I have a friend whom I fear may be depressed and suicidal. How can I help her?

I'm so grateful that you trust me enough to invite me to answer this question.

After reading the text, I felt a bit sad for your friend and for you.

It seems like the friend's family doesn't care about her as much as you do. Because of this, you, as a friend of a friend, have taken on the important task of preventing your friend from committing suicide. I'm not sure if you and your friend can afford the current situation!

"There's also a divorce going on in her family." I'm so sorry to hear that! Is this friend married?

I'd love to know how the questioner met this friend and how long they've been friends!

I'd love to know where you learned about these things about your friend in the text!

From what I can tell, it seems like the questioner knows a lot about her friend's situation and is very familiar with her family. If that's the case, I'm wondering why the questioner didn't remind her family to keep an eye on her friend and let them share some of the burden?

After all, they're family and live together in their daily lives, so they have more opportunities to pay attention to her. If anything happens, they may find out more quickly and it'll be easier for them to solve and take care of it. Plus, as her family, they have a responsibility and obligation to look out for her.

It seems that the questioner is feeling a bit alone in her worry for her friend. I'd love to know what's going on in her mind and why she's drawn to helping her friend in this way. Is she worried that her friend saw her best friend's suicide and is at risk of experiencing something similar?

What the questioner thinks she can do right now:

It might be a good idea to tell her family about her situation and let them take responsibility for her.

It would be a great idea for your friend to seek professional help and support herself too.

Be sure to give your friend the number of a helpline so that she can seek help in an emergency.

If you have the time and energy, I think you should spend more time with her.

Hey there! I just wanted to send a quick reminder to you, the questioner. It's really important to let go of the idea of "saving your friend from suicide by yourself." Not only will you be carrying a heavy burden, but your friend might not be able to accept your help.

It's a tricky situation for both of you.

I really hope my reply helps you in some way. Wishing you all the best!

I'm so happy you invited me! I'm Huijuan.

It's totally normal to feel worried and anxious when you see your friend in a tough spot. It's natural to want to help, but sometimes it can feel like you're not in a position to do much. It's okay to feel helpless sometimes.

It's great that you're here, talking about this. It's a good start!

Let's break this down into two parts.

1. You: It's totally understandable to feel anxious and worried about your friend's situation.

It's so important to remember that the focus here is on your friend, not you. This will help you to avoid getting too overwhelmed.

And don't forget to ask yourself what you can do about this!

It would be a great help to your friend if you could accompany him, listen to him, and seek help from the crisis suicide intervention hotline and the relevant departments, such as the police and the community. You can give him help.

Your anxiety is totally perceptible to your friend, and you can absolutely care about your friend, but try not to over-empathize with your friend, okay?

2. Your friend

I know it can be really frustrating when you don't get into university.

Sometimes, the family environment just can't give us all the support we need. It can even be a bit of a stressor!

Oh, there's a divorce in the family, and my poor mother is still asking for money from Ta.

I know, I know. It's all so stressful!

So, what are the things that you should take on, what things you need to let go of, and what things you need to reject?

It's okay to accept that you didn't get into university. It's already happened, and there's no need to beat yourself up over it. If you want to continue studying, that's great! Just don't be too hard on yourself.

If family members are getting a divorce, that is a family matter, and it's important to set boundaries. Friends are not responsible for who gets divorced, so it's not their business.

If my mother asks a friend for money, it's okay to say no. If you don't want to borrow, that's okay too! You don't have to satisfy others.

If family members treat friends badly, it's important to take responsibility for this. It's something you have to face, but you've got this! Now that you can work, it's a great time to focus on building your own strength and roots. You've got to protect yourself from the things your family can't. If family still brings you challenges, you can always find a way to hold an umbrella over yourself.

It's so important to take responsibility for yourself, and to learn how to say no when you need to.

Even though these sentences are short, there's a lot more to life than that. It's okay to ask for help! Let a counselor be your guide as you build a support system. Seeking help is a great way to start.

Dear question asker,

I am grateful for your invitation and for the recognition and trust you have shown in me.

Firstly, I would like to express my sincerest gratitude for your willingness to engage in this discourse. From your statements, it is evident that you possess a profound affinity for your friend. It is also apparent that you possess a wealth of knowledge regarding her circumstances, and that you are driven by an urgent desire to assist her, while simultaneously grappling with the distressing prospect of her potential suicide. I am heartened by the knowledge that she has a friend like you, and I commend you for your actions.

I am curious to know what kind of friends you and she really are and under what circumstances you learned so much about her.

Please elucidate the rationale behind your concern for her well-being and your inclination to provide assistance. Has this been a consistent pattern in the past?

Apart from you, who else can she turn to for assistance? Has she sought professional treatment or help?

It is possible that you may be perplexed or irritated when I pose these questions, and you may even perceive my inquiries as unreasonable. My objective is to gain insight into your relationship with her and to ascertain the extent of motivation on both sides to seek assistance regarding her depression and suicidal tendencies.

In addition, it would be beneficial to ascertain the responsibilities you and she are willing to assume in order to resolve this issue. Furthermore, it would be helpful to understand your and her perspectives on depression and suicide.

From the perspective of psychological counseling, it is imperative that those in need of assistance seek it out. Those who are suffering are the ones who ask for help. Therefore, in order to ascertain who is the subject of this request for help, it is challenging for me to provide assistance to your friend through you.

Moreover, other highly qualified respondents have provided exemplary responses, offering professional methods and suggestions for suicide crisis intervention. They have also advised you, as a friend, to prioritize your own well-being and recognize your limitations. As a friend, it is commendable to provide her with more companionship, active listening, and assistance within your capabilities, on the condition that you prioritize your own self-care.

It is evident that throughout her life, you have consistently demonstrated reliability and trustworthiness. It is heartening to observe that she has you as a friend. As a friend, you are a valuable asset.

In light of the circumstances you have outlined, I would like to offer a few brief suggestions.

1. In order to ascertain whether she will commit suicide, it is necessary to conduct a professional assessment. Consequently, I concur with the other respondents that you should suggest or accompany your friend to a local professional mental health center for a professional consultation, and request that a professional doctor or a professional crisis interventionist conduct a professional assessment.

2. For how long has she been experiencing depressive symptoms? Did she receive psychological counseling or intervention after witnessing her best friend's suicide?

What were her emotional responses at the time? How did these responses affect her later?

Professional psychological counseling is also necessary to assist her in navigating these challenging circumstances.

3. The subject's family is currently undergoing a divorce. Does this pertain to the subject or another member of the family? If it concerns the subject, to what extent are the divorce, the family's mistreatment of the subject, and their demands affecting the subject?

These issues must be addressed individually. When one is unable to resolve them independently, it is advisable to seek professional psychological counseling and legal assistance. In particular, it would be beneficial to gain further insight into the reasons behind her family of origin's treatment of her. It may require additional information and time to fully comprehend and resolve the matter.

4. Apart from financial concerns, what is her emotional control like? You mentioned that she sometimes has impulses. Are these impulses frequent occurrences, or are they triggered by specific circumstances?

The necessity for different coping methods is evident, and these can be adapted through the acquisition of appropriate emotional management techniques. However, it is essential to ascertain whether there is a physiological basis for the condition in question.

5. If you are able to provide assistance to your friend in addressing this issue, how would you anticipate feeling, and what would be the nature of your emotional state? Conversely, if you are unable to provide assistance, how would you anticipate feeling, and what would be the nature of your emotional state?

Do you share similar motivations for assisting others?

It is essential that individuals learn to take responsibility for themselves. Prioritizing self-care is a fundamental requirement that should be consistently upheld. Only when an individual has taken care of themselves can they effectively care for others, including parents, children, loved ones, other family members, or friends. By doing so, they can avoid falling into negative emotions such as complaining, anger, or guilt.

It is a fundamental tenet of human existence that each individual possesses a unique destiny and future, and that no other person can be substituted for another. This belief system posits that every individual is capable of navigating their own unique path in life.

It is inherent to human nature that each individual is born into a different family and grows up in a different environment. Consequently, it is not possible to empathise with another person in the same way. The most that can be done is to try to understand each other as best one can, which involves listening, accompanying and empathising, without judging or analysing.

It is recommended that the reader consult the texts "Resilience" and "The Mindfulness Way Through Depression." It may be possible to identify strategies for alleviating depressive symptoms and facilitating personal healing.

I would like to reiterate the importance of prioritizing self-care before assisting a friend in need. May you and your friend both remain in good health.

It is my hope that this response will prove both inspiring and effective.

I am a counseling psychologist. What is the meaning of the term "Happy Cow"?

My dear,

It is a wonderful thing to be full of love and care for the world! We can pay attention to the growth of others and accompany them to blossom and bear fruit. While we cannot always take the place of others, we can encourage them to stand up on their own and face every challenge and impact. Everyone's life needs to move forward with their own weight, and we can help them do just that!

Life gives us all a different path to follow, and it's up to us to make the most of it! You can live each day with a peaceful, sunny, or Buddhist mindset. It's great to have someone to laugh and smile with along the way, but you can also choose to be strong inside and face this one-way path as a fighter and brave person!

Maybe we can find that our options are actually limitless! All we have to do is seek, explore, and make the one-in-a-thousand possibility a reality. Life may seem one-way, but we can create millions of possibilities along the way through our dedication and perseverance, making our lives colorful!

Your friend didn't make it into university, has strained family ties, heavy financial pressure, and has even resorted to extreme actions... If we attribute these behaviors, we can start with three aspects: personal circumstances, environmental support, and the depth of one's heart.

Failing to get into university is a setback, but it's not the end of the world! It just means you have to work harder to achieve your dreams. Take a good look at your strengths and weaknesses, then find an industry and occupation that you're passionate about. Keep learning and doing your best to make it happen!

Learning and work are two different things. The new call to action has just begun! What you do now will bear fruit in the future. You need patience and persistence, and I know you've got what it takes!

Family ties are not something we can choose, but you can choose to rise above financial problems from the original family. Since you are already working, you get to learn to participate in the rules of the game of the adult world!

Once you've protected your own life, you can then benefit all living things! This isn't about being unfilial; it's about understanding that you can contribute more love by taking care of yourself. When you're taken care of, you're in a better position to take care of others!

As we go along, we'll gradually understand that emotions can't be exchanged and there's no reciprocity. So, we get to learn to let go! Our giving comes from an overflow of our own energy, not an external debt that we're already in debt. We want to give and contribute, not be forced to. And even though it may seem like we're doing it for our loved ones, our feelings are completely different due to the different starting points.

The former is done with a happy heart, while the latter is done with resentment. The biggest and most exciting difference between the two is the adjustment of one's own state of mind, which is also what we have been talking about: choice!

Inner awareness might seem unconventional compared to the previous two, but it is the true underlying logic. When it comes down to it, our external behavior is an external projection of our three views. Therefore, if you want to fundamentally reverse the kind of depressed and declining state your friend is in, you can do it! Give yourself inner motivation and watch the magic happen!

A positive and optimistic outlook on life will see setbacks as tests, while a pessimistic and world-weary outlook will find flaws in the bright spots of life. So how do you build a positive, optimistic outlook full of positive energy?

That is cultivation and tempering! Cultivation is all about cultivating the mind and practicing interpersonal skills. Tempering is about tempering the state of mind and refining the discerning eye. With an open mind, devote yourself to the trivial matters of each day. You'll soon see how, in the accumulation of day after day, you can sift and simulate the form that suits you best!

Embrace the journey! Don't demand that life adapt to us, but as we change ourselves, the world will become different because of us. May your friends find their way to coexist with the world soon!

Hello, question asker!

I am a June breeze. Thank you for trusting me enough to answer your question. I know your friend is lucky to have such a good friend as you.

From what you've told me, your friend is in a very bad way. Suicidal behaviour is a serious symptom of depression. When such thoughts

First, you must contact her family immediately and take her to the hospital. Suicidal thoughts can be controlled and improved relatively quickly through physical therapy or medication, relieving depressive symptoms and thus reducing the risk of suicide.

Secondly, she should find a nearby psychologist for psychological counseling. Hypnosis is an effective method for helping her explore the positive meaning of life in relation to suicidal behavior.

It is crucial to inform the family about the suicide risk and ensure strict supervision and awareness of prevention measures. When the risk is high, hospitalization is the recommended course of action. This allows for more comprehensive suicide prevention measures to control depressive symptoms immediately, effectively eliminating the patient's suicidal thoughts and placing them in a relatively safe state.

Suicidal thoughts or behaviors arise because a person has been isolated, lonely, helpless, and frustrated for a long time, without anyone to understand them. They are desperate. Because it is so painful, death seems to be a way to escape the pain and end it all.

The vast majority of causes are closely related to the original family or stressful events encountered.

The article mentions your friend's original family relationships. I firmly believe that, according to the current interpersonal relationships in our society, your friend's original family relationships are extremely poor. This is the bottom line of my understanding. Her relationships with her elders, siblings, and husband should be explored further to find the deeper-level reasons.

This is likely the root cause of your friend's depression.

In real life, as we mature mentally, material things become more abundant, but our hearts become emptier. This is a fact. As a result, almost everyone has psychological problems to varying degrees.

What do you say in the text?

You can only solve some of your friend's problems in the early stages of depression by communicating only in words.

Use your company to distract her.

In life, there are bound to be some things that don't go your way. When you're feeling down, take control and distract her with your company and do something together that interests her.

Take her out for a workout with you.

Exercise is an effective way to relieve depression, anxiety, and restlessness. It brings pleasure, promotes blood circulation, and helps regulate emotions. When exercising, be sure to let the sweat flow out; after sweating, the body will feel a sense of relief.

Exercise is an effective treatment for depression.

Use your companionship to help her build her self-confidence.

Help her become self-aware, maintain a confident and positive mindset, and believe that confidence can overcome all fears and negative emotions. When something goes wrong, believe that you will be fine. If you can't handle it, don't beat yourself up.

You're making a mistake by living in pain. You set the bar too high for yourself, always feeling like you have to achieve something, and feeling like you haven't achieved anything. You use the wrong standards to deny yourself, so you feel like you're worthless and lose the ability to feel the beauty of life.

Guide her to talk with your company.

When your friend is depressed and feeling down, guide her to talk about the unhappy things she is feeling. She must not keep it all inside and suffer alone. Talking it out is a good way to release your inner feelings, even if it doesn't solve the problem you are worried about.

Change her perception with your company.

Life is full of difficulties that can force us to give up, but we must hang on a little longer. Suicide is often just a spur-of-the-moment impulse. We must not let the devil win.

Nothing is too difficult to overcome. Don't let negative emotions consume you. As long as you are alive, there are endless possibilities.

In "No Longer Human," the protagonist says, "I had planned to die this winter, but I recently got a set of linen kimonos in fine grey stripes, which are suitable for summer wear, so I'll live until summer first!"

This is a change in perception.

Let her accept herself with your company.

We are all ordinary people. We must learn to accept our own ordinary nature and stop comparing ourselves to others. We must simply do what we can do. Then we will discover that life is actually full of surprises!

Everyone will inevitably experience many changes and setbacks in their lives. Others can comfort you, but they cannot fight for you. No one can share your sorrows and hardships, and no one can take on what you are going through. These are paths that are destined to be walked alone.

The original poster, you are a kind person, and you must take control of this situation. You must make her family do more. You should start dealing with your friend's affairs as soon as possible.

Read the book The Road Less Traveled - A Dialogue with the Soul. It will give you a different spiritual experience.

The world and I love you. I am the wind in June. ?

Hello. I see you're worried about your friend. You're afraid she'll become depressed and commit suicide. You want to help but don't know how. You're feeling helpless. I understand. I'm sorry for what happened to her.

Your friend's inner world is in a terrible state. There is no external environment that can support her. Her family has ignored her since she was young. They never cared about her personal financial difficulties or emotional needs. They still demanded money from her. She felt worthless. She could not experience affection. She must be very depressed and in pain.

Second, take your friend to see a doctor as soon as possible. She needs help. She is at risk of hurting herself. The sooner she gets treatment, the sooner she will recover. I hope she will listen to you.

Third, her biological family is very bad. She gets no love, support, or help there. As her best friend, you can give her more company and support. Listen to her and encourage her to express her anger and sadness. If she shows suicidal tendencies, you can notify her family or call the police to help save her life.

Fourth, if your friend can, she should see a professional psychotherapist. She has serious psychological problems. She experienced a lot of bad things early on, like family neglect, not getting into university, and seeing a friend die. These things have hurt her a lot and caused her to develop psychological trauma. She often has negative thoughts, which make her feel bad and cause her to hurt herself.

Early trauma can only be fixed with long-term therapy.

Go out with friends more often to get in touch with nature. Let your friends go see something refreshing, listen to music, or do something fun together.

Sixth, read psychology books with her or read to her. The book "May You Have a Life Illuminated by Love" by Wu Zhihong will help your friend heal. Learning psychology on your own is also helpful. I hope your friend gets rid of her troubles soon. Thank you for your kindness.

Thank you so much for inviting me! Before I answer, I just want to say that the questioner's friend is really lucky to have such a great friend as the questioner, who cares so much about her.

As a friend, I think it's so hard to see your friend unhappy, especially when you see knife marks on her hands. I think anyone would be really struggling to remain indifferent and would want to reach out to help their friend. This shows the value we place on friendship and the reverence for life. So I can understand the questioner's desire to help her friend when she saw her like that, and I'm so happy to support the questioner in helping her friend.

It's just that for the questioner's friend, she's been holding in so many emotions that she's been feeling all bottled up inside. She's been needing to let them out, but hasn't been able to. And on top of that, her family's attitude towards her and the practical problems at home have made it really hard for her to deal with or solve them. It's so hard for her to cope with everything that's going on, and it's making her feel really helpless. It's like she's stuck in a loop, and it's making her feel like there's no way out. She's even started to think about hurting herself to relieve the pain or even about not being able to go on living. It's so sad to see her feeling this way.

However, no matter how close you are to your friend, you can't be one and the same person. It's important to remember that your friend's problems are their own, and you can't solve them for them. But that doesn't mean you can't help! You can still ask for help if you need it, and think about ways you can support your friend. Maybe you can help her work through her problems, or maybe you can help her with her family's financial issues.

If that's not possible, I think the best thing the questioner can do is to be there for her friend and listen to her. At the same time, she should let her friend know how she feels and show her care and concern. This can help her friend feel loved and supported, which is so important when we're going through tough times.

Hello! Thanks so much for inviting me to answer.

I'm so sorry to hear about what happened to your friend. I'm also really happy that she has a wonderful friend like you who cares about her so much. You're such a great person, and I think you're amazing!

She saw her best friend take her own life, which was a really tough thing to go through. It's so important for her to get some help. As a friend, you can't really do this part of the work, and it's probably best to encourage her to seek counseling.

Her family situation is pretty rough. It's like she's unloved, not emotionally needed by her family, and there's no response. In this kind of situation, just imagine how any normal child would feel. It's tough! She's not yet strong enough to look down on others and give herself enough psychological energy.

It would be really great for her to seek psychological help on her own, whether it be reading books, listening to courses, chatting and confiding, or formal counseling. But the most effective thing is for her to have the desire to grasp the "life preserver"!

She'll see that she's not alone in her struggles. She'll see how others have faced their challenges, what they thought and did, and gradually find her own path to healing.

As for the role of friendship, it means that you care about her more. You can show her how much you care by preparing three meals a day, fruit and yogurt snacks, asking how she is feeling, chatting with her, and listening to her.

Just give her some help within your abilities, and show her how important she is to you. For example, you don't want anything to happen to her. You want her to live a good life because she is your best friend. You don't want to lose her. You need her.

Then, within your abilities, give her a "response" and try not to shut her out, because she is still quite vulnerable in her condition. After the family treated her that way, she needs someone in the world to "be kind to her and warm her heart" so that she has the interest to want to live.

I've always said it's totally within your abilities. It's not easy to take on another person's emotions, that's for sure! You've got to take care of yourself first, so you can take care of that person with your heart and love. Just do your best, and I know you'll do great!

Hello, thank you for asking me to answer your question. Before I answer, I'd like to give you a hug to show you I care!

You seem worried about your friend and want to help her. You care about her wellbeing. You're lucky to have a friend like you.

Your friend's depression began when she witnessed her best friend's suicide. It sounds like a "post-traumatic stress reaction." She should go to the hospital for a differential diagnosis. If it has developed into "post-traumatic stress disorder," she needs to receive professional treatment.

Family interactions will also affect her, making her depression worse.

If she has been diagnosed with depression, your best friend can help her by cooperating with her treatment, accepting counseling, and getting support for herself.

These are just my views. Take care of yourself.

Good day, my name is Phil.

I extend my deepest sympathies for your unfortunate experience.

From your description, I am pleased to see that

You are a highly helpful friend and a kind individual.

It is common practice to neglect to consider the feelings of people with depression.

Or perceive the other party as a nuisance.

This is particularly the case when the individual in question has a strong inclination to engage in risky behaviour.

The initial reaction is often to prioritize self-preservation.

Or, you may be reluctant to become involved in a more serious situation should the worst happen.

Indeed, these are all typical human emotions. It is human nature to seek out benefits and avoid harm.

This is not an issue, and it further demonstrates the value of your thoughts.

Before responding to your question, Phil would like to make an initial observation.

It is important to ascertain whether your heart and actions are sufficiently robust to withstand the influence of the other person before offering assistance.

In other words, it is important to avoid a situation where you are determined to help a depressed colleague overcome their issues.

While the other individual has recovered, you have become depressed. This situation

It is therefore essential to raise your own inner safety threshold first.

It is only when an individual is in a safe state that they are able to provide assistance to others.

You indicated that following the suicide of his friend, he began to exhibit some unusual behaviors.

Additionally, the family environment was highly challenging, with a lack of understanding and significant demands and pressures.

You demonstrated keen observation skills by noting the knife marks on his arms and his unusual thoughts. Your neighbor also intervened to prevent him from taking further action.

In light of the fact that the other person has been in this state on several occasions,

The initial step is to utilize all available resources to encourage the individual to undergo a targeted test at a medical facility.

In other words, it is essential to ascertain the gravity of the situation before attempting to resolve it.

In addition, we must address the issue of Fang's frequent self-harm and suicidal behavior.

It is not feasible to keep an eye on each other 24 hours a day.

To guarantee that the other party will not encounter any issues.

In light of the aforementioned considerations, it would be optimal to have a positive relationship with the individual in question.

If your message is one he is willing to hear, then from an emotional standpoint,

It would be beneficial to spend more time with him and provide him with psychological support.

It is important to avoid giving the impression that everyone else has abandoned him.

It is worth noting that if the depression is particularly severe, it may be advisable to proceed with the recommended course of action.

It is not my intention to suggest that someone with a problem must necessarily go to the hospital and take medicine. Rather, when psychological problems reach a certain level of severity,

When an individual's psychological state is compromised to a certain degree, their verbal and non-verbal behaviors will manifest in their physical condition, triggering a somatic response.

Furthermore, this kind of somatic reaction will become more serious and irreversible over time.

For instance, if the body becomes significantly weakened or if a series of interconnected reactions are triggered by a prolonged period of poor mental health,

At this juncture, it is imperative to address not only the psychological aspects, but also the broader range of challenges at hand.

It is also important to maintain stability in the body's vital signs.

In any case, the primary objective is to take all possible steps to prevent the most unfavourable outcome.

However, it is important to avoid becoming overly involved in the other person's personal life. Instead, it is advisable to maintain a balance between your own needs and those of the other person.

My name is Phil, and I hope you find this information helpful.

I would like to take this opportunity to extend my best wishes to you and the world at large.

I'm Hu Suying, a counselor. I'll share my views and suggestions.

You're a great friend! Your friend is lucky to have you.

Your friend is at risk of suicide. Get help right away.

Tell your friend that life is precious and that her safety is the most important thing. If she wants to tell her husband, parents, and other family members, as well as her unit leaders and colleagues, that's great. If not, you can do it for her. You can also suggest she call a crisis hotline or go to a psychiatrist.

Her safety is the most important thing. She is having a lot of problems in her relationship, with her family, and financially.

These situations require professional help. Encourage your friend to seek psychological help if her safety is guaranteed and she is suitable.

You've done a great job as a friend. Remember: the first step to helping others is to take care of yourself.

If you get too involved, you might be affected. If you need help, I'm here.

I hope you and your friend stay safe and healthy.

Hello, I'm Jingyi, and I'm so excited to help you! From your description, I can feel your concern for your friend and your desire to help her. I applaud you for that. In this regard, let's take a look at how we can help her.

From what you've shared about her situation, it's clear she's been through a lot. From the depression caused by a friend's suicide to the attitude of her family towards her, it can be seen that she has internal trauma and a dark shadow. But there's hope! As a friend, we can first give her some support in terms of strengthening her inner self. Her family is not so good to her, so a word of care and love from you will make her feel a little warmer in this world, thus supporting her inner self.

Face her life with courage and determination!

Then, how to face her life? It all depends on the degree of depression. If it has reached the point of wanting to commit suicide, you can take her or suggest that she go to the hospital for a check-up to relieve the condition. Give her some support from a pharmacological perspective.

If the diagnosis is not serious enough to warrant treatment, the doctor can prescribe some sedatives to help her calm down.

It's time to stabilize her emotions!

Second, once you've taken care of the physical issues, it's time to tackle the psychological ones! Have a great chat with her about the benefits of psychological counseling. If she's not ready, suggest she take some time to focus on herself away from the family.

It's time to take a step back and focus on your own well-being. After all, her support for living is beginning to waver.

Don't worry about anything else! Life is more important! First, establish your belief in survival!

Then you need to separate first. It's time to face your own reality!

Once her emotions have stabilized, you can help her by distracting her a little bit. That means not focusing on things that will cause her distress and harm, but looking at her own family, loved ones, children, etc. These are all her resources!

You can help her rebuild her inner strength! You, as a good friend, are also a great resource for her.

You can look back on some of the great times you've had together and relive some of the amazing moments you've shared. This will really give her a boost!

The best part is that these things are small, like a trip, a meal, or a gift. And they'll make her feel good about the world!

There's a good chance her inner worries can be soothed and diverted! You can help her further.

I'm sending you both lots of love and positive energy! I really hope that your friend can find inner peace and tranquility soon, and that you can both relax and stop worrying so much. The world and I love you!

Hello, I'm Heart's Home.

From the description, I see a child who is depressed and doesn't get love and care from her loved ones. I also see a kind child who wants to help her friend.

I understand your anxiety and eagerness to help your friend. I think every friend who sees this feels the same and is willing to help.

It's good to want to help.

How to help is worth thinking about.

From the description, I don't think you're a psychologist. Should we focus on the psychological issues?

A friend failed to get into university due to depression. Was this diagnosed, or did you notice it?

Her parents and grandmother didn't treat her well, and her marriage was troubled. She seems to have lost hope.

Does she have other relatives? Are they able to help?

Someone to go with her to get a psychological diagnosis and psychotherapy.

You can also get help from social institutions.

Seeking professional help is the best way to help her now.

You should take care of yourself.

Your friends must have taken a lot of energy and had a big impact on your life.

I understand your anxiety and sense of urgency, but you understand that none of us are gods. A good heart alone cannot solve all problems.

We must know our limits, calm down, think clearly, understand the problem, and make an objective judgment.

I'm not saying you shouldn't care about your friend. I just want you to help in a way that's manageable for you.

This is fair for everyone and will help you feel less stressed.

Take care of yourself first.

If you're stable, you'll have the energy to support her.

Let her know you'll always be there and she's safe with you.

I hope your friend can soon see the light.

Thank you so much for reaching out! We're thrilled to have this opportunity to connect with you and support you in writing.

From your message, I can see that you care about your friend, and I'm excited to help this friend who is facing the risk of suicide due to depression. I'm happy to share some tips that I hope will be helpful to you:

From your message, I can see that you care deeply about your friend. I'm excited to help this friend who is facing the risk of suicide due to depression. The following sharing is hoped to support you to some extent:

First, take good care of yourself before helping others!

Every word in the comment shows that the questioner is absolutely determined to help her friend. She is also worried that she may suddenly lose contact with her friend one day, but she's ready to face that possibility head-on.

Such worries can show the kindness of the questioner on the one hand, and the invisible pressure on the questioner on the other.

"Help yourself before helping others" is like when we are on a plane and in danger. We need to put on our own oxygen masks before helping others, and it's a great analogy!

Lending a helping hand to a friend is an amazing opportunity to support someone you care about. It's all about having a strong social support system, channels for emotional release and catharsis, and a positive inner state of mind and ability to cope with psychological crises. When you have all of these things in place, you can truly give your friend beneficial support!

2. Provide your friend with some social resources or channels to help her escape the influence of her family of origin and regain her mental health!

The questioner's friend has had a difficult life, and witnessing the suicide of her best friend was a major traumatic event. But she's come through it all and is ready to take on the world! Unfortunately, the cruelty and ruthlessness of her original family further pushed her into the emotional vortex at the root of the problem.

The good news is that there are plenty of great professional and psychological institutions out there that can provide systematic and joint treatment and consultation. The questioner can help the friend find one of these amazing places together!

The good news is that the friend is open to professional and psychological systematic and joint treatment and consultation. This is a great opportunity for the questioner to help the friend find such a professional organization together!

If your friend is having financial difficulties, you can also provide some financial assistance during professional treatment if you wish – it's a great way to help out!

As a friend's social support, the existence of the questioner itself is a powerful presence. It's so inspiring to see how much emotional support the questioner has already given to their friend!

3. If your friend is at risk of suicide, you can help them by providing them with crisis intervention hotlines!

If the family environment isn't ready for a change, don't worry! There are still plenty of ways to help. The questioner can provide the friend with some toll-free hotlines across the country, so that in a critical moment, the friend can call the relevant hotline to provide a lifeline to help themselves.

(The following link is a list of hotlines compiled by Yixin for your convenience. Crisis Intervention Psychological Hotline (Pro-Test Version) https://mp.weixin.qq.com/s/UIyHMkR6Nm8Ybv9z4iJ8QQ

I'm excited to share some more tips with you!

I'm a psychologist who doesn't focus on exploring human nature. Instead, I'm here to care for your human heart! I wish you and your friends all the best!

The dramas "All is Well" and "The Qiao Family's Sons and Daughters," and others, all end with the parents' problems being resolved one by one.

However, life is often a lot crueler than what screenwriters come up with.

This story reminds me of two classic works.

Maggie's family in the Oscar-winning film Million Dollar Baby is pretty outrageous. Her mother and others don't care about the pain of Maggie's boxing or her lofty ambitions; they're only interested in the money she brings in...

Maggie is admirable for her perseverance and determination to reach the big boxing match. Her character is noble.

In Haruki Murakami's 1987 novel Norwegian Wood, the main character is weighed down by an unyielding sadness that seems impossible to articulate. A kind and genuine friend doesn't try to cheer her up constantly, but rather waits for and accompanies her through it.

Get to know her emotional ups and downs, her struggles, and her resilience in the face of challenges.

The questioner's question makes you think about what true appreciation is. If our family of origin never understood these words, what can we do to help a friend who's feeling down?

Let her express her feelings freely, and at the same time accept your own feelings. There's no need to seek agreement.

Give her a boost when she's ready to make a change and take some positive steps.

I can see where the questioner is coming from. Friendship is a priceless thing.

Hello, question asker!

When I read your question, my first thoughts were urgency, pressure, and worry. I can tell she's a very important friend to you, which is why you're so worried about her safety.

I think the best way to help your friend is to get her started on some active treatment! Depression is a disease, and it's important to remember that it takes more than just personal willpower or the care of others to overcome it.

There's no doubt about it, medication and psychological counseling are the most reliable ways to help her. If she's already in treatment, you can urge her not to stop without authorization. If she's not undergoing treatment or psychological intervention, you can accompany her and encourage her to go to the hospital for treatment.

Why do I say "try"? Because you can't guarantee that she will listen to you. But you can do so much more than you think! Don't put too much pressure on yourself because of your friend. If you really can't let go of her and it's affecting you a lot, then you can seek psychological counseling or the help of someone else to talk to. You'll be amazed at how much better you feel once you've taken care of yourself. Then you'll be ready to help your friend!

On top of that, she's still able to go to work and earn a living, which shows that she's got the inner strength to live and support herself. You don't need to worry too much. At the same time, I can see that your friend's family is unable to help her, and it can even be said that they are a burden on her life and a mental burden. But you know what? That means you're really important to her. You're a good friend!

However, you can find others who care about her too! You could even ask your neighbor to help. Together, you can protect and accompany her.

I really hope these personal views can be of some help to you!

Hello, question asker. I'm Evan.

The questioner said that his friend has suicidal thoughts and he wants to stop it. First of all, I'd like to give the questioner a hug and a thumbs up. He's a very considerate person.

So, how do you stop a friend from committing suicide? This is a tricky situation, and it's best to get the help of professionals. If the questioner tries to stop the person on their own, it's difficult to stop them without a lot of energy.

I'll quickly run through how to help someone overcome suicidal thoughts. I hope it'll be useful for you.

Take a look at how determined your friend is to commit suicide.

Has your friend already taken action to commit suicide, or is it still in the planning stages? You can assess this based on certain phenomena. In serious cases, you might need to get help from a mental health professional.

It's important to find out if your friend is seriously considering suicide, if she's had suicidal thoughts before, who can support her, and what's causing her to think about it.

If your friend has no plan and is just acting on impulse, then her suicidal thoughts aren't that strong. What you need to know is that suicide is a complete despair of life, a suicide is full of despair for the present life, and it is felt that death is the only solution.

If your friend is feeling desperate about life and their family, it's important to pay close attention to their behavior.

Have a chat with your friend and don't avoid the subject of suicide.

If you want to help your friend, the best thing you can do is communicate with her more, listen to her, and even ask her directly if she wants to commit suicide. Be clear and direct. Ask her more about how she feels, why she wants to commit suicide, and try to understand her situation. Show her you care and empathize with her, and say supportive things to her. Of course, you cannot directly support her to commit suicide.

It's important to keep the lines of communication open with your friend. Let her know you're there for her and that you're worried about her. Listen to her without judging. It's also helpful to have these conversations with friends. They can provide support and understanding. You can discuss things like the pain of suicide, the shock of jumping off a building, the destruction of internal organs, and the difficulty of dying.

To sum up, you can talk to your friends about the lack of euthanasia in China and how other ways of dying can be very painful and difficult.

Be aware of your friend's emotions and stay in touch.

If your friend is suicidal, you should immediately persuade her that things may be difficult at the moment, but that the situation will get better. Or, you could say that you may feel difficult now, and the solution is to proceed day by day, and that you will always be there to help. It's also a good idea to keep in touch with your friend at all times, and if possible, ask a few of your friends to keep in touch with her. And, of course, you should make sure that you can always get in touch with the questioner at any time.

Just be careful with the words you use when communicating with friends.

Some words may seem helpful, but they could actually make things worse for the person in question and make them feel worse about themselves. For example,

"Things will look different tomorrow, and things will get better."

"The situation isn't too bad. You should be grateful for what you have."

"There are still plenty of reasons to look forward to in your life."

"Don't worry, it'll be fine."

Get help from a professional hotline.

If you feel you can't help your friend with suicidal thoughts on your own, you can call the national suicide intervention hotline for assistance. The number is:

National Hotline: 400-161-9995 Student Hotline: 400-161-9995, press 1 Depression Hotline: 400-161-9995, press 2 Life Hotline: 400-161-9995, press 3

China Psychological Crisis and Suicide Intervention Center Helpline: 010-62715275

The questioner can call these hotlines themselves or suggest that their friends call the relevant hotlines, which will all step in to stop the friend from taking their own life. If necessary, you should also be prepared to contact emergency numbers at any time, prepare for police intervention, and so on.

I hope my answer helps the questioner.

Good morning, Thank you for placing your trust in us.

From my initial assessment, the most appropriate course of action would be crisis intervention.

1. Initially, assist her in organizing her social support system, identifying additional resources, and connecting her with other relatives and friends, as well as with psychological support, if needed.

2. Identify an individual who can assume custody of the individual in question to ensure their safety.

3. If feasible, attempt to secure her commitment not to harm herself.

If feasible, endeavor to visit a specialized medical facility for diagnosis and medication, and identify a suitable psychotherapist for psychological counseling.

If you require assistance, you may wish to consider seeking guidance from social workers or public welfare organizations. Additionally, you may find it helpful to connect with other individuals who can provide support.

Let us proceed with a discussion of the situation.

It is evident that you are experiencing a state of confusion and helplessness in this situation. It is crucial to comprehensively assess the support you can provide.

The provision of companionship, encouragement, time, and financial assistance.

Next, create a list of potential resources and a plan for providing assistance to your friend. Implement these resources one by one.

I'm sorry, but I'm unsure if this will be of assistance to you. The genuine issues that your colleague is grappling with will have to be surmounted and resolved by her independently. As a colleague, you have already done an excellent job, and I'm pleased for her.

In conclusion, it is important to take care of your own emotions and accept your limitations. As the first sentence of "The Road Less Traveled" states, life is full of suffering.

I hope you and your colleagues can find a way to see the positive in the situation.

Best regards,

Greetings,

As a healing practitioner, I would like to begin by offering you a gesture of comfort. In response to your question regarding how to assist a friend who has a history of suicidal ideation due to depression, it is important to note that surveys conducted by authoritative institutions have identified a significant global prevalence of emotional distress, anxiety, irritability, and depression. These conditions are estimated to affect tens of thousands of individuals annually, with the prevalence projected to increase in the future. In the context of the ongoing mental health crisis, it is crucial to recognize that many individuals, including private business owners, wage earners facing financial challenges, and those experiencing investment setbacks, are at risk of developing mental health issues. The pervasive nature of information and the constant influx of data have contributed to a decline in rational thinking and an increase in emotional responses, particularly those involving a desire to eliminate one's circumstances. Moreover, it is essential to acknowledge that psychological factors alone do not fully explain the diverse range of solutions individuals employ to address their problems. When faced with concerns about the mental health of loved ones, it is vital to engage in a comprehensive examination of the potential sources of support and the most effective means of providing assistance. In many cases, traditional forms of persuasion and pressure relief have proven to be inadequate in addressing the complex and multifaceted nature of the current mental health crisis. Instead, a more nuanced and comprehensive approach is necessary to identify the underlying causes of distress and to develop effective strategies for addressing them.

I am acquainted with an individual who elected to forgo post-secondary education as a result of experiencing depression. It is plausible that her depressive disorder originated following the demise of her closest friend, who committed suicide.

At that time, I also believe she was contemplating self-harm, as I observed knife marks on her hands. The impact of reality has left a psychological imprint. Depression does not manifest in this way initially. We must interpret this reality within the context of the family environment. When the individual is unable to alter the status quo but desires attention, self-harm may emerge as a coping mechanism. The body is a gift from parents, and discussing life and death is a desperate choice in the moment. From a deeper perspective, it may be that the impact of the family on her is overwhelming, and when she observes extreme events occurring to her friends, she imitates them.

Now that she has commenced employment, she is required to remit funds to her parents and grandparents on a monthly basis. Her family treats her in a manner that could be described as harsh. On one occasion, she was unable to produce her keys when she left the house, and her grandmother ignored the locked door, forcing her to remain in the doorway for the entire day.

Furthermore, her mother is seeking to open a business and has requested a loan of 10,000. Additionally, the couple is undergoing a divorce.

She has her own personal financial needs. We all have problems deep down in our nature. When the pressure of reality exceeds what we can accept, we automatically choose to give up. This kind of giving up is different from self-protection in the traditional sense. Instead, we deeply blame ourselves, wondering if it is because we haven't done something well, if we have done something wrong, or even doubting our purpose in coming to this world. We know that a lack of security stems from wanting to be respected, loved, and cared for. A lack of love leads to indiscriminate tolerance of the surroundings, while at the same time negating one's own actions, overturning and criticizing what has been done before.

If the anxiety is solely psychological and not maintained by medication, there is still a possibility of recovery. However, the longer the condition persists, the more challenging it becomes to achieve a full recovery. It is therefore important to provide as much pain relief as possible.

She occasionally experiences urges, and this morning, she expressed a desire to fall down the stairs. Fortunately, the neighbor intervened. I am concerned that at some point, I may lose her. This situation is indeed serious, as evidenced by my responses to some of your questions:

It is unclear whether your friend has consulted with a relevant medical institution or doctor to determine the current situation, whether to maintain medication, how long to take medication, and the treatment plan. This is a prerequisite. It is important to note that any patient with depression is different from others, and thus, from a clinical point of view, it is still necessary to actively cooperate with treatment.

As friends, we empathize with her situation. It is difficult to fathom the extent of pain that an individual must endure to reach the point of committing such an extreme act. Additionally, she is grappling with the prospect of navigating the days ahead, which are likely to be filled with immense distress. She is contemplating ending her life in a way that would provide a sense of relief. The environment plays a pivotal role in this process. If distance can be utilized as a means of diversion, it will be employed. However, if distance is not a viable option, time must be the primary focus. Given the urgency of the situation, it is evident that the stimulus provided by those around her is of paramount importance. Consequently, the individual who initiated the problem must also be responsible for its resolution. We have reached out to her parents and have initiated a dialogue with them.

The psychological illness of many people nowadays can be accurately described as suffering and torment. I once encountered a case in which a previously traumatized little girl had recovered somewhat but still exhibited the basis of a mental illness. Additionally, she was experiencing depression due to circumstances related to her parents. The suicidal tendencies observed in this case were not as severe as those typically associated with suicidal ideation; however, they manifested as a double-tendency problem of wanting to kill someone. As a counselor or therapist, there were limited effective methods or suggestions available to address this complex situation. It is crucial to prioritize the improvement of the parents' relationship to prevent the emergence of extreme behaviors.

Whenever feasible, we engage in outdoor activities with her. In addition to altering the setting and redirecting her focus, it is crucial to release any unnecessary attachments. Given the inherent limitations in altering reality, we endeavor to minimize her exposure to external stimuli and integrate a range of techniques to mitigate her symptoms and challenges.

The suggestions are intended as a point of reference only. The world is a connected entity that binds us all. Best regards,