamental. Are you confident in your self-worth?

As you mentioned, you are currently in a sensitive state, and you have also misinterpreted and misunderstood the reassurances of those around you. They have the best intentions of caring for and loving you. You interpreted it as jealousy because you have doubts about your own sense of value. Without self-praise, you have doubts about others.

2. Establish objectives for each phase of the process to ensure a balance between ease and composure.

Your abilities are evident and require no further substantiation. Additional evidence would merely illustrate an internal deficiency, and no quantity of material assets could adequately address that deficit.

It is therefore important to focus on your own development, to shift your external pursuits towards internal growth, to recognise your own value, and to give yourself positive reinforcement.

You may set phased goals for this part-time position, and any quantifiable metrics will facilitate your ability to track progress and provide necessary recognition. Even a brief intermission, such as a cup of coffee, can enhance your sense of value.

Ultimately, work serves life. If you are still unhappy and not happy even if you have more money in the future, even if you have a main job and a part-time job, you will not be happy.

The present state of unhappiness is a result of the perception that the future is made up of each moment. This perception is not necessarily accurate, as demonstrated by the example of Mr. Nan Huaijin, who had no money but was still considered rich throughout his life.

When he required funds, they were readily available to him.

Your intrinsic value remains unchanged regardless of your employment status. The pursuit of happiness and its perception are not contingent on external factors. It is essential to detach from external pursuits and cultivate inner peace to enhance your ability to perceive happiness.

I hope the above is helpful to you. Best regards, [Your name] [Your title]

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Hello! I just wanted to give you a warm hug from afar.

I'm really happy that you reached out for help. I hope that I can support you and help you in some way. I can feel the confusion, helplessness, and confusion in your heart, and your desire to be understood and supported.

You've made more money from your side job than from your main job in a short period of time, which makes you want to work hard to develop your side job. But here's the thing: because your side job is a new industry, the key to earning income is the number of followers, likes, and reposts you get. In other words, your content needs to gain the emotional and sentimental recognition of your followers. But you don't believe you have the ability to continue to gain the recognition, attention, and likes of your followers. So, this is a key reason why you feel there is too much uncertainty in this part-time job.

I'd love to know your thoughts on this!

As an adult, it can be really tempting to want a high income and to want to be sure of what you're doing. But it's so important to remember that these things are based on your own health. Even though your main job income is relatively small, it doesn't cause a financial crisis and it doesn't affect your physical and mental health.

But doing a part-time job requires you to stay up late every day and keep an eye on your phone, which can really take a toll on your physical and mental health. In particular, excessive attention to data such as rankings and the number of likes can make you feel anxious and uneasy. Because on this platform you need to compete and win in order to become a mainstream influencer, which is a very different way of promotion from the concept of unity and cooperation in your main job.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on this!

So, whether it's the platform's judging standards, the uncertainty, or others' attacks out of jealousy, disapproval, etc., behind all your concerns and anxieties is your self-comforting, self-deception that you may not be suited for this intensely competitive career model, and it's your unconscious self-protection. What do you think, sweetie?

As an adult, it's important to understand that there's no such thing as a perfect choice. There's no such thing as a good or bad choice, right or wrong choice, as long as you can take responsibility for your choice. Let's say, for example, that you abide by the platform's rules, regularly output high-quality content, and the part-time job you do is also an area you truly love. You provide valuable content to your fans with the goal of growing yourself, and income is just a by-product of your passion. Then, no matter what difficulties you encounter, you'll have the confidence and motivation to solve and face them. And doing this itself is a nourishment for you, not a drain.

I'd love to know your thoughts on this!

So, whether you choose to work full-time, part-time, or a combination of the two, it's really important to think about what your motives are, what's most important to you, and what lifestyle is truly right for you. In other words, you need to know yourself well enough to make choices and decisions that are truly suitable for you. What do you think?

I really think you'd enjoy reading "There is only one thing in life."

Hello!

After reading your description, I totally get where you're at!

First of all, you wrote in the title of your description: "Working during the day and part-time at night, a rare opportunity in life has made me exhausted both physically and mentally. What should I do?" People who work during the day and also at night are generally people under financial pressure. In past cases, people under financial pressure either gave up on themselves and gave up, or they went about their efforts with hope.

Those who are exposed to it more are people who work hard with hope. In this case, there is such a person! He was originally a small leader of a public institution. In preparation for marriage, he was probably psychologically influenced and cheated on the Internet, and ended up with a huge loan, even buying his own house.

After a brief psychological counseling session, a fantastic opportunity arose! It was a simple job, starting from scratch, with the hope of continuing to work hard. Some people do it because of their family or children, and it is a kind of responsibility as a parent. Therefore, many people will seek another job within their own time frame.

This shows the resilience of many people. You wrote in your description: "Since December last year, I have been working part-time while doing my main job."

I was initially drawn to this part-time job because it's related to my main job and contributes to it. I thought, "Why not give it a try? I can learn something anyway." And I'm so glad I did! It's a great opportunity to learn and grow, especially since it's closely related to your main job.

Second, you wrote in your description: "Unexpectedly, I made a profit, and I have also accumulated some followers on this platform and gained the attention of the platform side. I may actually get a relatively stable part-time job with good income—and it's going to be great!"

And it is possible that if I do a good job, this part-time job will eventually even be more profitable than my main job. From the description, you can see that you get more from the platform than you do in real work, and here you can see that your emotions have already begun to fluctuate, as can be seen from your ifs.

You used the word "if" in your description because you know you can make it work. Comparing the platform to real work is a great way to stay focused, but who can refuse praise?

Now, which would you choose between praise and indifference? I think more people would choose the former, and I'd be one of them!

You also mentioned that you work during the day and then come home to work another part-time job at night. That must be really exhausting! My neck aches so much that I've been unable to sleep lately, and I feel like my back is always tense. And a lot of the time I'm just focusing on whether my ranking has gone up, fantasizing about whether I can make money again.

Even in the fantasy that you are doing very well and become the top dog, you don't have to go to work! You can devote yourself to your favorite part-time job.

You should definitely pay attention to some of your descriptions! You live in the first place because you rank yourself high and fantasize about becoming the top. Is this a kind of psychology?

It can be a positive mentality, but it can also be vanity! This is a mentality that you need to control the most. Perhaps you are more concerned about the rate of attention or exposure than the economic situation, so mentality is even more important to you now.

Here's some great advice for you!

1. Judging from your description, there is actually not much that I can give you. But what I can give you is the power to control your own mentality!

2. Make reasonable plans based on your own situation. Many times, your interests have to be affected by the economy, and interests become a kind of material. But don't worry! You can still make your own plans and follow your interests.

3. It's so much easier to be yourself than to be what others think you are! Mental toughness is also a great way to enter society, so on this path, you'll get lots of advice from others, and you get to choose what's right for you.

The above content is for your reference only!

It may be helpful to consider that good health and a positive mental state are important foundations for success. Prolonged fatigue and stress can potentially impact our physical and mental health over time. Here are some suggestions that could be helpful in getting back on track:

1. It would be wise to put your health first.

It might be helpful to consider the physical symptoms you are experiencing, such as neck pain and insomnia, which could be signs of overwork and stress. You might find it beneficial to prioritize your physical health, take adequate rest, and consult a doctor if necessary.

2. **Time management:**

It might be helpful to review your time management strategies to see if there are ways you can work more efficiently and reduce the amount of overtime you do.

It would be beneficial to divide your time between work and rest, and to ensure that you get sufficient rest to restore your physical and mental strength.

3. **Mental adjustment**:

It might be helpful to try to adopt a more positive attitude towards the stress and anxiety caused by part-time work. It's good to see the potential rewards of your efforts, but it's also important to accept the possibility of failure and to be prepared for it.

It might be helpful to avoid focusing too much on rankings and income, and instead focus on personal growth and skill improvement.

4. It may be helpful to seek support:

It might be helpful to talk to a trusted friend or family member to share your stress and confusion and to seek their understanding and support.

You might consider joining a relevant community or finding peers so that you can get more industry information and encouragement.

5. It might be helpful to consider professional counseling.

If you feel that your anxiety is affecting your daily life, you might like to think about speaking to a counselor.

6. Setting goals:

It may be helpful to set both short-term and long-term goals. Short-term goals could be to complete a project or reach a certain number of followers, while long-term goals could be career development plans.

It would be beneficial to set goals that are both challenging and achievable, and to avoid setting overly high expectations that could lead to unnecessary stress.

7. **Risk assessment**:

It would be wise to consider the potential instability and risks associated with part-time work and develop strategies to cope with them.

It is important to remember that part-time income should not be relied on too heavily, and to maintain a rational and balanced attitude.

It is important to remember that everyone experiences fluctuations in their career, and success requires time and consistent effort. It is beneficial to be patient, to embrace every opportunity to learn and grow, and to also prioritize self-care.

Hello, I'm Zeyu!

No matter if you're working during the day or have a part-time job in the evening, it all takes a toll on our energy. It's totally normal to feel tired, no matter what the external environment is like. The exhaustion we feel now might be a sign that something from the past is coming up for us.

It doesn't matter if it's your main business or just a side project—as long as it's something you're passionate about, you'll be hooked! Once you have that desire, you'll find yourself constantly striving to achieve it. That's when the fun really begins! This kind of change is totally normal. Stress can affect our emotions and bodies. The right amount of stress helps us take action, but too much can really take a toll on us. It can make us feel physically and mentally exhausted.

Maybe it's because of these changes in us that we have the chance to see how our current work is affecting us. At the end of the article, the original poster said, "I might just be feeling extra sensitive right now, and it's possible that people are sharing their opinions from their own perspective, but I care about it." Try to put yourself in other people's shoes. We all want to believe in a better future, and we're all willing to give it a try and push ourselves a bit. But our physical and mental state is already giving us a heads-up. What we really need to do now is give ourselves a full rest and relieve our stress.

When it comes to part-time work, it's a great idea to adjust your mindset. We can hope for the best, but wishing for it is not the same as achieving it. So we might as well put our thoughts into action! We don't have to feel pressured by other people's opinions. Try to allow these views to exist.

And now for some good news! You can relieve stress through mindfulness meditation, breathing exercises, progressive muscle relaxation training, etc.

In the end, we can always reorganize our plans to suit the current situation and give our body and mind a well-deserved break. Sometimes going slower doesn't affect the speed of reaching the end, and it may even get us there faster! The body is the foundation of a revolution. How long can success be maintained at the expense of the body and mind?

Take it slow! Rome wasn't built in a day, and neither was our career.

You found a part-time job that you thought would help you take your main job to the next level. You never expected that while improving your professional skills, you would also be able to earn money. This unexpected gain makes you happy, but it also makes you physically and mentally exhausted. Juggling your main job and side job makes you feel unwell and sleepless every night. You want to seize this part-time job opportunity wholeheartedly and make a career for yourself, but you are anxious about failure. When you talk to the people around you about this, they don't understand or support you. They even attack you. I can feel your frustration, conflict, helplessness, and anxiety.

It's great that you can work part-time on top of your main job and help develop it too! You've also been able to get interviews with companies you couldn't get interviews with before, which shows that in the short time you've been working part-time, your professional abilities have been greatly enhanced and are worthy of recognition.

When it comes to concerns about the platform and customer reviews, as well as the different assessments of the unit and how customer feedback is coordinated in the main business, it's important to approach both part-time and main business the same way.

Right now, the part-time job isn't long-term, and it's not a good idea to quit your main job to focus on it. It's too risky. Try to find a good balance between your main job and the part-time job, plan your time for the part-time job and your rest time, and get enough sleep. After all, your health is the foundation of everything. If you're not in good shape, you won't be able to develop your career. Secondly, learn from the experiences of those who have done well on the part-time job platform. It would be better if you can communicate with them frequently, so you can better understand how to operate and develop the platform, and feel more confident.

After you've had a chance to observe and gather information, it's time to decide what your next step should be.

As for the people around you who don't understand or criticize your decision, it's probably because they don't realize the value of this new venture. They may think it's just a part-time job, something to do for fun, and can't empathize with you because they haven't experienced the hard work you put in every day. Their doubts about you may be because they haven't yet realized their dream of part-time work. But, none of these external noises are as important as the voice inside your own heart, and none of them can be used as a reason to stop.

Once you've done a full review of the part-time field, it's time to make a decision. No matter what the outcome is, inaction isn't an option. If you put in the work and seize the opportunity, success is within reach.

I'm Chen Yu, a psychological counselor, and I'm here to help you find your inner light!

Dear Question Asker, It is evident that your current work schedule, which involves a daytime position followed by a part-time job in the evening, is not only a source of enjoyment for you but also serves to enhance your performance in your primary occupation. In addition to providing financial compensation, this arrangement offers you a sense of accomplishment.

However, the part-time job has also brought a considerable amount of pressure to bear on the individual in question. From a physical perspective, the individual has been experiencing neck pain and insomnia. From a mental perspective, the individual has been forced to contend with a multitude of challenges, including comments from the platform and users, as well as a lack of understanding and support from those in their immediate circle. These circumstances have led to feelings of fatigue, powerlessness, anxiety, and helplessness.

You employed a trial-and-error approach, which resulted in unexpected gains in both financial and follower counts. This demonstrates your considerable capabilities. Additionally, the experience has instilled a profound sense of confidence and accomplishment. You have begun contemplating the potential wealth and benefits that may accrue from devoting yourself to this part-time endeavor. However, given the nascent and evolving nature of the part-time job and the accompanying instability, you are uncertain about your ability to excel in this role. This has led to considerable anxiety.

It would be prudent to take a moment to calm down and conduct a thorough assessment of the part-time job project. It would also be beneficial to seek advice from individuals who possess a deeper understanding of the project and to evaluate the extent to which you can truly achieve the desired outcomes.

You have indicated that those in your immediate circle do not comprehend or endorse your pursuit of a part-time position, and they have even resorted to verbal abuse. You perceive that you may be excessively sensitive, which has led you to place a high value on the opinions of others. As a result of attaching such significance to these negative perceptions, you experience considerable distress.

One might posit that the lack of understanding and support from one's immediate circle is due to their lack of knowledge about the project and their own lack of experience with it. Consequently, they are unable to empathize with one's perspective and perceive the potential for a promising future. This part-time position has the potential to instill a sense of hope, fulfillment, and appreciation for the value of life. It is this passion, care, and aspiration for success that drive one's commitment to excel and achieve meaningful outcomes.

Given your relatively recent experience of part-time work and evident capabilities, it would be prudent to avoid hasty decisions based on external opinions. As you are still young, you have the opportunity to conduct a comprehensive assessment of your innermost thoughts and then act upon them.

It is my hope that the aforementioned personal opinions and suggestions will prove to be of some assistance.

Dear Stranger,

Hello! I hope you'll accept this virtual hug from afar.

It seems that your current stress mainly stems from three areas:

Firstly, the workload can be quite challenging. Working during the day and part-time at night can sometimes result in physical discomfort, including sore neck and back pain, insomnia, and so on.

Secondly, it would be beneficial to consider the comments made about you by the platform and other users.

Thirdly, it would be beneficial to consider the opinions of those around you who are aware of your part-time job.

The first point, workload, is something you can reasonably allocate based on your future plans, your physical condition, and your energy. If you still plan to focus on your main job in the future, you may wish to consider reducing your investment in your side job, as the side job can only be used as a supplement. If you plan to gradually replace your main job with your current side job, you may have to reconsider.

The second and third points can be seen as reflecting the outside world's opinion of you. Regardless of how well you do, the outside world's opinion will likely be mixed. We can learn from the opinions and feedback of others and take what is useful for ourselves, promoting and driving our own improvement and growth. If you feel the other person is expressing themselves purely emotionally or maliciously attacking, you may choose to filter out this part of the information and simply disregard it.

I hope you can find a path that suits you best, and I wish you well!

Dear friend,

From your description, I'm really curious about what kind of job you're talking about. I'd love to learn more and possibly even join!

1. Given that your neck is hurting from being tired, I feel it's important to mention that this is a natural consequence of making a choice. The challenge of balancing financial aspirations with part-time work can often lead to physical strain.

You might also consider incorporating some physical activity you enjoy into your routine. Adjusting the pace of work and life could be beneficial.

Perhaps you could consider adding a little more variety to your life?

2. You are quite obedient and used to listening to the advice of your friends and family. You also seem to be experiencing some indecision.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider when you can make up your own mind, or gain a deeper understanding of yourself and why you are used to listening to other people's ideas. It might also be beneficial to reflect on whether your childhood caregivers made a lot of decisions for you.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider whether you would prefer to be that child again, or to be yourself. It might also be beneficial to reflect on whether you should listen to other people or yourself on this matter.

3. I must acknowledge that I have also been self-critical, as I have shared this with many people, some of whom may not have been the most appropriate. I have also made similar mistakes.

3. I must admit that I have also been self-critical, as I have shared this with so many people, and unfortunately, not all of them were the right ones. I have also made similar mistakes.

It can be challenging to talk to someone about your most important needs. It's natural to want to find someone to talk to. However, after sharing your secrets, it's common to feel a sense of worthlessness. This is understandable, as it can feel as if you are not as good as you thought. It's important to recognize that needs have priorities. By making a choice, you are responsible for the results of your actions. This is an area where we can both benefit from continued effort. Let's work together to find solutions!

I understand your feelings. Your enthusiasm and expectations for this part-time job are admirable, but I also sense the pressure and anxiety you're experiencing.

This is normal. We all want to get things right, especially when it comes to our financial well-being and future.

Your enthusiasm and motivation are valuable, but remember not to let them exhaust you.

You must allow yourself sufficient rest to maintain your health.

Second, success doesn't happen overnight. It takes time and effort. You've already achieved something with your part-time job, which is great.

You need to put in sustained effort and patience to improve yourself step by step so you can better achieve your goals.

Also, don't waste your time worrying about what other people think. Everyone has their own opinions, and they don't know you, so their comments are not accurate.

Trust yourself and stick to your choices. If someone gives you constructive advice, consider taking it.

Finally, learn to relax. Don't stay in a state of tension. Relax. Take deep breaths. Go for a walk. Listen to music.

Stay positive and know that you can overcome difficulties and achieve your goals.

You will face difficulties and challenges on your journey to achieving your dreams. These are also opportunities for growth and progress. Stay enthusiastic, patient, and believe in yourself. You will succeed.

You've got this!

Dear question asker, My name is Evan, and I am a consultant in the field of career development.

From the questioner's description, it is evident that they are experiencing fatigue and discomfort. Frequently, when an individual lacks substantial experience in a particular field, they tend to receive a multitude of suggestions and perspectives from various sources. These may include disapproval, which can ultimately discourage the questioner.

It is not uncommon to experience feelings of fatigue, anxiety, and anticipation when confronted with such prospects and challenges. It is also typical to encounter obstacles and difficulties along the way as one strives to achieve one's aspirations and realize one's self-worth.

However, maintaining this state for an extended period may have adverse effects on both physical and mental health. In light of your aspirations, it is essential to make necessary adjustments to align your current lifestyle with your goals, achieve a healthier work-life balance, and address any underlying negative emotions.

As the question was posed on an online forum, we are unable to provide a detailed response. However, we can offer some straightforward suggestions to assist the questioner in making the necessary adjustments.

It is important to adjust your mindset.

It is important to recognise that no role is without its challenges. While this part-time position may offer significant benefits, it may also involve pressure and uncertainty.

It is advisable to avoid focusing on short-term rankings and earnings, and instead concentrate on long-term learning and accumulation. Frequently, an excessive focus on such rankings or competitions arranged by some platforms will result in the accumulation of negative emotions.

When pursuing the desired position, it is essential to establish realistic expectations. It is crucial to avoid fantasies that are not feasible and to regularly assess whether your skills and experience can adequately address the complexities of the role.

Time management is an essential skill in any professional setting. It enables individuals to prioritize tasks, allocate time effectively, and meet deadlines.

If the questioner feels exhausted from working two jobs, they should attempt to better manage their time to ensure sufficient rest for both their daytime position and their evening part-time role.

It may be beneficial to assess whether there are ways to streamline your workflow to enhance efficiency.

If feasible, determine which option is more crucial for the individual's long-term stability. The individual may consider reducing their part-time work hours to prioritize rest and recovery.

Physical and Mental Health:

It is important to prioritize your health, even when you are pressed for time. Symptoms such as cervical spondylosis and insomnia can serve as early warning signs.

The questioner can alleviate discomfort through suitable exercise, massage, or physical therapy.

It is important to ensure that you get enough sleep to avoid insomnia.

It is recommended that you engage in relaxing activities such as meditation, yoga, or reading to relieve anxiety and stress.

Seek assistance from a trusted colleague or supervisor.

The questioner may find it beneficial to confide in a trusted colleague or supervisor, who can provide guidance and support.

It may be beneficial to join a relevant community or organization to exchange experiences and insights with like-minded individuals. Regardless of the field, it is often challenging to gain a comprehensive understanding of a new subject on one's own. Seeking guidance from trusted colleagues or mentors can be a valuable step in this process.

Should the questioner feel overwhelmed or unable to manage their stress levels independently, they are encouraged to seek professional psychological counseling or treatment.

Maintain composure and a logical mindset.

Do not be misled by short-term gains and rankings. These are merely part of the process.

The comments of platform owners and users are beyond your control. However, you can control your own efforts and attitude. Focus on what you can do and do your best.

It is important to recognize that each individual's journey is unique and to refrain from comparing oneself to others or experiencing envy.

It is important to protect your privacy.

In the interest of discretion, it is advisable to limit the disclosure of sensitive or personal information to avoid unnecessary attention and discussion.

It is important to respect the opinions of others, but not all opinions are applicable to your situation. Learn to listen to different perspectives, but also learn to filter out opinions that are not favorable to you.

It is advisable for the questioner to exercise discretion when deciding with whom to share information and what to share, in order to avoid unnecessary difficulties and pressure.

It is important to allow yourself sufficient time and space to adapt to these changes and challenges. Avoid rushing or striving for perfection, and maintain an open mind to seize opportunities and overcome challenges.

Do not abandon your aspirations due to transient challenges and pressures.

Have confidence in your abilities, persevere, and you will undoubtedly achieve your objectives.

It is my hope that this response will prove useful to the questioner.

We also recommend the following related books:

"The Time Management Method" by Naoyuki Honda provides risk-free and highly rewarding time management rules to help you manage your time more effectively and maintain balance in your busy life.

"The Life Efficiency Handbook" by Zhang Meng: This book introduces methods for efficient time management, goal management, efficiency management, and health management, which will help you succeed in the workplace and in your daily life.

Psychology and Life is a classic textbook on psychology that can help you better understand human behavior and thinking, enabling you to remain calm and rational when faced with pressure and challenges.

"The Stanford University Life Design Course" by Bill Burnett and Dave Evans provides guidance on designing a fulfilling and happy life, as well as identifying a career that aligns with one's personal and professional goals.

Insight By Zhao Ang Drawing on over a decade of experience in career counseling, the author of this book offers solutions to a range of workplace challenges.

Hong Xiangyang, author of "Ten Days to a Better Future," is a leading expert in career planning in China. His latest publication offers practical guidance for individuals seeking to define and achieve their career objectives.

Hello, question asker!

From what you've said, it seems like you initially took on the part-time job as a trial run, but now you're really invested in it. Aside from the sense of accomplishment, the part-time job also brings in more money.

As someone who has been there, you know the pros and cons of working part-time. You just need the support of those around you to feel confident about doing it. But when those around you don't understand your part-time job and don't support you, it makes you feel insecure and miserable.

From my own experience, I know it's easy to lose sight of what's important when you're focused on making a profit. What you need now is to think rationally. As you said, part-time work can bring you wealth, but at the same time, part-time work also has uncertainties.

Once you've recognized this, you need to decide which is your main focus. If it's your current job, a part-time job can be a great way to gain more experience. And if you think you can make a profit from your current part-time job, then that's a great place to start. Just work hard to be the best you can be. It's about finding a balance between effort and satisfaction.

In any case, whether you succeed or fail, it's all part of your life and work experience. You might as well face it with an open mind.

As for the advice people give you, you can take it or leave it. After all, they're not you. You might be the first person to try eating a crab, but you'll gain more experience with each attempt. It's all up to you whether you succeed or fail.

And maybe because you're feeling a bit tired and everyone around you is saying no, you might be starting to doubt yourself. At this time, it's important to remember that you have the ability to make choices, that you can be responsible for yourself, and that others cannot be responsible for you. You need to hear your own voice and keep going.

I hope this is helpful for you. Best wishes!

Can I give you a hug?

I see your problem. You have to do your own job in the morning and a part-time job in the evening. The part-time job pays more than your own morning job, which makes it difficult to quit.

My advice is to adjust the relationship between work and life right away and get them into a balanced state.

Anyway, if you think you can earn more by working part-time, then you can focus more on your main job, but do both, your job and your part-time job. For example, at work, communicate more with other people, and also get in touch with new things outside for a while and take in the scenery along the way.

There are lots of choices and challenges in life, but ultimately, most choices are up to us, right?

And you need to learn to manage your stress.

For instance, my part-time job and my studies don't clash because I need to do something in my free time to relieve stress and anxiety. This platform can help with that. I can answer questions to help more people, and I can also make a little money.

And lastly, consider making some changes to your life. Ultimately, it's up to you to decide what's best for you. I respect your choice.

I see your concerns, but if you can improve yourself, why not let yourself grow? Think of it like a little sprout that needs to be nurtured and exposed to the sun to flourish.

Then your sunshine comes from the support of family, friends, the outside world, society, and the environment. Talk to your parents. I really think you should.

They've been around longer and seen more. You have the advantage of being related to your parents by blood. They'll give you great advice and you can find a way to solve the problem that suits you from it.

And that's your high sensitivity. In fact, everyone is highly sensitive, but maybe you haven't had a chance to relax and rest well during this period of time, so your nerves are on edge. You can do more eye exercises, some yoga, and massage some pressure points.

And another thing is to be a bit more realistic about what you can achieve. For example, I said that the answers should be high-quality and go to the essence, but it's hard for me to do that, isn't it?

I'm still in middle school, so I should be focusing on my studies. However, I chose to come here to make money, so I still have to consider my main job, right? As you mentioned, this job depends a lot on the platform and the users, which makes it an unstable factor.

And at least you can be sure you'll have a stable income for the whole month. Even though the pay will be less, you won't be putting all your heart and soul into it. I hope you can come back to the topic, but it's up to you.

I respect your decision.

I know it's tough, but hang in there?

You've got this. Believe in yourself.

Give you a hug.

Take care!

I'm currently a middle school student.