You have clear goals, but lack motivation and are always too lazy to do anything. What should you do?

I'm going to give you some down-to-earth suggestions.

Let's cut to the chase, dear. It seems that you are more easily distracted by feelings and emotions, and I can really relate to that. Let's see what suggestions you can use!

"Actionability" - Are the subdivided goals simple and feasible? You're amazing. You already know how to subdivide your plans. Have you subdivided them into the most specific and smallest "actionable actions"?

If you want to eat healthily and drink enough water, you need to take action. Set reminders to swallow vitamin tablets and keep a bottle of water by your side. This is called "maximizing action." Set the goal to the simplest action. Once it becomes a new habit, you won't need "motivation" to do it.

"Priority value" - You must decide what your goal's priority value is. Is the lack of motivation due to your subconscious not elevating its "importance and sense of urgency" to the appropriate level?

Plan your schedule down to the hour. It may sound like a lot of work, but it's worth it. Once you have a weekly/daily routine, it's easy to maintain.

"Concentration" - and later on, the possibility is (general) lack of concentration. You need to identify whether it is easier to be distracted when doing (anything).

You need to organize your environment to make it easier to focus on one thing at a time. This will help you to avoid the distractions caused by long-term multitasking and multitasking. The more orderly, quiet, and harmonious your environment is, the more conducive it will be to work and problem-solving.

I know this will help. Best of luck!

Hello,

You're organized and know what you want. But you're easily influenced by anxiety/feel-no-emotions-feel-like-doing-nothing-how-can-i-bring-back-my-emotions-2592.html" target="_blank">emotions and lack motivation.

You're brave for seeking help. This shows you want to achieve your goal. But you lack motivation, which makes you anxious. The more anxious you are, the less likely you are to achieve your goal. You can slow down your life. Give yourself half an hour every day to sort out your goals. Reduce your 100% goal to a 60% goal. This will help you not become anxious so easily during the process of achieving it. You'll also have a sense of accomplishment after achieving the goal, which will increase your self-confidence.

Second, give yourself time to achieve your goals. Everyone grows at a different pace, so don't rush. Enjoy the process. Third, don't compare yourself with others or set your goals too high. Compare yourself with your past self. You are making progress every day.

You said you're influenced by love. Turn love into a driving force to achieve your goals. Imagine if you achieve your goal, you can give your partner a better life. Do it well so you're driven and not passive. You can change and achieve your goals.

I love you!

Hello, host!

I totally get where the host is coming from, and I bet a lot of other people can relate, too!

I thought of it quite well before, and I'm excited to see what I can achieve when the time comes! Why did this happen?

I'm excited to share the following points that have been summarized:

Now for the really exciting stuff! Long-term goals

He knows exactly what kind of person he wants to become and what he needs to do to get there, and he's already well on his way!

The poster already has his own long-term goals, which is fantastic! Some people are distressed because they have not yet found their own direction. At least the poster already has his own long-term goals, and he already has a direction.

Now for the fun part! Let's dive into the short-term goals.

And they've even broken down their goals into smaller, more achievable steps!

Once you've set your sights on long-term goals, it's time to start working on some short-term ones! The host has already made a great plan to help you achieve your dreams, so you're in great hands.

Source of motivation

But I'm always too lazy to do it. I feel that I am more easily influenced by love and emotions, and I can't do anything. Even if I'm not influenced, I don't feel as strongly motivated to complete it. I always feel that I don't have enough motivation — but I know that I can do it!

Without practical action, even the best plans and ideals are just empty dreams. We all understand this, and we can do it! We just have to put our plans into action.

In other words, it is impossible to achieve unity of knowledge and action — but it is possible to achieve unity of knowledge and action!

Knowing is knowing what you should do! The host already has a goal and a plan.

To act is to take action! Even if you have a goal, you can still achieve great results if you just put in the work.

It doesn't matter if the result is good or bad, after getting the result, review it and

Now for the fun part! Which points were not done well enough? Which points were done okay? Let's continue to maintain them, or even increase the difficulty!

In other words, it is only after getting the result that motivation is possible—and it's so worth it!

There's another great source of motivation: your partner's admiration after you've completed the task!

Financial freedom and academic success will make you feel happy and proud!

Now for the fun part! It's time to visualize your goals.

You are affected and easily distracted because you are ambiguous and unclear about your goals. But there's no need to worry!

It's time to get excited about your future! Make a table of your goals and the actual progress you've made, and check it from time to time to visualize the achievement of your goals.

Of course, people have emotions and are easily influenced by them or by bad moods. But don't worry! At this time, allow yourself to take a break first.

Take a break, then dive into a state of concentration, complete a small part, and go bit by bit!

In short, you just need to achieve something to get motivated! You'll know whether you can do it or not.

Once you've finished, it's time for the best part: reviewing what you've done! If you just do it without reviewing it, you'll never have the motivation to keep going.

And finally, I wish you the happiest of lives!

I am Warm June, and I love you all! The world is a wonderful place, and I am so happy to be here with you!

Hello, my dear friend! I'll give you a big, warm hug.

This is something many of us struggle with. Take me, for instance. I wish I could lie down flat!

Mr. Luo Xiang has also made similar remarks. He said that we all hope that we can get rid of alarms and that there are no alarms in our lives. Having an alarm means having to do something, often something you don't want to do. I totally get it!

But we all know how tricky it can be to get into bed and ignore that alarm clock!

I'm not sure what kind of person you want to become, what your clear goals are, or how you refine your small goals. But I know that having goals without the motivation to act is also a problem many people face.

I'd also love to share some tips with you! Take a look and see if they're a good fit. If they are, go for it! And if not, no problem!

The first method is like a young monk reciting sutras with his mouth but no heart.

You said earlier that you break down your small goals. That's a great start! I suggest you refine your goals to what you want to do every day, for example, read 30 pages of a book today.

Then read 30 pages every day and read them from beginning to end. After reading 30 pages, that's enough. There's no need to remember or learn anything in particular, just read 30 pages!

In a nutshell, it's about getting things done! You could even read for 30 minutes, just for the sake of quantity, not the result.

It's like taking an exam: just go to the exam, fill in every question, and forget about the score. You've got this!

You can start off your meeting with a smaller, more achievable goal that you can tick off every day.

The second method is to make your goals public.

It's so helpful to share your goals and plans openly with your friends and your small group. That way, everyone knows what you're aiming for, and you have a little bit of pressure to achieve them!

We all want to be people who keep their word, don't we? Once our goal is made public, we'll want to achieve it. Otherwise, we might not be able to live up to our word, and we might not be able to forgive ourselves.

Take the Tang Monk's team in Journey to the West, for example. They had a very clear goal from the beginning: to go to the Western Paradise to obtain the sutras. The Tang Emperor held a grand send-off ceremony to announce this goal to the world.

The kind Tang Monk would also repeat all the time, "I am a poor monk from the Eastern Land of Great Tang, going to the Western Paradise to obtain the sutras." He was actually repeating his goal all the time, saying it to others and to himself.

We all know it can be really tough to stick to a goal if we don't have anyone to share it with. Unless you're super self-disciplined, it can be really easy to give up on a goal that's hidden away.

I really think you should give it a try. I know it works for me!

I'm often both Buddhist and a bit of a pessimist, but I'm also motivated sometimes, and I love being a counselor! I love the world, and I love you!

Hello! I'm so happy to have this chance to help you.

Hi, I'm Yan Shiqi, and I totally get where you're coming from.

I totally get it. You're not happy with the way things are, so you've set yourself a goal to achieve. That shows you know exactly what you want.

Having a plan around your goal also means that you know, at least in theory, how to achieve it.

Then, the problem is motivation.

I totally get it. This goal just doesn't give you that strong enough sense of attraction, so you always feel unmotivated. Coupled with the various things in life, it can cause some emotional problems, making you even less energetic to carry out your plans.

I was once confused too, and I'm here to help! I'll share my own method with you, and you can try it out to see if it works for you.

1. Take a moment to think about whether this goal is truly what you want most.

Sometimes, a lack of motivation can come from a goal that just isn't that exciting. It might be something you're doing to please your parents or because you think it'll make you look good, but it's not something you're truly passionate about.

Otherwise, there would be some motivation to do it, right?

Why not try asking yourself using the golden thinking circle?

Hey there! What do you think the end result of doing this will be?

What can you do to make this happen?

Why do you want this result?

Find that goal you really want and then go for it!

2. Set up some positive feedback to keep you on track!

We've all been there! Sometimes, even though we've made good progress, we lose interest in the middle of an action.

We might feel like there's no time at all, and then we might also feel like we haven't got any positive feedback at all!

Positive feedback is like a reward for getting good grades!

We all love rewards, so setting up positive feedback is a great way to get your brain on board and keep you motivated to keep taking action.

3. It's so important to understand our emotions and learn to control them.

It's true that emotions are an expression of the brain and the mind, and they're something we all experience.

It might not seem like it makes a big difference, but it actually has a pretty significant impact on our brain and psychology.

If you treat your emotions as a good friend, you'll try to understand why you're sometimes angry and sometimes happy. You'll try to make yourself happy more often, accept your emotions for who they are, and reconcile with them.

Try to avoid doing things that might make you feel bad. When things come up, take a moment to notice them, and then calm yourself down with some deep breathing or meditation.

I promise you, gradually, your emotions will become your good friends, and your brain will stop rejecting some actions because of emotionality.

I'd also like to suggest two books that I found really helpful: "Cognitive Awakening" and "Willpower Dividend." They discuss practical, down-to-earth methods that I think you'll find really useful.

I really hope this helps!

Hello, host!

I don't know how old you are, but I can tell you're young and full of energy! You've thought about your goals, made a plan, and even broken it down into details. I see a positive, motivated you who is willing to work hard for yourself, and it gives me a sense of strength!

But on the other hand, you have the opportunity to work on your motivation and emotional resilience. You are aware of your lack of motivation, so at the same time I can see your sense of powerlessness.

In the midst of such contradictions, you must still feel uneasy and torn from time to time, right? This kind of entanglement is in itself actually a kind of stagnation. But don't worry! Stagnation is difficult to bring about growth, and instead it will quietly sap your energy. Over time, you will feel tired even when you do nothing. But you can beat it!

So, it's time to start thinking about what you can do to break this stagnation!

But here's the really exciting part: the answer to "What should I do?" is based on the answer to "What happened? Why?"

"Once you figure out why you lack motivation and why you are easily affected by emotions and unable to get things done, you'll be well on your way to finding the answer to 'what to do'!"

The answers to "what" and "why" are out there, and I'm excited to help you find them! I think the most efficient way to do so is to seek help from a counselor. However, it is not easy to choose a counselor who matches you—exploring yourself is not an easy task in itself.

I'm so excited to share this answer with you today! It's just a "possible answer" based on your description and under extremely limited information conditions for the owner's reference.

It's fascinating how our conscious and subconscious needs can be so different!

The host wants to set a goal and make a plan, but is too lazy to take action. This is an excellent opportunity to explore the differences between the "want" at the conscious level (relying on thinking with the mind) and the "want" at the subconscious level (unperceivable, unconscious, or unthinkable).

The goals you choose at the conscious level are most likely based on what society expects of you in your role or what others expect of you. They are very "rational," after all, because everyone needs to be able to survive in society and wants to live a better life. But I'm excited to tell you that your other, "irrational" needs have been waiting in the subconscious to be met, and they will be met!

Subconscious needs are tricky to detect, but they can sometimes show themselves as "symptoms." For example, if you're "getting the opposite result you want," it's likely that your subconscious is trying to get your attention. You feel that you're easily influenced by love, that even if you're not affected by emotions, you always feel that you don't have enough motivation and are too lazy to take action. It seems that the "irrational power" of your subconscious is quietly overwhelming your "rational power" – as if your subconscious is saying, "Hey, those plans and tasks are not really your needs. Your need is love!"

So, when you set a goal in response to what society or others want from you, and not in response to your own real needs, and you put in the effort to reach that goal, it's like you're working for someone else. You might feel reluctant, lazy, or unmotivated, but that's not a problem with yourself!

This is a great opportunity for you to identify your real needs! When you're affected by emotions, it's a clear sign that you're not able to get anything done. This is your chance to recognize what you truly want and need.

Human mental space and mental energy are both limited, but what an amazing thing it is that our bodies are naturally intelligent! They give emotional signals based on our most important and urgent needs and the situation we are in. This allows us to accurately judge the situation and make choices that ensure our safety or help us live a fulfilling life. For example, if you encounter a beautiful young girl in the jungle and a tiger, your body will immediately tense up and your blood will rush to your muscles. This is your body's way of telling you to run away and find a safe path!

So, if you find yourself easily influenced by love and emotions and they prevent you from doing anything, it's totally understandable to say that your need for love is a very important need for you right now. Emotions are also our experiences of whether our needs are being met – if they are met, they will produce positive emotions, and if they are not met, they will produce negative emotions.

Emotions are also a kind of mental energy, and emotional ups and downs are also a drain on energy. But here's the good news! Energy is limited, and when it is called upon by emotions, there is not much energy left to think and do things.

Mental space is also limited. But here's the good news! When it is filled with emotions, there is not much room left for the content of what you want to learn and do. This means your attention is absorbed by your real needs.

I bet you can think back to the past and remember when you were most productive! When you were calm and free from emotion, right?

Therefore, it is highly recommended that you seek help from a counselor. What is really going on in the road of love? Why do so many emotions from time to time use up your energy and occupy your space, causing your important plan of "becoming someone you want to be" to be stalled, which is closely related to self-survival?

I love you, world!

Hello, host. I saw your story and can empathize with your situation. It's understandable that setting goals is one thing, but actually achieving them is another. It's natural to feel remorse when you're unable to reach your goals. I hope my sharing can be of some help to you.

It could be said that the result of each task is basically the result of repeated trade-offs.

Each day, we find ourselves thinking:

"I have a lot on my plate every day, as soon as I open my eyes."

"I wonder why there are so many chores. I often feel quite exhausted, trying to deal with various urgent matters and other less important tasks."

It is worth noting that the total amount of effective time each day is the same for everyone, and that there is not a great deal of difference between people. It is possible that you feel that your time is consumed by trivial matters every day because you are unsure of how to say no to them.

It often seems as though there is not enough time in the day to get everything done, and yet, at the end of it, there are still tasks left undone.

If I may be so bold, our days are not so different from those of the great and the good. We all have 24 hours, but they are able to consciously control themselves, spend less time on trivial matters, and devote most of their time to what they really want to do.

Successful people often choose to focus their efforts on a single area and become experts in that field. This often requires making sacrifices along the way to achieve such high levels of success. The result of life is often the result of making trade-offs again and again.

Those who are truly successful tend to plan their day in a way that allows them to prioritize their most important tasks first, then take care of the remaining items on their list. They often find that they have the flexibility to use the latter part of their day, after 2:00, to complete any remaining tasks or to pursue other interests.

If you want to do everything and don't have a "don't" list, it can be challenging to do things well, even if we are supermen. After all, human energy is limited.

For this reason, it can be said that only those who have developed self-discipline can truly achieve freedom. We believe that this does not necessarily entail maintaining intense concentration for 24 hours a day, whether studying or working. Rather, it may be more helpful to learn to say no to distractions and focus on what needs to be done.

This is what I believe to be the meaning of time management. I think it's important to remember that time is the same for everyone, but our minds are what make us different. I like to imagine that when we work under the constraints of being away from home, as long as we are willing to put in the effort, we will find that we have gained a lot over the course of the year.

It might be helpful to consider that when a deadline for a task is approaching, we often find ourselves operating at a higher level of efficiency. This could be because our attention is also focused at this time.

One possible approach to practical management is to focus on doing the most efficient things and to regularize other unrelated chores as much as possible, so that they do not affect our main goals.

The kind of life you want is entirely up to the choices you make. It's not that you don't want to take care of yourself, but that you may find it challenging to let go of habits that prevent you from becoming your best self.

It might be a good idea not to assume that mixing the seven colors of light together will produce a colorful rainbow. In fact, the seven colors mixed together are colorless and transparent.

It is often the case that the more you want, the greater your desire, and the farther away from the life you want you may be.

Time is fair to everyone. One hundred and sixty-eight hours a week is neither more nor less. What will your future look like? It depends on the choices you make in life. Some people spend their time watching dramas, which provides pleasure to the senses. Some people do nothing, which can result in feelings of emptiness. But some people use their time to do meaningful things, which can contribute to personal growth and a sense of fulfillment.

For this reason, it is not possible for us to control the length of time. The only thing we can do is to make more meaningful choices during the time we have and improve our efficiency, with the aim of creating the life we want within the limited time we have.