Is the 9-year-old daughter's preference for green a sign of depression?

Dear questioner, Hello! I'm super excited to chat with you today.

I can feel your worry and anxiety, and I'm here to tell you that liking green is not necessarily a sign of depression.

It's totally normal for everyone's preferences for colors to change over time and with experience. It's a natural process!

Your daughter did not mean to witness you and your husband arguing and injuring yourself. She was definitely affected, but she's a trooper!

Your daughter has witnessed you harming yourself, which may have left her feeling extremely frightened, helpless, and confused. She may not be able to understand why you did it, and may even think it is her fault, which can lead to self-blame and guilt.

The family is a safe haven for children, and you, as a mother, are one of the people closest to them. This is a wonderful opportunity for you to model positive behavior for your daughter! It's important to remember that your daughter may feel that the family environment is no longer safe because of your self-harming behavior. This can affect her sense of psychological security.

She may become more sensitive and vigilant, and even develop a fear of intimacy.

After witnessing your self-harm, your daughter may choose to suppress her emotional expression. This is a natural response to a traumatic event. She may be afraid that her emotions will trigger a similar event again, so she chooses to suppress her emotions.

This may lead to her becoming emotionally closed off and having difficulty forming deep emotional connections with others. But there's so much she can do to change this!

I think you can think about what you think are your own strategies for managing emotions when dealing with conflicts with your husband. You can make some improvements to reduce the impact on your daughter, and I'm excited to help you do that!

You said you also have trauma from your original family. I don't know what you've been through, but it must have had some impact, because you have some emotional ups and downs, you hurt yourself, and you get angry easily, which also affects your daughter. The good news is that you can think about how to identify and avoid repeating the negative behavior patterns in your new family that you had in your original family.

What kind of support do you want to give your daughter? What kind of support does your daughter need?

From your description, it seems that you also need support very much. So before considering whether to take your daughter to see a therapist, you can first consider whether you need help yourself, or take your daughter along for a family consultation.

A mother can only pass on her strength if she has it herself — and you do!

Hello!

I'm Wood Clip, and I'm happy to answer your question.

From what the original poster has said, I can see that she cares a lot about her daughter and is understanding and sensitive to her psychological issues. I've roughly grouped the original poster's points together.

First, you need to figure out if your daughter is depressed and needs to see a psychologist.

The second thing to think about is that the author often loses control of her emotions, which might affect the child. It's something for everyone to think about, or for the author to think about.

I'll answer the question of whether the daughter is depressed based on the above description. This question can't be answered just by describing the influence that the host has on her daughter. We need a more detailed description of her behavior. It's not possible to make a simple judgment based on the favorite color alone. However, it's not unreasonable to analyze personality based on color. Green can alleviate anxiety and tension to a large extent. So, it can be assumed that the host's daughter may have been under relatively high emotional stress recently and has few strategies for dealing with it on her own. The emergence of emotional stress may be due to the influence of many factors, such as family, friends, studies, etc.

The second example the original poster gave is meant to be helpful. It can also show what he thinks about his own state. But it can be hard to understand our own state and make a decision. We don't know if the original poster is also depressed. What's most important is his ability to control his emotions and the strategies he uses when dealing with problems. So, we should think about whether there are better strategies to deal with the huge emotional problems he encounters.

As for whether or not your daughter needs to see a psychologist, I'd suggest focusing on her spiritual growth and giving her a bit of psychological TLC. You could also give it a try – it might help you reflect on your own state of mind.

Just stay calm and don't get too nervous.

Hello, original poster. It's like seeing you in person.

After reading all that, I can see how you're processing your feelings about your daughter and your own upbringing. It's great that you're taking the time to work through these things.

Let's talk about what you mentioned.

You said your daughter is nine and in the third grade. Since July, she's said she likes green, but before that, she mostly said she liked pink and purple. You also said you read about a child who liked green and black and was warned to be on the lookout, so you think your child may have depression tendencies. When I read this, I want to know:

1. What channels did you use to find out about those cases?

2. Are the sources of information from those channels reliable?

3. When you're feeling anxious, do you make any adjustments?

The above three points are meant to show you that although I understand your anxiety as a mother about your daughter's growth, there is undoubtedly a deeper and more worthwhile [knot] to your worries. Let's continue to look at this part.

You said that you probably stabbed yourself in the arm with scissors during a heated argument with your husband in March. Your daughter saw the scene and then started to suppress her emotions and stop crying immediately whenever something made you angry. When I read this, I felt a little sad because I wanted to show you that:

1. The conflict between you and your husband at the time made it difficult for your daughter to express her true emotions.

2. Your daughter has become a passive recipient of your emotions and those of your husband during your conflicts.

3. The way you act like you're "stabbing yourself in the arm" during arguments with your husband, even though I'm willing to interpret it as you releasing your anxiety, isn't productive.

The above three points are meant to let you know that I'm not totally sure what communication style you're used to with your family of origin. If this is something you've dealt with in the past, it might not be the best to bring it into your new family dynamic with you, your husband, and your child.

You mentioned that you've been taking care of your daughter since her grandmother returned to her hometown. I'd like to know more about that.

1. Did your daughter pick up any qualities from her grandmother during the time she spent with her?

2. How would you describe the relationship between you and your child's grandmother?

3. What are some of the good qualities you think your daughter has?

4. Have you given your daughter specific, detailed praise as she's grown up?

5. How would your daughter describe you as a mother?

6. What does she hope to get from her mom?

7. What qualities would you like your daughter to have when she grows up?

8. What kind of person does your daughter really want to be?

I'm not sure if these eight points will help you become more aware, understand that you are not "easy," and see more of your daughter's good points.

So, in this case, focusing on what color your daughter likes isn't the best use of your time. It's more helpful to work on managing your anxiety.

I know this "anxiety" has a lot of different aspects, but please make sure you give yourself enough time to focus on "self-adjustment."

I've got two words for you:

It's more worthwhile to adjust yourself than to change others.

The "healthy cycle" of love in a family is when dad loves mom, mom loves dad, and the kids love both parents.

Okay, time is up, so we'll have to stop here for now. Hopefully, the above responses and sharing can give you some inspiration for self-adjustment of your own anxiety state.

Take care of yourself, understand your daughter, and handle your relationship as a couple calmly. I believe you and your husband chose to get married and have a daughter together because you have qualities that attract each other. Only when your relationship as a couple is adjusted well can you give your daughter a family atmosphere full of security, so that she can grow up at ease and happily at her own pace.

I hope you're well and we'll catch up again if we're lucky.

Hello! I just wanted to give you a big, warm hug!

From what you've told me, I'm not sure if your daughter's love of green is a sign of depression. It seems like you might be going through some emotional challenges, and there might also be some marital relationship issues.

Your daughter is so sweet! It's clear that her behavior is influenced by your state of mind. She's very obedient and eager to learn from you. It's wonderful that she's not currently depressed. However, if the family environment, your mother's state, and her treatment of her remain the same, it's possible that her depression might resurface.

It seems like you could really benefit from seeing a psychologist or counselor, too. From a systems theory perspective, when you make changes in yourself, the family environment, parenting style, etc., in which your daughter lives will change, and she will change along with it.

From what you've shared, it seems like you've experienced some challenges in your family of origin. It's also clear that you've had to learn to navigate strong emotions in difficult situations. When you're in conflict with others, it seems like you've developed a tendency to express yourself through yelling. When you're taking care of your daughter, it's understandable that you might feel the need to scold her.

I'm so sorry to hear you're going through a tough time with your husband. It can be really hard when we're in conflict with our partners. I'm here for you, and I'm happy to chat more if you'd like.

Your daughter has so many wonderful qualities! It's clear that she looks up to you and tries to emulate your way of coping.

She's really good at reading people's expressions and will try to suppress her emotions when dealing with you. But her emotions need an outlet, so when someone else touches her things, she will yell and scream. I'm just wondering if her yelling and screaming contains any anger towards you.

I'm also wondering if, when she's a little older, she might run away from home and hurt herself.

Parents are role models for their children, good ones and bad ones. From what you've told me, it seems like your daughter has started to pick up your habit of yelling during conflicts.

I know it can be tough, but I really think that if you let your daughter go to the psychologist, even if they can help her regulate her emotions, when she leaves the counseling room and goes back home, she'll still use the same coping methods. It's because the other people in the family haven't changed, so she'll be forced to return to her familiar behavior patterns.

I remember when my little one started kindergarten, the teacher was super helpful in letting us know that at home on weekends, we should encourage our child to eat on their own, wash their hands after going to the toilet, drink water, and so on. The teacher was just so worried that if the child returned to familiar behaviors at the weekend, then when they returned to school on Monday, the teacher would have to teach them again.

This also shows how much the family environment can affect children. I've seen so many college students say that when they were at school, their emotions were always stable. I thought I'd learned to regulate my emotions, too!

But when I go home for the holidays, it doesn't take three days, or even just one day, before I start arguing with my parents and getting emotional. I've clearly become emotionally stable at school, which is great! The reason behind this is that my parents are treating me in the same way as before, which is totally normal. They're forcing me to respond in the same way as before when I get along with them, which is to yell at them.

It's so true that if you don't shout, your parents simply won't listen to you. It's the power of the environment, isn't it?

And you and your husband are the most important external environment for your daughter's growth. I'm not sure if she's depressed now, but I'm here to help!

It's so hard when kids are in situations like this. They have no choice over their living environment, and they can't just leave their parents behind or attack them. They can only attack themselves, and it's so sad when that leads to depression. Or they can attack others, and that may be the reason for their tense relationship with their classmates.

You've shared some information about your situation, but I'd love to hear more! It'd be great for you to seek counseling from a psychologist, or you and your husband could go for couple counseling, or the three of you could go for family counseling. When you're feeling more stable, you'll be able to provide a great environment for your child to grow up in.

I'm a counselor who's often a bit pessimistic, but I'm also sometimes optimistic! I love the world and I love you!

Liking green is not enough to indicate anything. If you are depressed, there should be more obvious signs than just a color. A mother should be aware of her child's health and the impact of the family environment on the child.

You mentioned some things in your daily life that are very intense and your child cannot understand or accept. This will have a strong impact on your child. You mentioned these things naturally because you know they can affect your child's health. This does require attention.

Nine-year-olds are just beginning to develop a sense of self, but they learn from those around them. Their understanding of the world and how to respond to it is based on what they see and hear. Therefore, it is impossible to solve a child's psychological problems alone. Family members must support and cooperate.

It's hard for a 9-year-old to cope in a stressful environment. They can't always understand the world around them or their own limits.

You know your child has copied your words and actions. You are also worried about the psychological impact on your child. However, this alone is not enough. During the stage when children need guidance and support, it is wrong to expect the child to be strong, independent, and mature enough.

As the most important person in your child's life, why not try to change yourself and give your child a better environment?

It can be hard to demand and teach your child by your own example. You and your child will yell. Do you feel unqualified to lecture her? Think about what kind of person you and your child would like to be, how to deal with conflicts, and how to express emotions. Even when things get heated, you should still be able to assess the situation and evaluate it. Explain to your child the reasonableness and necessity of it. Emphasize that there are more reasonable ways and options, rather than just arguing when you disagree.

If you want your child to think self-harm is wrong, you can't set a good example.

If you don't act appropriately, your child will imitate you. If you're too strict, she'll respond unpredictably. This will affect her thinking and behavior. As a parent, you're responsible for setting a good example. Try to change some things you don't like. Tell her what's right and wrong.

At the very least, don't show it to her.

I wish you happiness.

Good day.

From your account, I understand that you have a strong grasp on psychological concepts and that you closely monitor your child's behavior. You are also aware of some personal challenges.

You exhibit a proclivity for anger and suspect that you may be experiencing depression due to unresolved trauma from your family of origin. This has led to concerns that your child may develop psychological issues and depression as a result of your influence.

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You have acquired a great deal of knowledge about psychology and are taking steps to heal yourself and prevent your daughter from developing depressive tendencies. You are aware that you have anger and self-injury behaviors, and that your daughter was present, which must have had an impact on her.

It is possible that she has reverse identification with you and may have experienced psychological trauma. You are a loving mother and are concerned that your daughter may be affected by you. Although you have not explicitly stated this, I believe you may be experiencing some self-blame.

Your objective is to be a good mother.

I recognize your deep maternal love. When you are able to calm down, you are very willing to protect your child.

You monitor her behavior closely, which is why you've decided to consult with a psychologist to rule out depression.

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It is clear that the family environment has a significant impact on a child. When a parent becomes angry, a young child will often suppress their own feelings and compromise with the parent in order to maintain a positive relationship.

If you relocate her abruptly, she will vocalize her distress. It appears that she has repressed a considerable amount of anger and fear.

As we are aware of our own issues, we are also conscious of how they affect our children. This presents an opportunity for improvement.

It is recommended that you take your child for a family counseling session if possible.

Mothers have adopted numerous habits, practices, and ideas. Since it is unfeasible to alter the behavior of others, it is advisable to begin by modifying your own conduct.

It is important to recognise that the entire family is a system. When one member of the family makes a change, it can have a ripple effect, influencing the entire family dynamic and prompting others to adapt.

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Your child has a number of positive attributes and some negative ones. Overall, she is a commendable young person. You became more concerned when she started to display an interest in the color green, which led you to consider the possibility that it might be a sign of depression.

In fact, your child's preference for a particular color may be indicative of a broader pattern of behavior. There are other, more significant indicators as well, such as:

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If a diagnosis is required, it must be provided by a psychiatrist, as they are the only legally qualified professionals to do so. If you continue to worry, it will also cause you to feel depressed and self-blame, preventing the release of some of the suppressed emotions.

You may wish to consider speaking with a counselor. This is not about seeking treatment for an illness, but rather about gaining insight into your inner world and letting go of long-repressed emotions.

It is important to prioritize self-care and recognize our inherent right to be seen, understood, and loved. Psychological counseling is a crucial aspect of life that enables us to receive care and support.

I recommend the book "Mr. Toad Goes to the Psychiatrist." It is an accessible read that provides insight into distinguishing depression and offers a unique perspective on psychiatry, free from the constraints of shyness, fear, and worry. It encourages self-exploration and self-healing.

I would like to take this opportunity to remind you that the world and I love you, and I would like you to love yourself too.

The present situation is beneficial. It is important to be grateful for the opportunity to interact with the child.

From your description, it is evident that you still hold a great deal of love and care for your child. It is also apparent that you are experiencing significant challenges in your role as a parent. I extend my support and encouragement to you.

Let us discuss this topic together.

1. Regarding the color green

There are numerous potential explanations for a child's affinity for the color green, and it is not a reliable indicator of depression. If this is a cause for concern, it is advisable to engage in open dialogue with the child to ascertain the underlying reasons and dispel any misgivings.

It is also possible that the child's preference for green is influenced by external factors, such as the color of clothing worn by a classmate or other environmental stimuli. To gain insight into the child's current preference for green, it would be beneficial to inquire about the reasons behind this change. For instance, one could ask the child, "I recall that you previously expressed a preference for pink and purple. Could you please elaborate on why you currently favor green?"

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This is not the primary issue, however. The experiences the child has had during her upbringing and the events she has observed have had a significant impact on her, and this is something that requires our attention and change.

2. Perception of the child's emotional state

The child was born with jaundice and required hospitalization for a week. This experience, which occurred in the absence of the mother's protection, resulted in feelings of insecurity and a lack of timely response. This led to the development of fear and apprehension about the world. At 18 months of age, the child's grandmother, who had been her primary caregiver, returned to her hometown without informing her. The child did not display outward signs of distress, such as crying, but exhibited changes in eating and drinking habits, as well as emotional and physical symptoms, including lethargy and a lack of excitement, for approximately a week.

Such experiences lead her to perceive that those she trusts can suddenly become unavailable, that the world is unreliable, and that it is inherently unstable. This arouses her inner sense of insecurity once more. Consequently, if a person is struggling to survive, they will naturally lose interest in other aspects of their life.

The child's mother-in-law attempts to conserve her energy in order to protect herself, but lacks the strength to resist. The child is over a year old and therefore unable to express herself verbally. Consequently, she is only able to express her resistance through her actions, specifically by not eating or drinking. On the first day after the mother's return from maternity leave, the child's grandmother took over her care. The child did not eat or drink anything that day. It was not until the mother returned from work in the afternoon that she was able to hold her child and continue breastfeeding.

It is not possible for children over half a year old and a year old to express their emotional feelings in words; they can only do so through their behavior.

"She is a highly sensitive child. During her early years, she suffered from severe eczema, which persisted until she reached the age of three." Her experiences led her to perceive her environment as turbulent and unstable, prompting her to become acutely attuned to changes in her surroundings as a means of ensuring her safety.

This is also evidenced by the fact that she has severe eczema. During the academic year, I also reprimand her for not studying adequately, for being late for school, and so forth.

She exhibits a dislike of physical contact and displays a reluctance to allow others to move her belongings. If she is abruptly relocated, she will vocalize her distress. This behavior may be attributed, at least in part, to my own tendency to respond with raised voices and verbal outbursts when she engages in conflict with family members and other individuals.

"Your typical verbal and behavioral patterns towards her have become deeply ingrained in her subconscious, leading her to exhibit similar reactions, including yelling and screaming. She has an intrinsic need for security, which can be triggered by a perceived lack of control over her environment. This can manifest as feelings of insecurity, the reactivation of past traumatic experiences, and even a sense of impending doom. She requires a sense of internal order and stability, which is contingent upon the preservation of her surroundings.

It is akin to the experience of a grandparent returning to their hometown. At the very least, they must acclimate themselves to their new caretaker and become acquainted with them. In this case, the subject recalls an incident that occurred in March of this year. During a heated argument with her husband, she grabbed scissors and stabbed herself three times in the arm, injuring herself and even exhibiting suicidal tendencies.

This scene was observed by her. Now, when I become angry, she immediately ceases to engage in the behaviors that provoke my anger and immediately suppresses her emotions, such as stopping the expression of sadness, stopping the expression of frustration, and immediately apologizing to me.

"The primary caregiver is treating her in this manner, and she is afraid of losing you. To prevent you from behaving in a similar way again, she immediately puts away her emotions to "take care" of you when she sees you getting angry. "During the Chinese New Year in February this year, I yelled at my family and ran away from home for an afternoon. She was present throughout.

This dynamic creates a sense of reliance on the mother, who may be perceived as unreliable, which can elicit feelings of fear in the child.

For a child of this age, independence is not yet a viable option, as they depend on their caregivers for all their needs. They absorb everything said and done by their caregivers, learning about emotions and how to manage them by observing and imitating their caregivers' behaviors.

Rather than focusing on whether your child is depressed, it is also important to consider your own needs. Only through changes within the family will you see changes in your child.

3. About the self

The original family trauma has manifested in your behavior, reflecting the depth of the trauma and its impact on you. This is an undesired outcome, yet the vicissitudes of life have led you to experience pain. At times, you feel uncertain about how to respond, and you feel overwhelmed.

In the presence of a family that provides love and a child who is emotionally vulnerable, an individual may resort to emotional outbursts as a means of self-protection when their inner trauma is triggered in an environment that they perceive as safe. In reality, the inner child is in a state of distress, and the individual is compelled to recognize and address her needs.

Otherwise, she will repeatedly elicit an emotional response from you in order to garner your attention and satisfaction. You have a lack of inner resources, many psychological needs have not been met, and you are unable to provide them to your child.

The child still relies on the parent for emotional support and is unable to express their emotions while simultaneously attending to the parent's emotional needs and trauma. The child's behavior may appear abnormal, but it is a way of communicating the need for familial healing, observation, and change.

It is recommended that both the parent and child engage in professional counseling to address the internal trauma. It is possible to recover from trauma with the appropriate professional assistance. The parent is deserving of a life that aligns with their aspirations and the child is deserving of a nurturing environment.

It is my hope that this response is of some assistance to you, and I wish you the best of luck!

Good day, My name is Phil, and I extend my sincerest apologies for your recent experience.

I'm truly sorry you've had this experience.

There is a great deal of diversity of opinion when it comes to the subject of colour preference.

Some individuals assert that individuals who prefer dark colors may contribute to feelings of depression.

Others posit that individuals who exhibit a preference for bright colors

Some people believe that those who prefer darker colors are more aggressive and inclined to show off.

There is, however, no inherent problem with colors.

This is because every color is a manifestation of nature.

If you believe that an affinity for green indicates depression,

The child may simply require an opportunity to recuperate.

It is also important to note that at the outset, the color green was associated with vitality and hope.

However, this sentiment is not reflected within the family unit.

It is possible to ascertain whether or not your child is depressed.

When describing your child, it is important to consider what is not being said as well as what is.

The answer is, in fact, contained within this document.

Furthermore, your child is able to comprehend the situation as well.

The child's expressive system is not as effective as that of an adult.

Therefore, she is unable to comprehend the reasons behind the circumstances.

Furthermore, she is unable to discern whether her actions are appropriate or inappropriate. She is simply aware that the individual in question is her mother.

It is possible that other factors may be at play within their family structure.

Without considering other potential factors.

It is possible that you may consider children to be ignorant.

It is not reasonable to expect children to understand complex concepts at this age.

It is also possible that the child is the most honest and open member of the family.

The child is unaware of the reason for her mother's self-harm, but she believes that her mother should be protected from harm.

Furthermore, the family should maintain a harmonious environment, free from conflict.

It may be necessary for you to seek medical treatment and a diagnosis.

Despite the common perception that individuals with depression are not suited for family life,

Furthermore, they are not suited to intimate relationships or parenting.

I am confident, however, that your decision is well-considered and appropriate.

I am seeking a positive environment and future, as well as a good quality of life.

My advice to you is straightforward: schedule an appointment at a local hospital.

It is advisable to take your child to the hospital with you.

However, it is not only the child who requires examination; you also need to be assessed.

If circumstances permit, it would be advisable to bring your husband along.

It is important to follow the advice of the doctor, take any necessary medication, and seek further guidance when needed.

Please feel free to ask any questions you may have.

However, there is still more that I would like to share.

During my formative years, I was acquainted with an individual who was a close friend.

In addition to their considerable wealth, they owned a rare, large villa with a flat roof.

I am 30 years old, and I can reasonably anticipate the situation.

The couple had two children, a boy and a girl.

The neighborhood was renowned for its harmonious atmosphere.

Furthermore, their interpersonal conduct and hospitality were widely regarded as exemplary.

Everyone was delighted to get to know them better.

My father was the only one who felt that this family could not be befriended.

Subsequently, I was informed that the couple had a tendency to

The father would, on occasion, pick up a kitchen knife with the intention of harming someone when he was in a bad mood.

Furthermore, the mother would experience a profound sense of self-blame.

You will then assume a kneeling position and place a collar around your neck, hoping to be forgiven.

At the time, the two children were six years of age.

This particular situation arose during a single visit to their residence.

After pausing, I chose to terminate my relationship with them.

However, the unlit eyes of the two children also indicated what was to come.

As someone who has been in a similar situation, I would like to offer my perspective.

It is not a cause for concern to experience challenges; however, failing to identify the underlying cause can be a significant issue.

It is possible to feel that one loves one's child.

Such behavior may be perceived as unfilial and met with criticism.

Furthermore, you may be asked by others:

I have already provided extensive justification for why I did not consider this when I was in a similar position.

The tendency to focus on perceived shortcomings in the child while failing to engage in self-reflection is a common pitfall.

It is accurate to conclude that children are innocent. However, in comparison to children,

I believe the individual in need of treatment is more likely to be you.

It would be beneficial for the child to see this change and to have hope.

This is the most efficient method for restoring your child's happiness.

I hope my response is of assistance to you.

I would like to extend my warmest regards to you and the world.

Hello. I am a psychological counselor at Yixinli. I am pleased to meet you here and answer your questions. I have carefully read your description and understand your love and care for your child, your concern for your child's growth, and your worries. I will discuss this with you to provide you with the information you need.

Let me be clear: liking green is not a sign of depression. A child's interests and preferences change over time and with the environment. It is not possible to judge whether a child is depressed just by liking green.

From your description, I can tell you are concerned about how events in your family are affecting your child. It is true that family behaviors and emotions can impact children. However, it is important to determine whether your child is experiencing depression or other serious psychological issues that require professional assessment.

Everyone wants to understand what is going on, and this is normal. From our experience, many people learn about mental health through the internet and books. Some will compare the diagnostic criteria described in books and media to see if they have a disorder. This is likely to make them feel that they have a disorder, but this is not the case. In fact, there is no essential difference between normal and abnormal psychology. It is more a matter of degree. For example, everyone experiences anxiety, and only when anxiety seriously affects life and work is it possible to be diagnosed with an anxiety disorder. Similarly, we all experience emotions such as depression and anger. Therefore, when we simply look at the criteria, we may even feel that the more we look, the more it seems like us. However, this is not the case. Any psychological abnormality requires systematic assessment and diagnosis, especially in children, because children are still developing, and their emotional states and behaviors often differ from those of adults. Sometimes normal child behaviors may also be interpreted as abnormal. Therefore, we should not simply speculate based on certain clues.

Parents' worries are not entirely groundless. They should not simply give in to judgment or ignore their children's mental health. If they observe their children's emotions and behaviors becoming abnormal, they need to pay attention and try to improve the parent-child relationship, communicate with their children, and find out with their children whether there is any reason to help their children grow up healthily. If these situations become more and more serious and it is difficult for parents and children to communicate, they can seek help from professional psychologists, counselors, and psychiatrists. Do not avoid seeking professional help because of worry, fear, or shame. Delaying intervention for your children is not an option.

It is also crucial to prioritize your own physical and mental health. The family environment is the foundation for children's growth, and parents are not perfect. Raising children is a challenging endeavor. If you recognize a tendency toward depression, you have the option to regulate yourself or seek professional assistance.

You can set a positive example for your children by helping yourself to better cope with emotional and behavioral problems. Give your children a warm, safe, respectful, and supportive environment to help them develop mentally. When parents change, it often brings about changes in their children.

I hope this is helpful to you. If you don't see long-term improvements in self-regulation or if family relationships remain in a state of constant tension and conflict, you should seek help from a professional counselor.

Dear Sir/Madam, I am Li Di, and I am grateful for this opportunity to respond to your query.

You are acutely aware of your child's behavior and emotional state. You recognize the importance of mental health and are concerned when your child's preference for a color, which you understand to be a potential indicator of depression, changes. You reflect on the possibility that external factors, such as the child's environment, may influence their behavior. You seek reassurance from your child, inquiring about their current preference for green, which may be indicative of depression.

While color preferences can sometimes reflect a person's mood or psychological state, they are not an absolute indicator. It is also important to observe the child's overall behavior patterns and emotional state.

For example, has her level of activity remained consistent? Has she continued to enjoy social interactions with family and friends?

Please describe any significant changes in her learning and daily life.

Additionally, as you described your daughter's growth, I could discern some of your emotions. I'm uncertain about your emotional state at the moment. It appears that the environment in which your daughter has grown up since birth has been somewhat unsafe and unstable. As a mother, it is normal for you to worry, but we can also see that the child has many strengths, which indicates that the child has been raised well and is excellent. However, your worries suggest that you lack confidence in yourself and your family environment. In particular, your daughter sees your self-injurious behavior when she sees family conflicts, and your daughter will try to control her emotions when you can't control your anger. All of this makes you sensitive to your daughter's emotional changes, and it seems that you will feel some self-blame. However, I see that this mother, who especially loves her daughter, needs more care and love.

In this situation, we can begin by taking care of ourselves. When we lose control of our emotions and become angry, we can ask ourselves, "What needs am I expressing with these emotions? Are there any ways I can meet these needs?" At the same time, we should try to create a stable and supportive environment for ourselves and our child, so that we can both feel safe and loved.

Assuming both you and your daughter are in a positive frame of mind, engage in open communication with her and affirm that her emotions are respected and comprehended. Prompt her to express her ideas and sentiments, regardless of whether they pertain to colors or other subjects.

It is important to let her know that you will always be her supporter and protector, regardless of the circumstances.

Furthermore, it would be beneficial for you to gain a deeper understanding of child mental health, which will assist you in comprehending your daughter's behavior and providing suitable assistance.

In general, your intuition and commitment to your daughter's well-being are commendable. Should you suspect that she may require additional assistance, you are encouraged to explore professional resources.

It is evident that you are already making significant strides in fostering your daughter's growth and well-being. It is equally important to prioritize your own well-being. Your dedication and commitment will undoubtedly yield positive outcomes for you and your daughter.

I hope this information is useful to you. Please remember that you are a unique individual with intrinsic value and deserve to enjoy a life filled with positive experiences.

Hello, host! I'm thrilled to answer your question.

The daughter is in the third grade of elementary school, nine years old, and she's already showing some amazing qualities! She's started saying that she likes green.

I asked her what her favorite colors were, and she said she liked purple and pink!

I've seen a fascinating case before of a junior high school student jumping off a building. There was a fascinating psychological analysis that liked green and black and needed to be vigilant.

Guess what! My husband also self-harmed during a heated argument in high school.

Her daughter saw it all and has become obedient and cautious as a result.

Now, when he gets angry, he will stop the behavior that makes you angry. And get this: he can immediately cure himself!

For example, stop crying immediately and apologize to yourself right away!

During the Chinese New Year in February, she made a full recovery, and her family members were able to leave home for an afternoon. Her daughter was right there with her the whole time!

He says he likes green now! You suspect depression, but he's doing great!

There's still time for further observation and judgment! It's only the end of July.

The time is a bit short, but there's still plenty of time to make a change! My daughter didn't explain why she likes green, so let's find out why and make it her new favorite color!

Favorite color! These two incidents at the beginning of the year did have a significant psychological impact on her, but she's bouncing back!

The violent conflict between you and your family really scared her, but she's a strong little thing and she'll be just fine!

Children are more or less narcissistic, which is great because it means they're confident in who they are! He thinks that your self-harm with scissors and running away from home are related to him, after all, she was there.

If he had not been there or had done something, he could have prevented your self-harm and your running away—and he would have!

And the best part is, whenever she notices you getting angry, she will immediately stop doing whatever it is that makes you angry. So, to stop you from leaving the house and hurting yourself, she'll step in and help!

At the same time, I'm also excited to see what happens next! You have to consciously avoid your daughter during arguments with your husband's family.

It's great that my daughter has started to like the color green! The two conflicts she witnessed this year have had a greater impact on her, but she's doing really well!

How can we turn these two conflicts into opportunities for growth and resolution? Let's focus on the positive and ensure that your daughter's experiences don't have a negative influence on her.

It's great for keeping her in top form, both physically and mentally. I'm thrilled to have an appointment in 1983! The world and I love you!

Dear question asker,

I have read your question and can see that you are concerned and anxious about your daughter. I can relate to your feelings.

I can appreciate your feelings and emotions after reading your question and seeing your concerns and anxieties about your daughter.

It is important to note that a change in color preference, such as your child's preference for green, may not necessarily indicate depression. Personal preferences can naturally evolve over time, and a shift in color preference should not be used as the sole basis for determining depression.

It's important to remember that a change in color preference, like your child's shift towards liking green, doesn't necessarily indicate depression. Personal preferences can naturally evolve, and it's not always possible to determine depression based on a single change.

From what you have described, it seems that some of the intense conflicts between you and your family, as well as your own unstable emotional state, may have had a significant impact on your child. After witnessing some of your extreme behaviors, such as self-harm, arguing, and running away from home, it is understandable that your child may have become overly sensitive and angry towards you.

From what you have described, it seems that some of the intense conflicts between you and your family, as well as your own unstable emotional state, may have had a significant impact on your child. It is concerning that after witnessing your extreme behaviors, such as self-harm, arguing, and running away from home, your child has shown excessive sensitivity to your anger and has been suppressing their emotions.

It might be helpful to consider trying to improve the family atmosphere and the way you get along with your child, as well as learning to control your emotions, avoid losing your temper, arguing or acting excessively in front of your child, and giving your child more love, understanding and support so that she can feel the warmth and security of the family.

It would be advisable to pay close attention to any changes in your child's emotions and behavior. If she continues to show symptoms such as a low mood, loss of interest in things she used to enjoy, problems sleeping or eating, a marked decline in academic performance, and social withdrawal, it might be helpful to consider taking her to see a psychologist.

It would be beneficial for parents to learn to lead by example. It is important for parents to express their emotions in a healthy and positive way so that children can see how to appropriately deal with various feelings. When you encounter something that is not to your liking, it may be helpful to calmly talk about your emotions rather than venting through tantrums or extreme behavior.

Secondly, it is important to create a safe and accepting environment where children feel they can express themselves freely without fear of criticism or blame. Furthermore, it is beneficial to encourage children to share their feelings by setting aside a special time each day to communicate with them. This could include asking them how their day went, listening patiently without interrupting or judging, and showing understanding and empathy for their emotions.

When children express emotions, it can be helpful to help them identify them. For example, you could say something like, "I know you're feeling angry now because the toy was taken away by the other child."

It would be beneficial for your child to learn to name their emotions and teach them to express them in an appropriate way. For example, when angry, they can calm down by taking deep breaths, counting to ten, or verbally expressing their dissatisfaction, rather than crying or hitting.

It is important to respect your child's emotional response, even if you feel it is excessive. It is not helpful to belittle or deny their feelings, but rather to show understanding and empathy. You can use the characters in stories, picture books, or cartoons to discuss the emotions of the characters with your child. This can help guide them to think about how to better cope and give recognition and encouragement when your child can express their emotions well. This can enhance their self-confidence.

It is also important to consider the environment in which a child grows up, as this can have a significant impact on their mental health. It may be helpful to seek professional psychological counseling if you are experiencing emotional challenges, as this can assist in managing trauma and emotions, and in creating a healthy environment for your child to flourish in.

I hope this finds you well.

Give the questioner a hug! I can tell that the questioner is feeling depressed, anxious, angry, and afraid. I have a different take on the situation the questioner described.

Firstly, liking the color green doesn't necessarily mean you're depressed. Green is usually seen as a symbol of hope and vitality, while black is often associated with depression and death.

Secondly, the reason why the child displays the behaviours described by the questioner is more influenced by the questioner and the family environment. The questioner hurts herself by self-harm to release repressed emotional feelings and express inner emotional feelings and thoughts, which has a significant psychological impact on the child.

The child doesn't understand why his mother is acting this way, so he'll naturally feel afraid. He'll take these words and actions as the way the questioner expresses himself and learn them as his own way of thinking, so the child will have all kinds of behaviors as described by the questioner. But these behaviors don't just represent the child's problems; they also reflect the problems in the questioner and the problems in the family.

If the questioner works through their own issues, it can help to improve communication between partners and strengthen the relationship. This can also have a positive impact on the family dynamic. However, if the questioner's issues remain unresolved, it might not lead to the desired outcome. Even with professional help, the challenges may persist.

These are just my personal opinions, but I thought I'd share them with you in case they're helpful.

Hi, I'm Super Sister from Yixinli.

I got a certificate in psychological analysis of paintings the year before last, and I can tell you for sure that liking the color green is not a sign of depression.

You can analyze a child's psychological state and character through their drawings, but to determine whether a child is depressed, you have to find at least five negative intentions. So, you can't judge a child based on just one thing.

Depression requires a professional diagnosis, and it's also important to keep an eye on how the child is doing in many different ways.

For instance, things like the child's emotional state, whether they're open to communicating with others, whether they have their own interests and hobbies, how they sleep, what they eat, and whether they're in good health...

Nine-year-olds already have their own thoughts and opinions. You can communicate with your child more often and quickly praise what they've done well.

You say your child is kind and caring, and I think you're a kind and caring mother too. That's why you can see so many good things in your child. You also know that your emotions affect your child, and you want to do something to help your child grow up better and happier.

Psychologist Carl Jung once said, "Every human being has two lives. One is given to them by their parents, and the other is a new beginning when they awaken to their true self."

We can't choose who our parents are, and as kids, we can't escape their influence. But once we become adults, we can choose to rediscover ourselves and live the life we want, if we want to.

I believe that raising a child is also about raising oneself. I am now a mother too. Having studied psychology and family education, I sometimes find myself yelling at my child. I know that because I have experienced abandonment, fear and anxiety can easily arise in me. I also choose to tell my child frankly: I am not strong enough yet, and sometimes I can't control my emotions. But my anger doesn't mean you are bad, and it doesn't mean I am right. I love you, but maybe I don't know how to love you in the right way. So I need to learn and grow up too.

So accept yourself. You'll have more courage and energy to accept your child that way. If you're unhappy, try spending more time in nature. It'll help. If you have too many painful memories, you can also find a professional counselor to help you adjust and analyze.

No matter what, remember to love yourself and your baby.

I really hope we can all become happier mothers and live the lives we love.

Hello, Mom!

It's not necessarily a sign of depression if your daughter likes green. Green can also be a symbol of exuberant vitality, hope, and vitality.

It's so important to remember that it's not helpful to judge whether your daughter is prone to depression based on her color. It's much more helpful to look for signs in her behavior and in your description of yourself and the family atmosphere.

I'm so sorry to hear that your daughter was hospitalized for a week since birth due to jaundice. I can only imagine how difficult that must have been for her.

I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter. It must have been so hard for her to suddenly be cut off from her mother's body.

This probably means that she feels her world has been destroyed.

With this huge trauma that occurred at birth, or rather in her mother's womb (if her mother herself has trauma, her daughter will feel it, is her jaundice a sign?), the daughter observes the world around her step by step.

She noticed that her sweet grandmother left her when she was just one and a half years old. This might have triggered some old, deep-rooted feelings of being left alone in the hospital for a week after she was born, feeling abandoned by her mom, and having no one to take care of her. It's so sad to think that she might not be able to survive.

She notices that she might have to act kindly and obey her family in order to be liked by them.

She's so good at reading people's expressions and understanding things clearly. She just needs to feel safe before she can muster the courage to act.

She noticed something really sad. When her parents argued, her mom would cut herself with scissors. It made her heart ache to see her mom in pain. If her mom passed away, what would she do?

So, she's really careful not to anger her mother, because she's already lost her mother once and doesn't want to lose her again.

Oh, my heart goes out to her. When her mother ran away, I can only imagine how torn her little heart must have been. I really hope she comes back.

Oh, I wonder if mommy doesn't want her anymore?

She notices that her mom gets pretty upset when she doesn't study hard enough or is late for school. It can be tough to be a playful kid when you're trying your best!

She might come to see that she and her mom are both struggling. She's got a lot on her plate, and it's not just about taking care of herself. She's also got to be there for her mom, who is going through her own challenges.

If you're concerned that your daughter might be struggling with depression, it's also important to look out for signs of anxiety. It's not uncommon for both parents and children to feel easily irritated in these situations.

Maybe she likes the color green because she's looking for a way to express her feelings and feel more alive?

It's so easy to get caught up in our own worries about our kids. We forget that the mom needs care too! When the mom is relaxed, the child can let go of the burden of wanting to help her mom bear it. And when they're relaxed, they're more likely to show their vulnerability and ask for help.

So, would you like to go for family psychotherapy with your daughter? Or perhaps the mother and daughter could have separate counseling or therapy sessions? Whatever you think would be best!

If you often have thoughts and behaviors of self-harm and suicide, please don't ignore them. You and your daughter deserve the best, so go see a psychologist!

And remember, you've got this!

I'm Yan Guilai, your friendly neighborhood counselor. I'm sending you and your daughter all the best wishes for good health and happiness!

I am in agony.

After reading your account, I was moved to tears for you both, for your self-harm and for your child's sensitivity and understanding.

There is a two-way influence at play here.

1. You are unsure if your child has been affected by your life, which has been full of arguments and turmoil. Was the child present at the time? Did it see anything?

You always think about your child. Even when you're angry, you still care about your child.

2. You have a nuanced understanding of your child and are concerned about him. You understand his strengths and recognize that some of his behavior is driven by his concern for you. When I heard about the time your child was unaccompanied when he was one year old and about the severe eczema he had before the age of three, I made some connections. I believe you are worried that your child's experiences as a child have made him feel insecure about being abandoned. The severe eczema also seems to be a result of psychogenic factors.

The anger your child feels when someone touches his or her things is a learned coping mechanism. All of this makes you very worried. Your judgment that your child's preference for pink and purple has changed to green suggests to me that you are also worried about whether you have depression.

It is clear that both you and your child need external strength to escape from your pain.

We may have misunderstood. We may be expecting too much.

A nine-year-old is at school age and is in the transition period from childhood to adolescence. They are becoming more independent, have their own ideas and opinions, and are less inclined to do what their parents or caregivers tell them to do.

She likes green, which means she's growing up and no longer feels constrained to like pink and purple just because she's a girl. Keep observing.

2. You left home and harmed yourself in February, and your child saw it. If you want to have a different effect on your child, then you need to think of other ways to express your dissatisfaction or anger that will not hurt yourself or others when you argue with your husband.

3. You clearly know a lot about your child and I get the impression you're not overly concerned about your child suffering from depression. It's more likely you're worried about losing your child after hearing the news that "a junior high school student jumped to his death."

Depression can only be diagnosed by a psychiatrist in a hospital. We should not label others or be labeled ourselves. If you are diagnosed with depression, know that millions of people worldwide suffer from it, and not everyone will take their own life.

Seek help from a platform like Yixin. Ask questions. Talk to professionals. They will connect with you and accompany you through difficult times.

I am also very impressed by the mutual support between you and your child. I am certain that the power of love and being loved will help you both overcome the difficulties you are facing and find the life you want.