19-year-old girl, how have you been dealing with your controlling parents?

Hello, question owner.

From what you've said, it's clear that your parents' control has had a big impact on you. This kind of behaviour is a form of control, and it can make us feel overwhelmed and like we're always trying to do things their way, even when we don't want to. It's understandable that we develop this kind of mentality as a result.

For controlling parents, they'll be self-centered. Such parents also have a sense of fear in their hearts. They're afraid that their children's actions won't be implemented according to their wishes. They're afraid that they'll fall outside their control. This will trigger their fear, anxiety, and other negative emotions. At the same time, it can also be seen that your parents do not have a mature personality. They cannot control their emotions. This also seriously affects you. I can understand how you feel.

If your parents ask you to do something you don't want to do, you can say no. It's also important to understand your emotions, manage them, and not let negative emotions affect you. Even if they're your parents, you're not responsible for their emotions. So, take care of yourself, complete your studies, love yourself, study hard, improve your self-confidence, and become a person with self-respect, an independent personality, and the ability to grow and mature.

I hope this helps.

Hello! I'll give you a warm hug from afar first.

When you feel like your parents are making all the decisions for you, it can make you feel disrespected, misunderstood, and like you're not accepted. You might feel aggrieved, helpless, and powerless.

When your parents are being controlling, the best thing you can do is try to be brave and tell them how you really feel. Don't judge their words and actions, just tell them how you feel. At the same time, you need to understand that your parents are controlling you, accusing you, and denying you because they're frustrated at not being able to accept their inner selves and their powerlessness to change.

It's clear that your parents don't realize they have more control over you through their words and actions. You need to be aware of this and consciously break through their greater control. Try to follow your heart's desires and make independent choices and decisions for your life. This is a big challenge, especially when your parents feel that you're not being as determined by them as you used to be. This can make them feel panic, unease, and anger. They may try to create a sense of guilt in you by saying that they're doing this for your own good.

You can start listening to your inner voice in small things in life, like what color to wear, what time to go to bed, what arrangements to make for the weekend, ordering your favorite dishes, and so on. These are small things that your parents might not notice right away, so start sticking to your own choices and decisions and let your parents gradually adapt and accept them.

It's important to be aware of your own feelings of guilt, especially when your parents are upset because you've made up your mind. It's not your fault, and your parents need to deal with and face this emotion on their own. You're not responsible for your parents' emotions.

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