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I am about to enter society, a bit afraid of its darker aspects, what should I do?

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I am about to enter society, a bit afraid of its darker aspects, what should I do? By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024

I am a college student. I am one of the more soft-natured people. I have always been well protected. I am the kind of obedient girl who was molested by relatives and abandoned by loved ones when I was young, and my character has become slightly stronger since then. I have always been taught how scary society is.

But because I failed the college entrance exam, I feel like I've retreated back into my comfort zone. Now I'm afraid that other people will hurt me again.

I don't dare fall in love or get too close to others.

Nicholas Castro Nicholas Castro A total of 3461 people have been helped

I understand. You're going to college now and will soon enter society.

It's like a small sailboat about to set sail and face the sea. It's a fear of the future and the unknown.

The sea is always there, and the boat needs to rely on it.

Make the unknown known.

This can help you overcome your fear.

Talk to your classmates and find out about jobs and industries.

Make more friends and get to know people.

It's not society that's scary, it's human nature.

You have the same complexity of human nature as anyone else.

You said you're soft-natured.

Can "soft" mean giving up what you hold on to for harmony and others' expectations?

Society is based on individuals.

Think for yourself: What do you want? Where do you want to go? What resources do you have? What abilities do you need?

You may have thought you belonged to your parents and had to obey them.

But independence means you belong only to yourself, and parents can only help you.

It depends on the situation.

Some things hurt, but they also help you grow. It depends on how you see them.

You can focus on your goals and interests to achieve a sense of accomplishment and growth.

I hope this helps.

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Juniper Holloway A person of wide learning is a gem that shines with the light of multiple intelligences.

I can relate to feeling scared after everything you've been through. It's tough when the world feels unsafe, especially after trusting people who ended up hurting us. But remember, not everyone is like that. There are good people out there too.

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Sterling Jackson A learned mind is not content with surface - level understanding.

It's completely understandable to feel withdrawn and afraid after such experiences. Building trust again takes time and courage. Maybe starting with small steps, like connecting with supportive friends or a counselor, could help rebuild your confidence in people.

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Zachary Davis Forgiveness is a way to see the world as a place of second chances.

Your feelings are valid, and it's okay to take your time healing. Sometimes retreating into our comfort zone is necessary for selfpreservation. When you're ready, consider exploring safe ways to engage with others at your own pace.

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Tate Jackson Learning is a journey of self-improvement and self-discovery.

I admire your strength for enduring so much. It's heartbreaking what you've faced. Taking things slowly and setting boundaries might help protect yourself while still allowing room for meaningful connections to grow gradually.

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Beckett Davis Forgiveness is like the sun after a storm, warming and brightening our hearts.

It sounds like you've built up walls as a way to stay safe, which is a natural response. Perhaps finding a trusted person to talk to about your fears could be a step towards opening up again, even if just a little bit at a time.

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