I can't do anything without my parents, and everyone looks down on me. Am I wrong?

What a great question!

It's totally normal to feel confused or have setbacks in social interactions. We all experience some negative emotions when this happens, and it's okay to let it all out!

I'd love to share some thoughts with you that I hope you'll find helpful.

The situations you've described, like "It turns out I'm a loser, so I always meet losers," "I'm an unknowing piece of trash," and "Even scum treats me like shit and steps on me, and I have to be grateful and wagging my tail to please them," are just temporary value judgments and emotional expressions when you're in a really negative and depressed state of mind. The reality is often not as bad as you think.

It's so important to calm down and take a deep breath. Then, you can really think about why you're feeling frustrated in social situations.

It's so important to remember that it's not about letting yourself get overwhelmed by negative emotions and letting them control you. We've all been there! It's like you're saying, "I can't help wagging my tail!"

It's so easy to get caught up in negative emotions like "Everything is deserved" and "I deserve to suffer all this pain, right? Am I that much of a bitch?" These feelings can really take over and make us feel like we're not worthy of happiness.

The situation the questioner described seems to be about realizing how capable and valuable you are in social situations. It's also about having the confidence and courage to take on the world! This can be explained in psychological terms using the concept of self-efficacy.

Self-efficacy is all about how confident you are in your own abilities. It's about whether you think you can do something and how sure you are that you can do it.

People with a high sense of self-efficacy are great at choosing more challenging goals and are also more optimistic and confident.

People with low self-efficacy can sometimes feel afraid of challenges. They might even avoid them or give up. This can lead to some negative feelings, like disappointment or pessimism.

If you want to improve your sense of self-efficacy, it's still a great idea to try to stay calm and positive when you face temporary setbacks in social relationships.

It's so important to have a calm and positive mindset, whether you're with your original family or in social situations. It can help you face challenges better, clarify your direction, and work to improve.

Just as you actively go to the platform to find support and help, this can broaden your perspective, change your thinking, and give you some valuable and positive encouragement, help, and advice.

So, it would be a great idea to also reach out to your family, friends, colleagues, and other people you trust. They can offer you lots of helpful advice, support, and encouragement!

I can see you're aiming to be kind to someone and gain a little love in return. To help you feel more confident, I'd suggest starting with making sure you feel good about yourself.

Self-attractiveness and a sense of worth can be thought of as the combination and change process of a person's knowledge, ideas, psychological qualities, external image, inner confidence, communication skills, and other factors in interpersonal interactions.

You can achieve this by putting in your own continuous and proactive efforts, which are supported by your own subjective efforts. Don't let anything or anyone else determine your success for you!

It's so important to feel good about yourself and have a positive sense of self-worth. When you feel good about yourself, it's much easier to have good relationships with other people.

If you don't feel good about yourself, it can be hard to have good relationships with other people.

So, we really recommend that you do some thorough research into ways you can enhance your charm and sense of value. Have a good think about the methods and measures that suit you best, based on your actual situation. And then, you know what to do! Make a practical goal plan.

Then, you can break down your big goals into smaller ones. It's also a great idea to start with the basics and practice step by step.

As you work towards your goals, remember to encourage and affirm yourself along the way. You've got this!

I really hope this helps you!

Hello! Thanks for sharing your experiences and meeting me.

I understand how you feel. It's hard when you doubt yourself, feel confused, and feel helpless. We've all felt this way when life gets tough. You think you're not good enough, that you always meet "jerks," and even doubt your own value and the meaning of your existence.

But don't think these problems show how much you're worth or mean you should suffer.

You are not alone. There are people who will listen to you and understand you.

Many people feel the same way as you do when they grow up. It can be hard to face life's challenges on your own after leaving your parents' home.

This is a process of learning and growing. Every attempt and failure is a stepping stone for your growth.

It's not your fault when you meet jerks. We'll always meet all kinds of people, some good and some bad.

You have the right to choose your friends and stay away from people who make you feel bad. You deserve to be treated well.

You took psychology courses but still try to please others. This is normal because there's a gap between theory and practice.

Don't deny yourself. Every effort is worthy. When you realize you're trying to please others, stop, take a deep breath, and tell yourself, "I deserve respect. I don't need to please anyone."

This will help you break away from this unhealthy pattern.

Seeking professional psychological counseling is a good choice when facing difficulties. A counselor will help you understand your inner world, find the root cause of the problem, and provide solutions.

You will become stronger and more able to face challenges with courage.

Also, take care of your body and mind. Get enough sleep, eat right, exercise, and stay positive.

If you're feeling unwell or depressed, get help.

Cultivating some hobbies is also a good way to relieve stress and find joy.

Anything you do to make your life more fun and interesting is good.

Finally, change takes time. Give yourself space to adjust.

Believe in yourself, believe you deserve love, and believe you can improve your life.

Also, accept your imperfections and past experiences. We all have setbacks and failures, but they shape us.

Be kind to yourself. When you accept and love yourself, the world around you will also become a better place.

Seek help and support. Share your feelings with family, friends, or professionals.

You are not alone. People are there for you when you need them.

Also, stay positive. Believe in yourself.

Set goals and plans, and work towards them. Effort and sacrifice will lead to success.

You are not alone. You are worthy of love and can overcome any difficulty. Face life's challenges bravely and seek opportunities for change and growth.

May you find confidence, courage, and a beautiful life!

Topic master, you're great! The world and I love you!

These words in your heart may sound like a dark, cloudy sky, heavy and suffocating. But guess what?

Everyone has a few dark clouds in their hearts, but that doesn't make you a "bad person" or mean you "don't deserve to live." We are all complex and contradictory individuals, and that's a good thing! On the road to growth, it is inevitable that we will encounter setbacks and even scum, but we can also learn and grow from them.

But don't worry, it's not your fault, and it's certainly not your destiny!

You say you've read a lot of books and studied psychology, which is already very impressive. Knowledge is sometimes like a flashlight, which can help us find our way in the dark. And the great thing is, it also takes time and practice to truly illuminate the corners of our hearts!

You may feel stuck in a cycle of meeting bad people and feeling self-doubt, but this is actually a sign that there are some wounds inside you that need to be seen and healed – and you can do it!

It's true that childhood experiences can influence our patterns of behavior and interactions with others, but it's not a "life sentence." The amazing thing about being human is that we can start changing at any time, if we're willing to do so!

You have the power to learn new ways to love and be loved, to establish healthy boundaries, and to learn how not to let negative people and things affect your sense of worth. And you can do it!

There's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting to give love and receive it in return! Everyone longs to be loved, and it's one of the most beautiful parts of human nature.

If the current approach makes you feel hurt, it's time for a new strategy! Start with loving yourself. When you learn to respect yourself and understand your own value, you'll naturally attract people who know how to cherish you.

You are not a "bad person," nor are you "trash," nor are you "unworthy." Everyone has their own rhythm and process, and the road to growth is full of trial and error—and you can do it!

Give yourself a little patience and a little tenderness. You absolutely deserve to be happy and treated gently!

Embrace life! Don't rush to deny yourself everything. The meaning of life lies in exploration and experience, not self-punishment.

There are so many warm hands in the world, ready and willing to lend you a helping hand when you need it! And remember, you are never alone!

I get it. It can feel like you're in a dark place, like you don't matter, and like your life has no meaning. Let's take a closer look at what's going on, figure out what's causing it, and find ways to make things better.

First, let's look at that feeling you get that you won't be able to do anything after you leave your parents. This feeling might come from the fact that you've grown up too dependent on your parents and haven't had a chance to develop your own independent living skills.

While we all need our parents to love and care for us while we're growing up, it's important to learn how to be independent too. It's not easy to be independent, but you can do it!

You know, everyone has the ability to learn and grow. They just need time and opportunities to develop themselves. You can start with the little things in your daily life, such as learning to cook, do the laundry, manage your finances, etc. Gradually, you'll be able to cultivate your ability to live independently.

Next, we'll chat about why you keep meeting "scum." It might not be all your fault, but your attitude and how you respond do play a big part.

We all crave the love and approval of others sometimes. It's only natural! But, we can lose sight of whether the other person is actually worth it. It's also easy to be influenced or even manipulated by the words and actions of others when we lack self-confidence.

To change this, you just need to learn a few simple things. You can establish healthy interpersonal boundaries, clarify your needs and expectations, and learn to say no to people who don't respect you. At the same time, you can improve your self-confidence and believe in your ability to handle various interpersonal relationships.

Now, let's talk about those thoughts you have about yourself. They might be a way of protecting yourself from pain, but they're not helpful.

I know it can be tough, but this approach will only lead you deeper into a difficult situation. You are so much more than your achievements, appearance, or the opinions of others. You are an amazing, independent individual, and you deserve to be loved, respected, and paid attention to. When you start to accept and value your own worth, you will gradually get rid of those negative thoughts and emotions.

You deserve to be loved, respected, and paid attention to. When you start to accept and value your own worth, you will gradually get rid of those negative thoughts and emotions. You've got this!

I'd love to share some advice with you!

It's so important to develop your independent living skills! Make a plan to gradually learn and practice the skills of independent living. You can start with simple household chores and gradually challenge more complex tasks.

This will not only improve your quality of life, but also give you a wonderful boost of self-confidence!

It's so important to establish healthy interpersonal boundaries. Make sure you're clear about your needs and expectations in relationships, and don't be afraid to say no to people who don't respect you. At the same time, it's great to listen to the opinions and feedback of others, as it helps you understand how you're perceived.

You've got this! It's time to focus on your strengths and achievements and learn to appreciate your uniqueness. You can boost your self-confidence by recording your growth and progress.

And don't forget you can also seek support and encouragement from others to help you move forward with more determination.

If you're feeling stuck and need a little extra support, don't hesitate to reach out to a professional counselor or psychologist. They're there to offer tailored guidance and help you find your way out of whatever challenge you're facing.

Finally, I want to tell you that everyone has their own share of disappointments. Even those who seem successful to you have probably experienced some negative things like divorce and bankruptcy.

We all have our own difficulties and challenges, but the good news is that we can overcome them! All we need to do is face them bravely, seek help and support, and believe in ourselves. Give yourself some time and patience to grow and change, and you'll be amazed at what you can achieve!

Hello! I can see that you are very emotional, which is totally normal. When I was emotional and asking questions, I would cry and get angry at the same time, typing out long paragraphs. It's okay to feel all of those things!

But from my own experience, I know everything will pass! I really hope you can calm down soon.

Don't say such depressing things! Most people do the wrong thing for various reasons, but you know what? That's okay! If the people who care about you know what you are saying, they will definitely be very sad, but you know what else? They'll also be able to help you!

You haven't described exactly what happened, but it's clear you've had an experience that has led to this situation. And you know what? That's okay! It's not what you want to happen, so don't keep it in your mind.

It seems that someone has hurt you emotionally. I can understand that you feel very sad, very painful, helpless, and confused right now. But don't worry! I'm here to help.

These things must have caused you a lot of harm, which is why you are like this now. But you can change that!

But the truth must not be what you think! Please don't give up on yourself easily, and don't hurt yourself with words. Everyone deserves respect, and everyone has their own meaning for existing in the world.

You are absolutely right! Everyone longs for love, and this is a totally normal phenomenon.

It just means that you chose the wrong person, and you haven't met the one who really knows how to cherish you. But you will! And when you do, it'll be so worth it. It's other people's problem if they hurt you. They're just doing their thing, and you're doing yours. It's their character that's the problem, not yours. They don't know how to appreciate your good points, but you do!

We need to understand that what is happening to us now is not what we want to happen. But one day you will realize that it has been a long time, and you will be so happy you got through it! So don't keep it in your heart.

I'm sure you'll get over it soon! You're so strong and I know you'll face reality bravely.

Hello!

It's normal to feel helpless and confused when leaving your parents. This doesn't mean you're at fault. It may be related to your sense of dependency and self-perception.

Dependence means relying too much on others, especially parents. When you leave home, this dependence may make you feel helpless and lost because you need to face life's challenges independently.

It's not your fault. It's a stage in your growth process.

The "everyone looks down on me" may be related to your self-perception. Self-perception is how you see yourself.

If you have a negative self-image, you may think everyone is looking down on you. But this is often just your inner feelings.

Example from life:

If you are a student leaving home for university, you will need to arrange your own life and studies.

You may feel helpless and lost because you no longer have your parents around. This is not your fault. It is a stage in your growth process.

During this time, you can ask older students for advice and join campus clubs. These people and activities can help you make new friends and get used to living on your own.

You can also try to change your thinking, accept your weaknesses, and work hard to improve.

If you think everyone looks down on you, talk to your classmates. You'll see that most people are friendly and tolerant. They won't look down on you because of your dependency.

They may be willing to help you.

Believe in yourself. You're not alone.

If you stay positive and take action, you will adapt to independent living and build your own social circle.

Hi, I'm Li Di, and I'm grateful for this chance to chat.

I've read your description a few times now. It's painful to read, like a cry for help, but I feel so powerless. I feel like I am nothing without my parents. Even the "scum" you despise is denying you. You've read books and even taken psychology courses, but none of it has helped. You feel a deep sense of powerlessness. The lack of intimacy in your childhood has made your life quite difficult. You constantly deny yourself and attack yourself, just trying to gain a little love. Is there anything wrong with that? I want to tell you out loud that there is nothing wrong with that, and there is nothing wrong with you. Yes, your feelings are painful right now, and I can feel that, but I can also see the strength in your struggle to work your way up.

After reading it a few times, I can see how you're struggling and feel your frustration. I've also had a few thoughts on the matter, which I'd like to discuss with you.

First, I feel like I can't do anything without my parents, and everyone looks down on me. What do they think of me? Do I also think that I'm really, really bad?

If so, when did it start? What happened at that time?

Second, I've met someone I don't particularly care for, but I feel like I have to be grateful and show them how much I appreciate them, even though I'm not really feeling it. So, what am I grateful for? What did they do to make me feel this way?

What am I trying to gain by pleasing the other person?

☞ Third, my intimacy mode was set in childhood, so what kind of intimacy mode do I have now? And what am I trying to achieve through it?

Fourth, there are seven instances of "deserve it" in the entire description. What event has given me such a sense of "deserve it"? Even I don't deserve to live, and who is defining this undeserving of life?

Or am I letting someone else decide what I deserve, what I should be, and what I don't deserve?

Fifth, I just want a little love, even if it's not reciprocated. I'm so humble that I'm even praying for just a little love. I want to know who to give my love to. Does it have to be this person?

Or should I start by showing myself some love? I could give myself a hug and show myself a little love.

Even if others don't love me, can I love myself first?

☞Sixth, it's so painful that I want to be reborn, to start childhood all over again and to start cultivating my character from scratch. Let's think about it. There may be a lot of uncertainty about being reborn, but it seems like it would be easier to re-raise your inner child and start cultivating your character from scratch. Where can I start?

The above discussion is just another perspective to consider. If there's anything you don't like, you can ignore it. It's just an assumption.

Let's look at the psychological reasons behind your feelings and needs together so you can understand yourself better and accept yourself as you are.

It's tough when you feel powerless and frustrated in relationships. In psychology, we know that early family circumstances and experiences can have a big impact on our self-esteem, interpersonal patterns, and how we interact with others. This doesn't mean you "deserve" to suffer these negative experiences, and it doesn't mean you don't deserve love and respect.

Everyone has the potential to grow and change, even if they start from a less than ideal position.

It's clear you've taken some positive steps to improve yourself, like taking psychology courses. That shows your commitment and desire for personal growth.

But calling yourself "trash" or "shit" isn't a solution. It'll only make things worse and might affect how you see yourself and others.

The behavior you mentioned of "wagging the tail and begging for mercy" might be driven by a deep-seated need—the desire to be accepted and loved. This need is one of the basic emotional needs of human beings, and there's no shame in having it.

If you find yourself in an unequal relationship and feel like you have to grovel to gain the approval of others, it's a sign that you need to rethink the value and health of these relationships.

Believe in yourself. No matter what our past is like, we have the ability to create a different future. Change may be difficult, but it is possible. Perhaps we can begin the process by taking the following steps:

Self-acceptance: Try to view your experiences and feelings with more compassion. Recognize your own value instead of being too hard on yourself.

☆Set boundaries: Learn to say "no" and protect yourself from people who make you feel uncomfortable or disrespected.

Seek support. Find a counselor or join a support group where you can share your feelings and experiences and get professional help and support.

Self-awareness: Take a good look at your internal belief system. Think about how it was formed and whether it still serves you in your current life.

Practice new communication styles and behaviors to gradually establish healthier self-images and interpersonal relationships.

Of course, change takes time and patience. Our past influences who we are, but it doesn't define us.

We can change the patterns that aren't working for us and create new, healthier relationships. Don't be too hard on yourself and give yourself some space to grow and change.

If you're struggling with your emotions, it's important to seek help from a mental health professional. They can help you understand and resolve these issues instead of bearing them alone.

Many people have been through similar emotional challenges. I've been there, too, and I'm here for you. I've found a way to cope through continuous learning and growth. We all deserve a better life, and I believe you can achieve it.

You deserve love and respect, regardless of how you feel about yourself at the moment.

I hope this helps. The world and I love you! *^O^*

The original poster

I don't know what kind of things you have experienced that have made you feel so bad. But I do know that you are strong and you will get through this. I can see that you keep blaming yourself, but you are not to blame. Your heart must be hurting very much, but you will heal.

You have a foundation in psychology, and you're aware that you may always be "pleasing" others. You also see that this kind of pleasing stems from the original family, from childhood—and you're excited to explore how this plays out in your life!

I can see your deep sense of powerlessness, and I'm here to tell you that you're going to get through this! It's like the saying goes: I know all the truths of life, and I'm going to get it right!

With so much suffering, it's incredible how easy it is to overcome! With so many truths, it's amazing how simple it is to achieve them!

We are just ordinary mortals, but we have the power to become anything we want to be!

It's not your problem if you meet someone who makes you feel bad. Don't be brainwashed by the "law of attraction" in short videos.

Absolutely! Everyone will meet someone who is a good match, and someone who isn't. It's a matter of probability. When you meet enough people, the ratio of the two should be about the same.

So don't ever deny yourself because you've met the wrong person! You never know when the right person will appear, so keep your heart open!

When you feel unbearable, come here to let it all out, talk to someone, and someone will always be there to listen to you!

Best regards! I'm so excited to see you soon!

First, take a deep breath. You're feeling pretty emotional right now, and that might make it tough to look at yourself and the situation around you in a calm, rational way.

Let's take a closer look at the issue you mentioned.

First of all, I want to make sure you understand that you are not a "bad person." We all have our own strengths and weaknesses, and everyone deserves to be respected and valued.

No matter what you've done in the past, you shouldn't be too hard on yourself. Self-denial will only make things worse and won't fix the problem.

Second, how others treat you doesn't determine your value. Even if someone treats you badly, you still deserve to be respected and treated well.

Don't give up your dignity and worth just to please others. You have the right to maintain your dignity and self-respect, no matter what others think of you.

On top of that, your childhood experiences might have shaped your approach to intimacy, but that doesn't mean you're destined to be hurt or suffer all the time. Taking a course in psychology is a great place to start, but to really shift your patterns, you might need to do some deeper self-reflection and professional counseling.

Most importantly, there's nothing wrong with you. We all want to be loved and accepted, and that's a common human need.

But you don't have to give up everything to gain the love and respect of others. You deserve to be loved and respected, no matter what anyone says.

Finally, you might want to think about seeing a professional psychologist. They can help you understand your emotions and behaviors better and come up with solutions that work.

It's important to remember that asking for help isn't a sign of weakness. It's about taking responsibility for yourself.

Others are like a mirror for you. They reflect back to you the person you are.

If you see others looking down on you, it's probably because you're looking down on yourself.

If you think this way, you'll find it's true.

It's okay to feel like most people you meet will look down on you. It's a feeling that can follow you no matter where you go.

And it's totally okay to feel like it's useless to go to Mars.

You know what you can do? Turn it around!

Take a moment to see yourself, respect yourself, and value yourself.

Take a moment to think back to the bright spots in your life.

Some folks have physical challenges that require assistance from others for the rest of their lives.

You might be lucky enough to have a healthy body and not need help from others.

I think you'll agree this is a very brilliant point!

You might even be able to work to support yourself! Some people, even as adults, still need to be supported by their parents.

Oh, isn't that a very brilliant point?

A glass of water, my dear, go see the parts that are there, don't always stare at the parts that aren't there.

Every snowflake is special and unique!

Everyone has their own special talent that no one else has. It's there, waiting for you to discover it!

You just haven't found it because you've always looked outside, sweetheart.

Come back to yourself, my dear friend, and find your own talent.

When you start to see yourself and become yourself, instead of trying to be someone else,

And then, you'll start to feel confident and strong again, just like you always were.

When you find your strength again, you'll be so much more than a victim.

You'll finally feel like the world is on your side again.

Don't worry about age or time, my dear.

It's okay if you're still figuring things out. Some people take a while to find their way, and that's perfectly normal. You might even find that you start a new life at 80!

It's so great that you were thinking about this at such a young age!

You did nothing wrong, sweetheart. Everything you're going through is a gift.

It was your life's compass, and it was guiding you with a gentle nudge, saying:

You were going in the wrong direction, sweetheart, but you just had to change it.

It was just a normal part of growing up, sweetheart.

I promise you, you won't hate it.

I'm sure you'll be really grateful for it too!

I'm so happy you asked!

Hello, I'm Coach Yu, a heart detective! I've carefully read your text and seen many labels: "rotten person," "shit," "trash"…

Now, let's dive into the fascinating topic of labels!

If we ask our soul a simple question like "Who am I?," we'll find that every answer, like "I am the child of Mom and Dad," "I am an employee of a certain company," or "I am a friend of someone," is actually a series of labels!

Some of these labels come from family members, parents, friends and relatives, teachers and classmates, and even ourselves! Some of these labels are status symbols, some are ability assessments, some are behavioral characteristics, and some are psychological feelings.

Let's dive in and examine some labels together! We'll connect the emotional changes in the body and observe the counterweight and balance between them. You'll become aware of some reactions that may occur in an instant, which psychology calls "automatic thinking" or "distractions."

When I think of "scumbag," what image flashes through my mind? What sound does it make?

And now, let's explore the emotions and feelings that these words evoke within me!

Now, when I think of "shit," I want you to think of an image that really gets your creative juices flowing. What image flashes through your mind when you think of "shit"? What sound do you hear in your head?

And now, let's explore the emotions and feelings that these words evoke within me!

When I think of "trash," what image flashes through my mind? What sound echoes in my head?

And what amazing emotions and feelings do they bring up in me?

And there's another thing we can ask ourselves: how would we respond in these situations? If we could turn back time, what would we do differently?

Now, let's dive into the fascinating topic of beliefs!

We all know that self-suggestion is a very powerful belief, and that self-affirmation can inspire, while self-denial can be devastating. Fortunately, there are four core beliefs that we can easily reframe: 1. I am useless; 2. I am unlovable; 3. I am guilty; 4. The world is dangerous. By recognizing these beliefs, we can start to shift our thinking and embrace a more positive outlook.

The core idea of denial may come from intergenerational transmission, that is, the dark family heirloom of inheritance. It may also come from trauma, that is, an individual's early frustrating experience that exceeded the level of tolerance at the time.

Let's ask ourselves an exciting question: What impact did the close relationships of our childhood have on us?

And we can also ask ourselves what influence real-life relationships have had on us!

And what if we asked ourselves, what is the ideal self? And what can I do to achieve it?

We all want to make ourselves better and lead a better life! While we can't choose our origins or childhood, we can choose to pursue our ideals and aspire to happiness. As the brilliant psychological master Adler said, childhood experiences aren't as important as we think. What matters is how we perceive and interpret them.

We can learn to embrace our emotions! When negative emotions and thoughts reach a climax, try saying the mantra "so what" to yourself. You'll be amazed at how quickly you realize that it's really no big deal!

If this thing bothers you, don't worry! There are plenty of people who can help. Try to find a family member or friend you trust and who has always given you positive support to talk to. If you feel the need, you can also find a counselor for an in-depth exchange and communication.

Affirm yourself, empower yourself, and tell yourself out loud, "I'm right!" Enrich your knowledge and enhance your inner self. Negative thoughts are like dust that fills our hearts and minds. Actively deal with them, observe your dominant thinking, explore the root causes of activation, and match them with familiar situations. You'll find that beliefs and original intentions are the key to unlocking your potential!

Bless you!

I'm so excited to recommend this incredible book: "My Inner Infinity"!

Hello, questioner! My name is Evan, and I'm a counselor in the Transactional Analysis school.

From what you've told me, it's clear you've been through a lot. I can see how your past experiences have led to feelings of anger and powerlessness. I'm so sorry you've had to go through all of this. I really feel for you.

It's totally normal to feel the way you do, but try not to blame yourself too much. You're not at fault.

Everyone's emotions and experiences are so unique and complex, it's really hard to measure them in simple terms of right and wrong. I can feel that the questioner wasn't as well supported by their parents as they could have been during their growth, which made the questioner doubt themselves.

It's totally understandable to feel the pain and self-doubt you're going through. But remember, you don't "deserve" to suffer or feel like you don't deserve to live in this world.

From what you've shared, it seems like you might be facing some emotional challenges. These could be related to your upbringing, intimacy patterns, or the way you interact with others. The idea of "wagging tail" might be a way for you to seek love and recognition in a relationship. However, it can also make you feel hurt and diminished.

This is a lovely behavior pattern. When faced with the kind of intimacy they want, the questioner will subconsciously use this behavior pattern to ensure that the intimacy they want can be maintained. When dealing with interpersonal relationships, it is important for the questioner to learn to protect themselves, set boundaries, and find people who can give them support and love.

It's also important to learn to appreciate our own strengths and values. We shouldn't rely too heavily on the approval of others to define our own worth.

Childhood experiences do have a profound impact on our development, but that doesn't mean we can't change or break free from past patterns. In fact, each of us has the amazing ability to reshape our personality and change our behavior and thought patterns to achieve a more positive and healthy life.

It's totally normal to want love and approval from others. But building healthy relationships and a strong sense of self takes time and effort.

It's great that you've already taken the positive step of reading lots of related psychology books and even taking psychology courses! This shows that you're already on the road to seeking self-understanding and acceptance. However, knowledge is only a tool. To improve your living conditions, you might need more practice and professional guidance.

Sometimes, just learning from books and courses can feel like you're learning from books only. I think it's really important for you to find a professional psychological counselor to help you with your personal experience and analysis. This is a great way to grow and learn!

These professional psychological services, such as counseling or therapy, are there to help you deal with your feelings and relationship patterns. A professional counselor can help you understand your feelings, develop healthier coping strategies, and establish more balanced relationships.

While you're looking for help, it's important to remember that everyone has their own value and dignity. No matter what difficulties or challenges you're facing, you should never be defined as "lame" or "trash." I can feel the self-doubt of the person who asked the question. These doubts and derogatory views affect you at all times, but they don't define your value as a person. We all need to affirm our own value through others. What's most important is to accept your own existence.

We all have room to grow and change, and we all deserve happiness and respect!

If you're feeling really distressed or have any thoughts of hurting yourself, it's really important that you get help right away. There are lots of professional mental health services and emergency helplines you can call.

Please don't hesitate to call our National Hotline at 400-161-9995.

Student hotline: 400-161-9995, press 1.

Depression Hotline: 400-161-9995, press 2.

Hey there! If you're looking for some extra support, the Life Hotline is here for you. Just press 3 on 400-161-9995 to chat.

The lovely folks at the China Crisis and Suicide Intervention Center are there for you 24/7 at 010-62715275.

The author's life is precious and deserves our love and respect. Let's remember that the author deserves to be loved and respected, and that the author has the right to pursue happiness and a healthy life.

I really believe in you! You can overcome these difficulties and move towards a better future.

I really hope my answer can help the person who asked the question.

I'd also like to suggest some related book recommendations.

Original Family: How to Repair Your Own Character Deficiencies

The wonderful authors of this book are (US) Susan Forward, PhD and (US) Craig Barker.

This book is here to help! It explores the impact of the original family on personal character and provides specific methods for repairing character defects. It can help you understand how your character was formed and learn how to overcome the negative effects brought about by the original family.

The Neglected Child: How to Overcome Emotional Neglect in Childhood

The wonderful authors of this book are Joneys Webb and Christina Musello from the USA.

This book is here to help! It explores the impact of emotional neglect on our growth and provides strategies for dealing with it. It can help you identify whether you have suffered from emotional neglect and learn how to overcome the resulting distress.

Breaking Free from Your Family of Origin

Hello, and welcome to my book! My name is Stephanie Stiel, and I'm so excited to share my insights with you.

This book is here to help! It provides a set of methods for healing childhood psychological trauma through the author's many years of clinical psychotherapy experience. It can help you find a way to heal the trauma of your original family and re-establish a healthy sense of self-worth.

Let me tell you about a wonderful book I've read recently. It's called "Learn to Be Happy."

Matthew Richard, USA

The book is all about how happiness is something we can all achieve from within, no matter what's going on around us. It's packed with helpful tips and insights from science, philosophy and Buddhism, to help you deal with negative emotions and become the happiest version of yourself!

The Invisible Person

The wonderful Helen McCrory, USA

This book is all about understanding the personality factors behind our thinking and behavior patterns from the perspective of how we interact with others. It can help you gain a deeper understanding of yourself and others, and find the right way to get along with yourself and others.