My boyfriend wants to have an intimate relationship, constantly emotionally manipulates, I'm torn about whether to continue being together.

Good morning, classmate.

As someone who has been there, I believe there are a few additional considerations that would be beneficial to reflect upon before attempting to resolve the issue. It would be advantageous to engage in individual contemplation on these matters.

1. What is your perspective on the topic of sex? Do you find it challenging to engage in discourse on this subject?

2. Please describe your feelings regarding your boyfriend. Do you have a positive regard for him? Please describe the nature of your relationship.

Do you intend to remain in this relationship indefinitely, should circumstances permit?

It is therefore necessary to begin by attempting to define the term 'sex'.

China has a history of 5,000 years. Confucianism is the mainstay of China's ideological system. Confucianism emphasizes benevolence, righteousness, propriety, wisdom, and trustworthiness. China is a country that places great importance on propriety and integrity. Consequently, from ancient times to the present, there has been a tendency to avoid discussing the concept of "sex." This is due to a sense of shame and the perception that it is not a topic suitable for public discussion.

Such concepts and ideas have both advantages and disadvantages. The advantage is that we can better restrain our behavior and know how to act appropriately. The disadvantage is that we cannot view the topic of sex from a neutral perspective. It could be argued that the topic of sex is taboo. I feel ashamed that I am unable to discuss this topic.

China has historically demonstrated an inclusive attitude toward cultural diversity. We value our own intellectual traditions and are receptive to insights from abroad that align with our own understanding of truth. This openness has contributed to the country's growth and strength.

It is therefore pertinent to inquire as to the manner in which Western countries perceive the subject of sex. It may be presumed that a general understanding of this topic is held by all. Foreign countries are inclined to adopt a more open and less reticent stance on the matter. The concept of "sex" is not regarded as a taboo subject by Westerners, who view it as an expression of love. This perspective is exemplified by the classic American film Titanic.

Therefore, if one is in a romantic relationship and wishes to maintain it, it is advisable to remain together, if circumstances permit. It is important to avoid taboos surrounding the topic of sex and to refrain from feelings of shame. Sex is not solely a biological function; it is also an expression of love. As a relationship progresses, the topic of sex will inevitably arise. This is a normal aspect of the relationship development process.

We will now revisit the second question. How do you feel about your boyfriend? Do you like him?

It is imperative to ascertain whether you intend to remain in the relationship indefinitely. This is a question that you must ask yourself and provide a definitive response. It is unwise to become enmeshed in a relationship and subsequently terminate it in a haphazard manner, which would be irresponsible towards both parties.

In particular, those who identify as female should closely examine their attitudes toward the male partner.

Ultimately, it is my hope that you will possess the capacity to love and be loved. Should you love him, it would be prudent to trust him; conversely, if you do not love him, it would be advisable to end the relationship.

It is my sincere hope that you will experience both happiness and sexual happiness.

Hello! I'm smiling.

I understand your question better now. I'll give you a hug.

From what you said, it seems like you and your boyfriend have different ideas about sex. This is making you confused. I'm here for you.

Many lovers have had this problem to a greater or lesser extent. Men usually have excessive sexual needs, but there's nothing we can do about it. This is also a gender difference.

Most men are animalistic in the lower body because they're rational and pursue objective things first. This makes them want sex right away and rarely consider social standards.

Women are the opposite because they need to have feelings first and wait a certain amount of time before having sex. They can be hurt more during sex.

Men and women have different views on sexual behavior, but there is no right or wrong.

If you still don't agree with your boyfriend and you've tried to talk to him, stop while you can. You don't want to compromise on this issue. You can stop now to avoid any harm.

I can tell from your description that you have a certain view on sex. But there's nothing you can do about it because it's also influenced by your upbringing. So there's nothing wrong with protecting yourself. If we meet the right person, we can relax about sex.

I've also shared some tips to help you cope with the situation. I hope they help. ?

(1) Relax and take your time. Don't put too much pressure on yourself.

(2) Talk to a friend about how you feel.

(3) Talk to your boyfriend about your feelings and thoughts. Don't let anything come between you.

(4) Love should make you happy. If love has gone sour, let go of the relationship to minimize the harm you suffer.

You're at an age where you want simple, beautiful love. He just wants to have sex faster. Neither of you is right for the other, so take your time. It's better to end it sooner rather than later.

Otherwise, you'll get stuck in the situation and keep compromising. This is not the case with men. After they get you, they may reveal their true nature.

(6) Think about what you want most, then make a choice. When you've made a good choice, take responsibility for it.

The world and I love you!

Take care.

Hello!

You're confused about whether or not to have sex with your boyfriend. Let's look at what's going on.

I'm new to love, and my boyfriend has had two previous relationships, with a gap of more than two years.

You have no experience in relationships. You met your boyfriend a month ago and started a relationship because you had fun together. This seems like an experiment for you, so you may be more cautious than your boyfriend.

Your boyfriend thinks you should have sex in a relationship. You were raised with strict values and are cautious about marriage and dating.

This is normal. There is no right or wrong. If there is a difference in concepts between lovers, communication and understanding are key.

If we don't compromise, we'll argue and break up.

Your boyfriend has asked for sex, but you've refused.

Your boyfriend respects you, but he's had sex and thinks it's normal. He'll keep trying, but he can calm down after you refuse. What do you think of his restraint?

After dating for more than a month, I feel insecure about my boyfriend. We often argue about this, and I don't want to see him because I'm afraid he'll force me.

Maybe the relationship was too short, or maybe you're just overwhelmed. If you put this aside, will your feelings still be so strong? You need to reflect and find out what's causing your insecurity.

When making friends, follow your heart. Use other people's experiences and advice as a reference, not a standard. You will have new insights after calm thinking.

I hope these thoughts help.

You're not alone. Best wishes!

Hello, I'm Strawberry.

After just a month of dating, your boyfriend has already proposed having sex. He believes that sex is a normal part of a relationship and that it's abnormal not to have it. You've repeatedly refused because you feel that you've only been dating for a little over a month and that you don't know each other well enough to have sex easily.

After repeated rejections, you have also started arguing about this matter. The relationship is still short, so the questioner does not have a sense of security with her boyfriend and has not yet established a sense of security. It is normal not to easily surrender yourself to him because your relationship is still in the process of adjustment.

The boyfriend wants to have sex and keeps emotionally blackmailing her. She is torn between whether to continue being with him.

1. Men and women think and perceive differently.

As for whether or not to have sex in a relationship, the questioner and her boyfriend are both adults. If love is deep and mutual, there is nothing wrong with it. Men and women think differently. On the same issue, the questioner and her boyfriend have different ideas. It is not that they are unwilling to give themselves to each other, but that they haven't had enough time together. The questioner also feels that it is not yet the right time to take such a big step.

The questioner's boyfriend is convinced that only by having sex first can you get to know each other's soul. This is the opposite view from the questioner, because the concepts instilled by our parents during our growth process, the people we come into contact with, and the different knowledge we learn have created differences in our cognition. Therefore, the questioner is certain that he is right, and the boyfriend's insistence on his own ideas cannot be said to be wrong.

Second, love is respect, not demands.

The questioner repeatedly refused to have sex first, but the questioner's boyfriend did not give up. He tried to influence you with his ideas, wanting you to do what he wanted.

After you expressed your thoughts, you began to argue about this matter. It's clear that the questioner's boyfriend is more concerned about his own needs and does not respect the questioner's thoughts. He lets your interaction reach a certain stage from time to time, testing your attitude. His anger stems from the fact that you did not do what he expected, so he's testing you again to see if you'll compromise.

If he really loves you, he will respect your thoughts and stop trying to convince you. You can also decide whether you're suited to each other based on how you feel when you're together.

3. Follow your heart.

When you were with the other person, you initially said that you got along well and developed a favorable impression before confirming the relationship. In what way was the other person attractive to you? After you got together, did that favorable impression that attracted you still exist?

If that good impression disappears, it's because you thought he was better than you before you got to know him. Once you got to know him, you realized he's not what you imagined. This will affect the relationship as you continue to get to know each other. Apart from being afraid that he will force himself on you, is there any other reason why you don't really want to see him?

You don't want to continue facing the countless arguments and unresolved problems.

Take the time to think it over. Consider all aspects of the situation, including personality and character. Decide if the other person is worth investing in. Give yourself a definitive answer after careful consideration. I hope my answer will be helpful to the original poster. Best wishes.

Dear Question Asker,

As a psychological counselor and someone who has been in a similar situation, I advise the original poster (OP) that this relationship may be considered over and that this man may wish to consider ending it.

1. It has only been a month since the relationship was confirmed, and he is eager to engage in sexual intercourse with you. This could indicate that he is merely "hungry for your body," or it could suggest that he views you as a somewhat casual partner. Alternatively, it may imply that he prioritizes immediate gratification and does not fully respect your relationship. Even if the relationship progresses and you ultimately marry him, it is likely that his respect for you remains superficial.

It is possible that he may claim that the questioner's radiant charm is irresistible; however, it is more likely that he is simply seeking to achieve his desired outcome.

2. Despite gender differences in thought processes, men typically possess a sense of proportion when considering a prospective wife. Even if they are unable to control their urges, it is typically after the marriage certificate has been obtained but before the wedding ceremony. In general, men will not insist on sexual intercourse with a woman before discussing marriage. If he is so impatient, it also indicates that he is focused on the immediate gratification of sexual desire and lacks long-term commitment to the relationship.

3. Once this kind of eager boy gets what he wants, he will change his attitude towards the girl. Even if it is not a complete reversal, he will begin to exhibit negative, lazy, and casual behaviors. He may even begin to doubt the girl for no apparent reason. Given that the girl was able to have sex with him in such a short period of time, she could also have sex with other men. As a result, various modes of arguing and doubting are activated, and regardless of how well the girl performs, she is likely to be suspected.

4. Based on the topic starter's attitude toward sexual intercourse, it can be inferred that his views are starkly divergent from yours. It is possible to posit that your perspectives on premarital sexual activity are irreconcilable, even to the extent of characterizing them as incompatible worldviews. The strict upbringing you received from your parents has instilled in you a sense of self-worth and autonomy, which is commendable.

It can be reasonably assumed that if his upbringing had been equally strict, he would not have exhibited such impatience.

5. From his evident eagerness, it is reasonable to infer that his previous relationships were similarly characterized. Setting aside other considerations, it seems likely that he has had sexual intercourse at least once, which would explain his current enthusiasm. This suggests that he approaches relationships with a certain degree of casualness, prioritizing physical pleasure over spiritual matters.

6. When in a relationship, he is capable of disregarding the emotional needs of the female partner and even resorting to moral blackmail to achieve the goal of sexual intercourse. Following marriage, such a man will be even less inclined to consider the emotional needs of his wife, instead prioritizing his own desires. This can lead to marital conflict and, in some cases, divorce due to sexual incompatibility.

In conclusion, it is necessary to determine whether the questioner believes it is essential to maintain the current relationship with this individual.

If the relationship is merely romantic in nature, then it should be enjoyed. It is not morally justifiable to force the questioner into a relationship against her will. Apart from the fundamental issue, which should remain unaltered, the questioner is not as unkind as the character in the film "The Last Supper."

Should he desire to pursue more ambitious plans, it would be prudent for him to demonstrate greater respect for the wishes of the questioner.

If he is unable to fulfill the aforementioned two conditions, then the ostensibly conciliatory rhetoric he employs is merely a pretext for advancing his own objectives.

It is my conviction that the questioner will make the appropriate decision. The questioner is a commendable individual who adheres to her fundamental principles.

I extend my best wishes to you.