A 20-year-old man, his close friend is about to leave the country, he feels reluctant and sad, and has become depressed again...

Dear Questioner, I hope this message finds you well. I wanted to reach out and offer some thoughts in response to your question.

From what you have told me, I get the impression that you are a sensitive boy with a rich inner life. It seems that you have experienced some difficult situations in the past, which may have led to feelings of insecurity and periods of low mood. When we were going through our own difficulties, she was there for you, offering a sense of warmth and comfort. This feeling of being cared for and protected may have been absent for some time, but it was there for you when you needed it, and it has stayed with you.

Having her around makes us feel more complete. When she goes abroad, it's as if she's taking a part of you with her, and it's a good part.

It is understandable that we may initially find it challenging to accept such a separation and may experience feelings of sadness and depression. Separation is a common challenge that many of us will face at some point in our lives, and it is important to learn how to navigate it effectively.

When facing separation, it may be helpful to allow ourselves some time to process our emotions, gradually accept the situation, and embark on our own journey.

1. It may be helpful to give yourself time and allow yourself to feel sad.

It might be helpful to set a time limit, such as one week, during which we can fully express our sadness, cry as much as we like, record what we want to say to her (and send it to her if possible), talk to someone close to us or a psychological counselor, etc., and experience and express our emotions in any acceptable way, so that our sadness and depression can be expressed.

2. Consider starting with small things and keeping a mood diary.

Then we can consider allowing ourselves to do something small every day that makes us happy, such as eating the food we want, going for a walk in the playground, watching a comedy, or doing something with the people around us, and experiencing the feeling of being happy and joyful.

You might find it helpful to keep a mood diary, in which you can record your feelings each day. You could divide the diary into two columns: one for the happy things and feelings of the day, and one for the sad ones. You could try to make the happy column a bit longer than the previous day's, and the sad column a bit shorter. After a while, you may notice that the happy column is getting longer and longer.

3. You may wish to consider setting a goal for yourself, devoting yourself to your life, and keeping yourself busy.

It might be helpful to discover and find your interests, set a goal, such as learning to play the guitar, learning a language, or participating in club activities, so that you can be busy and enjoy the process. You might also like to try to actively communicate with the people around you, develop a close friend, and satisfy your emotional needs.

I truly hope that the questioner will find happiness soon.

Hello, questioner! You've written a very calm message, but I can still feel the sadness in it. The last two words, "sad," make me feel really sad. It's the sadness of a long-lasting relationship with a close friend that has come to an abrupt end.

It's totally normal to feel a little sad when you're parting ways. It's a natural expression of our true emotions!

From your description, it's clear that she has played an extraordinary role in your journey with depression. It's also evident that you possess qualities that make people close to you willing to genuinely provide the help you need. This is a truly valuable experience that will be treasured for a long time. It must have many beautiful memories that have been deeply imprinted in your hearts. Whenever you think of it, I'm sure you can feel the beauty you have created together, just like I do!

? This beauty needs to be temporarily terminated, or is it just the sudden physical distance between each other that makes you feel sad? This is the most appropriate emotion. Separation is actually something we encounter frequently in life, such as entering kindergarten, being admitted to different schools, which requires being separated from friends; breaking up with a lover, getting divorced, leaving home to work/study, being transferred to another city, etc. Almost everyone will encounter it, but few people will pay special attention to it. The process of accepting separation is exactly the same as the five stages of grief: denial/isolation, anger, bargaining, depression/depression, and acceptance. When we have completely gone through the whole process, will the "thing" really end on a psychological level? For people with psychological trauma, they may get stuck at a certain stage and unable to complete the whole process. When necessary, they need to seek help from a counselor to help them learn to accept the truth.

How long have you been feeling down? What's your current state after all these years?

Apart from the support and help of this friend, do you have any other ways to help you get through some difficult and painful moments? With the help of this friend, you've gained a lot of new inner strength to deal with your depression!

What are these amazing powers? Absolutely! You should definitely allow the counselor to enter your world and continue what this friend has done in your life to help you get out of depression.

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Some separations, although saddening, can also be empowering! The beauty you created together is warm and will remain in your heart, bringing you comfort whenever you think of it. In any case, you don't have to face everything alone. Psychological counselors, coaches, and teachers will accompany you out of your predicament, just like your friend!

Huge congratulations!

Greetings, esteemed questioner! I extend my sincerest regards to you.

I am grateful to have had the opportunity to connect with you on Yixinli.

I would like to express my gratitude to the original poster for their initiative in self-awareness, which has led to the topic of discussion: "A 20-year-old man, with a best friend who is about to go abroad, is experiencing feelings of sadness and depression..."

A careful reading of the original poster's question revealed that, were I in her situation, I would likely experience a similar emotional state. The key lies in grasping the nature of the internal world involved. The topic that has been introduced may offer further avenues for exploring the answer that is sought.

I have also considered this topic and would like to present my reflections and thoughts for the questioner's reference.

In conclusion,

Let us first delineate the particulars of the circumstances as set forth by the questioner and then proceed to interpret and analyze them.

It was yet another episode of depression. For reasons that remain unclear, I recorded my distressing emotions at the time and attached QQ, before transmitting it to the campus confession wall.

This is how I became acquainted with her via the airwaves.

From the initial account presented by the questioner, two key terms emerge: "depression" and "attack."

Alternatively, has the questioner identified their depression and found ways to overcome it and manage it? It so happens that the campus "confession wall" has "connected with a good friend across space." Thus far, the idealized friend has become the "sustenance and heart medicine" in the questioner's heart.

I am uncertain of the number of occasions I have experienced a profound emotional distress, yet the empathetic, warm, inspiring, and healing interactions I have received from her have resonated profoundly within me and are unforgettable.

With her company, I was able to overcome depression on numerous occasions and gradually begin to break down the barriers that had previously isolated me. I developed a strong attachment to her.

(However, this is not in the context of a romantic relationship).

It can be described as a "miracle/opportunity." My friend across the airwaves, with her empathy, warmth, touching, and healing, has reached my heart. The questioner has repeatedly overcome depression, gradually opening the self-closing box and gradually forming an attachment in the heart. In other words, the "heart medicine" that heals the depression of the questioner?

Indeed, the essence of depression can be attributed to the repressed dreams and longings that reside within us. When an individual encounters a benevolent companion, they are able to fulfill their innermost desires, thereby experiencing a profound emotional catharsis and compensating for the deficiency in their object relations supply.

The school district has precluded any opportunity for an in-person encounter.

She is departing for overseas in July, and I mustered the courage to present her with my inaugural gift. She expressed considerable appreciation for it.

However, subsequent to our parting ways, I have consistently experienced a profound sense of disorientation. Might this be indicative of a fractured illusion? Could it be that I am ultimately destined to navigate the world in solitude?

Was I concerned that our friendship would not withstand the rigors of time? I believe this was a contributing factor, along with other considerations.

I was overcome with a sudden onset of depression. I was reluctant to confide in her. I frequently fantasize about a ideal partner who will consistently comprehend my needs and fulfill them.

Her image is also a contributing factor. I am a person who has lacked love and security since childhood, and my life prior to university was centered around academic pursuits.

— Despite never having met him, the individual in question has "taken root" in the questioner's heart and has become the "mind medicine" that heals his "depression." When I learned that my best friend was going to go abroad in July, I immediately fell into the emotions of "separation anxiety."

I empathize with the feelings, desires, and expectations expressed by the questioner, including sentiments of being "lost," "disillusioned," "facing it alone," and "fear of losing a good friend." These emotional expressions are authentic and genuine. They also represent a genuine internal dialogue, which I hope is a positive and constructive emotion that the questioner can embrace.

It can be postulated that the "shortcoming" in the questioner's heart is that "she/a close friend" has just become the most appropriate and perfect "fit/match." It is precisely because this is the "idealized object relationship" that the questioner is looking forward to that the questioner really does not want to "lose" it, so he feels the unbearable "separation anxiety" even more. At the same time, the questioner is also at the time when emotions and love sprout during adolescence, so it is normal to express such feelings/emotions. This is a normal emotional response and a reasonable need to express at this stage in the lives of boys and girls.

The questioner's reluctance to express his genuine feelings to his friends may be driven by an underlying fear of losing them. However, it is also plausible that this is a learned emotional coping mechanism, a result of his inner feelings being repressed.

From the limited information available, it is recommended that the questioner reflect on the potential triggering factors for their depressive episode. Identifying the underlying emotional needs may provide insight into the root cause of the depression.

Fortunately, the questioner already demonstrates self-awareness. By identifying and processing the underlying emotions triggered by the impending departure of a friend for studies abroad, it may be beneficial to explore one's intrinsic motivations for a comprehensive and effective approach to emotional healing.

I listened to a considerable number of graduation songs in solitude, experiencing a profound emotional response, and ultimately came to the realisation that I needed to develop the strength and resilience to become an independent and self-sufficient individual.

Listening to music alone and "nourishing" one's soul for strength is an effective method for the questioner to utilize in order to help herself. Once the questioner has experienced the cathartic release of tears, it is important for her to then allow herself to let go of her inner emotions and feelings. The act of shedding tears is, in fact, an expression of emotions.

The aspiration to become a self-sufficient individual represents a desire for personal transformation and marks the initial stage of psychological maturation. Emotional distress is a common experience during the process of maturation. The poster's insightful realization is commendable, and their efforts are worthy of encouragement.

In consideration of the circumstances presented by the questioner, an approach to addressing them might be as follows:

[1] Is it possible to accept one's past, one's genuine feelings and emotional expressions during an idealized emotional healing process, to understand the intricacies of this process, and to attempt to heal one's soul on one's own journey?

[2] Each individual must undergo the process of "individuation and separation" in order to mature independently and achieve personal growth. This is the only way for everyone to become stronger. Perhaps we previously lacked a secure enough "object relationship expression," but now we can attempt to compensate for the deficit. Just as the original poster has begun to mature independently, engaging in activities such as listening to music, talking, exercising, and playing sports can be beneficial for personal development.

[3] It is recommended that this positive emotion be cherished, that the narrative of healing be treasured, and that the expression of genuine feelings be facilitated in a timely manner, as timely expression is an effective method of releasing emotions. This may be a challenging topic to address, but it is crucial to do so in order to facilitate the flow of repressed emotions. One can express the beautiful stories and emotions in one's heart through written form, through audio recording, or through verbal expression. When the questioner expresses their emotions in their own way, this is also a form of self-healing, and it is therefore a worthwhile approach to try.

[4] With regard to self-expression, it is not inevitable that the relationship will end if the questioner discloses the truth about their feelings to a close friend. The underlying issue for the questioner may be a form of "separation anxiety," which manifests as a reluctance to confront their emotions directly. In such cases, it may be beneficial for the questioner to identify the underlying fear. Has the relationship irreversibly deteriorated since the close friend's departure for studies abroad?

Alternatively, could it be that the unfulfilled expectations in the questioner's imagination have become a form of psychological distress? Seeking guidance from a school psychologist or a trusted friend may be beneficial. Alternatively, when one opens their heart, it could be an indication of the courage to confront inner turmoil.

It is possible that, despite the physical distance between us, we are nevertheless close at heart. A remedy that fulfils a lifelong desire is not a mere fantasy.

[5] I would like to thank the original poster for their self-awareness and for taking the initiative to seek help on the Yi Psychology platform. I believe that this has already begun the road to self-healing from depression. Self-redemption, coupled with appropriate professional psychological counseling, will surely heal the "depressive mood" that we all have. First, it is essential to learn to manage one's emotions, and then to face the challenges that arise. This is an effective practice for self-growth.

I recommend three books for further reading: Embrace Your Depressive Moods, Let the Past Blow in the Wind, and Why Are Our Emotions Always Controlled by Others? I hope that through self-awareness, the questioner will gain a deeper understanding of himself, facilitate his healing, and become the person he aspires to be. I wish him the best of luck.

The above represents a synthesis of the question posed by the inquirer. It is offered as a personal opinion and is intended to stimulate further discussion and reflection. It is also hoped that it will inspire and assist the inquirer. Further, it is hoped that it will encourage more in-depth exchanges. It is ultimately hoped that the inquirer will soon "see the light at the end of the tunnel" and "the truth," which will enable them to enjoy their young and beautiful life with ease and happiness.

The preceding text is a response that combines the questioner's question. It can be regarded as my personal opinion. I hope it will attract more people to contribute and aim to bring about more thinking. I also hope to inspire and help the questioner

I am the source of illumination, the universe, and I extend my affection to you.

Dear Question Asker, Thank you for your inquiry. Best regards, [Name] [Title]

After carefully reviewing your account, I have discerned that you are a perceptive individual with a profound emotional intelligence. It is evident that your upbringing in the past may have instilled feelings of inadequacy and insecurity. You have recently encountered a person who has demonstrated a profound understanding of your needs, a high level of empathy, warmth, and a capacity to provide healing. This individual has also fulfilled your deepest longings. Such a relationship is indeed rare. With her support, you have demonstrated resilience in overcoming your depression on numerous occasions, gradually breaking free from the confines of self-isolation. She appears to be a beacon of light in your life, gradually fostering a sense of attachment and providing you with strength and hope. However, with her imminent departure for abroad, you are facing the prospect of another separation from someone you trust. You are concerned that the challenges posed by time and distance may gradually erode the foundation of your friendship, leading to a sense of isolation and a lack of understanding, empathy, warmth, and strength.

It is unlikely that anyone else will ever be able to gain such a deep understanding of your emotions as she did. Her departure has undoubtedly left a gap in your life.

It is indeed uncommon to encounter such a friend. Your sentiments are understandable.

However, like the moon, which has its cycles of highs and lows, and like people, who experience a range of emotions, no celebration lasts forever.

It is important to understand that life goes on after a friend leaves. It is inevitable to feel sad and hurt. You can allow yourself some time to deal with the emotions brought about by the separation, accept this reality, and then move forward. What can you do to achieve this?

1. Learn to express your emotions in a reasonable manner.

In light of her impending departure, it is important to acknowledge the feelings of reluctance and sadness that may arise. Journaling can be an effective way to express these emotions and process the situation. Given that this event has led to a return to depression and unresolved grief, it is crucial to recognize that this is the "mourning" of physical distance, not the "mourning" of the end of a friendship. Allowing yourself the necessary time to accept this reality is essential.

It is important to remind yourself that she is still available, even if she is not immediately accessible. It is unlikely that she has permanently discontinued communication.

2. Divert your attention elsewhere.

Allow yourself time to adjust, then attempt to redirect your attention by expanding your social circle or focusing on your future career, studies, hobbies, etc.

3. Visualize a positive future rather than a negative one.

When confronted with a negative situation, it is not uncommon for individuals to become pessimistic and to dwell on potential future challenges.

This is a common phenomenon. The belief that contemplating potential negative outcomes will better prepare us for the future is a common one. However, in the long run, this approach often leads to an intensification of negative emotions.

It is important to note that feelings of sadness can potentially lead to a range of negative emotions.

It is recommended that you attempt to envision a more optimistic future, even if this is merely a technique to assist your mind in transcending the limitations of grief. It would be beneficial to deliberately consider how your friendship is not constrained by distance and to strive to incorporate more constructive and positive thoughts into your mind.

4. Generate positive emotions

There are numerous methods for fostering positive emotions. One such method is to:

It is important to develop the ability to think in a positive manner.

Express gratitude. Set aside time each day to write down three or four things for which you are grateful.

It is possible to simulate a positive emotional state by maintaining a smiling posture or giving a hearty laugh. These physical movements will stimulate the brain to believe that the person is happy, even if the emotion is not genuine.

Assisting others can foster a sense of accomplishment and self-worth.

Prioritize activities that bring you enjoyment, such as spending time with friends, going out, or reading a book you enjoy.

In short, if an action produces a positive result, it is advisable to repeat it.

In conclusion, it is inevitable that you will have to walk some roads alone. Meeting a close friend is a blessing. I hope you will carry the light she gives you and forge ahead courageously. All meetings eventually lead to separations. We are always alone. We have to learn to live with loneliness and get along with ourselves. Those who have accompanied us are like crutches when we are at our most vulnerable, but if we want to walk better, we can't keep relying on them. Come on, I believe you can do it!

I would like to take this opportunity to reiterate that I and the wider world have always had the utmost admiration and respect for you.

Hello!

I am a heart exploration coach, and learning is the treasure of the body.

From your description, I can clearly see your sadness, depression, worry, loss, pain, and helplessness.

You are upset because your best friend is going abroad. I will give you three pieces of advice:

First, accept your current situation.

Doing so will make your heart feel slightly lighter, which will help you think about what to do next.

You wrote some painful feelings on the campus confession wall during a depressive episode and connected with her from afar. She gave you a lot of empathy, warmth, inspiration, and healing. You are very attached to her, although you have never met. You know she is going abroad in July. You gave her a gift, and she really liked it. But after saying goodbye, you have been very lost and feel very sad. It's understandable. When someone you know is particularly attached to is no longer around, almost everyone will be sad. You may have a lot of thoughts in your mind, worrying about the disillusionment, being afraid of facing the world alone, being afraid that the friendship cannot stand the test, etc. You have to try to accept your state. This will give you extra mental energy to think about other things. Otherwise, your mind will always be filled with all kinds of negative emotions.

You must allow yourself to accept your current situation if you want to promote change in the status quo. It may sound contradictory, but that is the case because change is based on allowing for no change.

Secondly, you must view your own state rationally.

Rational thinking helps you understand yourself and reality better.

To be rational, you must do the following two things:

First, understand this: there is no such thing as a perfect partner because there is no such thing as a perfect person.

Let me be clear: there is no perfect partner who will always understand you and meet all your needs. That person is just a figment of your imagination and does not exist in real life.

You may find this difficult to accept, but it is crucial to recognise reality and accept the facts if you want to grow out of pain and suffering.

You can change the current situation.

When you exert your subjective initiative, your inner state will change. You will see your own growth and strength.

When you look at your situation rationally, you will resolve your various negative emotions.

I advise you to focus on yourself and consider how you can improve your situation.

When you look at your situation rationally, you will know what to do. Focus on yourself and do it.

For example, think about how you dealt with negative emotions before you met her. You wrote down your painful feelings and posted them on the campus confession wall. Do it again. You may meet another person who understands you. Even if you don't find another special person, doing this will allow you to "express" your negative emotions. Once they start flowing, they will have a healing effect.

Recall the warmth and strength she brought you and apply that feeling to your current situation. It will have a healing effect and improve your mood.

You should also try to muster the courage to talk to her about your recent situation. This communication will undoubtedly make you feel better, because your negative emotions are flowing.

Give yourself a sense of security. Take care of your emotions, care for yourself, respect your feelings, and satisfy your needs. When you learn to love yourself and take care of yourself, your sense of security will increase, and your need for the outside world will decrease. This will make you stronger and turn you into a capable man. You can do something to improve the current situation.

Take action and the various negative emotions in your heart will naturally be resolved slowly. Action is the enemy of negative emotions.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful to you. If you wish to communicate further, simply click on "Find a coach to interpret – online dialogue" at the bottom of the page and I will communicate with you one-on-one.

The message describes a beautiful friendship. The worry of facing the world alone after investing so much emotion in a girl and the uncertainty about the future of this friendship can make the questioner have many emotions during graduation.

I hope these words can help you.

I hope these words will comfort you as you face the future.

1. The past is a gift of life. I am grateful for it.

Dealing with depression is hard. But it can be done.

Grief is natural when we face loss. Focusing on the good things in our lives helps.

These gifts don't disappear with time. They become another source of motivation, an opportunity to feel the warmth of others and move forward.

2. Graduation is sad and scary because you're leaving what you know and starting something new.

2. Graduation is sad and the future is uncertain.

I listened to lots of songs about parting during graduation, alone and in tears.

Graduation is always full of farewells and reluctance to part. It's also saying goodbye to the familiar campus and atmosphere and embarking on a different life.

Saying goodbye to the familiar and facing the unfamiliar is challenging for everyone.

The questioner is not alone.

Emotions show us that while facing uncertainty, we can find exciting points that help us see the brightness of our future. For example, with more possibilities, we can become more financially independent. When there is more excitement and exploration, it may feel different.

3. Talk to her about how you feel.

But after saying goodbye, I have always felt lost. Is it the end?

Are you afraid your friendship won't last?

When you say goodbye to someone or a relationship, it's natural to feel lost and without a place to belong.

Try to see this as the start of a new phase in your relationship. It's different from when you were students.

If you're shy, you can listen to her thoughts and actions. This helps us have more certainty and security in the relationship.

I'm not an explorer of human nature. I'm a therapist who cares for the human heart. I wish you well.

I'm not a psychologist who studies human nature. I'm a psychologist who cares about people. I wish you well.

Good morning, host.

From the host's statements, it is evident that he is a person with a gentle and kind disposition, who is emotionally sensitive.

Kind-hearted individuals frequently internalize their grievances and hurts, which can contribute to a depressive disposition.

There is a strong correlation between genetics and childhood experiences.

The following factors influence our emotions and personality:

Genetic factors are also a significant contributing element.

The character of the parents has a significant impact on the character of the children. However, this is not an absolute influence. Over time, personal adjustments can also contribute to changes in this dynamic.

Genetic factors play a more significant role in this regard.

The impact of the individual who provided care and guidance during the formative years.

The impact of early caregivers on the host is significant. If you can recall your own childhood experiences, you will understand this clearly.

This ultimately results in the current sentimental personality.

You may choose to either attempt to modify your current disposition or to continue accepting yourself as you are. The decision is yours to make.

If the host does not find this aspect of themselves agreeable, they should endeavor to effect a change. With regard to relationships that are beyond their control,

It is advisable to take such matters lightly and avoid becoming overly dependent on another person. Instead, it is important to maintain emotional independence.

When an individual approaches me, I extend a warm welcome. Similarly, when someone leaves, I offer a gracious send-off and best wishes for the future.

I previously experienced a significant case of separation anxiety. However, I subsequently endeavoured to alter my mindset.

Take departures in stride, recognizing the inherent unpredictability of human interactions. It is important to understand that no two individuals will ever feel exactly the same way about a situation.

If you feel the need to cry, allow yourself to do so. You will feel better afterwards.

It is often said that men are passionate and long-lasting, while women are deep-hearted and merciless.

However, these are merely a sampling of the opinions expressed.

It is important to note that deep love and strong friendship should not be divided according to gender.

Those in a state of deep love are likely to experience a certain degree of distress.

First, gain an understanding of your own strengths and weaknesses, identify your vulnerabilities, and develop strategies to overcome them.

However, this does not imply that you become a person without feelings. Rather, it signifies that you become more resilient and determined to love yourself and others.

I hope you will meet someone who will bring warmth to your life.

I am June, and I extend my warm regards to you and to the world.

Hello, question asker. I can see you're feeling confused right now. I'm here to support you!

You're going through some emotional issues right now. I'm here for you.

You've probably lacked love and security since childhood, probably due to the mother-child relationship when you were little.

It's possible that your mother didn't respond to your needs every time you cried as a baby.

This has resulted in an anxious attachment pattern in your adult life.

It just so happens that this good friend of yours has filled in some of the gaps from your childhood, so when you heard she was going abroad in July, you were pretty bummed.

It's possible that your inner child is still in infancy and hasn't been met by your mother.

So, what exactly is the "inner child"?

It's not actually about our age.

For instance, even though you're currently a university student, your inner child is still stuck in the mother-child relationship.

I noticed that there's a course on this platform's homepage called "Embracing Your Inner Child" taught by a teacher named Shi Jiaqi. I recommend that the questioner sign up for this course if it would be helpful.

Otherwise, you might run into the same issue again with the next girl and get really attached.

You're feeling depressed about your current female friend, and you need to talk about it.

You might want to give these approaches a try.

You can use the "empty chair technique."

The "empty chair technique" is simple. You sit in one chair and imagine your female best friend sitting in the other empty chair. Then you tell her everything you want to say to her, including how you won't let her go, etc.

If you're not sure how to use the "empty chair technique" described above, I'd recommend speaking to a professional psychologist.

I'd also suggest you expand your social circle as much as possible. You could try joining more groups at university, like clubs, so you can meet more people, explore different interests, and not focus all your attention on relationships.

I really hope you can resolve this issue soon.

That's all I can think of for now.

I hope my answer was helpful and inspiring for you, the questioner. I'm the one who answered, and I'm learning something new every day.

Here at Yixinli, we love what we do and we love you. Best wishes!

I am grateful for your confidence in me and for the opportunity to respond.

After reviewing the question, it appears that the questioner is aware of the appropriate course of action and the manner in which it should be executed. This aligns with the conventional approach to problem-solving that is commonly regarded as the optimal method. The most challenging aspect is the relationship itself.

In terms of perspective, the questioner appears to have a distinct delineation in his emotional state: "I feel a profound attachment to her, though it is not akin to the conventional experience of romantic love."

"I am uncertain of the number of occasions I have descended to the lowest depths of despair, yet the empathy, warmth, inspiration, and healing she has bestowed upon me have truly resonated with my heart and remain indelibly etched in my memory. With her guidance and support, I have repeatedly surmounted the depths of depression and gradually shed the shackles of self-isolation."

This situation bears resemblance to the relationship between a visitor and a counselor. It can also be conceptualized as a "working relationship" or a distinctive "intimate relationship." With the departure of this individual, the nature of this relationship may undergo a transformation.

In our lives, all kinds of relationships come and go. The questioner's "loss" is a normal emotional response. The other person in question is an important figure in the questioner's upcoming journey. The questioner chose to form a connection with this individual, and it would appear that the connection is mutually beneficial. This may be considered a positive outcome.

Currently, we are not yet prepared to confront this challenge independently. This is a crucial phase in our maturation process. The presence or absence of a close associate can influence the outcome. Ultimately, we must confront this challenge. By leveraging the associate's departure, the questioner can, as he stated, "become a man who can stand on his own."

It is imperative to confront one's emotions with sincerity, authenticity, and courage. I extend my sincerest wishes for your well-being, and I hold you in high regard.

Hello! I totally get where you're coming from and I know it's tough, but you're going to be just fine!

You said that because you were having another depressive episode, you wrote down your painful feelings and handed them to the campus confession wall on QQ, and that's how you met her! She gave you company as a result, which was a wonderful thing.

Absolutely! I would be overjoyed if someone helped me, so you feel that meeting her can bring you happiness and take you out of pain. She also accompanies you to overcome depression again and again, which is like meeting a good medicine for you, and you cherish it very much.

She's going abroad, and you're reluctant to let her go. You're afraid that once she's gone, you'll miss her like crazy. You're afraid that she won't have time for you anymore. You don't know what to do. You don't want her to go abroad, but you're strong enough to give her a farewell gift!

Your current loss has made you depressed, and you are sad, which shows that you are growing and going through this sad stage. You are afraid to tell her that you are sad because she is going abroad, but in fact you are afraid that she will be sad if you tell her.

I was also someone who lacked a sense of security since childhood, and it really is a difficult feeling. But you have finally met someone who understands you, and now you get to say goodbye! It's a bittersweet moment, but you're excited for what the future holds.

It might be tough, but we can keep this beautiful memory in our hearts, the strength she gave you, and her warmth.

I don't know if what I said helped you, but I really empathize with you. Just thinking about it makes me know how you feel. Let's face it together and be strong!

First, you need to identify the cause of your current situation. From your description, it is clear that you are an introvert who has not received enough love and care from parents and relatives since childhood.

Your reluctance to confide in others and keep your emotions bottled up inside is most likely the result of your upbringing and introverted personality. This ultimately leads to depression.

Second, you need to figure out whether you are suffering from depression. You may be feeling down, but that does not necessarily mean you have depression.

Have you been diagnosed and treated in a hospital? Rest assured, even if you have depression, there are ways to improve your situation.

You must face your depression head-on because it is a mental illness. There is absolutely nothing wrong with us being ill. Just because you have this illness, it does not make you inferior to anyone else. Only by facing it head-on can you avoid sinking into an even more despondent abyss.

Finally, we will analyze your feelings for this friend. From your description, it is clear that you have treated him as a lover in your fantasies and have become emotionally attached to him.

This is related to what I said earlier: you are an introvert with no one to confide in. When you meet someone you can talk to, you pour all your emotions into them. As you can see from your description, you have not started a relationship and do not know him well enough.

You are so attached to her because you have imagined her to be the perfect partner you need.

Now that we've covered these points, let's dive into how to lift your mood.

First, identify the source of your depression and find a solution.

Why are you unhappy? You need to figure out why you're unhappy.

It could be depression caused by an inner emptiness due to having too few friends and too few interests. If so, you should read more books or watch more movies that interest you.

If you're not good at socializing, download virtual social software. Communicate appropriately with people online.

You will find a few virtual friends with whom you can chat and get rid of your emptiness and loneliness. Your personality will also become more open, and you will find someone to talk to if you have something on your mind.

I am going to write a tutorial on virtual socializing. If you are interested,

Read my articles in the near future. They will help you improve your social skills.

If your depression stems from other factors, you need to address it.

It can be solved. If it cannot be solved, it can be solved with the help of friends and family.

I don't know much about your situation, but I know that there is a reason for any result. We need to trace the source and find the root cause of the problem. Once we do that, we can change it and solve it, so that you can have a better future.

2. Rebuild a strong inner self.

You say you want to become stronger, but you're not as strong as you think you are. So how do you become stronger? First, you need to get rid of your dependence on others.

We are all independent individuals, and we must learn to face our work and life alone, even if we find a partner in the future. Don't entrust all your emotions to the other person.

You need to develop an objective and calm heart to grow. Read more psychological books on improving social skills and accepting yourself. This will help you enrich and strengthen your inner self.

3. Don't leave any regrets.

From what you've told me, this girl has given you plenty of warmth and support. So even if you're temporarily separated due to academic studies or changes in family circumstances, you still have a real chance to come together.

You have no reason to let yourself suffer over this. Take a deep breath, think clearly, and ask yourself if the other person is still the person you want to spend your life with after eliminating the unrealistic expectations you've built up.

You must face life with a positive attitude, arrange your study and work time reasonably, make yourself better, and lay a foundation for your future.

You can continue to be friends in a foreign country. Don't put too much pressure on each other at first, and chat occasionally. Communication is now very developed, and we can communicate online without paying expensive international phone charges.

Help and love each other in friendship. Grow together.

You will get back together when the time is right. Don't think that because he has gone abroad, you will never see each other again. Life is full of infinite possibilities. She may return to China, and you may go to his country.

Be the best you can be! Keep your heart pure and innocent! Hope for a relationship that is worth it!

Then our lives will become more meaningful. You will emerge from the gloom and bask in the warm sunshine as you continue to improve yourself!

I am grateful for your invitation.

It is often the case that love can be a source of pain when it is time to say goodbye.

Your best friend, who has been a great source of support and comfort during your time of need, is preparing to embark on a new journey abroad. This transition can naturally lead to feelings of loss, sadness, and concern about the future and the potential for disillusionment. It's a challenging and emotional time.

[1] It would be greatly appreciated if you could take the time to thank her sincerely for the support and guidance she has provided during your time of need.

It is truly remarkable how a source of guidance can be found through a simple message on the confession wall.

No matter what method you choose to use, whether it be a message, a letter, a phone call, or even a face-to-face meeting, take the opportunity to express your gratitude to her for being there for you and for helping you through your darkest hour.

I'm sure she'll be pleased to hear the news.

So you gave her a gift, which I believe was very thoughtful and courageous.

[2] A bosom friend afar brings distance near.

Despite the distance and the differences in school districts and countries, the convenience of WeChat and QQ contact makes it feel as if you are close by, almost as if you were next door. For you, however, it may feel more like you are far away, as if you are about to leave. In reality, the Internet makes little difference in this regard.

I believe that true friendship is not so fragile that it cannot withstand the test of time and space.

[3] Your own world has always been one that you face alone, as has the past and the future.

While it is true that at some point someone like her will offer you support, it is also important to remember that ultimately, you have the strength and courage within yourself to ask for help when you need it. After all, while other people's support is valuable, it is not the most important thing in your life.

It might be helpful to remind yourself that you are the core strength facing the future. As you said, "ultimately, you have to become strong and a man who can stand on his own."

[4] It is not possible to make up for what was missing in childhood, but what you were afraid of in childhood is not something you have to be afraid of anymore.

No matter what you have been through, it is important to recognize that no patch can mend the past. The reason you may feel afraid from time to time is that the feeling of being lost in childhood remains in your memory, which can sometimes make you doubt that you are still the same weak little self you were as a child.

Once you understand this, you might like to tell yourself: I have grown up and gained strength, and I am no longer afraid.

[5] Your best friend is going away, and it would be greatly appreciated if you could offer her your blessing.

It would be beneficial to wish her well and care for her happily. Additionally, it would be advantageous to try to care for her as much as she cares for you. If possible, doing something within your abilities for her would be even better.

I hope the world and I can show you our love.

Hello classmate! I'm lucky to have read your text. Even through the screen, I can feel the understanding and warmth between you. It's rare to meet someone who understands you, but you have found that person!

I envy this friendship!

First, you say, "My best friend is leaving the country soon, and I'm sad and depressed." I see you, and I want to give you a warm hug! You can meet a friend who is like a ray of light, illuminating your entire world.

It's only natural to feel a thousand things about your best friend leaving suddenly. Accept all your emotions and feelings. This is who you are. I can't bear to let her go. It's hard for me. I need someone to talk to.

Second, you say, "Due to the school district, we have never met. She is leaving for abroad in July, and I gave her the first gift of my life."

She really likes it.

It is evident from the text that the girl accepts you and approves of you. You have taken a courageous step in dealing with your best friend in your own way.

You should meet her before she goes abroad.

Become aware of your emotions in the present.

After saying goodbye, I have always felt lost. I am no longer a child. I am going to face the world alone.

Don't be afraid that friendships will not survive the test of time. I think there are both of these things, and perhaps more.

Depressive moods come on all of a sudden, and I'm not going to tell her.

As you can see from this text, you are a responsible boy with a kind heart. You are not going to let anxiety and depression affect your friends.

You need to record your feelings and emotions in written form on a platform of some kind.

This is also a way to express yourself. At the same time, record your growth, which will help others with similar experiences!

Try it.

You can get through this. You were able to come out of it before, and I believe you can do it again.

If you have a goal, you will never fear a long journey. Here are some suggestions for dealing with depression.

1. Get more involved in social activities. For example, become a volunteer.

❤️2. Exercise. Sweat it out!

❤️3. Get help from a professional. Find a platform to talk to a listener or ask a question on Baidu.

Take care of yourself. Don't keep your emotions bottled up inside. Speak or write them out.

Classmate, you can do this! You have such a strong will, and I know you can find a way to reconcile with yourself.

The world and I love you!