13-year-old girl, self-harming for two years, how to communicate with parents to see a psychologist?

Hello, child. Thank you for telling me your secret. I'm sorry for what you've been through.

Children are not innocent or carefree. They face the same pressures as adults.

Children going through puberty are somewhere between maturity and immaturity. It is normal for them to feel irritable, anxious, and depressed.

You said you started self-harming two years ago. I want to understand why you turned your aggression inward. How do you view your actions?

What were you thinking during the self-harm? Do your parents know?

Since last year, your heartache has affected your life. You're afraid to tell your parents.

You feel lonely and don't know who to turn to. I want to tell you, "It's normal to be sick."

It's not shameful to be sick. I can help you get better.

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If you can go to the hospital, go to the neurology department. Online assessments aren't as authoritative as hospital reports.

You've done well. Talk to your parents.

Hello, question asker.

The situation you're in now isn't great, and you know it. But your parents know you're self-harming but don't think it's a big deal, which means you can't get the help you need.

If you're going to be treated, you'll need your parents' support.

I'd like to share a few more insights about your situation. When you're overwhelmed with emotion, it can feel like you're out of control and unsure how to handle it. You may feel helpless and act on impulse, which can lead to self-harm.

I'm really sorry to hear you've been self-harming for two years. I hope you're able to find ways to cope with bad moods in the future that don't involve self-harm, like eating something you like, calling a close friend, or going out and shouting.

Your body is yours, and you should take care of it.

From what you've said, it seems like your emotions are tied to feelings of fear when meeting people, shaking hands, and insomnia. I'm not sure if this is a school or some other environment.

Insomnia shows that you're anxious, have a lot of worrying thoughts, and are uncertain about the situation and unable to deal with some situations and people. Is shaking your hand a reaction when you meet people?

If so, it means you feel afraid when you meet people, you feel uncomfortable, and you don't feel safe with this person. You are a little afraid of people.

What are you afraid of? It's important to be aware of this for yourself.

If I'm in a bad mood, it'll affect my grades. Once your grades start to slip, the pressure increases.

You're struggling to cope with the situation, testing your emotional state, and feeling like something's wrong.

Depression is a state of mind and a result. Something must have happened in your life. Think more about these events and encourage yourself.

These people are also human. They won't hurt you or hit or swear at people for no reason. You are safe, and so are they.

You can tell your parents:

Mom and Dad, I'm having trouble sleeping and feeling afraid, and my grades have dropped. I feel like something is wrong with me mentally.

Now there's talk of mental illness, and I feel like I have it. You take me to see a doctor. I can't adjust on my own.

I'm really struggling. I don't want this, but this is how I feel. I understand the reasoning, but I just can't adjust.

What if my grades keep going downhill? I don't want that.

I'm sure you don't want me to do poorly either. I'm having trouble learning now.

If you'd rather not go to the hospital, you can also ask about my situation on professional online platforms.

As you can see, I hurt myself when I'm in a bad mood.

Why not give this a try and see if your parents can take you to the hospital or arrange for you to see a counsellor?

Hello, child. I hope my answer helps.

When we realize we need counseling, we should talk to our parents.

This is because:

1. Parents may cause your illness. Many psychological problems start in childhood.

2. Parents are important in family therapy.

3. Parents can help you the most.

4. Your parents can help you recover more quickly.

5. Parents love you more and can help you heal.

Parents play a big part in their children's mental health. If they get support and understanding from their parents, they can recover more easily.

How do you tell your parents you want to go to counseling?

Your parents are conservative and don't know how to talk to you about your self-harm. Do you think they'll oppose you going to counseling?

Parents may not know about psychological counseling. You can explain what it is and why you need it. You should understand it yourself.

Psychological counseling is a process that uses psychology to help clients solve their psychological problems. It looks at the reasons behind these problems to understand them better and help clients change and grow.

Psychological counseling is for normal people. Normal people have normal intelligence and brain function.

If mental problems are caused by low intelligence or brain damage, go to the hospital's neurology department or mental health center. These require medication and medical treatment. However, for severe depression and other conditions, medication and psychological counseling are more effective.

What are the types of counseling?

1. Counseling can be divided into two types: developmental and health.

1. Counseling can be divided into two types: developmental and health.

Developmental counseling includes personal growth, career issues, and healing family trauma.

Health counseling includes emotional distress and interpersonal relationship difficulties.

Health counseling includes emotional distress and relationship difficulties.

2. Counseling can be individual or group.

3. The treatment schedule can be divided into short-term (1-3 weeks), medium-term (1-3 months), and long-term (more than 3 months).

3. Counseling can be short-term (1-3 weeks), medium-term (1-3 months), or long-term (more than 3 months).

4. Counseling psychology has four main orientations: psychoanalytic, behavioral, cognitive, and humanistic.

5. Counseling can be done in person, by phone, or online.

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If you can't convince your parents, go to the school counselor. They can assess you and give advice.

Talk to your parents in a calm, respectful way.

Communication is not about right and wrong. It's about getting things done.

Communication is about getting to know each other, understanding each other, and finding a solution that works for both of you.

To communicate non-violently, state the facts, express your feelings, express your needs, and ask for action.

Tell your parents you've been feeling low. You don't have the energy to do anything. You don't want to go to class, read, or play. You even hurt yourself to deal with your pain. You feel bad and uncomfortable. You need their support and care. You hope they'll take you to see a psychologist. Ask them to take you this weekend.

This kind of communication helps parents understand you better. If they are willing to express their feelings and needs, you can invite them to do so. This helps you understand each other better.

If you're afraid to speak, you can write a letter. They'll understand when they read it.

If your parents don't understand and you are really troubled, find someone in psychology to help you.

If you can, find other ways to release your emotions. Self-harm is not the best choice. You can use these ways to release your emotions:

If you can, find other ways to release your emotions. Self-harm is not the best choice. You can use these ways to release your emotions:

If you self-harm to escape pain, you can also use it to express your feelings and thoughts in writing. You don't have to worry about how it looks or what you say. You can also find someone to confide in and share your worries and stress.

If he self-harms to punish himself, he needs help to feel better about himself, to get positive feedback, and to say nice things to himself. He can also read books like "Accept Yourself: Transcend Your Inherent Weaknesses" and "Accept Your Imperfections" to help him feel better.

If self-harm is done to attract attention, you can find the person you want to connect with and express yourself honestly.

We need to express our needs to feel better.

If you harm yourself to release anger, you can also release it through exercise, stress balls, or the empty chair technique.

If you use self-harm to release anger, you can also release your emotions through exercise, stress balls, or talking to an empty chair.

When you find a way out of your distress, you start to heal.

When you find a way out of your distress, you start to heal.

Hello, young lady. I see you're confused. I hug you!

You have some behavioral problems. I hug you again.

I understand your concerns.

Many parents don't like the idea of their kids getting psychological counseling.

Don't rely on online tests to determine if you have depression.

If you've been depressed for at least two weeks, you can see the school psychologist. Her services are free.

If the school psychologist thinks you need help, she can invite your parents to a meeting.

For example, taking you to see a psychologist.

Many parents listen to school psychologists because they have authority.

If you can't talk to your parents, you can talk to the school psychologist. The psychologist can talk to your parents.

The above is a more polite way of doing things. What do you think?

I hope you find a solution soon.

These are all I can think of.

I hope my answers help and inspire you. I am the answer, and I study hard every day.

Yixinli loves you! Best wishes!