How to cope with feeling isolated and unable to integrate with your roommate?

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Dear poster, it's not your fault for feeling isolated. It's just that you and they are not the right fit for each other.

When I was younger, I was quite introverted and wanted to fit in with the group. I tried to do things to be accepted.

I would sometimes go along with them to places I didn't particularly enjoy, and I would sometimes do things I didn't particularly enjoy, and I would sometimes say things I thought were a bit silly, just to try to get their attention.

However, it is important to note that forcing oneself to join a group like this may not lead to genuine happiness. There is a possibility that one might have to do things they do not enjoy, and they may even be ignored or mocked by the group.

Perhaps it's because you and they have different views, thoughts, and interests.

It might be helpful to remember that different doesn't necessarily mean wrong.

Some people are naturally inclined to enjoy games, while others may not find them as appealing. However, this does not necessarily make those who do not enjoy games problematic individuals.

It is important to recognize that people can have different opinions about the same thing. This does not necessarily mean that when the majority is right, the minority is wrong.

I wonder if the geocentric theory that Copernicus opposed might be a good example.

It's perfectly acceptable to have different hobbies and ideas. After all, the world is full of variety, and that's what makes it so interesting.

It would be beneficial for you to feel more comfortable in the presence of the group.

You mentioned that you feel you can't contribute to the conversation. I'd like to ask you, what is the reason for you wanting to contribute?

Perhaps you had a good suggestion to share, or maybe you were hoping to get noticed and increase the sense of participation in the group.

If the topic doesn't interest you, it's perfectly fine to simply let it be and remain silent. Attempting to force yourself to say things that aren't genuinely flattering or informative can often lead to feelings of awkwardness for you and those around you.

If you have a good suggestion to make, it would be beneficial to speak up at any opportunity, without worrying about whether you are interrupting someone else.

When faced with a group, it can be helpful to take a moment to reflect on your preferences and decide whether you want to participate.

If something doesn't align with your preferences, it might be best to simply disengage. Conversely, if something resonates with you, it's perfectly acceptable to express that.

You are very talented, and they may have a different opinion.

Could you please tell me what you did when they insulted you? Did you remain silent or did you argue back?

Regardless of whether they are joking or not, when they insult you, they are engaging in something that is morally wrong and should be condemned.

The interpersonal relationships in the dormitory can reflect a number of factors. It is possible that your own life experience has led to differences between you and others, and that your roommates have a number of significant differences with you. These differences may cause you discomfort.

Additionally, you may experience feelings of discomfort and isolation. Others have described you as boring, uninteresting, and anxious, which has led you to question your relationship with your roommates and perceive them as unfamiliar figures in your life.

You feel uneasy about being estranged from your roommates and unable to integrate.

They delight in insulting others and do not extend invitations to engage in games.

You may feel that you are boring, anxious, or strange, and that you are too accepted.

This situation is unusual.

⛲⛲⛲⛲ Integration

It is not necessary to force yourself to integrate into a different circle if you feel alienated. You may also wish to consider other ways of determining why you are unable to integrate, including whether there is a personal trauma or if there are fundamental differences between you and those you are trying to integrate with.

It is recommended that you simply live your own life and get along with your roommate.

It is not necessary for the two parties to engage in all activities together.

You possess strengths in other areas.

It is not necessary to engage in activities such as swearing, playing games, or other forms of shared entertainment. It is simply a matter of recognizing that you are an individual with unique attributes and capabilities. You can leverage your strengths in other areas.

You have indicated that you have felt unliked by boys since childhood. It is possible that the experience of rejection you encountered at that time is still affecting you. This may be an example of a traumatic rebound or flashback, as we have discussed previously.

It is possible that fragments of past memories may still affect your current life. When such feelings arise, I recommend that you seek psychological counseling to address these past feelings and gain awareness of your current situation.

You have now reached an age where you can consider changing your bedroom or renting a place outside. These are all very good living environments, and it is also possible to find the right circles to integrate into in the future. However, it is important to remember that integrating into circles is not the top priority.

Your growth is of the utmost importance. It is clear that you are experiencing stress, so it is essential that you find a healthy balance. I advise that you take the necessary psychological tests for potential internal trauma and, once you have received the results, speak with a trusted psychotherapist about your feelings. I wish you the best.

Please advise.

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From your description, I can sense that you may be experiencing feelings of extreme internal inferiority, a lack of confidence, and a lack of acceptance of yourself. When faced with rejection and alienation, you may feel a sense of loneliness and unease inside, longing to be accepted and approved.

There is a saying in psychology that has been helpful to many people: how others treat you is determined by how you treat yourself. This may seem a bit harsh to you, especially if you are currently isolated in your relationship. However, if you can try to let go of your painful and uneasy emotional feelings and become aware of your own relationship patterns, you may discover whether there is anything you can do to prevent being treated in this way when facing isolation and alienation in a relationship.

Could I ask whether you allow yourself to do this to some extent?

If you are facing isolation and alienation in a relationship, you might consider expressing your true feelings and desires for how you would like to be treated. It is possible that this could lead to a change in the way you are treated.

It is understandable that being able to express pain and discomfort in a relationship, and to set boundaries, requires a certain level of self-confidence and courage. These qualities can be developed through a process of self-acceptance. From your description, it seems that you may be experiencing some difficulty in fully accepting yourself.

It might be challenging, but it's worth trying because it can help you change for the better and navigate relationships more effectively. You can start by using the self-acceptance strengths list to identify areas where you need to work on self-acceptance.

You may also find it helpful to focus on your own bright spots and strengths. This can be achieved by developing new interests and passions in your life, which will help you to take more control of the things you can do.

You might like to consider cultivating self-confidence and enhancing your sense of self-worth by keeping a gratitude journal. It can be helpful to allow yourself to be less than perfect in one area, because everyone is powerless at times.

It's important to remember that having areas where you feel less confident doesn't make you a bad person. It's simply a matter of recognizing that not everyone is an expert in every field.

You might consider keeping a mood diary to record in words the stress and emotions you feel in relationships and in life. This could be a helpful way for anyone to express and release their emotions and feelings. It may also assist you in better perceiving and understanding your emotions, exploring the hidden needs behind them, and then trying to give yourself the satisfaction and response you need through your own efforts.

It may be helpful to consider that the way you treat yourself can influence the way others respond to you. If you want to be treated a certain way in a relationship, you might try treating yourself in a similar way.

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It's not nice to feel left out. You want to fit in but don't know how.

Your situation makes people sad. It reminds me of my own situation.

But it's not your fault. You just need to change your perspective and behavior a little.

1. Don't change your personality, adjust your mentality. If you can't join the conversation, just be an attentive listener. If you are high quality and good character, even if you are introverted, your classmates will get close to you.

You don't have to change who you are to fit in with classmates. It'll just be exhausting.

2. Don't be sensitive when getting along with classmates. It's not your fault if they're rude. Just do your own thing.

3. Be a good listener and respond to the other person so that the conversation can continue. Look at the other person when they speak and give a response.

4. Show what you can offer in a relationship. People want to be around people who can help them. When they see that you can help them, they will want to know more about you.

5. Introverts should be good at observation. Find one or two colleagues who share your interests and get to know them.

6. Sharing food is a great way to bond with your classmates. Guys can talk about games and tech, while girls can chat about clothes and gossip. This will help you fit in faster.

7. You can ask a classmate for help with some questions.