Breaking up with my boyfriend, but he has already been my spiritual pillar, so how can I bear the pain and go on living?

You need to get help. It sounds like you're in a bad place. If you're in a big city, I'd recommend seeking professional help from a qualified counselor or a psychiatrist at a top-tier hospital.

Your words show you are very dependent on others. You crave attention and love, and you need someone to guide and support you.

You understand your family of origin very well. It is important to understand that none of this is your fault, that you did not cause it, and that you are just unfortunate. Don't beat yourself up.

Second, everyone is an independent and confident individual. You will learn to be strong and independent, even though you are currently emotionally and mentally vulnerable. In an intimate relationship, you can rely on and care for each other, but your souls are independent. You must have your own character, space, and thoughts.

The past is gone, the future is still long, and you must stand up on your own. You may have the best counselor or even God on your side, but you must live your life independently.

Third, human relationships are like the animal world: the weak are prey to the strong. Your misfortune in childhood made you overly weak, and you were bullied at school. You entered a vicious circle, unable to escape the shadows and nightmares, and it continued until adulthood.

I understand you, and I'm here to help. While you're receiving psychological counseling, you need to be independent, say goodbye to the past, start over from a new day, and slowly walk out.

You are your own spiritual pillar. I look forward to seeing your changes and improvements.

I am Pretentious Young People (ID: qingnianJIA2020), and I look forward to maintaining communication with you.

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Dear Sir/Madam, I hope this message finds you well. I am contacting you today regarding a matter that requires your immediate attention. Thank you in advance for your assistance. Sin

The most effective treatment for bipolar disorder is a combination of drug therapy and psychotherapy. In addition to genetic and neurobiochemical factors, psychosocial factors also play a role.

Bipolar affective disorder is often precipitated by stressful events, with the onset of depression being closely related to the patient's personality. Patients frequently display timidity, insecurity, a lack of self-confidence, a lack of self-reliance, an excessive attachment to and dependency on others, an excessive concern for the opinions of others, and a lack of a strong sense of self.

You are aware that your family was affected by your father's infidelity, resulting in a lack of love within the family unit. You were frequently subjected to physical and verbal abuse from your parents and siblings, as well as bullying at school. This was due to your fear of retaliation.

You indicated that you had been in a relationship for approximately one year, during which time you relied on each other to a significant extent. However, your partner eventually terminated the relationship and left. You are currently in a new relationship, and you are particularly dependent on your partner. He has made numerous promises. You trust him, love him, and regard him as a spiritual pillar. You feel that you have the strength to move forward and fight for the future only because he is there.

He suddenly appeared and you clung to him like a straw, trusting and looking forward to him. Then he suddenly disappeared, and losing him made you feel like you couldn't go on living. It was a significant setback. He said he never loved you, that he only gave you those untrue promises to help you come out of the darkness. He said he never intended to stay with you for long, that he didn't love you, just liked me a lot. He misled you for a long, long time.

From your description, I believe you are a courageous and resilient individual. You are open to embracing reality and are perceptive about your experiences and emotions. You require love but are not dependent on it. You are deeply committed to your relationships but are rational and methodical in your approach to life.

This is why you take the initiative in this relationship and invest more, precisely to fill the gap in your emotional needs and crave love and care.

The pain you experience is likely to be the result of past experiences. While this emotion is painful, it also allows you to perceive the reality of being loved and cared for more deeply and clearly. It is a dual-natured emotion, bringing pain and satisfaction simultaneously. As a result, it is difficult to forget, and you pay close attention to it. However, this feeling of satisfaction gradually fades with time, and the loss of this love may be the most unbearable process for you.

Please explain why you did not defend yourself when your parents, sister, and brother physically and verbally abused you from an early age and you were frequently bullied in elementary school, junior high school, and high school.

It is possible that your family may appear calm and affectionate after a period of abuse and insults. Furthermore, it is possible that your resistance may result in more impulsive behaviour.

Please be assured that this is only an analysis.

I hope you can achieve inner peace and that your life can become more stable and happy.

I extend to you a warm embrace from a distance, with the hope that it may provide some solace.

Your current emotional state evokes a sense of déjà vu, as though I am witnessing my own recent experience of emotional upheaval following a romantic dissolution, with a profound sense of emotional disorientation.

I was in my early 20s, fresh out of school and starting work. As is the case with the majority of campus romances, long-distance relationships were also subject to the consequences of a breakup.

Regardless of one's identity, it is challenging to accept the dissolution of a romantic attachment, often accompanied by feelings of reluctance and distress.

It is not that you are inherently flawed, but rather that you have not yet encountered a partner who can provide the love and support you seek.

It is imperative that you first acknowledge your intrinsic value and worthiness of love. I wish you the utmost success.

From your description, it is evident that your original family has influenced you since childhood, resulting in a significant deficit in the experience of love and security.

This has resulted in an overreliance on intimate relationships. Such emotions are not uncommon.

However, this situation varies from person to person, and based on the emotional state of the individual in question, it appears to be more pronounced.

In the event that one is unable to adjust independently, it would be advisable to seek the guidance of a qualified mental health professional, such as a psychologist or a specialist in the treatment of depression, in order to obtain a more precise diagnosis and an appropriate course of treatment.

Many individuals are reluctant to confront their depressive emotions. However, in order to maintain physical and mental health and to alleviate their suffering, they must actively collaborate with and pursue treatment. If one can obtain assistance here and recuperate independently, that would be optimal.

In regard to the emotional state of the individual in question, it is pertinent to inquire as to the extent of self-love.

One might inquire, then, as to the true meaning of self-love.

If one truly loves oneself, it is possible that one may be capable of enduring a great deal of suffering, both emotionally and physically.

If one truly loves oneself, can one tolerate the level of misery that one is currently experiencing? When one looks in the mirror and sees oneself, is that image one that one finds appealing?

3. Adhere to your personal values. Are you prepared to accept the consequences of your actions? If you are no longer capable of providing for yourself, how will you be able to support others?

If the answer is negative, it indicates that there is still the possibility of a cure, whereas some individuals are inclined to abandon their efforts and engage in self-destructive behaviors.

Since the desire for self-preservation is intrinsic to the human condition, it is imperative to pursue avenues for self-salvation. There are numerous methods for achieving this, and the following represent personal perspectives that may prove beneficial.

It is recommended that the individual engage in physical exercise.

Such activities may include walking, running, gymnastics, yoga, or other sports that the individual finds appealing. It is beneficial to engage in physical activity.

2. Peruse literary works in their various formats.

It is recommended that you read some books on self-knowledge and self-improvement, or books that align with your interests, to enhance your inner self.

3. Labor

It is imperative to strive for an increase in one's income. It is a fallacy to believe that one's sense of security is derived from another individual; rather, it is derived from one's own physical health, intellectual capacity, and financial resources.

If the aforementioned three steps are completed and self-love is cultivated, is apprehension regarding the inability to find a superior partner still present?

Individuals who embody these qualities will attract people with similar energy and meet individuals who appreciate them.

One must be courageous enough to confront the situation, assertively decline the offer, and ultimately, sever the connection. It is only when one has attained a sufficient level of strength and resilience that others will be deterred from engaging in such behavior.

All experiences that induce suffering appear to be torturous, yet they ultimately facilitate personal growth and transformation.

Given the capacity to love oneself, it follows that one is also capable of loving others.

It is my hope that the individual in question will soon be able to extricate themselves from the situation and identify a course of action that aligns with their personal values and goals.

I extend my warmest regards to you and wish you a happy life.

Hello, Topic Master! Hugs!

Original family: Your parents' relationship was broken, and you did not receive any love from your parents, sister, or brother. Instead, you received beatings and verbal abuse. But you're here now, and you're ready to make a change! Because of the habit of being submissive formed in your original family, you were bullied at school, but you're ready to take control of your life and overcome your emotional disorders and emotional problems.

During a dark period, something amazing happened! A boy from afar appeared in your dark sky like a shooting star, like chaos before the flood, split into a world by lightning. Since then, the sky has often been sunny, with grass growing and birds singing on the ground, full of vitality!

When you treat this ray of light as sunshine, and you give it all your passion and hope, trying to catch it, you'll see that it is a shooting star! It may not last long, but it's a truly magnificent sight to behold!

It caught you off guard, gave you hope, and at the same time, it left a long gash in your sky. But you'll be just fine!

This is how I would describe your situation!

It's not easy for anyone to be in this situation, but you've got this! I understand how you feel, and I'm here to support you.

It's already happened, and it's time to face the music!

You are still a student, and while you have your studies, we will not give up our studies. Let it all out! Talk to someone and express your feelings and emotions in writing.

If you're not under financial pressure, you can find a professional teacher on the Yi Xin platform to talk to. If you're not financially well off, you can talk to me! I've completed the training to become a psychological counselor, and I'm excited to help. I'll reply to you as soon as I see it, whether I'm online or not, and it's free!

You see, as long as you hold out your hand, we will definitely take it! You are doing an amazing job!

We may not be able to give you a sun, but we can build warmth with you and let the sun in your heart rise in the sky!

Francis Bacon said it best: "Knowledge is power." We sort out our emotions, soak up knowledge from books, and, like bamboo shoots breaking through the ground, we'll make our way to the top!

In the springtime, the earth is full of life, the air is fresh, and the sky is vast! With the change in environment, do you still dwell on the darkness you experienced underground?

You will discover that it is not giving up in the dark, but rather accumulating strength, that gives you the power and perseverance to break through!

We, the older students, are thrilled to be your guiding light! We're here to help you persevere, study hard, and never give up.

I am your guiding light, the world, and I love you!

Self-reliance, self-improvement, autonomy, and self-love.

I feel for you, but pity and sympathy won't help. You must face life alone.

Your motivation and strength come from your ex-boyfriend. Without him, you will collapse.

Everyone must be self-reliant, self-improving, autonomous, and self-loving.

Self-reliance means I can live a good life on my own.

Self-reliance means I can recover from setbacks.

Autonomy means facing choices and choosing the right path.

Self-love means accepting myself as I am.

If you do these four things, you'll be happy.

Don't label yourself.

Don't define yourself by your past. Your family is not your identity. You don't need to be loved as a child to be loved as an adult. You don't need to be alone. You don't need to be abandoned. These are not your truths. They are just experiences. They cannot influence your future.

Your beliefs affect your future. Life is in the present, so think and act in the present to create a better future.

Live in the present. You can control the present; the past is gone, the future is uncertain.

Your family is just the environment you grew up in. Your environment cannot affect you after you change your beliefs. You are worthy of love and deserve the full force of love. You are healthy and capable of living a better life. You are no different from anyone else and are unique in the universe. So you don't need to please anyone, just live your best life.

Think this way every day, and your beliefs, belief system, and situation will change.

Forget the past and embrace the good things.

Believe you can have a perfect life.

Bless you!