Why did my career take a wrong turn after listening to the advice of a beautiful woman?

Sea Rhyme Qingxin Analysis:

1. A lack of self-awareness, or self-reflection, leads to a tendency to be influenced by external factors. This is evidenced by the acceptance of the opinions of others, particularly the words of this woman, which demonstrates an openness to external input. While this is a positive quality, it is essential to discern which opinions are worthy of consideration and which are not. Selective listening allows for the consideration of opinions while filtering out those that are not constructive. However, in this case, the emphasis is on the physical beauty and gender of the individual, rather than on their opinions. This raises questions about the nature of the influence and the underlying motives behind it.

2. The experience of being controlled by emotions is an emotional phenomenon that arises from within the individual, rather than being caused by external factors. It may appear as though external influences, such as the words of another person, have caused this emotional state, but in reality, the underlying cause is an internal problem.

3. If one is disinclined to deviate from one's current course of action, it would be prudent to learn from past missteps. However, how might one improve one's capacity for discernment?

One must first gain an accurate self-perception before attempting to understand others. Those who are unable to perceive themselves accurately are similarly unable to perceive others accurately. Once an accurate self-perception is achieved, one can identify shortcomings and recognize the absence of a strong opinion. This allows for the improvement necessary to avoid problems.

If one is able to perceive oneself and others with clarity, one can discern the shortcomings of the former and the self-righteousness of the latter. Given the ability to perceive these traits, will one still engage in discourse? Will one still embark on numerous detours?

Hello!

I'm Lulu, the fat tiger!

You can call me Lulu!

Let's dive right in and look at your question!

You feel that listening to the words of beautiful women has caused your career to take a wrong turn, and you are really curious to know why.

Then you feel that you listened to the beautiful woman's words, your emotions were controlled, and then your career took a wrong turn. But don't worry! You'll get through this. Your answer to yourself is that you are too lustful and full of illusions about love!

And then, the two women are shortsighted!

Oh my goodness, you don't understand! You've been led astray!

After reading your content in general, I saw these things!

Let me tell you what I think! First of all, you are aware of it. You are lecherous and lustful towards women, and the women are short-sighted!

You listened to what they said, and it changed you!

Right?

First of all, if someone is aware of being lecherous, then they understand and are aware of it. In the past, you could say that young people are ignorant. But you say that girls are short-sighted, which is a great observation!

I think it's so important to be dating someone your own age. Were you young and naive?

So, they just know it?

Oh, but maybe they don't understand either!

And you got to hear them say it!

.

So, it's a two-way street!

Guess what! You weren't the only one who was young and ignorant. They were too!

As for the detour, it's a bit off-topic, but let's get back on track!

I can say this with confidence:

Oh, come on! Who hasn't done something wrong when they were young?

You haven't gone down the wrong path! You just need to stay on the right path in the future!

You understand and are aware of yourself, which is great!

If you listen to yourself, you should definitely break up! And if you break up, then you'll be able to change your lust and correct your outlook on life!

Then just don't take the wrong path next time!

I totally get it! I can understand you being lustful when you were young!

But don't you get it now?

Oh, wow!

Beauty is a wonderful distraction!

Absolutely! Work first!

I really hope you keep up the good work!

I'm Lulu, the fat tiger, and I'm so excited to answer your question!

Hello, question asker!

I saw your question on the platform and I totally get where you're coming from! You said you listened to the words of beautiful women and were confused and emotionally controlled. You even made a few wrong turns in your career. But don't worry, I can help you figure out what's wrong with you!

I'm going to give you a detailed analysis!

1. It's so great that you've become aware of your own problems! Your self-awareness has made you realize that you were too gullible before, that you didn't have much of an opinion of your own, and that you also exposed your problem of being lecherous. To be honest, your personality is still very direct, which is a good thing! Men actually like pretty women, and as the saying goes, "Everyone has a love of beauty."

2. You are now clearly aware of your own problems and can also tell the difference between good and bad in others. You say that they are actually very short-sighted and self-righteous, which shows that you have now grown up. Everyone has been young and ignorant at some point, but you're not one of them anymore! In the future, just try to be more careful not to be led astray.

3. My advice is to first make yourself strong and outstanding, until you are strong enough to deal with all kinds of problems in life. As for your career, you can make a great career plan and achieve amazing results in the areas you are good at. The most important thing is to be down-to-earth and realistic. No matter what you do, you should not be half-hearted or dishonest. You can do it!

4. First, achieve some results, and then it will naturally be difficult for others to lead you astray. You'll be confident and strong enough to have your own opinions and judgments about what others say! You'll be able to see through their games.

The words of beautiful women are not very credible, but that's not to say they're all like that! I'm talking about the type you meet, and most people of good character are not like that.

5. In the future, you will naturally be more discerning in your romantic relationships, and you'll no longer just be "attracted by the color of the eyes." You'll pay more attention to the character and values of the other person. And you'll find that only such a person will be of great help to your career, not someone who approaches you for a certain purpose and uses you. Do you think this is the case?

I really hope my answer helps! The world and I love you ♥

Hello!

It's not just about getting that lucky break to make your career take off. The most important thing is to understand who you are and what you want, so you can stay focused and do what you do best.

He listened to a beautiful woman and took a wrong turn in his career. It's a shame, isn't it?

A quick review of past experiences shows that the questioner's biggest feeling and regret about his past experiences is that "time was wasted that should not have been wasted." It's totally normal to feel this way! Now, let's explore the psychological trends of the past together. Can you firmly answer that at the time you had a very clear understanding of your goals and work aspirations?

If we're not super clear on what we want from our work, it can be tough to figure out what to focus on and what we can let go of. It's important to have a good grasp on your own plans and the reality of the situation to make the best choice for you right now.

And in the process of building his own business, the questioner's immature attitude towards relationships means that he cannot have a clear insight into his career and eliminate the adverse effects. As mentioned at the beginning, the success of a career is not only about personal luck, but also, most importantly, personal ability. Does he have a high ability to solve problems and can he understand the essence of the problem? So, the person most responsible for the problem is still oneself.

How can we get out of this emotional misunderstanding?

1. It's so important to have a healthy relationship with your emotions and your career.

It's tough to believe that this young guy can get the job done when he's so green and going through the typical growing pains of a new career. It's not that he lacks belief in himself, but rather that he's still learning and growing. We all have to start somewhere! He's got the ability to tackle the challenge if he can just find a way to break through the obstacles in his way.

It's so important to learn to distinguish between emotions and career. Once you can do that, you can start to see the differences between the two. Then you can start to develop healthy habits that can motivate yourself and help you to complete tasks. These might include getting up early, giving yourself time for reasonable planning, abandoning procrastination, and distinguishing between priorities. Once you've done that, you'll be able to truly recognize yourself and the resources you have. You'll also be able to implement plans with both feet on the ground. That's when you'll be able to truly realize the beautiful blueprint in your heart.

2. Learn more about your emotions and feel more confident in yourself.

It's so sad when relationships end in disappointment. If this is your normal state, it might be helpful to reflect on whether there's a misunderstanding in your views on relationships. At the beginning of a relationship, a person's appearance, temperament, and conversation style will give the opposite sex a very good impression. However, as the relationship deepens, whether the two people are compatible will depend on their personalities, their outlook on life, and their values. When problems have already begun to emerge, but you are still dwelling on your feelings, you might find it difficult to recognize the essential issues in the relationship. Then it will be challenging to hope that your relationship will have the desired outcome and enjoy a sweet love.

3. Let go of the past, my friend. Don't dwell on meaningless gains and losses.

If someone has walked a long way and realizes they have lost 200 yuan, they will be very upset and disappointed. But if they go back or take a taxi to look for it, they would be doing something silly, because the cost of going back to look is already greater than the value of the 200 yuan they lost. It can be hard to make a rational choice when we're feeling emotional.

When it comes to the past, it's important to remember that it's not necessarily a bad thing. It's something that happened because of circumstances beyond our control. We can't always control everything, and that's okay! We can learn from our mistakes and use them to grow. It's like they say, "knowing the law and breaking it." If we make the same mistake again, it might have a different outcome. So, let's learn from our past experiences and use them to make positive changes in our future.

Wishing you all the best!

Hello, I'm a heart coach. I'll listen to you.

You feel you've paid a high price for past wrongs and are full of remorse and regret. You're also angry at having listened to the beautiful woman, but most of all, you blame yourself.

Everything happens for a reason. Even bad things can have a positive side. In this case, you lost your career, money, and material things. But you still have your talent. That's your greatest asset for rising again.

You have also learned valuable lessons from this that will help you avoid making the same mistake again.

Everyone comes into our lives to teach us something.

Life is a practice. We enrich our experiences to become more complete. We achieve results in life.

Everyone comes into our lives to help us learn important lessons, and these women are no exception.

Find the lesson in your interactions with them and complete it. See why you keep listening to these women.

What needs were met? Vanity, admiration, and a sense of worth.

Could these needs be met in other ways?

2. "Don't cry over spilt milk" - self-blame and responsibility

Self-blame is when you blame yourself for your mistakes. It's focusing on the past and hating yourself for being bad at something.

Self-blame is when you can't accept what's happening. It's when you focus on what you think should be happening instead of what is. This makes you unhappy and uses up your energy. Many problems in life come from hating yourself.

Responsibility is self-attribution. I am the source of everything. What have I learned? How can I avoid similar things from happening again? What do I need to do to achieve the effect I want? Focus on the present or future.

While blaming yourself, you have been struggling with the responsibility of "those two beautiful women": short-sighted and self-righteous. Take responsibility. Once you choose to take more responsibility, life is a beautiful journey of self-discovery that will make you feel relaxed and happy.

Responsible is about taking back control of your life.

I hope this helps. I love you.

Click "Find a coach" to continue communicating. I will communicate and grow with you one-on-one.

Hello. I can see that you feel self-blame and remorse. You have not come to terms with past setbacks and negative emotions, and you are very remorseful. I understand you.

When we are young, we have not experienced the world, and we will make mistakes. You have listened to other people's words, lost yourself, been controlled by your emotions, and taken many detours in your career, causing you a lot of difficulties and great distress. At the same time, you have encountered a lot of trials and tribulations. You regret listening to other people's opinions because we have not yet formed our own thoughts and feelings and are very susceptible to external influences.

You believe that other people have brought you misfortune and that you have neglected your own responsibilities. This is wrong. Even if you go back in time now, every choice has its corresponding risks, and you are the only one who needs to bear the responsibility and consequences. You were young at the time and did not realize this. Even if you listened to your parents, you would still be the only one to bear the consequences.

You have to walk the path and experience it for yourself to know what's right and wrong.

Then you will grasp the present and the future.

You can't retrace your past steps. That's a fact. So, how do you go about making the right choices for yourself and your life in the future?

Read Frank Cadell's Rebuilding the Self. It will help you re-evaluate yourself and understand your needs.

You must learn to respect your own feelings, listen to your inner voice, and make decisions based on your own choices. You need to recognize who you are, what kind of life you want, and how to make the best choices for you.

You have suffered a lot because you were young and didn't know any better. From now on, you need to be more reasonable in dealing with your desires. Every day, you must persevere in cultivating your body, mind, and spirit. Strive to maintain a clear mind, manage your life, and re-evaluate yourself, your relationships with others, and your relationship with the world. Work hard to improve your maturity and wisdom. Do this so that you can live a more comfortable life in this world. My answer is helpful to you. You will succeed.

Hello, host. I hope my answer is helpful to you.

The host said that in previous years, he had listened to the advice of pretty women and let his emotions get the better of him, which caused his career to take a wrong turn for several years. Looking back on it, the host felt that those two pretty women were very shortsighted and self-righteous, and he, being young and ignorant, had been led astray.

So, you feel regret and remorse, right?

It's normal when we're young to be influenced by those around us. We'll listen to others' advice and make some choices. It's nothing to do with whether the other person is beautiful or not. We need to know that in the end, we make the choice. So why do we choose to believe them?

The original poster said that he listened to them because he was too lustful and full of romantic fantasies, right? But in fact, in love, we also have a choice. We can choose to listen to them, but in the end, we can make our own decisions after weighing the pros and cons, rather than having to listen to them completely.

A woman who truly loves you will not stop loving you just because you didn't listen to her. She'll respect your own choices. If she doesn't stay with you because you don't listen to her, is that emotional blackmail?

In a healthy relationship, you'll feel comfortable being yourself. True love is about supporting each other, not trying to control each other. When we do this, the relationship is genuine and long-lasting.

So, think about why you listened to them and why you were led astray. You said it was because you were young and didn't understand, and that's a good reflection. It's because of our cognitive limitations that we know so little, and we still need to grow in that area. So, to avoid this happening again, we need to constantly improve our level of awareness, learn more, and grow in the areas where we need to grow.

This means that when you're faced with the advice of a "pretty woman" again, you'll be more rational and better able to make your own choices.

I'd also like to mention that there's a reason why we're so drawn to pretty women and why we let our emotions get the better of us. They must have met certain needs you have, so you care about them a lot and want to gain their recognition and favor by listening to them. This is something you really need to be aware of. When you understand this, you'll know why you're like this and how to satisfy your needs in a better way, instead of always being "led" by pretty women.

This will help you take ownership of your emotions and actions.

We all have our own areas for growth. All failures and setbacks are opportunities to identify and address areas of ourselves that need improvement. When we can see the value in these experiences, they become a valuable source of learning and growth.

I hope this is helpful for you. Best wishes!