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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Greetings! I extend a warm embrace from a distance.
One may experience intense fear and a lack of self-acceptance.
The manner in which an individual is treated by others directly influences their own self-treatment and that of others. It is evident that you were deprived of love during your upbringing, and your current fears are more deeply rooted in the way you were treated during that period, including being beaten and scolded, as well as being adopted. This has resulted in a significant degree of insecurity during your developmental process.
Given your awareness of the trauma inflicted by your family of origin, it is recommended that you respond and satisfy yourself through your own efforts. One such effort might be to love yourself back into a state of being with the image of ideal, nurturing parents. You may find it beneficial to keep an emotional diary in which you record your feelings, particularly those of fear that you experience at night and the emotional feelings that arise after being scolded.
Documentation of one's emotions facilitates a more nuanced comprehension of one's emotional state, enabling the identification of underlying needs and the pursuit of more efficacious responses and avenues for fulfilling these needs.
For example, approach the young girl who is hiding in the corner and reassure her that she is safe, that she can divulge her concerns, and that you will safeguard her with all your strength.
One may attempt to mitigate the impact of their fears by maintaining an emotional diary and engaging in introspective dialogue. By taking deep breaths and attempting to describe their fears in concrete terms, individuals can gain a more nuanced understanding of their fears. When one is able to confront their emotions directly, the harm they cause may gradually diminish or even cease to exist.
The fact of one's adoption does not, in and of itself, constitute a reason for experiencing emotional distress. When the words and actions of others evoke feelings of discomfort and hurt, it is important to express the true nature of one's feelings in that moment, as well as one's expectations regarding how one wishes to be treated. It is essential to assert oneself in a gentle but firm manner when confronted with hurtful behavior from others. One deserves to be treated with respect and care by oneself and others.
I am Lily, the youngest member of the Q&A Museum. I extend my love to the world and to you.
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I understand how you're feeling, and it sounds like you've been through a lot. It's important to talk to someone who can help, like a therapist or counselor. They can provide support and guide you through these tough feelings.
It's really hard when you feel scared in your own home. Maybe finding a way to make your space feel safer could help. Little things like nightlights or calming music might make a difference. Also, talking to a professional about your fears can be beneficial.
Those childhood experiences must have left a deep impact on you. It's not surprising that you're struggling with trust and relationships now. Consider seeking therapy; it can be a safe place to explore those feelings and start healing.
Your feelings are valid, and it's okay to be upset after everything you've gone through. Sometimes just acknowledging what you're going through can be the first step toward feeling better. Have you thought about joining a support group? It can be comforting to share with others who understand.
The nightmares and the fatigue during the day sound exhausting. Perhaps keeping a dream journal could help you process what's happening in your sleep. And speaking to a doctor about your sleep quality might also be a good idea.