What if you feel very powerless when you sense hostility and don't want to move when you lie down?

I believe it's important to acknowledge that many people have had similar experiences, to varying degrees. During our formative years, we haven't yet had the opportunity to fully comprehend people and the world around us, nor have we had the chance to address and overcome bullying and isolation. It's likely that, at some level, we all carry some form of trauma, although some individuals have managed to resolve, suppress, and transform it through their subsequent growth experiences.

I believe the reason why your situation has affected you to this day is twofold. Firstly, the injury may have been relatively serious. Secondly, it seems that you have been unable to find a way to resolve it.

Perhaps it would be helpful to take a moment to reflect on the experience of that year. It's natural to feel a sense of blame or frustration, especially when we feel that those who have caused us pain have not been held accountable. It can be challenging to see these experiences as part of a larger journey, where every moment is a stepping stone in our life's journey. While it's natural to feel pain, struggle, resentment, and helplessness, it's important to recognize that these feelings are just a small part of the river of life. Our lives will always have moments of joy and challenges, and it's essential to embrace them both. If we dwell too much on the past, we risk becoming stuck in a cycle of pain and frustration. It's important to find a balance between acknowledging the past and moving forward with a positive outlook.

Secondly, I am still learning how to navigate social interactions with greater ease. I often find myself experiencing feelings of hostility for reasons that may not be entirely justified, and I sometimes perceive that others are judging me. It's important to recognize that we all have the capacity to view things from different perspectives. For instance, how do you typically engage with others? Do you harbor any negative feelings towards others? Do you find yourself gossiping about others without a clear reason?

I'm sure you wouldn't do that. I'm equally sure that everyone else wouldn't either. We all have limited time and attention, so it's important to focus on the task at hand. Here's an example: My former leader went on stage to give a speech, but before going on stage, he had some problems with the zipper of his pants. He kept thinking about this problem during his speech. When he asked us after he got off the stage, we didn't notice at all.

Thirdly, it would be beneficial to embrace a little more insecurity. Confidence can be cultivated, and our body and mind are interconnected. If you find yourself lying down when you encounter problems, and your physical fitness could be improved, you might like to consider going for a run, getting fit, reading some self-healing books, and persevering for a period of time. You may find that you reap a brand new you. Why not give it a try?

Hello, classmate. I see you're confused. I hug you!

You're going through some growth issues. Let me give you a hug.

It's not your fault if you've been bullied at school.

This school bullying might have caused psychological trauma.

You walked out of school because you felt it was your problem.

There are two types of attribution in psychology: internal and external.

If someone ignores you, it's not your fault.

The person might have been in a bad mood because they had a fight with their family.

He ignored you.

I used to be just like you. I was unhappy because people ignored me.

Later, I learned there are three kinds of things: your own, other people's, and the affairs of heaven.

If someone is in a bad mood, it's their business.

The above views come from A Change of Heart.

Seek help from the school psychologist for psychological trauma caused by school bullying.

The school counselor is free to help you.

I hope you find a solution soon.

I can only think of these things.

I hope my answer helps and inspires you. I am the answer, and I study hard every day.

Yixinli loves you! Best wishes!

My name is Gu Yi. I am a humble and consistent individual, and I strive to maintain a consistent demeanor.

In the process of growth, there are inevitably both positive and negative experiences.

If one inquires of others whether they have experienced similar difficulties and emotions, it is probable that the answer will be in the affirmative, although the extent of each may vary. When we confront the world with a lack of knowledge and experience, we are unable to employ certain skills and methods, and we have already been hurt before we have had the opportunity to react. It is therefore important to extend compassion and understanding to the injured self.

It is important to note that none of these circumstances are the result of any personal fault. The world presents us with both beauty and kindness, as well as instances of malevolence. In light of this, it is essential to consider how we can foster greater happiness. One potential avenue for achieving this is the capacity to transform the unbeautiful into the beautiful. For us, this represents a crucial condition for growth and transformation. By embracing this approach, we can potentially encounter a brand new version of ourselves.

Your current state of apprehension regarding the opinions of others is balanced by a natural humility and receptivity to diverse perspectives. This approach aims to ensure the satisfaction of those around you and to maintain a positive self-evaluation. However, from a more objective perspective, it is unclear whether this strategy will lead to meaningful, long-term growth. Instead, it may perpetuate a tendency to emulate the mistakes of others.

It is advisable to extract the essential elements and discard the superfluous material.

It is advisable to consider the opinions of others, although the extent to which we do so is ultimately a matter of personal discretion. It is not uncommon for individuals to adopt a detached and critical stance, while failing to offer constructive contributions. However, those who are directly involved in a situation are in a unique position to recognize the potential value in new perspectives.

It is important to find a balance between caring about what others say and maintaining one's own perspective. One of the benefits of youth is that we tend to be passionate and enthusiastic about a wide range of topics. We are also often sensitive and yearn for positive experiences in life. However, it is inevitable that we will face challenges and experiences that leave scars. It is essential to give oneself time to accept these experiences and to strengthen one's resilience. With this approach, it is possible to overcome these challenges and emerge stronger.

Your sensitivity is a result of your continued expectations and desires for positive outcomes, as well as your maintenance of high standards for yourself. This positive outlook on life is beneficial. As long as you adjust accordingly, avoid allowing your emotional state to be negatively affected, and strive to become a better version of yourself, you will realize that these challenges will eventually dissipate. You will also encounter and embrace a more positive version of yourself.

I extend my best wishes to you.

Hello!

The more you share about how you feel, the more you'll be able to understand and feel the pain you've been through. It's like there's a coldness when you leave the house, and the world seems hostile.

I'm so sorry to say that it may have caused harm to your soul.

You mentioned your experiences at school. I'm so sorry to hear that. Are you still at school or have you started working now?

Let me walk with you as you remember those old times. I'm here to help you break the old cycle, okay?

When you were studying, weren't your academic results quite good? I'm sure they were! Bullying is a kind of arrogance and prejudice. The other person may also have feelings of jealousy and inferiority.

You, who are "afraid of being judged," may have heard some not-so-kind words from those awful voices. It would have been nice if they had reflected on or apologized.

It seems like you didn't get the help you needed from your parents or teachers when you needed it. It's so hard to face the harm caused by others when you're on your own.

I really hope this warms you up!

Do you know what happened once? I was buying steamed buns and soymilk for breakfast. The shopkeeper was really sweet and put the soymilk on the back of my hand to check the temperature.

If I had to describe the temperature, I'd say it's warm.

I paid just $7, and I got a warm, fuzzy feeling in return! It's a small thing, but it can really help you fend off those negative feelings.

As I type and answer your questions, I'm happy to say that the hurt and anger I have felt inside are dissipating.

I wish I could promise you that the world is wonderful. Some of the perceptions you have built up are a sobering projection of the world.

But the wonderful cure for healing yourself is to go out again and feel it once more. Even the smile of the delivery boy and their oft-repeated "Enjoy your meal."

I wish I could promise you that once your state of mind is repaired, it will always be healthy. I know it can feel like a rollercoaster ride sometimes.

I feel like I'm teetering on the brink of collapse again, but there's so much in life worth feeling and loving because of the good feelings!

I've got a little something for you here on demand: "The End of Summer" by the wonderful Japanese singer Naotaro Moriyama. Believe in yourself and go embrace the good! And if you're ready for it, give yourself a big hug!

Good morning, My name is [Name] and I am here to answer any questions you may have.

"When you leave the office, you feel a chill and the world seems hostile. You feel isolated if no one pays any attention to you, but if someone does, you feel especially touched and happy.

Due to your sensitivity to hostile feelings, you tend to retreat from conflictual or minor disagreement situations. How might you approach this?

Let's resolve this together.

The reason for this behavior is past experiences and the beliefs formed as a result. If no one pays attention to you, you may feel isolated. When the same situation arises again, you may use your old beliefs to interpret the current situation, which may produce the same emotions and the same coping mode.

It can be reasonably assumed that if others have experienced similar emotional trauma during their own growth period, they may be in a comparable state.

I believe that the experiences of growing up are unchangeable. However, we can modify our attitude.

How might you alter your perspective? Allow me to suggest the following:

(1) Accept your emotions.

It is typical for individuals to conform to the prevailing norms. This provides a sense of security and is a psychological defense mechanism that evolved during human evolution to protect against attacks from wild animals. It is also a fundamental aspect of human nature. When we are isolated from those in our immediate surroundings, we experience fear.

It is therefore to be expected that a normal person will experience a range of emotions.

It is important to accept these emotions as a normal part of the emotional spectrum. When they arise, it is beneficial to take a deep breath and imagine sending the fresh air to the most uncomfortable part of the body. This can help to experience the changes in the body and gain a deeper understanding of the emotions.

(2) Modify your beliefs (although this may be challenging, it is still an option).

The first new belief is that the majority of individuals in our vicinity are still friendly and that strangers have no conflict of interest with us and will not attack us.

The second new belief is to change from a passive, dependent role to a proactive, self-sufficient one. This involves taking the initiative to greet and interact with familiar individuals.

Adopt the mindset that "a person who smiles can't be too unlucky." When we proactively extend kindness to others, they will reciprocate in kind.

The third new belief is to actively seek solutions to contradictions and conflicts, rather than avoiding them. I recommend the book "Nonviolent Communication" as a valuable resource for learning and implementing this approach.

When interpersonal relationships are transformed, the surrounding environment becomes more conducive to productivity and positivity. This can help alleviate feelings of discomfort and helplessness.

The fourth belief is to live a positive and optimistic life, be more self-affirming, and recognize your own merits.

The aforementioned suggestions are for informational purposes only.

I hope this information is useful to you. Best regards,

Hello! I'm smiling.

After reading your description, I understand your question better. I want to give you a hug.

Your problems are caused by bullying at school. You feel powerless and can't move when you encounter conflicts or contradictions. These and other incidents are caused by bullying.

You were bullied before. You did nothing, and your classmates isolated you for a long time. This has had a negative impact on your life. You are fearful of people.

You're afraid of being isolated and don't have the energy to support yourself. This makes you avoid problems with others.

I have also summarized some methods to help you.

(1) Relax and take things slowly. Don't put too much pressure on yourself.

(2) You didn't ask to be bullied at school. The bully is to blame. Give yourself time to get over it.

(3) For school bullying, focus on the present, not the past.

(4) You did nothing wrong, so you shouldn't be blamed.

(5) Talk to a friend. Share your thoughts and feelings. Release your emotions.

(6) Have more courage and self-confidence to face the present.

(7) You can move on from the past by focusing on the present.

The world and I love you!

Best wishes!

Hello, landlord. I really hope my answer can help you out!

After reading your description, I could really feel the difficulty you're experiencing inside, as well as your need for recognition from others. I don't have such a strong reaction as you describe, but I was also very sensitive when I felt hostility from others, and when I encountered conflicts and contradictions. I was also very afraid of contact with others and afraid of others' comments, especially bad comments. I can relate to that!

Later on, I worked on building my inner strength and learned to take other people's comments in perspective. This helped me become less sensitive to other people's opinions and comments. In particular, I found that understanding the psychological projection effect helped me face other people's comments more calmly. Sometimes I was even able to see their inner projections through their comments, which allowed me to understand them better and accept them. This was a great way for me to protect myself, so that I would not be so nervous and panicky in relationships, but could be more relaxed and at ease.

I'd love to offer you some friendly advice!

Keep on growing! Learn more about yourself, understand yourself, and accept yourself.

I've noticed that when I'm feeling a bit down and lacking in inner strength, I tend to pay more attention to other people's comments and worry more about what they think. Today's One Mind Daily Quote really resonated with me: "You are tired of life because you have stopped growing."

When we stop growing, we might find ourselves lacking in inner strength, because we're not quite satisfied with ourselves. It's totally normal to crave the recognition and affirmation of others, but if you have inner strength and are confident and believe in yourself, you'll probably find that you don't care so much about the opinions and recognition of others.

It's totally normal to have some limiting beliefs because of your upbringing. For example, you might think the world is hostile, that you're not good enough, or that no one will like you. But are these beliefs and thoughts true? When you step outside of your own role and look at yourself from a third-party perspective, what would you say about yourself?

We all have past experiences that make us feel frustrated in conflicts. It's only natural! But we can't always play the role of the loser in conflicts with others. If we are always in a loser's state, we often experience anger (but often don't show it). If we don't vent our anger outwardly, it can attack us inwardly, which can even lead to depression, a decline in self-evaluation, and self-blame.

This is also known as Freud's theory of internalized anger, which is a really interesting concept!

So, let's change our beliefs, establish a positive mindset, and see the mindset we've formed through our growth experiences. On the basis of accepting and understanding ourselves, we can believe that we can change. You can often tell yourself, "I am safe, I am worthy of being liked, I approve of myself..."

I would really recommend reading a book called "Rebuilding Your Life." It's a great way to build your inner strength, accept and understand yourself, and establish a positive mindset.

2. It's so important to learn how to handle other people's comments in a way that's true to yourself. It can be tricky to tell the difference between what other people say and what's really true for you.

Many of us care a lot about what others think of us because we're not always confident, we don't always know ourselves very well, and we don't always approve of ourselves. It's only natural to want the approval and evaluation of others. But you know what? You'll find that everyone is different because everyone has had a different upbringing, read different books, and met different people. So, everyone uses their own evaluation criteria to judge others.

When you meet his evaluation criteria, he'll like you and approve of you. When you don't meet his evaluation criteria, he'll reject you and discourage you. So you'll find that other people's evaluations don't really have much to do with you. When the actions you take meet his evaluation criteria, he'll like you. He likes the person who meets his evaluation criteria, right?

We're all the same, really. We all use our own standards to judge others. We like people who meet our standards and dislike those who don't. But as we get older and our views change, our standards will shift too, as will those of others. Everything is constantly evolving!

So, we believe that there's no such thing as an absolute right or wrong, no black or white. We all see things from different perspectives and have different positions in life.

This is a great way to understand how everyone evaluates others. It's all about what matters to them and how they see themselves. Let's say someone only looks at money to judge success. They might think, "Why study for so long and get a degree if you don't make much money?"

"If that bookworm also uses the same evaluation criteria to measure himself, then he'll be miserable and conflicted. But if he knows and accepts himself well enough to evaluate himself using his own evaluation criteria, and sees that the real self is not only measured by how much money one earns, but also by the books one reads, which can enrich one's inner world, help others, and realize one's own value, etc., then he'll be just fine! He'll be confident in himself and not so easily influenced by other people's opinions.

3. It's a great idea to choose who you spend your time with. Make sure you're with people who make you feel good!

Have you ever noticed that some people just have a way of always being there for you, no matter what? They're the ones who believe in you and understand you, no matter what you say or do. They're the ones who nourish and support us.

However, there are some people with whom you will always be criticized and blamed when you are with them. It's so easy to feel like you're not good enough when you're around them! You'll find yourself being cautious and careful in what you do and say, just to avoid upsetting them. These people can really drain us, and if we spend a lot of time with them, we might even become a bit self-deprecating.

So, it's really important to choose your friends wisely. Spend more time with people who make you feel good about yourself and who support you. And don't be afraid to get out there and meet new people! You never know who you'll meet and what you'll learn.

I truly believe you can change your situation, but don't rush it. It'll happen when it's meant to, and I'm here to support you every step of the way.

Wishing you all the best!

Hello!

Host:

I'm Zeng Chen, a heart exploration coach. I read the post and can tell the host is sensitive to hostility and fear.

You have also sought help, which will help you understand yourself better.

Next, I will share my thoughts from the post, which may help you see yourself differently.

1. What are the benefits of this behavior?

The host said you're sensitive to hostility and hide at home when you encounter conflicts or contradictions.

It's hard to bear, and you want to change this. I understand you want to change your mood. This situation makes you feel bad.

You want to get rid of this situation. This is normal.

I want to know if you think this behavior is self-protective. You said you were bullied at school, isolated, and later suffered trauma. You are afraid of being judged.

This experience was traumatic for the original poster.

These experiences are too much for you. The harm and stress they bring you is too much. So how can you avoid harm? Lying still is not it.

Can hiding avoid harm? The host's behavior protects you. What do you think?

2. Accept yourself as you are.

We discussed that this behavior protects us. If we haven't learned a new way to protect ourselves, is it possible to change? I understand it's difficult.

Is there no way out? I think so.

We can accept our current state and focus on learning new ways to protect ourselves. As we learn, we can take a new path. The important thing is not to change.

We need to learn to protect ourselves better. How can we do that?

We need to heal previous traumas. This may require one-on-one communication or learning some psychological knowledge. We may also need to learn to increase our awareness and build our own firewall.

3. Evaluate ourselves

The original poster said you don't care about other people's comments. Why? Because you think bad comments are harmful.

Would we think everyone would like us? I can't do that.

We need to learn to protect ourselves.

Like a computer, we can stop viruses without affecting our own operation.

We may have to learn to understand ourselves better. Once we understand ourselves better, other people's opinions won't affect us as much.

If we think what they say makes sense, we should listen. If not, we should ignore it. Then we'll suffer less. We can't solve this by answering questions. The original poster can learn psychology.

Leave the professional questions to the professionals.

I hope these comments help and inspire you.