28 years old, my husband is too rational in front of me, I feel that he doesn't love me?

Hello! I'm thrilled to see that you've asked for help. I'm excited to share with you and support you in any way I can!

From your entire description, it is clear that your husband does not love you less, but that you find the way he expresses his love for you unacceptable. You long for verbal expressions of love from him, but you have not tried to bravely and sincerely tell your husband directly how you long to be loved. This is an excellent opportunity for you to express your needs and desires! Part of the reason why you choose to suppress and hide your true feelings and needs is because you think that if your husband really loves you, he will understand how you need to be loved. This is a great chance for you to show your husband how much you love and appreciate him! The second reason is your internal inferiority complex, lack of self-confidence, and lack of acceptance of yourself. This is something you can work on! You are not consciously aware of this part of yourself, so you unconsciously project this part of your emotions of not accepting yourself onto the people around you, thinking that the people around you will not accept such a self. This is something you can change!

So, focus on yourself! Reflect on how you treat yourself. Do you accept yourself completely from the inside out, believing you are good enough and deserve to be treated well by yourself and others?

Once you can fully accept yourself from the inside out and firmly believe that you are good enough, you'll never worry in a relationship about whether you'll be unloved again! And when you feel that the way others treat you is unacceptable, you'll also try to bravely and honestly express your true feelings and needs. That is, you'll tell them how you long to be treated! What do you think?

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It is important to be grateful for the opportunity to interact and connect with others.

The love triangle theory identifies three components of love: passion, intimacy, and commitment. Different combinations of these components give rise to different forms of expression.

It is, however, incontestable that they are both manifestations of love.

Based on the aforementioned narrative, it can be inferred that the questioner's primary desire is a committed love, with a secondary but still significant longing for passionate love. It is possible that the questioner is seeking a greater degree of passion in their intimate relationship. While there may be instances of physical intimacy, there seems to be a lack of emotional intimacy. For instance, the questioner mentioned that their partner will buy them whatever they want.

Firstly, the questioner should endeavour to articulate their needs. This entails communicating their emotions, engaging in discourse, and receiving expressions of affection. The act of expressing one's needs facilitates the possibility of the other person meeting those needs.

Otherwise, the other person may be unaware of our needs. This is analogous to the case of "What do I want to buy?" where the other person is given the opportunity to "buy it for me."

Secondly, it is possible that the expressed needs will not be met. This may be due to a lack of ability on the part of the other person or an unwillingness to meet those needs.

Based on the questioner's narrative, it is probable that this is the first scenario. In particular, within our culture, men are expected to "achieve great things" and are not expected to be "understanding." Additionally, they are not encouraged to express their emotions in the same manner as women do during their developmental stages.

Therefore, after the questioner has articulated their needs, they may also be required to engage in a joint endeavour with their husband, which may result in feelings of disappointment and frustration on the husband's part when he is unable to fulfil the desired outcome. However, should the husband demonstrate a willingness to learn, it is still necessary for the two parties to collaborate in order to address this need.

It is also crucial to acknowledge that the process is reciprocal. Love is a two-way street.

If Mr. is unable to comply, I apologize. In that case, perhaps the questioner could demonstrate first. Expressed love is flowing, relaxed, and sweet; therefore, it is important to avoid transforming it into a task or a pressure.

It is my sincere hope that this information will prove beneficial. Sincerely,

Hi, I'm Mei Mei. I hope my sharing helps you.

1. You feel your life with your husband is dull and that he doesn't love you. You avoid talking about love. I also want to share my experience. My husband and I have been married for 6 years. In the second year, I felt he didn't love me. At that time, I was pregnant and sensitive. I would ask, "Do you love me?" He would say, "Of course I love you." He would say, "Boys don't express their love." At that time, I realized boys are unwilling or embarrassed to express their love.

I will tell my unborn child that both my husband and I love him. I will also tell him that I love him when he is born. I will tell him again and again until he learns to express his love for our child.

You want your husband to express his love because you want to be affirmed and know you are worthy of love. Learn to accept yourself and think of yourself as good.

2. Your husband is busy and doesn't have time to communicate. Discuss this and set aside half an hour a week to talk. Tell him your thoughts or use the written word to tell him about your experiences and thoughts.

3. You mentioned your husband's ex-girlfriend. Do you think he still cares about her? He loves you and will buy you whatever you want. He shows his love through his actions.

4.?You said that your husband is too sensible to be with you. You want the joy of life and romantic surprises. This is what every girl wants. As the saying goes, "He who suffers changes, and he who changes benefits." Let's start with ourselves. You can arrange a romantic dinner or movie on the weekend, and slowly influence him. I believe that when your husband sees your change, he will also take action.

I hope this helps. Well done!