19-year-old girl, unable to let go after a breakup, why can't she forget her first love?

I am Gu Yi, and I maintain my usual modest and self-effacing demeanor.

Regret is a quality that imbues experiences with a certain aesthetic appeal.

People tend to anticipate perfection in life, hoping to attain their desired outcomes and envisioned scenarios. However, reality often deviates from these expectations. In such instances, individuals may discover valuable insights within their relationships, akin to their current circumstances. The experience of loss often gives rise to a multitude of thoughts, regrets, and longings.

Dear friend, the attraction between two people who get together is based on common interests and a certain degree of fate. You have been together for a while, and you have experienced a lot of good things together. That is why it is challenging for you to move on at this time. It is understandable to experience regret, but it is important to recognize that you have the opportunity to become a better version of yourself for the person who loves you more.

Your stance on romantic relationships is evident, and you have endeavored to the best of your abilities in this particular situation. Therefore, it would be prudent to temporarily set this relationship aside. It is not uncommon to crave love, and our continued anticipation of being loved stems from our enduring affection for life itself. As you progress, you will undoubtedly encounter a different landscape. You are still quite young, and the future is not yet predetermined.

The following section will present a series of techniques for improving one's emotional state.

It is important to love oneself, one's family, and one's friends with the love in one's heart. Many people believe that love is a kind of ability, but this is not the case. In truth, true love involves two abilities: the ability to love others and the ability to feel the love of others. One can use this as a mirror to identify which of these abilities one lacks.

This is the dynamic interplay of love.

Currently, I am experiencing a certain degree of emotional distress, and my friend has observed that I am not as positive as I once was, which is understandable. As humans, we must accept the natural ebb and flow of our emotions. Regardless of the circumstances surrounding our separation, we were at least happy together during that period, and the sadness we feel now serves as a form of remembrance of that happiness. It is simply a normal process of emotional release.

❀Prior to the dissolution of the relationship, the couple had invested a considerable amount of time together. Consequently, the breakup has resulted in a notable disruption to their respective lives. It is therefore recommended that they resume their independent lives, organise their days in a structured manner and engage in activities that will enrich their spiritual world. This approach will facilitate the alleviation of the sadness that they are currently experiencing.

Sincerely,

Hello, host, I can see your description and understand your pain. As people who have been there, even the meaning of life in our first love is always to fantasize about being together forever, but reality constantly shows us that this isn't the case. I hope my sharing can help you...

First love is the most unforgettable thing about love. Someone once joked that only by experiencing first love can you become more mature. This shows that first love is a turning point in life, and the original poster has been deeply involved in it and unable to come out of the turning point.

You need to move on and let go.

Let's take a look at how this first love is affecting you.

The reason you can't move on is because you can't stop thinking about all the moments you were in love. In other words, you can't stop thinking about him. He's become a habit in your life.

It's also for various reasons that after your breakup, it may be that seeing certain events or objects that remind you of him, or remembering all the little things you did together, touches you and makes you feel sentimental. That's why you can't let go of these thoughts.

Since it was your first love, you assumed it would last forever and never considered what you would do if it didn't.

So when the breakup happened, you hadn't really thought about how to deal with it, which made it difficult to move on.

As you mentioned in the article, finding love is what life is all about.

What is love? It's a tough question. What is considered love? Everyone has their own idea of what love is and how it's expressed.

It's not possible to make a generalisation, but you can certainly feel your own happiness and joy. Whether it's warm or cold, you need to experience it through every day's interactions, every conversation, and the friction of every little thing.

The beautiful things we can remember are the details of love. They're the pieces that make up the story of our lives. This is love.

Since it's already happened, we should just move on. Since the two sides aren't compatible, there's no need to dwell on one thing and make ourselves miserable.

There's a saying that if the one you love doesn't love you back, you should love yourself even more.

You need to have the courage to face loss. "I know the worst that can happen is that we part ways, but I'm not afraid to grow up alone."

In today's world, where marriage isn't seen as sacred, we need to be brave enough to face risks head-on. In the world of love, mutual respect is a great way to end things, and parting amicably also leaves each other with dignity at the end.

I hope you can come out of this and not lose sight of the bigger picture.

I'd also like to share this quote with you: "If you shed a tear when you miss the sun, then you will also miss the stars."

This ending is a gift to you for the best beginning!

Hello there!

I'm a mindfulness coach, and I believe that learning is the treasure of the body.

From what you've told me, I can really feel how you're struggling with so many different feelings. It's totally normal to feel doubt, confusion, sadness, unhappiness, pain and a sense of being overwhelmed.

I know it can be tough to let go of a breakup, and I'm here to support you. I've got three pieces of advice that I think you'll find helpful:

First, I suggest you try to understand yourself and give yourself a little comfort.

I know it might sound a little strange, but I really think that if you do this, it'll make your heart feel a little bit lighter. And that'll help you think about what you need to do next.

You say that you are a 19-year-old girl going to college, and that you and an 18-year-old boy wanted to love each other forever. It's so sad that you were unable to let go after being broken up with, which made you lose your passion for life. You are now depressed and can't figure out why you are like this. I can understand why you think about love every day. It's a basic need of human beings to love and be loved. Moreover, the love in a relationship is different from the love your parents have for you. You have given your all to this relationship, imagined the good things, and naturally feel sad and unable to let go after losing it. I know you don't want to lose the good things, so I'm here to help you understand and comfort yourself. I'll help you "see" the painful you who can't forget your ex after the breakup. This will give you extra mental energy to think about other things, otherwise your mind will be filled with all kinds of negative emotions.

I really believe that if you allow yourself to understand and accept yourself, you'll be able to make positive changes in your life. I know it might sound a bit strange, but I truly think that change is all about embracing the present and not worrying about what's to come.

Secondly, I would like to suggest that you take a moment to view your own state in a rational way.

Rational thinking can really help you understand yourself and reality better.

I know it can be tough, but to rationalize, you just need to do the following two things:

First, remember that you don't have to forget your ex after a breakup.

You don't have to "definitely" let him go, sweetheart. He's been a part of your life, and the relationship you had together has left a mark. You can't completely cut it off and forget it, so if you can't forget him, just remember him.

This is how our wonderful human brains work! The more we fight against it, the less we can do it. Once we "allow" ourselves to forget, we may actually forget him slowly over time.

It's so important to remember that you can't let this incident affect your normal, everyday life too much.

Second, remember that you can change the status quo if you put your mind to it.

When you put your mind to it and take the initiative, you'll find that your outlook naturally shifts. Believe in yourself, my friend!

When you look at it rationally like this, you might find that all those negative emotions in your heart start to melt away.

I really think you should focus on yourself and believe that doing something can make you feel better.

For example, you can give yourself some time, because sometimes time is the best healing medicine. During this time, you can have a good chat with a friend you trust. This in itself will make you feel better, because once negative emotions start to flow, they have a healing effect. Moreover, your friend may also give you some advice, which will also make you feel better because you have their support and understanding.

You can also look back on this relationship and see what good lessons you can learn from it. This kind of positive summary will also help you look at this matter from a different perspective and feel better. Plus, you've grown from it, which is great for your future love affairs!

You can also take a little time for yourself when you're feeling down. Go for a walk, get in touch with nature, exercise, listen to soothing music, or do whatever helps you feel better.

You can also tell yourself, "It's totally normal to long for love and to want to be loved. You are unique and good enough, and you are worthy of love." When you repeat this to yourself a few times, it will also make you feel better. In short, you need to know that you can do something to improve the situation.

I know it can be tough, but when you start to take action, the various negative emotions in your heart will naturally be slowly resolved. I promise you, sometimes the enemy of various negative emotions is action!

I really hope my answer helps you! If you'd like to chat some more, just click on 'Find a coach to interpret – online conversation' at the bottom and I'll be happy to have a one-to-one conversation with you.

Hello, girl who just broke up. I'm sorry your relationship didn't last. I'm sure you're suffering.

The article doesn't say how long you've been broken up. You seem eager to get over this painful experience, but the more anxious you are, the worse it gets.

Breaking up is painful, especially for first loves.

It's normal to feel unable to let go and depressed after a breakup. Even if the breakup was due to conflicts or a decision made after rational consideration, it's still painful.

Give yourself time. If you're in pain, cry or feel sad. Think about your first love.

You don't have to forget. They are beautiful memories, so keep them in your heart. When you grow older, they will still be there.

Regulate your emotions and distract yourself after a breakup.

The short period after a breakup is emotional. No matter who initiated it, both people will be sad.

Not being interested in anything, longing to find love, and feeling like you'll never find love again are normal reactions during a period of emotional out-of-control. You want to win back the other person, negate yourself, and think about the relationship all day long.

If you dwell on painful emotions and irrational thoughts, you'll feel worse. Try to distract yourself with something you enjoy, talk to friends, or give yourself time to feel better.

After a breakup, use the time to reflect and prepare for the next relationship.

Every relationship helps you understand yourself better. After the pain has passed, think about why the relationship ended.

What are the problems with both people and the relationship? The end of a relationship is not just one person's problem.

Maybe you just make bad choices. Next time, you can avoid being with similar people.

Maybe you communicate poorly. Try a better way next time.

Maybe you want love too much and expect the other person to prove their love for you. Next time, be more confident.

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Your heartache will subside. The next beautiful love is waiting for you!

Thank you for the invitation! I'm delighted to be back on Yixinli. I took some time to rest while recovering from an illness, and I'm back to connect with old and new friends.

The ages of 18 and 19 are the prime of youth, when physical development is basically mature. It is normal to like the opposite sex, to long for and fantasize about a happy love. This is a process that everyone faces and experiences at this stage, and it is also a journey that must be taken for growth and development.

Young men and women new to love expect their relationships to go smoothly. They want to meet someone nice, someone who is romantic and respectful, and who will meet all their demands. They imagine this will last forever. This is a common scenario, but it's important to remember that nobody goes into a relationship with the intention of breaking up. Everyone hopes the relationship will develop as they want it to, but expectations are just that – expectations. It all depends on reality.

The questioner desires love, which means they lack love within themselves. This lack causes them to desire love. They must go within and become aware of what this love they desire contains. Is it the love between a man and a woman in the present, or is it the love between a parent and a child from their past experiences? By deeply perceiving the nature and components of this love, they will be able to clearly recognize the nature of the love they desire.

After the topic master broke up with the object, he was unable to move on. It's clear that he didn't understand why the two of them had such strong feelings for each other and wanted to be together forever. However, there was no way to continue, and they had to break up. This is why it's crucial for the topic master to be aware of the deep emotional needs involved. Once you're aware of these needs and compare them to your interactions with the object, you'll be able to identify the problem.

For example, if the questioner wants to eat an apple but the other person gives them an orange, the questioner may feel that the other person doesn't love them. This is because they didn't give them what they wanted, and they become angry and upset as a result. But for the other person, there are only oranges and no apples. At this time, the orange is their love, and giving the questioner an orange is also their love for the questioner. The other person may feel that if they don't love the questioner, they won't even give them an orange. This may result in the questioner developing some negative beliefs and ideas that affect the development of their relationship. This is because the other person gave them something they didn't want. The other person may still be confused, not knowing what happened and why the questioner is angry and upset.

This may be acceptable to the object once, but after two or three times, it will get very annoyed and can't stand it anymore. It will distance itself from the questioner.

I believe the questioner should first identify their deep emotional feelings and needs, then reflect on their experiences in getting along with the other person to identify any misunderstandings. Once these are identified, they can be resolved. Once the problem is solved, the questioner will know what they want and it will be easier and more enjoyable to walk the path of love.

From your description, it appears that you are experiencing depressive symptoms, including a persistent belief that you will never find love again and a loss of interest in activities that were previously enjoyable. This is a common emotional response to a romantic breakup.

Individuals aged 19 years old often have strong illusions about love, believing that if they fall in love, their partners will remain in their lives indefinitely. However, the reality is often starkly different. Couples may end their relationships for a multitude of reasons.

The reason for the inability to move forward is as follows:

First, the idealization has been shattered, and the pain associated with this idealization is unbearable.

Secondly, the object of one's complete devotion has departed, resulting in an acute sense of loss that one is unable to confront.

Third, the individual experiences a longing for love and perceives the search for love as the purpose of their existence. This purpose was previously achieved, but subsequently lost. This process can be conceptualised as a state of being initially filled up, followed by a subsequent emptying out. This process is inherently challenging.

First, it is essential to gain a comprehensive understanding of oneself, provide oneself with unwavering support, and refrain from self-attack. It is a natural human tendency to crave love and to contemplate love on a daily basis.

Secondly, it is important to acknowledge and allow the emotions and feelings to emerge from within.

Ultimately, one must engage in ritualization, complete mourning, and accept the loss.

Should the aforementioned circumstances prove challenging to navigate, it is recommended to seek the guidance of a qualified counselor.

I extend my sincerest wishes for your well-being.

Hello. I can see that you are very young. It seems that after a relationship ended in a breakup, you are having a difficult time accepting the result. You were the one who was dumped, and you have sought a reconciliation with the other party, but it seems that you have been rejected. It's understandable that you feel deeply abandoned and in pain. It's not always easy to know what to do in these situations. I understand you very much, and I'm here to support you in any way I can.

I can relate to your experience. I also fell in love for the first time at the age of 19. At that age, we didn't really understand what love was. Love at that age was just a kind of one-sided fondness and liking, not yet the full-fledged love we all hope for.

Love is a combination of intimacy, commitment, and passion. At the age of 19, our understanding of love is still evolving. We may feel happy and joyful when we are together, but that is just a kind of liking, and it has not yet developed into love.

Secondly, I believe that your negative emotions may be a result of a broken heart. It seems that you have gone from being cheerful and lively to being depressed and listless, which could be a kind of "stress response".

It is not uncommon to experience a range of emotional reactions to psychological stress, including anxiety, depression, anger, and fear. Among these, anxiety is the most prevalent. In terms of behavioral stress responses, these may manifest as compliance, ingratiation, and dependence. With regard to cognitive stress responses, these can be observed as a decline in self-awareness, confused thinking, hypersensitivity, and verbal retardation.

If you are experiencing feelings of depression with low mood and reduced interest, it might be helpful to visit a psychiatric department at a hospital to speak with a doctor. You may also find it beneficial to take the SDS "Depression Scale" to gain insight into your current state and the extent to which you are affected. Even if you are experiencing symptoms of depression, there is hope for recovery. Seeking treatment at an early stage can facilitate a faster recovery.

3. Your perception of love. You say that because you have always held absolutely beautiful fantasies about love, you think that as long as you fall in love, there will definitely be a very happy ending. However, the result is not what you wanted, so you have been hurt and damaged, and you feel that things are not going well.

It might be helpful to consider whether your perceptions of love have been influenced by what you have seen in novels, fairy tales, TV, and movies. You can become self-aware and see how your perceptions of love have developed.

The theoretical basis of psychological "cognitive behavioral therapy" is that specific events can influence our cognitive beliefs, which in turn can lead to corresponding behavioral and emotional responses.

Many people have experienced heartbreak, and it's understandable that you might have formed beliefs based on that experience. It's possible that you've come to believe that "a relationship must be successful, not fail, and I cannot be broken up with, otherwise I am bad." These beliefs might be influencing your emotions in ways that aren't helpful.

I believe that seeking the guidance of a marriage and family counselor could be beneficial in helping you to re-examine your perception of love and of yourself, and to find a way out of this challenging situation. I am confident that you have the strength to return to your original cheerful and lively self. I wish you the best of luck!

It is my intention to provide comfort to the OP from a distance.

The questioner's description:

I am a 19-year-old university student with a penchant for romantic fantasies. When I fall in love, I do so with the intention of making it a lifelong commitment.

As a result, I was unable to move on from the breakup and became overly invested in the situation.

I have experienced a sudden loss of interest, and my colleagues have noted a shift in my mood from cheerful and optimistic to depressed.

However, I am strongly motivated to find love, which I believe is the meaning of life.

However, I am grateful for my parents' support, and I am unsure why I am preoccupied with romantic thoughts on a daily basis.

To the questioner:

The questioner's confusion stems from the fact that, despite having never lacked love, they consistently seek to find it.

It is possible that the model of your parents' marriage has instilled in you a desire for a fulfilling life.

Given that your parents have a harmonious relationship and a happy marriage, you have assumed that your own romantic relationship should be similarly structured.

You encounter an individual with whom you decide to spend the remainder of your life.

However, the reality is starkly different from the questioner's expectations. In fact, he has been dealt a significant setback.

It is acknowledged that this may be challenging to accept, and there may be a perception that it should not be this way. It is recognised that this may differ from your inner beliefs.

It is possible that the questioner's thoughts are not fantasies, given that they have a living example by their side in the form of their parents.

Your parents have established an exemplary model for romantic relationships, and you may believe that your ideal relationship will mirror theirs.

I must also inform the OP that no relationship can last a lifetime.

In any context, whether familial, romantic, or otherwise, the only enduring relationship is the one you have with yourself.

Each individual possesses unique characteristics and is compatible with the other person's lifestyle.

It is unavoidable that you will face numerous challenges, which must be addressed and resolved.

We may gain insight into our own experiences by discussing how our parents met.

What kind of experience did they have? There may be a discrepancy between what is observed on the surface and the reality.

It is my hope that the individual in question will emerge from this challenging period as soon as possible.

Hello,

I'm Zeng Chen, a heart exploration coach. I've read your post and I can tell you're feeling pretty down. I also get the sense that you're looking for a way to move on from your ex.

My name is Zeng Chen, and I'm a heart exploration coach. I've read your post, and I can tell you're feeling sad.

I also noticed that the poster has been open about his own struggles and actively sought help on the platform, which will undoubtedly help him better understand and recognize himself, and thus adjust himself.

Next, I'll share some observations and thoughts that might help the poster see things from a different angle.

1. Sometimes, the more we try to forget, the more we can't.

As the post notes, it's tough to move on from a breakup. I think a lot of people feel this way after a relationship ends.

I'd also like to know what made you want to forget your ex. Some people break up because it's too painful and they can't bear it.

So they think about forgetting, and maybe it won't be painful. And some people want to forget and start a new life.

Everyone's different, so the original poster might want to ask himself what he wants to forget about his ex. Sometimes the more we try to forget, the more we can't.

The thing is, every time we try to forget, our brain actually makes it more real.

It's a bit like insomnia: the more you want to sleep, the less you can. So sometimes letting go may be a better option than forgetting.

So, what is letting go? It's still there, but it doesn't affect you anymore.

2. Give yourself permission to feel whatever you're feeling.

There's a psychological term for this process: grief. It basically means that we'll feel sad whenever we lose something.

If we let ourselves feel the pain, it means we accept the loss. And it takes time for the pain to flow through us. After a while, we'll be able to move on.

This theory suggests that we should try to allow ourselves to feel pain and let our painful emotions flow. It often happens that we repress our emotions and don't allow them to be expressed and flow, which means they remain blocked and affect us all the time.

So, allowing painful emotions to exist and letting them flow might be a better way to let go.

3. Look into why you're having trouble letting go.

In the post, the host said he's been struggling to let go. He can't seem to move on from his ex.

If you feel like you can't find someone to love and you're longing for love yourself, I think you've probably also thought about why you've been unable to let go.

Maybe we can talk about this some more. So, what exactly are we struggling to let go of?

Some people just can't let go after a breakup, not because of the person.

But the love she once gave. Some people can't let go not because of the person, but because of our own needs.

How do you see this? It means that he used to meet our needs, but now that we've broken up, no one else is meeting our needs.

This means that you miss the time when he met your needs. I have noticed that the original poster said that you long for love.

Could it be that he just happened to satisfy this longing of ours, which is why we miss him? This is something the original poster might want to think about.

And we also look for love in relationships because we often feel like we've been unloved and want to make up for it.

4. Try to refocus on yourself.

We find our own needs in this relationship, so how can we meet them? There are often three ways.

One is to let others meet our needs. The other is that if this person can't meet our needs, we'll find someone else who can. The third is to meet our own needs.

For the first two, it's because other people are meeting our needs, and other people are, to some extent, out of our control. So, when other people can't meet our needs at this time, we can also learn to meet our own needs.

And give yourself some love. If our needs are met, we may be able to let go more easily.

So, the host might want to focus on themselves, learn to love themselves, and satisfy themselves. It's important to understand that love is something you can learn. If the host is interested, they can read "The Art of Love."

I hope these are helpful to you.

From your description of the situation, it is evident that you wish to terminate the relationship and move on from the emotional distress caused by the failed romance as soon as possible.

It is a common experience to find it difficult to move on from one's first love. However, as individuals mature and learn to manage their emotions and plan for the future, their outlook on life can change significantly.

Let us now address the underlying causes of your issue and provide a solution that will help you move forward from this challenging period through the use of psychological counseling.

Firstly, it is important to understand that forgetting actually strengthens memory.

It is a common misconception that attempting to forget something will result in it being forgotten. Similarly, it is often believed that trying to forget someone will result in them being forgotten. In fact, this phenomenon can be easily understood. When attempting to forget someone, the individual will inevitably think of them again.

In other words, attempting to forget someone reinforces the impression they have left on your memory. This is the fundamental reason why the more you try to forget, the more you can't. You have unknowingly fallen into the trap of strengthening your memory.

If you wish to forget someone, it is not necessary to dwell on the matter. Instead, engage in activities that are more meaningful to you. For example, cultivate your own interests and hobbies.

It is also beneficial to enhance your professional abilities. This could be as simple as enjoying a meal with colleagues or shopping for new attire.

When you begin to redirect your attention and concentrate on other pursuits, you will discover that you can forget more rapidly than you previously believed.

2. Avoid the trap of self-psychological suggestion.

From your written words, it is evident that you, like many individuals, have fallen into a peculiar cycle of self-psychological suggestion. People tend to believe that their first love is a particular individual, that they love him immensely, and that they will never find someone like him in the future.

It is important to remember that the future is full of infinite possibilities. It is possible that your next partner may be a better fit for you than your current one, and that your relationship will be even more successful as a result. Even if you never find someone who is an exact match for him,

However, it is inevitable that individuals with both positive and negative attributes will emerge. This is simply the nature of life and an opportunity to learn and grow.

It is possible that when you are older, you may still consider this person to be your most significant other. However, this does not necessarily have to be the case. Even if you lose the person who is the best for you and the one you love most, it does not mean that you cannot have an equally happy life.

Furthermore, cohabitation may not necessarily result in the anticipated level of satisfaction. Otherwise, there would be no reason for the separation.

As the adage goes, "You failed to achieve it because you didn't try, so you failed to achieve it."

In "The Red Rose and the White Rose," Eileen Chang posits that every man has likely experienced relationships with two distinct types of women. One such woman, the red rose, may initially appear vibrant but eventually fades, leaving a mere memory. In contrast, the white rose, the other archetype, retains its beauty and significance over time.

This passage effectively illustrates a key insight into the human approach to emotional challenges.

It is important to recognize that your perception of him as the best person for you and the belief that you will never find love again if you leave him may not be entirely accurate. It is helpful to view your situation as a landscape, where different views and perspectives are possible.

Every location offers a unique perspective. It is essential to recognize and appreciate the current view while moving forward, rather than dwelling on past experiences that may hinder progress.

3. Cultivate an optimistic outlook on the future.

Hope is a reliable source of positive emotions. A clear vision of the future can significantly enhance the meaning and value of one's current circumstances.

It is therefore advisable to avoid dwelling on the past and to focus on the future. It is reasonable to expect that you will meet a more suitable person.

First, you must learn to summarize. Analyze your own experience through the lens of this relationship.

What were the shortcomings of the relationship? What were the positive aspects?

What are the factors that contribute to your unhappiness? What are the positive attributes of your partner that you find appealing?

What are the disadvantages you are unable to accept? The experience gained from this relationship is what you have summarized.

When selecting a prospective spouse, it is advisable to base your decision on experience. This approach will facilitate the identification of a more suitable candidate.

Furthermore, a more suitable partner will significantly enhance the probability of a successful relationship transitioning to marriage, while also fostering a more positive and fulfilling married life.

Naturally, as you adopt an optimistic outlook for the future, you should also focus on self-improvement. Consequently, in analysing the previous relationship, you should also identify your areas for development and your strengths.

It is important to address shortcomings and capitalize on strengths in order to become a more mature and attractive individual following the dissolution of a relationship.

At this point, you should be aware of the necessary steps to take.

Please indicate whether you still experience discomfort as a result of past events.

Now, do you have confidence in your future prospects?

In short, you require an individual who comprehends your needs, holds affection for you, and is available to provide assistance. Furthermore, you desire to proceed with marriage. Is this individual the optimal choice?

If the answer is yes, then prepare, plan, and strive to win him back. If the answer is no, then why persist in that misguided past?

The root cause of your concerns is ambiguity, not inability to move on. I am confident that embarking on a new venture will yield positive outcomes.

Take care, and I'm here for you!

I can relate to the feeling of being stuck in a relationship. First love is unforgettable, especially when you're asking what the world is made of.

It's not easy to forget someone you've just broken up with. It's normal to feel sad about it. You can take as long as you need to grieve, but don't get too deep into it. Learn to adjust your state of mind in moderation and believe that everything will be fine.

So, how do you get back on your feet and become the cheerful, optimistic person you once were?

1. Accept that the relationship has ended.

It's important to remember that crying over spilled milk is pointless. We feel pain because we're reluctant to accept the facts of the situation.

It doesn't matter if your boyfriend has changed his mind or if he doesn't like you anymore. Either way, it's over.

Holding on to pain won't change anything. You're the only one who suffers.

First, accept the situation as it is. It might take a while to come to terms with reality, but I hope it won't be too long.

2. Take a break and focus on self-improvement.

On top of love, we've got family ties, friendships, studies, and future careers.

A happy life isn't just about love. If you know exactly what you want,

You'll be able to focus on getting what you want and naturally, you'll get a corresponding reward after putting in the effort.

I can focus on my studies and also read outside of school to keep my mind fresh.

You can work out every day to keep your body healthy and your mind confident.

You can also find three or five good friends to enjoy some quality time with.

3. It's important to learn to love yourself before loving others.

Love yourself before loving others, so that if others love me, I'll be happy to accept it.

If others don't love me, I can still love myself. That way, I won't be affected by gains and losses, and I'll be able to stand firm.

If you love yourself, you'll become stronger.

Treat yourself right and make yourself happy.

Love yourself and don't let anyone take advantage of you.

Do you think you love yourself enough?

I wish you a happy life!

I'm sending you warm thoughts for June, and I hope you feel the love!