Is my partner's sudden loss of interest and my own libido issues a psychological disorder?

Sex is a big part of any relationship. You're aware that you're not as excited about it as you used to be.

There's some info in your story that needs to be cleared up. Have you always worn stockings? Or is he losing interest in them?

I read that you have some psychological issues with pantyhose. You feel a bit ashamed of yourself.

I can give you some general education on anxiety/how-to-deal-with-a-female-college-student-who-lacks-paternal-love-and-easily-develops-a-fondness-for-the-opposite-sex-7056.html" target="_blank">sex. Sex itself is a private activity. As long as both parties are satisfied and excited, and as long as you don't hurt each other, there's nothing wrong with it.

This includes oral, manual, and other physical participation. In other words, if he likes you wearing a T-shirt or stockings, it makes no difference.

Also, a lot of men get turned on by stockings because 1) they link the thighs, which are linked to the private parts, and 2) it's just a realistic level of daydreaming, which is beyond reproach and instinctive. From a psychological perspective, one-year-olds are in the oral stage, focused on survival.

The period from one or two years old to three or four years old is a stage of object attachment. This is when children learn who has the final say in the relationship between them and the object they love. It's also a time when children learn about love and separation. Psychologists call this the anal-erotic period. Children at this stage can walk independently. Their height is just at the height of a woman's knees and thighs. If there is no good relationship with the object, it can also lead to the formation of a stocking fetish.

Everyone goes through various kinds of setbacks (sometimes not entirely caused by the nurturer), so it's normal to develop various little habits. These little habits aren't considered psychological problems if they don't affect your life, you're not bothered by them, and they don't affect others.

Let's talk about you. You can't stand not having sex for a week, and you seem really anxious. Let's look at what's causing your anxiety: are you being too sensitive?

We all have to juggle a lot in our lives. He has a job, parents, and friends. Maybe he's just having a rough time right now. That's probably why he's feeling anxious.

Let's look at some internal factors: 1. Do you overemphasize your own importance? 2. Are you lacking in self-confidence and need external recognition?

3. If you rely on the outside world to prove yourself, you're still very unstable. You don't know who you are or what you're like, and you often look outside for answers.

The result of internal instability is that it also affects the relationship between the two. No matter how good a man is, such a personality trait will confuse him over time, and he will inevitably really stay away from you. This is how the subconscious works: deep down you fear that the man will leave you, and that's what will happen.

I've said a lot of things, and I apologize for the scattered nature of this message. Women need inner independence, which is the real security, not outside, but inside! If you can read this, great. If not, please come and consult with me.

You need to develop your personal skills!

Hello!

Host:

From the post, I can tell the poster feels ashamed. But they also showed courage in sharing their problems and getting help. This helped them understand themselves and their boyfriend better.

Make adjustments as needed.

Next, I'll share my thoughts, which might help you see things differently.

1. Physical presence

From the post, we can see that the poster has recently described her sex life twice and mentioned her shame. I understand how you feel, so let's look at why we have these emotions.

From these two descriptions, it seems that you, the host, have always been "carefully prepared."

Often, we want the other person to pay attention to us or respond with interest. When they don't, we feel let down and neglected.

Our bodies matter.

Women want more emotional attention and care from men in sex. Your boyfriend did not see and care for your emotions and thoughts in these two sexual encounters, which will reduce the quality of sex.

2. Sex is about more than just physical desire.

Sex is about more than just physical desire. It's a complex thing.

Every sexual relationship needs understanding, honesty, and openness. From the post, I can see that the poster is ashamed and sad, as well as resisting.

But you haven't told your boyfriend, have you?

How can he know what you're thinking? How can he understand you?

Guys often don't know what girls are thinking.

Talk about how you feel. If your boyfriend understands you, your sex life will improve.

Sometimes in a sexual relationship, both partners need to tell each other what to do.

3. Face your shame.

The poster in the post felt ashamed. I understand.

There are many reasons for this. For example, being a girl, traditional culture, and education may all make us feel this way.

But when we feel this way, it can stop us. When we feel this way, we are disconnected from ourselves and our bodies. If we ignore our bodies, we may not enjoy sex as much.

We can face our shame.

Tell your partner about your feelings. This can help you feel better.

Enjoy sex better.

I hope these words help and inspire you.

Dear question asker, I am grateful for the opportunity to respond to your question.

From what the questioner has shared, it seems there might be some differences in opinion between her and her boyfriend when it comes to sex. It's possible that there have been instances where the questioner has done what her boyfriend has asked, but hasn't received a positive response, which might have led to some feelings of doubt and loss of confidence. Could this be a possibility?

I'd like to offer the OP some encouragement and support. It's important to remember that moods can fluctuate from one day to the next, and it's possible that the OP's boyfriend was simply not in the right frame of mind on that particular day.

A lack of interest in sex may be a sign that the boyfriend is not paying enough attention, showing enough enthusiasm, or demonstrating sufficient motivation. This can easily lead to a lack of interest, which is a very normal phenomenon. It also depends on what impact this negative emotion has on the questioner. One way to try to get the interest of both back may be to do something different in terms of flirting or living habits.

1. It would be helpful to understand the reason for the indifference.

It would be helpful to understand what might have caused the questioner to become indifferent to sex. Once the cause is known, it will be easier to find the right solution to rekindle the interest.

If the apathy persists for more than a month, it could be a sign that the questioner may be experiencing depression.

It would seem that the questioner is full of enthusiasm and wants to have sex with her boyfriend, but feels that he is not very enthusiastic. This may be causing the questioner to have self-doubts. Could I ask whether the questioner has talked to her boyfriend in detail about this?

I believe that self-blame may not be the most constructive approach. What are your thoughts on this?

2. It might be helpful to try to communicate with your boyfriend.

It might be helpful to communicate with your boyfriend to find out what his erogenous zones are. It's worth noting that guys also have their own erogenous zones. If the approach is appropriate, it could be a way to stimulate him. For example, some guys like it when girls kiss their ears, and some like to hear feedback from the girl's voice. It might be worth asking your boyfriend about this.

It would be interesting to see whether, as a result of using these methods to improve her boyfriend's interest, the questioner also gains confidence.

3. Assist the gentleman in relaxing.

Sometimes, life or work pressures or unpleasant things can distract a guy and take away his interest. You might consider cooking him dinner, giving him a relaxing massage, or preparing a bubble bath. It could be helpful to try to relax him as much as possible, as this might help to arouse his interest.

4. It would be beneficial to consider ways of supplementing some energy.

You might consider supplementing your boyfriend with some energy before sex. Pomegranate juice is said to have a stimulating effect on men. Perhaps you could prepare some pomegranate juice or fruit wine for your boyfriend to drink, to replenish his energy, and see if it increases his interest in sex.

5. Consider stimulating him with some sexy clothing.

The questioner mentioned that her boyfriend enjoys seeing her in stockings, and there are many different types to choose from. If the questioner is interested, she might consider purchasing some stockings online to show her boyfriend. Wearing different stockings during sex could potentially attract her boyfriend more and increase his interest.

There are many sexy clothes online, and it might be a good idea to ask your boyfriend to buy them and then try them out during sex. I think it could really help to pique his interest.

In short, if the questioner wishes to rekindle her boyfriend's interest and regain her confidence, she might consider catering to his preferences and interests, sending some suggestive text messages, or spending more time alone together. I believe these strategies could help the questioner rekindle her boyfriend's interest.

I hope my answer is helpful to you.

The questioner is so brave and unrestrained, which is admirable! As a member of the opposite sex, I'm excited to answer your question with some modesty.

First of all, I want to say that I think your attitude and actions are great! You're open to feeling, communicating, and expressing yourself, and I think that's really valuable. Both men and women have the right to pursue "sexual" happiness, and I'm excited to see you both embrace that!

Second, it's impossible for every year, every month, and every time that two people are together to be perfectly harmonious and without obstacles. You mentioned that the two of you have been together for less than a year and have just finished living apart, which is a great start! The frequency is relatively okay, which is a good sign.

Sex is actually the same as falling in love and getting married, which is great because it means you're on the right track! In relationships, there are often arguments and conflicts, and the same is true in this area. There will definitely be clashes between the two of you, but that's okay because you can work through them together. Focus on mutual understanding and sharing, and you'll be just fine!

Third, don't let a few hiccups get you down! If two people get married, they'll be together for a long time, so there's no reason to doubt each other or let a couple of failures get in the way.

This really shouldn't be the case. However, men and women are different, and I personally feel that sometimes the woman is too proactive, and the other party can't stand it occasionally.

Fourth, as the two of you spend more and more time together, the current frequency is not sustainable. But don't worry! It is recommended that you shift your focus to other things, such as sports, music, work, and study, and then return to dealing with and communicating about this issue.

I really hope you'll keep being brave as always, and keep pursuing happiness! Come on!

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