21-year-old man, likes women's clothing, very troubled, how should I see this?

Hello!

It's human nature to be drawn to beauty.

You said you've liked feminine clothes since you were a kid (but you don't want to become a woman). That shows you don't have gender identity disorder, just an appreciation and fondness for clothing.

When I usually watch TikTok, I also see videos of some "female fashionistas." Some of them think the same way you do, that they like women's clothing because of its beautiful styles and graceful lines.

Moreover, nowadays, many girls are becoming more and more androgynous, preferring androgynous dressing, and they may even be mistaken for boys.

Traditional thinking can sometimes be a bit stereotypical when it comes to gender roles. For instance, there's the idea that boys are blue and girls are pink, or that men are in charge outside the home and women are in charge inside. This can make things a bit rigid and lead to complications over simple matters.

Fortunately, the world is becoming more and more diverse, and people are becoming more accepting. So just be yourself.

Moreover, some male makeup artists and designers also dress in a feminine style.

Why? Because it's beautiful! Who can resist beauty?

I hope this helps. Best of luck to you!

Hello.

Boys liking women's clothing is perfectly normal and there is nothing wrong with it. Women's clothing is much more colorful and varied than men's clothing, which seems simple and monotonous in comparison.

However, as fashion trends evolve, men's clothing styles are becoming more diverse, giving the impression of a more feminine style, although there are still some differences in terms of color.

Men like bright colors, and women's clothing reflects this. Attractive, fashionable clothing makes women look more attractive and appealing to the opposite sex. Men's attraction to the opposite sex is often based on factors such as ability, intelligence, and power, so they tend to prefer darker, more subdued colors in their clothing.

This difference is the result of historical choices, not personal preferences.

Second, the love of women's clothing is likely due to attraction to the opposite sex, in addition to a general fondness for colors. During adolescence, there is a natural curiosity and fondness for the opposite sex, and this fondness may, under certain circumstances, turn into a preference for women's items.

In short, liking women's clothing is a matter of personal freedom and preference. Paying attention to the health of one's own psychological environment is more advisable than caring about public opinion. This preference can be turned into one's own specialty, but at the same time, one must pay attention to whether this preference exceeds moral norms and whether it will hinder one's future physical and mental health.

It is crucial to be aware of the genuine reasons behind these preferences. It is also essential to maintain a clear understanding of the limits of one's actions and mental health.

Best wishes.

Hello, my name is Jialan.

After reading your account, I would like to share my views and suggestions, which I hope you will find helpful.

First and foremost, we are fully aware of our gender identity and the reasons behind our admiration for women's clothing. However, we do have some concerns when it comes to our fondness, as we are aware that it might not align with the conventional norms.

I would like to share with you the experience of my friend's younger brother. He has a particular interest in period costumes for women and often spends time at home or dresses up with a group of friends who share his interest. When his sister found out, she initially had some concerns, but she was able to understand the reason for her brother's preference and accept his behavior.

It may be helpful to accept ourselves and try to understand why we like women's clothing. Once we have figured it all out, we can naturally resolve our confusion.

Secondly, we could consider transforming this preference into a specialty, such as design. By viewing it from a different gender perspective, we might be able to generate new innovations that could be put to use.

One of my male classmates in junior high school worked as a ladies' bra designer, which is not something that most people would typically accept. However, he has continued to pursue this career path until now.

Finally, we can also have some friends to share and discuss how to turn our ideas into ways to help others and ourselves. I would be interested to hear your thoughts on this.

Perhaps it would be helpful to remember that there is no right or wrong in preferences. It might be beneficial to focus on doing what you enjoy and living your life in a way that feels authentic to you.

I would like to take this opportunity to wish you a happy new year, happiness, and good health!

Hello question asker!

You have courage and awareness. You can talk about and find solutions to problems. This is great and the beginning of change.

You like wearing girls' clothes since you were a child. You enjoy being feminine but don't want to become a woman. Is that right?

Tell me about your situation. Did you like wearing pretty clothes as a child? Did you choose to wear them or did they just happen?

What's it like to wear women's clothes?

You think men who like women's clothes aren't accepted. Your feelings are normal, and so are your worries. But I think your actions and feelings are normal too.

If you like wearing women's clothes and like the feeling of being pretty, you can do it as long as you don't hurt others or steal other people's clothes. This is just a preference of ours. We are acting openly and honestly. Is that right?

Today's society is open and tolerant. Many videos show men wearing women's clothes. It's not your fault if you have these thoughts and feelings. It may be due to a childhood experience or genetics, but it's not your fault.

If a miracle happens and your uncomfortable feelings disappear, what will you be like? What have you done to make it happen?

Will you be different after the miracle?

I don't know your situation, but I can give you some advice.

First, accept yourself.

Everyone is different. Our actions and personalities are shaped by our past experiences and education. As long as we don't break the law or violate morality, we've done nothing wrong. We should accept ourselves and our situation. The outside world can be uncomfortable. If we don't accept ourselves, we'll suffocate. We can wear what we want at home. This is our freedom of dress.

Be true to yourself.

Everyone feels differently. No one has the right to judge others because everyone has problems. Why judge? We should ignore people who judge indiscriminately and just do our own thing.

They can always find fault with us, so why should we care about their feelings? As long as we are happy, we are not doing anything wrong, and we will always find people who love us.

Be more aware.

There's a reason for many things. This reason can be traced back to our family of origin and some of the things we've experienced. It's also related to our professions. We need to be more aware of why we like women's clothing, what it can do for us, and why we reject it. Are we afraid of others' comments?

We can adjust our mood, calm our minds, and avoid internal conflict by being aware and exploring. We can also clarify, reconcile with ourselves, and grow by being aware. What do you think?

You feel torn between liking it and feeling your gender stops you. This causes conflict. I still say: as long as we're not breaking the law or acting immorally, we should accept ourselves and be happy. Life is lived once. If we do things we don't like, we'll be miserable. Only doing things we like will make us happy.

We must also learn to protect ourselves. If we are not strong enough to not care about others, we should not share our preferences. Instead, we should be careful. Share with yourself and watch with yourself. Look for people of the same kind to get in touch with. This way, we can grow without being affected by others. When we have grown enough, we don't care what others say. I like it, and you don't like it; that's your business.

You are the best, no matter what. You deserve it. You like the things you like. This is your right. Others use their thoughts to define us. This is their problem, not yours. Be brave and do your own thing. Protect yourself when you don't have a strong power.

If you need help, you can also seek help from a professional counselor. They can help you explore your subconscious and find the root of your love for beautiful clothes. They will also create a safe and inclusive environment for us to grow in.

Hello, dear questioner! You asked, "I'm a 21-year-old man who likes women's clothing and is very troubled. What do you think of this?"

I just want to say, first of all, that I think you're really brave for asking your question. We all face problems in life, and what we need is a brave heart to face those problems head-on and find solutions.

Let's dive a little deeper into your question, shall we?

You say that one thing that bothers you is that you have liked feminine clothes since you were a child (but you don't want to become a woman). You just enjoy the beauty of wearing feminine clothes, but feel that this behavior is not in line with your gender. How should you treat yourself and this matter?

From what you've told me, it seems like you should be a man, but you've liked women's clothes since you were a kid. I'm curious: how old were you when you first started liking women's clothes? You really enjoy the beauty of wearing women's clothes, but you feel like this behavior doesn't fit with your masculine gender. Why is that?

Do you ever have this feeling deep down inside? That you are different from other people, different from men? You are a man, but you don't like your masculinity as much as other men do, and you don't enjoy being a man. It's okay to feel this way!

Mingming is a lovely guy who likes to wear women's clothes. He feels great when he's wearing them and thinks they look beautiful. But he also has some doubts about his actions. Let's take a look at some of the reasons why someone might act this way, based on some psychological theories.

Erikson's theory of personality development says that the fifth stage is identity versus role confusion.

Psychologist Erik Erikson came up with a great way to understand how we develop as people. He said that there are eight stages to our development, and in each stage, we face a challenge or two that seem to contradict each other. But these challenges are not bad things. They are actually important turning points in our lives.

If you can resolve a crisis in a positive way, it'll make you feel stronger. But if you face a crisis in a negative way, it'll make you feel weaker and it'll be harder for you to adapt to your environment. The good news is that if you can resolve a crisis in an earlier phase, it'll make it easier for you to resolve a crisis in a later phase.

I can see that you're going through a tough time right now. It seems like you're facing some challenges in establishing a strong sense of self-identity. This is totally normal! It's a stage many people go through, usually between the ages of 12 and 20, which is a time of rapid physical and emotional changes. It's not easy to navigate, but you've got this!

If you can't find your identity now, it might lead to some confusion about your role or even a negative identity.

You might find it helpful to speak to a professional psychologist. They can help you work through this and come up with a plan to move forward.

From what I can see, you might have gone through a bit of a rough patch in your personal development. It's totally normal to have these things happen, and it's great that you're taking the time to work through them. I'm sure you'll get there! I think it's really helpful to talk things through with someone who can offer a fresh perspective. There are lots of great psychological counselors out there who can help you work through these issues. It's also a great idea to seek out a counselor who has experience with similar situations. They'll be able to offer tailored advice based on their understanding of your unique challenges. During your sessions, you can explore the different stages of your life and identify any areas that might need a little extra support. This could be anything from finding ways to move forward with your life goals to addressing any internal conflicts you might be facing. It's all about finding the right path to help you feel more confident and comfortable in your own skin.

I totally get it! I've seen others in the Q&A area in a situation like yours. The problem you're facing now is that you have some conflict within yourself about this situation. But if you can accept the fact that although you are male, you just like to wear women's clothes and feel very comfortable wearing them, it's actually not a big deal.

As society develops and humanity progresses, I feel that gender distinctions are becoming less and less obvious. It's so interesting how some men look as white and clean as women and are also very gentle. It makes me think that the gender of humanity may become more and more neutral.

Questioner, I really hope you're doing well! I really hope my answer is helpful to you!

I love you, world! And I love you, too, my friend!

Hello, questioner!

I'm a listening master, Lingjing, and I'm happy to have this opportunity to meet with you.

I can see that you're very self-aware. You've liked women's clothing since you were young, but you don't want to become a woman. So I guess the host's fondness for women's clothing should be separate from other emotions. It should just be a fondness for the soft beauty exuded by women.

But because it doesn't fit with who you are, there are a lot of issues. Let me give you a warm hug first.

First, you need to figure out what you really feel. Do you get excited when you put on clothes? Is it related to your sexual psychology? If not, it's probably just an appreciation of the freedom women have to dress up.

First of all, it might be related to the parents' personalities and how they raised the subject. There's also the traditional idea that men should be rough-looking and not care about dressing up. If they do, they'll be ridiculed, which is another reason. So, the subject may feel that as a man, he can't pursue this kind of beauty, so he has a big conflict inside.

I can tell that the questioner is a sensitive person who cares about beauty, but doesn't know where to channel that interest. How you approach this depends on you.

I think it's important to pay attention to our hearts and be more aware of ourselves. First, we should figure out why we have this preference. Will it affect our sex lives?

If there's nothing negative about it, you can adopt an accepting attitude. Many public figures like cross-dressing and are very comfortable with it. If you can be that carefree, it's just a hobby.

Another option is to pursue this interest as a career. For instance, you could study makeup or a fashion-related major. Given your interest in this area, you have a natural appreciation for beauty. This allows you to excel in your field. At the same time, you can also pursue what you truly want.

If you're still struggling to accept this, or if women's clothing is tempting you in other ways, you can also get professional help. This could be psychological counseling or anonymous voice calls on the instant confession platform. These can help you deal with your emotions, work out what's really going on, and make the necessary changes.

I'm an enthusiastic answerer, a psychological listener, an offline consultant, a health manager, a nutritionist, and a traditional Chinese medicine enthusiast. I hope to help you by learning how to face life's challenges and sharing my experience to help others.

Hello, dear friend who is unsure of your own preferences.

After listening to your story, I'm really curious! First of all, who did you have a crush on during your adolescence, and what did they have in common? Did you have any sexual fantasies?

I'd love to know more about what you enjoy about your sexual fantasies. As you enjoy the beauty that women's clothing brings you, do you have other feelings?

I'd love to know more about that!

Please don't think I'm being too nosy by asking so many questions right away. I bet some of these questions you've already thought about yourself.

I've brought these things up just to give you more food for thought. I know that answering these questions might not necessarily answer all of your confusion, but we're just trying to explore more together.

It's totally normal to feel confused and disoriented about this hobby of yours. On the one hand, we enjoy it, but on the other hand, there might be some non-acceptance and self-criticism, like feeling like you don't match your gender or the values of the public. I wish I could help you figure out what's going on just from a few words you say, but I don't know the answer either. The answer is in your heart, and I'm here to support you in finding it.

You can try choosing an environment where you feel safe from interruption, and placing an empty chair opposite you to have a conversation with the woman dressed in women's clothing. Open up to her with your confusion and curiosity, and listen to how she answers.

First, take a moment to close your eyes and imagine what your hairstyle and face look like from across the room. See what color and style of clothes you're wearing, and picture what shoes you're wearing. We'll start by observing the person sitting across from us, and then we'll greet them and start our conversation.

You can stop at any time during this process, depending on how you feel. This is the "empty chair" technique used in our psychological counseling, and it's totally up to you!

I would highly recommend that you find a professional counselor to accompany you on your journey of self-discovery. It's so important to listen to your heart and figure out what you truly want. It's not that we are wrong to wear women's clothing. It's just that at the moment, this hobby not only brings you pleasure, but also self-blame and unease. We can try to explore your confusion and accept the differences in your hobbies by getting to know yourself.

But for now, this hobby brings you a lot of joy, but also some self-doubt and unease. So we can try to understand your confusion and accept the differences in your hobbies by getting to know yourself and your ways.

Acceptance is the foundation for change. And you know what? You don't have to like where you are or stay there.

It's so important to feel grounded and to know where you are and where you're going. That's the only way you can truly embark on your own journey.

And finally, may we love ourselves just as we are!

Good day, question asker.

From your description, I understand the challenge of pursuing a personal interest that is not widely accepted. You have a preference for women's clothing, driven by an appreciation for beauty. This is akin to someone who has a preference for fish and someone who has a preference for braised pork belly. It is not uncommon to have such preferences.

However, you may feel that wearing women's clothes does not align with your gender identity. This is because, in most people's minds, women should wear women's clothing and men should wear men's clothing. Is this a universal truth?

It is evident that the conventional notions of what it means to be a man or a woman have been shaped by social evolution. Historically, women who defied the practice of foot-binding, demanded economic autonomy and freedom, and young people who opted out of marriage and childbearing were once regarded as marginalized individuals. However, they have now become role models and heroes in the eyes of many.

My advice to you is that your choice of attire is your prerogative, provided that you do not inconvenience others and act in accordance with your conscience. I believe that if you are courageous enough to persevere, the initial lack of understanding and acceptance will evolve into admiration and envy, and your courage will even become an inspiration to others.

I suggest you read the stories of Bob Carey in the United States and Zhu Mengxun in Guilin, China.

I hope this information is helpful to you. Best regards,

Let's be clear: a person is not just assigned a gender. A person is socialized, and most people easily internalize the roles they are expected to play.

The norms and expectations derived from a person's assigned "maleness" or "femaleness" touch on so many aspects of a person's individuality.

No one should be criticized, punished, or condemned for being feminine or appearing feminine. It's wrong, and it's time to stop it.

I am classified as male and expected to act accordingly, but not if I don't measure up? This is absurd. What kind of twisted logic is that, and where is the independent thinking?

But there is something even worse. Today, women can behave in all kinds of "masculine" ways—including wearing traditionally masculine clothes—and face far less serious consequences than men who behave in a feminine way.

Our society considers women inferior. Why?

A woman who acts in a traditionally masculine way is striving for something better. A man who acts in a traditionally feminine way is humiliating himself.

Embrace what society considers "femininity" and denounce everything else. We will all be free to be whoever we want to be.

A man has every right to be "feminine" one day or every day. There is nothing wrong with it.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with a man who likes a pretty dress or lace underwear, or who likes to wear makeup or paint his nails. And he's not wearing your clothes.

Psychological counseling can help you explore how to be yourself. Even our closest friends don't know exactly who we are, but we must be honest with ourselves.

Good day. My name is Evan.

As evidenced by the questioner's own account, a proclivity for women's attire has been present since childhood. The aesthetic appeal of women's attire can evoke a distinct emotional response in the questioner, yet simultaneously engender a sense of incongruence with his own gender identity. This raises the question of the origin of this behavior in the questioner.

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether this preference is related to the environment of the original family. If the mother in the original family pursues beauty and prettiness in her attire, while the father simply dresses down, this family environment may influence the child's pursuit of beauty.

This particular emotional attachment to women's clothing, which could be described as a fetish, is, it is my personal belief, an emotional outlet and a form of recognition of certain experiences that occurred during the questioner's childhood.

Wearing women's clothing may be a potential avenue for exploration. It would be beneficial to ascertain whether the questioner experiences other reactions, such as feelings of excitement. Frequently, our pursuit of certain things is unusual, and it can be seen as a kind of compensatory satisfaction for not getting a good one of the things we once longed for. Childhood experiences, such as being hurt, traumatized by a certain separation, or having one's emotional development at this stage not handled properly, can also contribute to a fixation on a certain period of time as a manifestation and a special attachment to something.

What is the nature of the relationship between the questioner and his parents? As the questioner has not described this aspect of his background, it is not possible for me to discuss the root of his current peculiar hobby.

Given that this specific preference has caused distress and the desire to change it, it is understandable that this is a challenging situation. It would be beneficial to identify the exact point in time when this preference emerged and to examine it in detail. What experiences did you have during that period that led to the development of this preference?

In regard to how to confront one's emotions, I will also offer the questioner a few brief suggestions.

It is essential to accept one's current state of being.

It is important to acknowledge and confront one's own inner desires and recognize that the aversion to one's current fetish is a normal psychological phenomenon. When engaging in behaviors associated with this fetish, such as wearing women's clothing, it is crucial to understand that the underlying motivation may stem from an unmet need for parental affection and acceptance. This underlying need may manifest as a preference for and reaction to women's clothing.

It is therefore unnecessary to experience discomfort. It is important to recognise that this is a consequence of the intimate relationship the questioner had during their childhood. Only by accepting their current state can they begin to understand their true desires. If they resist their current self too much, they will never truly find what they truly desire. What they truly desire is to have certain needs met during their childhood.

It is imperative to heed the voice within.

Has the questioner ever considered the possibility that the thoughts in their mind may have a positive or negative effect on their physical and mental health?

What thoughts are impeding the questioner's desire? The questioner desires something, yet their body remains fixated on the approval of beautiful women's clothing. What is the question the body is attempting to convey to the questioner?

In the event of a negative bodily reaction, it is advisable to seek calm and to listen to one's inner voice. The question then arises as to why one is so drawn to beautiful women's clothing.

While not being excessively self-critical, one's upbringing can sometimes lead to the belief that one is responsible for one's own shortcomings. These self-deprecating thoughts can have a detrimental impact on one's emotional state, motivation, and outlook on life.

It is recommended that each morning, the individual should direct their attention to their reflection in the mirror and verbalize three positive attributes they possess. It has been demonstrated that an optimistic outlook on oneself can foster confidence and resilience in the face of self-doubting thoughts.

As an illustration, one might say, "I deserve to be loved, I can love others, I deserve more love," and so forth.

It is important to be mindful of one's external circumstances.

The questioner can identify the circumstances that elicit a heightened emotional response. Does exposure to women's clothing or the act of wearing women's clothing elicit a reaction to attractive stimuli?

It would be beneficial to ascertain whether these situations elicit feelings of pressure or embarrassment in the questioner. At this juncture, it may be advantageous to prompt the questioner to engage in a thought experiment, wherein they imagine themselves as a child and reflect on the feelings associated with being praised for wearing women's clothing or receiving praise from another individual. Which of these experiences evoked a stronger sense of recognition?

In the event that the aforementioned circumstances elicit a negative emotional response, it is advisable to either avoid such situations or to enter them after a period of relaxation. To illustrate, if the individual in question has an interest in women's fashion, it may be beneficial to seek an alternative activity that demands their undivided attention.

One should avoid self-suppression or avoidance; rather, one should engage in a distracting activity that diverts one's attention from the present moment.

It is recommended that individuals practice expressing their needs in positive terms. This may initially be a challenging process, but with practice, it can lead to increased confidence in effectively communicating one's needs.

It is important to be mindful of one's verbal habits.

It is not uncommon for individuals to engage in repetitive verbal behavior when confronted with an aversive situation. This may manifest as statements such as "I am exceedingly annoyed," "I might as well cease to exist," or "I have once again failed." These expressions reflect a tendency to magnify the emotional impact of events and to respond in an exaggerated manner. The use of such negative language may contribute to a downward spiral of negative thinking.

Verbal tics are often indicative of subconscious thought processes. By paying attention to one's own verbal tics, insight can be gained into one's inner thoughts.

It is recommended that the subject avoid the use of such words. In order to facilitate the transformation of negative emotions into positive ones, it is advised that negative words be replaced with positive thoughts and praise. For example, "terrible" can be replaced with "unfortunate" or "there is room for improvement," and "disaster" can be replaced with "challenge" or "inconvenience."

It is recommended that you seek psychological assistance.

The subject's preoccupation with specific matters has a profound impact on the subject. In the event that the subject believes their upbringing has influenced their clothing choices and caused internal strife, they may wish to consult with a qualified psychological counselor or other practitioner. These professionals can assist the subject in addressing their negative emotions. Prior to seeking guidance, it is advisable for the subject to research the reputation of these practitioners to avoid potential disappointment.

It is my hope that this response will prove beneficial to the individual who posed the question.

Good day. I am pleased to see that you have requested assistance and hope that my input can provide you with the support and guidance you require. I also wish to commend you for your awareness of your apparently inappropriate preferences.

It is important to understand that there are right and wrong behaviors, but that there is no right or wrong in the underlying needs. Therefore, you are permitted and encouraged to like women's clothing, despite this inclination not aligning with your gender identity. It is valuable to be aware of what else is in your heart besides liking it when you see women's clothing. For instance, you may have a desire for the parts of a woman's body that are supple, a desire to be cared for, to be considerate, to be caressed, to be listened to, or to be accompanied.

Carl Jung, a prominent figure in the field of psychoanalysis, proposed the concept of two archetypes: the anima and the animus. The anima represents the feminine aspect within a man's heart and can be seen as a personal complex towards women.

Anima can be defined as the male image in a woman's heart, as well as a woman's personal narrative about men. From Jung's perspective, a mentally healthy individual must integrate the archetypes associated with their biological sex and the intentions of the opposite sex into their psyche. This process enables the development of a well-balanced personality and a mature mindset.

In other words, a man must embrace both his masculine and feminine sides in order to become a well-rounded individual.

Your affinity for women's attire is, in part, a reflection of your intrinsic femininity. However, external factors, such as familial upbringing and cultural norms, may impede the full expression of this aspect of your identity. For instance, our society tends to view male vulnerability and expressiveness as deficiencies in masculinity. This perception can negatively impact a boy's self-esteem, even if he is unaware of it. In response, many boys resort to suppressing or hiding their feminine traits. This can manifest as a fascination with women's clothing, which serves as a defense mechanism to cope with the internal conflict. What are your thoughts on this matter?

Freud's five-stage theory of personality development posits that our adult sexual preferences and orientations are more closely related to whether or not we have successfully completed the genital phase (Oedipus phase) of identity formation with our same-sex parent. During this stage, every child instinctively feels close to their opposite-sex parent, which represents the earliest budding of one's gender emotions in life. The child feels a strong sense of guilt and shame towards their same-sex parent because of their excessive closeness to the opposite-sex parent. To alleviate the internal feelings of guilt and shame, the child will release this part of their painful emotions by identifying with their same-sex parent.

It is important to note that at this stage, children require guidance from their parents to successfully navigate the Oedipus period. Failure to do so may result in children becoming stuck in this phase, leading to incomplete identification with the same-sex parent. This can have implications for their sexual preferences, sexual orientation, and intimate relationships in adulthood.

In other words, your affinity for women's attire may be, to some extent, a manifestation of your unconscious Oedipal sentiments regarding proximity to your mother. It is plausible that at that juncture, your mother exhibited a degree of neglect and indifference toward your emotional and psychological needs. Consequently, your intrinsic bond with your mother may have been more rejected at that moment. This necessitates your conscious effort to perceive and comprehend these underlying dynamics.

Once you have identified any inappropriate preferences, you can implement appropriate adjustments and changes through active learning and growth, guided by this self-awareness.

However, the first step to effecting change is acceptance. This entails allowing and accepting that you have a fondness for women's clothing and that you like it. Once you have gained a better understanding of why you have this preference, you can begin to express your inner feminine intention in a more appropriate way. One example of this is by trying to establish a nurturing intimate relationship.

By actively learning and growing, you can address the emotional and affective deprivation you experienced in your early years with your mother.

It is important to note that your preferences should not be a cause for feelings of inferiority, guilt, or self-blame. They are, to some extent, a manifestation of your complete inner personality. In the event that your preferences are a result of early trauma, you have the ability and resources to heal when the trauma is identified.

Consequently, any behavioural traits that may appear misplaced or inappropriate can be viewed as potential learning opportunities, guiding you towards becoming a more effective and well-rounded version of yourself.