15 years old, anxious and irritable for the past two years, not knowing why she is living.

Everyone can help others by sharing their words.

Hello, sweetheart. I'm Coach Xinfan. I feel your loneliness and your longing for understanding. You long for someone to rely on and to be there for others when they need help and guidance, but you are alone when you need it.

Let me give you a hug. When the world closes a door, it also opens a window.

?1. You're kind and help others.

You said you don't have any good friends at school, but you can always offer advice to others. This shows that many people have already regarded you as their good friend. You are providing others with your unique value.

I remember when I was at school, my classmates liked to come to me to talk about their problems. I discovered that I could listen and empathize, so I decided to become a counselor. Being needed showed me my life goal and direction of effort, and helped me find my own value.

"Everything that happens must be helpful to me." You can find a positive side to even the worst things.

Let's look at how strict your parents are with you.

"Ability is directly proportional to responsibility." You are the eldest daughter in the family, so your parents will set you as a role model for the younger children. This means they will be strict with you.

All parents love their children, but they express it differently.

People say things they don't mean when they're angry. How can you take your father seriously when he's angry?

If he knows this hurt you, he'll regret it.

When you're unhappy or confused, look at the problem from a different perspective. Think about the sun, which rises every day. Our moods should be the same. No matter what happens, face each new day with happiness, sunshine, and optimism. You should already have all the good things in life.

You decide if you're happy. Nobody can take that away from you. Your value is in your own mind.

3. Learn to express your feelings.

You are 15 and in junior high. You have your own opinions and thoughts. Your parents see you as children who will never grow up. But they also need to grow up and need your help.

Talk to your parents like equals. Even though you're their child, you're also a person. Share your thoughts and feelings, and listen to theirs. Don't accuse or complain, and don't "direct expression."

The goal is to reach a consensus. Let them know you have grown up and want their respect, trust, understanding, and approval. Through communication, you can understand your parents' actions and intentions and meet each other's needs.

You can also keep a mood diary to understand yourself better.

You're not alone. You're exploring who you are while also needing more trust and respect from your teachers and parents.

Parents are new to this too. Give yourself and your parents a chance. Grow up together.

I hope this helps. I love you.

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