I have been molested before, and I can't get it out of my mind. Sometimes I feel sick when I see him. How can I get over it?

Hello, landlord! I'm so honored that you asked me a question. From what you told me, it sounds like you were molested by your biological father when you were in high school. I'm so sorry to hear that you went through such a tragic experience.

Take a moment to think about your father. He might be a timid and inferior man in his life, with no sense of responsibility. It's possible that he releases his inner pressure by molesting his own daughter.

It's totally normal to feel negative emotions when you're hurt by someone else. It's especially hard when it's someone close to you, like your dad. These feelings can stay buried deep inside for a long time, and it can be really hard to let them out. It's like there's still an unfinished chapter in your heart, waiting to be written.

From a professional point of view, if you want to eliminate the adverse effects of this incident on you, you can find someone to talk to. A professional can help you restore the state you were in at the time, suppress the fear, grievances and anger that you have been holding inside, and release them. This will be very helpful in maintaining your inner balance and keeping your physical and mental health.

After the awful incident, you felt so disgusted with your father and it's been really hard to move on from it. It's like you're still fighting with your dad who did this to you. It's so important to draw a clear line and move forward.

It's so important to live in the present! Long-term immersion in past wounds can really affect our mental health and state of mind. It's not always easy to separate yourself from the current situation, but do what you can to maintain a certain physical distance from your father.

You might want to think about living with other elders or sisters of the same sex, which would also reduce the chances of him hurting you. It's always a good idea to learn to use favorable conditions to protect your own interests.

It's a lesson we all have to learn at some point in our lives. I'm so happy we met! 1983. The world and I love you!

Hello! From your description, I can feel the inner pain that you cannot heal, and I'm excited to help you intervene!

I'm thrilled to have this opportunity to share my insights from a psychological perspective.

You bravely shared that you were molested by your biological father in high school. It was a difficult experience, and you're still learning how to navigate it. You've been holding on to it for a long time, and now you're ready to let it go.

You can't express things like this, but you can! You'll feel ashamed and uneasy at first, but you'll get over it. You probably haven't told your mother either, have you? This will also affect your ability to establish close relationships in the future, and even your interactions with friends of the opposite sex. What should you do?

First, get the ball rolling with some professional help! In a safe and stable counseling relationship, you can express the harm you have experienced in words and let your counselor listen and interpret the details of some things.

Expression is a way to release pent-up emotions, while interpretation is the counselor's use of professional knowledge to understand the unconscious expression behind this behavior. Is the father sober or drunk? Was it just once or many times? And through your growth experience, you can repair the relationship with your parents and heal your inner wounds. There should be a lot of information that needs to be clarified, and the process of clarification and interpretation will also heal you.

This all takes time, but it'll be worth it in the end! It's like a doctor performing surgery. The old wound may seem to have scabbed over over time, but because it wasn't treated in the past, the internal trauma is actually still suppurating and infected. Failure to treat it in time can cause sepsis and even endanger life (affecting the establishment of intimate relationships in the future). But with the right treatment, you can overcome this challenge and emerge stronger than ever!

A professional teacher is like a surgeon in a clean, sterile operating room. They'll uncover the scars and treat the infected foci. It might hurt and bleed a bit, but after undergoing debridement, the wound will slowly heal, and there will be scars. But don't worry! The new, fresh tissue inside will grow well and won't affect your future.

Second, if this behavior is a personality problem, it will not happen just once. You need to speak up and express it to your mother. If it happens once in a while, you also need to observe your father's reaction afterwards. If he is drunk or out of control and feels guilty, you also need to communicate with your mother. This will get the problem out in the open, understand the reasons behind the problem, solve the problem when there is a problem, and don't bind the problem to people together, so that the family environment freezes and the relationship between family members becomes more chaotic. This needs to be solved, and it is also between parents and you, in a stable and safe environment. Once we've done that, we can move forward together as a family!

You can also seek professional help by booking family therapy, with the goal of solving the problem. This is a great way to get the help you need!

I'm so happy you shared your thoughts and feelings. This is the start of your amazing inner journey! We all need to love ourselves, and you are no exception. It's not your fault. As we grow older, we gain the ability to face and solve problems, which is also a part of our inner strength. The world and I love you, and you must love yourself too. Come on! I am also willing to use my professional knowledge to accompany you on your journey of growth!