A 15-year-old boy, this year on vacation, I found he got along quite well with a male classmate?

As a junior high school teacher, I interact with children of this age daily, and I can confidently say that I understand the issues you're facing. Refer to my insights if you'd like.

Children often call each other by various endearing names, such as "wife," "baby," "darling," "husband," "little baby," and so on. This is a fun way for children to learn and build good relationships.

You don't need to be anxious about this.

Children at this age seek excitement and discuss topics that no one else has ever talked about. They want to show that they are different from everyone else, and they want to feel good about themselves and be attractive to others.

Children at this age are not set in their ways, so don't deliberately emphasize or repeat the problem you suspect to reinforce it. You need to accept that a rebellious attitude will make him go against your expectations.

Stay positive and open-minded and accept your child. If your child is really troubled by the issue of homosexuality, you will want to help him. Only the child himself can know what he is thinking and whether he is troubled.

If the child denies it, believe the child. There's no need to worry unnecessarily or make casual definitions without a firm factual basis.

I wish you and your child happiness!

Hello. I'm just a respondent, so I don't claim to be an expert. I'll just share my own opinion.

I understand that you may be feeling a range of emotions right now, including worry and fear. It's natural to have these feelings when you're facing a situation you're not entirely sure about. I can sense that you're concerned about your child's sexual orientation and that you might have other concerns as well. It's understandable to feel afraid of being judged or criticized by others, and it's also common to experience self-blame or even blame your child. This can happen when we don't fully understand our children or when our own beliefs and biases influence our perception of them.

It is important to remember that a 15-year-old boy is at a critical moment of puberty, when he is forming independent values and needs to integrate into the group.

It may be the case that the child is simply curious.

1. It may be helpful to believe your child. It's possible that your child is simply curious and may not yet fully understand the concept of homosexuality. It's likely that your child just wants to be accepted by his peers and to feel included.

It would be beneficial for them to play with them.

In this case, it would be beneficial to spend more time with your child. It is important to avoid rejecting your child, but rather explore this together with him and provide guidance on relevant knowledge. Allowing your child to communicate with you frankly without judgment is also crucial.

I believe this is the best way to get an accurate understanding of your child's thoughts on the matter.

It is possible that this is, in fact, a case of homosexuality.

1. Acceptance. It may be helpful to accept this as a reality and allow it to exist.

I know this is challenging for you and difficult. But you love your child so much, please try your best. I believe that only by being non-discriminatory yourself can you give your child strength and provide a safe environment.

It would be beneficial to have the right attitude. Homosexuality is normal.

2. It would be beneficial for you to be there for your child and explore homosexuality together. It is often the case that parents have more judgment and experience than their children, so it is important to ensure that your child does not face this alone. Otherwise, they may seek outside help, which could potentially lead to risky situations. It is also important to maintain communication with your child.

No matter what the future holds, it is important to believe in and support your child.

From what you've described, it's clear that this boy is experiencing typical adolescent sexual urges. He's likely already able to distinguish between attraction to boys and girls. If he's been spending time with other boys and has access to gay websites,

It's possible that the boy is already showing signs of same-sex attraction. However, we can't say for certain if he's gay because the parents don't have enough information. In most cases, a boy won't come out to family or strangers because our society isn't yet open enough. But if the parents are open-minded and willing to accept a gay son, he'll come out to you or explain why eventually.

Boys will not easily tell the truth to family members or strangers to protect their safety. If the parents are not open-minded and willing to accept their gay son, he will come out to you or explain the reasons one day.

He's probably just curious. Don't freak out and say that homosexuality and bisexuality aren't allowed in your family. That might make him think he can't accept himself, which could lead to a breakdown.

A boy also needs the acceptance of his family to be brave and be himself, and to tell the truth in the future. If he says he is not, you can trust him for now, while also explaining that you respect all sexual orientations, no matter what, and that your parents will still accept him. This is the best encouragement for him. It is also necessary to say that there are different races, nationalities, and sexual orientations in the world, and everyone is worthy of love.

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Good morning, mother. I can understand your concerns and worries about your child.

Let's consider together what might be beneficial for your child's growth.

1. It is essential to treat children with respect in order to facilitate effective communication.

First of all, it's important to remember that children often keep secrets from adults, such as using terms like "wife" and "husband" to refer to a male classmate or visiting gay websites. These are things that children may not want adults to know about, and it's understandable. We can reflect on the situation and think about how we approached the child when asking about this topic. Did we immediately confront them with the evidence and question them firmly, or did we communicate with the child in a more gentle and understanding tone, trying to understand their underlying motives for being interested in homosexuality, whether it was out of curiosity, just for fun, or because they thought it was a good experience? Were they influenced by the values of a certain classmate, or was it popular among the male group in the class?

In the United States, some young people become involved in homosexuality, not because they are born with a psychological or physiological need in this regard, but entirely because they have been influenced by their peers. This suggests that they believe that if they have not tried homosexuality once, they have not lived their youth to the fullest. (From "The Feeling of Being in the Sky")

Perhaps we could consider another perspective. If a 15-year-old girl refers to her best friend as "wife" and he calls her "husband," would we be surprised? Given that we often see girls dressing in a masculine way, it seems that the public is more accepting of girls calling each other "husband" and "wife" than boys calling their male friends that.

Perhaps it would be helpful to put aside our preconceptions about children for a moment and imagine that he is not as serious as we think. If we consider the possibility that browsing gay websites does not necessarily indicate a person is gay or bisexual, it raises an interesting question: if a girl is found by her mother to have a record of browsing unhealthy websites, would her mother think that her daughter's thoughts are somehow problematic?

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider that this may not be the case. For children in adolescence, curiosity will likely play a significant role.

It is possible that intervening in homosexuality does not necessarily mean that one will actually become gay. (From "The Feeling of Flying")

I recently discovered that my niece, who was in junior high school at the time, had used my iPad to watch Youku videos and search for keywords related to intimate behavior during the summer vacation. Having known her since she was little, I understood that she was just curious. I first protected her self-esteem by reminding her to clear the viewing history next time and also explained to her that it was normal to be curious about these things at the moment, but that she shouldn't approach them like this. I thought that children have a sense of shame, so I just touched on the subject.

After the summer holiday, she returned to her hometown. My sister was aware that she had exhibited similar behavior during her rebellious period but did not intervene excessively. Upon returning to school, she was able to resume a normal learning rhythm.

In this particular instance, the approach taken was not as effective as it could have been. It is important to note that allowing nature to take its course does not imply neglecting or abandoning your child, but rather allowing them to develop in their own way.

It is possible that parents, because of their worries, may overreact and may not achieve the best result. It might be helpful to observe and wait for a while to think about it. What we see with our own eyes is not necessarily what we expect.

It would be wise for parents to avoid treating this as a serious problem before finding a better solution. It is also important to avoid questioning and judging the child's belief that he or she is gay too soon. Such an unreasonable belief could affect the way we treat our children in the future and may gradually appear in a more commanding tone, which could be detrimental to the long-term development of our relationships with our children.

Finding the right balance is about striking a balance between being attentive to the child's needs and respecting their autonomy. It's only when we truly trust our children that they feel comfortable opening up to us about their true thoughts.

It would seem that many respondents believe that trust and respect are key to solving problems and should be the first step.

Given the lack of information about the child's upbringing, it seems reasonable to assume that the child may be afraid of his parents. When confronted with evidence, it is possible that the child may choose to suppress his thoughts due to fear of the consequences. This could potentially lead to a lack of communication. However, it is also possible that after this incident, there may be no problem with the child's sexual orientation.

If they encounter other problems in the future, children may choose to endure in silence and be afraid to tell their parents. This could result in parents being unaware of the truth and unable to provide the support and guidance their children may need during challenging times.

2. It would be beneficial to explore the most appropriate guidance strategies.

It might be helpful to spend some time in your spare time reading books on this topic. Some recommended reading on this subject is Chapter 7 of "The Feeling of Reaching the Sky" by Yue Xiaodong: Am I Gay?

Secondly, it would be advisable to seek the guidance of an expert who is well-versed in the field of sexual orientation. There are numerous reputable platforms, such as Yixinli, that can connect you with suitable experts. The introduction of the expert will be similar to that of an online doctor appointment at a general hospital. It would be beneficial to pay attention to the long-term training that the psychological counselor has undergone and whether their specialty label includes sexual orientation. It is also important to note that when you communicate with the counselor, you are the visitor of the consultation and cannot replace the child for the sexual orientation consultation. The expert's role is primarily to assist you in addressing your concerns and anxieties.

The counselor is eager to communicate with the child. During the consultation process, when the expert suggests that the child come for a consultation, the expert can only help you solve some specific problems with the consent of the child and when the child is willing to come for a consultation.

Third, you might find it helpful to speak with a family education instructor or a parent who has had success in this area. You can search for references on some forums or several commonly used Q&A platforms.

It would seem that there is currently a great deal of marketing and promotion of family education instructors, but it is not impossible to find some instructors or institutions that have had successful experiences in this area. You may wish to try searching, but it would be wise to be careful to prevent being scammed.

If your child is open to discussing your concerns with you, you might consider exploring when your child first became interested in homosexuality and what might have sparked their curiosity. It might also be helpful to reflect on whether it is appropriate for male classmates to use terms like "wife" and "husband."

Could I ask whether it is common for male students to call each other "husband" and "wife" in the classroom? Who suggested it in the first place?

I wonder if it was simply a source of enjoyment, or if it was a popular practice in the school environment. Do they understand that such terms are not appropriate between men?

It is often the case that people get along well with those they have similar interests with, or with those they spend time with outside of school. It is also often the case that people have positive experiences with those who treat them well. Could you tell me more about why you get along well with this male classmate? In what ways do you get along? How are his grades?

Have they helped each other with their studies? It would be interesting to know if he has any other good classmates to play with. What are his classmates' thoughts on the matter?

If the terms are popular in the classroom, you might consider inviting a few male classmates who are good friends to come to dinner at your house with the male classmates from other classes to try to understand their thoughts. You could explain that between classmates, using these terms might be seen as somewhat inappropriate, not in line with mainstream social values, and could potentially lead to misunderstandings, which over time might have an impact on their future mental health.

If it's just for fun and everyone is still on good terms, perhaps it would be better if they just called each other by their first names in the future. Auntie would also love to hear your thoughts on this. What are your thoughts on this?

"This is just a suggestion, but it might be helpful to consider this more idealistic line of thinking as a reference point."

While we cannot accept the homosexual lifestyle, we do recognize the need to gain a deeper understanding of it.

It is not necessarily the case that everyone who engages in homosexual activity will become gay, and it is also not necessarily the case that every gay person's development is influenced by some kind of physical or genetic factor.

It would be beneficial to eliminate parental prejudices against children and gain a deeper understanding of a world that may seem intimidating to them.

I hope that this mother, who is particularly fond of her child, will not have to deal with the psychological concerns she has. Even if the child is affected in some way, I believe you will be able to address it in a way that is appropriate and effective. It is important to have confidence in yourself.

Dear Question Asker, Thank you for your question. Best regards, [Name] [Title]

I have reviewed the question you posed on the platform and understand your concerns as a parent in this situation.

1. There is no need to be unduly concerned or anxious. From the information provided, it appears that your child may have a proclivity towards same-sex attraction. This could be driven by curiosity or an exploration of their inner orientation. It is important not to jump to conclusions. Adolescent children are prone to confusion and difficulties. It is therefore essential for parents to remain calm.

2. In the event that your child is genuinely homosexual, they will likely initially deny it. This demographic is typically cautious due to concerns about parental acceptance. They may even be reluctant to cause distress. Unless they perceive genuine understanding and acceptance, they may choose to keep their orientation private. Consequently, despite repeated questioning, your child may not disclose this information. Parents should maintain composure, demonstrate unconditional acceptance, and maintain an objective perspective.

3. It is important to believe that your child is simply curious and unaware of the concept of homosexuality. They may not fully comprehend the challenges associated with the homosexual path. It is possible that they simply have a companion they like and desire companionship. It is also plausible that this is a temporary, innocent interest in forming friendships. It is not too late for your child to figure it out on their own, so it is essential to avoid directly initiating a conflict. Parents must maintain composure and remain calm.

4. Regardless of the future, it is essential to believe in your child and learn to truly understand and listen. As a parent, your goal is to ensure your child's happiness and a fulfilling life. Remaining focused on this objective will help you navigate any challenges that may arise.

5. It is important to remember that children are still young and that the future holds infinite possibilities. As parents, it is essential to be patient, tolerant, and unconditionally supportive of our children.

I hope this information is helpful to you. Best regards, [Name]

Hello!

From what you've told me, I can see that you're feeling a bit anxious and even panicked.

What should I do if my child is like that?

First, let's look at this on its own. You saw that your son's website was a gay website. What were your thoughts at the time? Before we can help your child, we need to first understand our own perceptions of homosexuality.

If you're really against it or even grossed out by it, you'll come up with a hundred excuses to educate your son, but this will easily create a confrontational visual effect between you and your child. Your son will talk less and less with you, and there won't be anything to talk about.

Second, if you say, "I don't know about this, I'll look it up first, and then I'll talk to my son about it when I have a more complete understanding," it might have the opposite effect that we both want to see. Instead of lecturing, you can have a heart-to-heart talk. You can tell him your concerns and anxieties, and he'll respond accordingly.

Finally, kids are already starting to explore sex. It's a natural part of being human, and if you try to ignore it, it can lead to problems. At this age, kids don't really understand love yet, and it can seem like a fairy tale.

As parents, it's our job to teach our kids about sex in a way that's accurate and age-appropriate. Kids are already exposed to different types of relationships at a young age. The challenge is to bridge the gap between what parents know and what kids are learning.