A 26-year-old man sometimes feels that life lacks expectations and direction.

Good day, I am writing in response to your query.

I have carefully read your question description. You have provided a detailed account of your current situation, encompassing three key areas: work, entertainment, and relationships. Your description is highly detailed and evocative, allowing me to gain a comprehensive understanding of your circumstances. I am aware that you are currently facing challenges, including feelings of confusion, helplessness, and vulnerability. I extend my support and encouragement to you.

It is a well-known fact that humans experience a range of emotions, which can fluctuate significantly over the course of a lifetime. Additionally, it is often said that life is full of disappointments and that it may not always appear to be as positive as it seems. Despite being 26 years old, you are still in the prime of your life. However, every age group faces its own set of challenges. I understand your sentiment that there seems to be no hope at times. While Naruto may appear to be a glamorous individual, even they experience these feelings of despair. Therefore, your emotions are not unusual and are experienced by many people.

Given that this emotion has manifested, it is important to gradually accept it. Consider the implications of maintaining a consistently elevated mood. How would this impact one's overall energy and engagement in life?

It is essential to navigate this phase to ensure a sufficient buffer. You may describe this period as a buffer phase.

During this period of transition, I can see that you have a stable job. Despite your assertion that "What's the point of relying on this dead-end salary when I can never get what I want?," we can consider this: this dead-end salary can provide for our basic needs and ensure our minimum standard of living. It is important to recognize that human desires are limitless. This is reflected in the saying, "A person's happiness does not depend on how rich they are materially, but on how they view their own state of mind."

I can also see that during this period of adjustment, you are motivated to improve yourself. You have been trying hard to improve yourself because you want to improve yourself so badly. Therefore, you have been postponing even the necessary recreational activities. I believe you have reduced your computer game playing, but we know that Chairman Mao Zedong once said, "Those who don't rest can't work." We still need to have necessary recreational activities. I believe you won't become addicted to them. Therefore, I suggest you go to a bar and play computer games with friends. We know that changing the way of entertainment can reduce pressure, ease tension and calm your mood, so that you can continue moving forward with a clear mind.

I also noted your observation that you are not currently satisfied with your work situation during this transition period. I must admit that when I read your message, that was my initial impression as well. I believe this may be due to your long-standing tendency to focus on me and your belief that your current compensation does not align with your expectations. This mindset has likely contributed to your feelings of discontent with your current role. However, if we consider the broader picture, your employment provides a sense of stability and financial security, which is something to be grateful for. Without this job, your financial situation would likely be much more uncertain. I encourage you to take a moment to appreciate the value of your current role. This shift in perspective could significantly impact your attitude towards work. I believe you will find that your outlook will change for the better.

You mentioned that the most significant emotional challenge you're facing is the person you're interested in but who is not interested in you. I believe this is a major contributing factor to your current situation. It's important to understand that emotional matters cannot be forced. Genuine feelings must be reciprocal, but just because you like someone doesn't mean they will like you back. It's likely that there are people who like you and people who don't. You're here because of a friend's words, which touched your heart and prompted a shift in your thinking, leading to a deeper sense of sadness during this period of waiting. It's crucial to recognize that at 26 years old, it's normal to experience these feelings. We understand that true fulfillment comes when a man and a woman are together, as they feel a sense of completeness and perfection in their relationship. You're not lacking in strength; rather, as humans, we reach a certain age and rely on each other as a couple to enhance our lives. Living alone is simply navigating the challenges of life. It's something we all experience. You're learning to be resilient.

Your situation is different. You are in the prime of life and have the ability to achieve your goals through your own efforts. It is not necessary to dwell on short-term setbacks. The key is to persevere and emerge stronger from this stage.

Then, continue to enhance your skills and abilities in a manner that aligns with your personal goals and preferences. As we gradually refine our capabilities, it's essential to maintain a sense of calm and composure. In the meantime, focus on maintaining a comfortable and secure lifestyle. Gradually, invest your emotions in this role and leverage it as a stepping stone to a more fulfilling career.

While you are working to improve yourself, it is important to allow yourself time to relax, play computer games, and socialize with friends. As I mentioned previously, only those who understand the value of rest can work effectively. By maintaining a positive outlook and a healthy lifestyle, you can ensure that your emotions remain balanced and that you do not become overly focused on the frequency or time dedicated to work. When I suggest this approach, I envision a more optimistic and confident version of yourself. If you are a confident and capable individual, it is less likely that you will face challenges in your personal life. By gradually integrating your potential abilities into your work, you can create a brighter future for yourself.

I encourage you to take the initiative and seize the opportunities that the world and I have to offer.

Hello? Questioner, I can tell you're unhappy. Let me give you a hug!

1.

You're 26. What does it matter if the person you like doesn't like you?

You can improve yourself. If that doesn't work, you can always find someone you like! Don't be hard on yourself.

2.

Your job is stable, but your income is low. What don't you like about it? Have you thought about working part-time to increase your income?

Look at the old employees again. What did they look like when they worked hard? Did they improve their standard of living?

If you can make more money, you might as well like your job. You have to support your family.

3.

You like playing games with friends, but you need to add more positive friends.

4.

You know where you are right now. This is the start of change. Problems are only temporary. We all get through confusion! Read the book (The Power of Self-Growth). You can listen to it too!

Congratulations on your success! I hope my sharing helps. Come on!

Dear Question Asker,

I empathize with your situation and comprehend the challenges you are facing. Despite having a secure employment at the age of 26, you perceive a lack of hope for the future. You feel adrift, perplexed, and helpless. Let us examine the following:

It is imperative to confront the present circumstances.

It would be beneficial to consider one's own strengths and weaknesses in order to gain a more comprehensive understanding of the situation.

"Male, 26 years old, experiencing occasional bouts of despondency and a sense of futility."

Indeed, a considerable number of individuals find themselves in a similar situation, and the questioner is not isolated in this experience. However, some may not be conscious of this reality or have not yet contemplated the potential for change.

"I'm still thinking about improving myself while I'm young." The questioner has already recognized this, and it is encouraging that he places value on personal growth.

It is evident that individuals of all age groups experience similar confusion and uncertainty. The ongoing epidemic has significantly disrupted the daily routines of many people, and there is a real risk of job loss. Despite the current low wages, which offer little hope of improvement, the fact that people are still employed is a positive outcome.

It would be beneficial to undertake a personal analysis of one's strengths and weaknesses.

It would be beneficial to consider one's own strengths and weaknesses in order to gain a more accurate understanding of one's capabilities and limitations.

The aspiration to deviate from one's current circumstances and enhance one's capabilities is commendable. However, it is essential to evaluate one's present circumstances, including one's strengths and weaknesses. If one were to depart from one's present position, what actions would one undertake, and which aspects would one prioritize for improvement?

In order to make an informed decision, it is essential to consider the aforementioned factors.

In the event of a promising opportunity, what are the probability of success? What are the strengths and weaknesses of one's abilities?

It is important to consider the circumstances surrounding one's decision to leave one's current position. It is essential to evaluate the potential outcomes of such a decision, including the likelihood of success and the impact on one's current and future circumstances. It is also crucial to assess one's personal strengths and weaknesses, as well as the specific areas in which one would like to improve.

It is therefore recommended that the individual in question either continue working while seeking new opportunities or utilise their spare time to develop additional interests and gain further insight into the industry.

In the absence of knowledge regarding these issues, it is not advisable to terminate one's employment. An alternative course of action would be to continue working while seeking new opportunities or to utilize one's leisure time to enhance one's skills, cultivate additional interests, and gain deeper insights into the industry.

Regarding the topic of entertainment, it is important to consider the individual's preferences and the potential benefits of pursuing them. For instance, some individuals may prefer to engage in leisure activities that do not involve social interaction, such as playing video games. In such cases, it may be advisable to prioritize spending time with friends and family, rather than pursuing activities that do not align with one's personal preferences.

It is important to consider one's actual situation, such as one's strengths and weaknesses. In order to make an informed decision, it is crucial to evaluate the potential outcomes of leaving one's current position. It is also essential to identify the specific aspects that could be improved in one's professional life. If there is a promising opportunity, it is vital to assess the probability of success. It is also important to recognize one's core competencies and acknowledge the areas that require improvement.

Each individual has a distinctive method of self-entertainment. One might cite the example of a person who dislikes bars and similar establishments but who nevertheless enjoys spending time with friends and engaging in computer gaming. In such a case, it might be advisable for the individual in question to prioritize spending time with friends, playing games, and pursuing their own pace. There is no necessity to adhere to the pace set by others.

"It has been a considerable period since I have experienced any form of entertainment." It is inadvisable to maintain excessive levels of stress and anxiety. One can allocate time for social interactions with friends, explore novel forms of recreation that align with one's preferences, such as running, music appreciation, and so forth, or engage in relaxation training.

The following section addresses the topic of love.

In conclusion, it is evident that the individual in question is experiencing a sense of longing for a romantic partner who is currently unavailable. It is therefore recommended that they undertake a period of introspection and analysis to ascertain whether there is still a possibility of pursuing a relationship with this person. If not, it would be prudent to accept the situation and move on with their life. It is important to remember that there will always be people who are not suitable as romantic partners and that it is possible to become a better version of oneself until such a partner is found.

The aforementioned considerations are presented for your consideration.

One should not concern oneself unduly with age or quantity. Rather, one should follow one's heart. It is possible that some people may merely accompany you on a part of your journey. One should not dwell on the fact that one cannot continue walking together. Instead, one should treat each moment together seriously.

The original poster indicated that the individual in question is not within reach. It would be prudent to ascertain whether there is still an opportunity for togetherness. If so, it would be advisable to pursue it. If not, it would be beneficial to learn to let go and embrace one's own life.

One must maintain the conviction that an appropriate partner will eventually be encountered; in the interim, it is imperative to strive for self-improvement.

It is my hope that my response will prove beneficial to the inquirer and that they will soon find a fulfilling romantic partnership.

Ultimately, it is my hope that my response will prove beneficial to the inquirer and that they will soon experience the joy of finding a genuine and enduring romantic partnership.

Good morning,

Host:

After reading the post with great care, I could sense the distress the poster was experiencing. At the same time, I also noticed that the poster courageously expressed his distress and was actively seeking help, which will undoubtedly help the poster to gain a deeper understanding of himself and his situation, and thus adjust his perspective.

I hope that by sharing my observations and thoughts in the post, I can help the poster gain a richer perspective on themselves.

1. Frustration with reality can sometimes lead to feelings of meaninglessness.

From the post, it can be observed that the poster mentioned feeling sad and that he felt that there was no hope in life. Despite having a stable job, the income is not sufficient to afford the things he wants.

In a relationship, it can be challenging when the person you like does not reciprocate your feelings. When we find ourselves facing unattainable goals, it's natural to question our efforts and feel a sense of meaninglessness.

It is understandable to feel a sense of futility when we are unable to attain what we desire.

It is a common psychological phenomenon that if there is no difference between a score of 0 and a score of 90, it may be challenging to see the value in striving for a score of 90. Many of us find that our efforts are better directed towards a score of 100. However, if we find ourselves unable to achieve a score of 100, even with our best efforts, and if we are left with a score of 90, it can be difficult to maintain motivation.

At this time, we may feel that life is lacking meaning and motivation to work. Without joy or happiness in life, it can be challenging to see the point of it all.

2. Consider ways to enhance your professional skills and abilities.

The poster mentioned in the post that he is not happy with his work, and I am still considering ways to improve myself and potentially transition out of this role while I am still young. Of course, this is not impossible, but the poster might also want to reflect on a few things.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider whether you have found your passion and whether you like your work.

Have you considered whether you have the conditions and ability to get into the job you like? If you were to leave because you are not happy and your needs are not being met, would you have the financial ability to support yourself?

As adults, we have a responsibility to take care of ourselves. When it comes to work, it might be helpful to focus on earning a living first. While supporting yourself, you can also take the time to explore your passions and improve your professional and other abilities.

This may be a feasible solution. The host is 26 years old, which is still quite young, and he seems to be very motivated.

Perhaps it would be helpful to remember that growing up sometimes needs to be done slowly, one step at a time.

3. It is important to remember that relationships are a matter for both parties.

In the post, the host mentioned that the person he liked did not reciprocate his feelings. I can understand the host's perspective.

While it is unfortunate, it is important to remember that any relationship is a two-way street. A relationship that is mutually beneficial is likely to be the most fulfilling.

It's important to remember that the other person's feelings don't necessarily reflect the reality of the situation. It's possible that they simply don't see a good match between you two.

However, the host mentioned that he is 26 years old and has not been in a relationship. Perhaps we can look back and see why this is.

Could it be that you're not quite ready, or perhaps you don't yet possess the skills needed to navigate the complexities of falling in love? It's possible that there might be some underlying factors holding you back. It might be helpful to explore these aspects further.

As you gain a deeper understanding of yourself, you will be better equipped to make necessary adjustments.

It might be helpful for the host to explore some resources on this topic, such as "Intimate Relationships" and "How to Make the One You Love Fall in Love With You."

I hope these resources will be of some help and inspiration to the poster. I am Zeng Chen, a psychological coach at One Mind.

From the comments, it seems that the questioner has taken the time to reflect on various aspects of their life, including work, entertainment, and relationships. The feelings of helplessness and frustration that these reflections have brought up are evident in the words.

At the age of 26, people are often considered to be in their prime, full of enthusiasm and chasing their dreams. It is not difficult to imagine how this gap between reality and ideals can make people feel even more uncertain.

The age of 26 is often considered to be a time when one is full of youthful enthusiasm and dreams. It is not difficult to imagine how this gap between reality and ideals can make people feel even more at a loss.

It is my hope that the following sharing will provide the subject owner with a different perspective than what they currently see in their field of vision.

It is my hope that the following sharing will provide the subject owner with a different perspective.

First, I would like to share that I have something many people desire but often don't have the opportunity to obtain.

With regard to work, the questioner mentioned the desire for "stable work, but the price is a dead wage."

On the one hand, a fixed salary may not be sufficient to satisfy higher material desires. However, in an economic downturn and an overall sluggish pandemic era, it is understandable that many people are concerned about their future livelihood. A stable job provides a sense of security and stability, which is important for meeting basic needs.

According to Maslow's hierarchy of needs, the physiological and safety needs are the foundation and most basic needs. It could be said that "stable dead wages" largely satisfy these two needs.

It might be helpful to consider making some changes while you are still young. Perhaps you could think about improving yourself, leaving this job, and not being satisfied with the current situation. It seems that the hope to pursue a mutually agreeable relationship depends to some extent on the satisfaction and realization of the underlying needs. This could give us more drive and courage to achieve higher needs, that is, social needs, respect, and self-realization.

2. I believe that what I pursue is what I desire.

Secondly, I endeavour to pursue my desires.

The message title mentions "no expectations in life, no hope," but the description in the body of the message alludes to a longing for entertainment and an expectation of intimacy.

It may be the case that we have not fully recognised this contrast ourselves.

It's not that there is no hope in life, but that what we hope for now seems particularly difficult, full of setbacks and challenges. This is the truth that can sometimes make us feel disheartened and dejected.

In light of these challenges, it might be helpful to consider ways to adapt our approach to give adversity more opportunities to play out in different ways. For instance:

1. Work

If you are in a position where you have stable work, you might consider starting some side businesses to increase your passive income and provide more material security and breakthroughs.

2. Entertainment

If you haven't engaged in your favorite recreational activities for a while, it might be worth considering that this could be a form of self-deprivation, which could in turn reduce your happiness. If you feel it would be beneficial, you could try to refine the time you used to spend on self-improvement. For example, if you used to spend 8 hours a weekend on self-improvement, you could now use 2 hours of it to relax. Just like charging your phone, rest is for more efficient output.

3. Relationships

While mutual affection is undoubtedly a beautiful beginning, it is unfortunate when the person you like is unable to gain the affection of the person you like.

It can be challenging to force another person to like us.

If I might make a suggestion, you might consider trying to get to know more people and come into contact with people in different life situations. In the process of constantly opening up yourself, you may gain more understanding and possibilities for the other person you can't let go of at the moment.

I'm not exploring human nature per se, but rather offering my own perspective as a therapist who cares about the human heart. I wish you well.

Good day, My name is Yi Xinli Listener Jiusi, and I hope my response will be of assistance to you.

From my review of the questioner's description, I believe the questioner is a highly driven individual with a multitude of interests and pursuits.

From the text, we can ascertain that the questioner is highly organized and has a clear understanding of their work, leisure, and emotional needs.

It is likely that everyone will have similar concerns at some point in their lives. Otherwise, there would be no need for the three fundamental questions that many people ask themselves: Who am I? Where did I come from?

Please advise as to the destination.

Many prominent individuals have engaged in introspection and sought to address these fundamental inquiries.

However, it is important to note that these solutions may not address the unique challenges faced by each individual.

The questioner indicated a preference for a family and support from others. However, it would be interesting to ascertain the number of individuals who would prefer to live independently without the distractions that a family or other social support structures might entail.

Therefore, each individual faces unique challenges and concerns, and the advent of life itself is a continuous process of navigating difficulties.

In his book, Born to be Remarkable, Vishen Lakhari, a leading expert in positive psychology, identifies three fundamental principles that underpin a fulfilling life.

1. Experiences

The only thing we can leave behind when we leave this world is our experiences. Some people may have worked for decades, but each day is a repetition of the previous day, and they eventually regret that they have no memorable experiences to look back on.

Some individuals are constantly evolving, pushing their boundaries and challenging themselves. They accumulate a wealth of experiences and memories, leading to a fulfilling and rewarding life.

2. Growth

Our entire life is, in fact, a period of growth and development. Many esteemed professionals have put forth the idea of lifelong learning as a core tenet of personal and professional advancement.

It is a fundamental human trait to enjoy learning. We can observe that children are innately curious and eager to learn about their surroundings, and they often grasp new concepts rapidly.

However, after adulthood, many people lose interest in learning. It is worth considering how long it has been since we have had a desire to explore and whether this impacts our perception of the meaningfulness of life.

3. Dedication

What situations result in the greatest respect and satisfaction?

The late Academician Yuan Longping provided us with the greatest inspiration through his dedication to his work.

It can be stated that assisting a greater number of people results in a greater return, both in terms of spiritual and material benefits.

We can assess our own contributions to the world, which serve as a reflection of our value.

I believe that at this juncture, the questioner can attempt to ascertain the meaning of life through learning and dedication.

At times, it is necessary to persevere in order to achieve a desired outcome. With perseverance, we may discover the beauty of life and find the value of our existence.

I hope my response is helpful to the questioner. I sincerely hope that the questioner can overcome their current confusion soon.

Thank you for your time. I am Jiusi, on Yixinli, and I appreciate your consideration.

Hello, questioner. I can assure you that there is suffering in life, but there will be happiness after the suffering.

Suffering is a necessary stage in life. It is a fact. Where there is suffering, there is growth. I am going to share some of my feelings and suggestions in response to your current situation and your distress.

Suffering stems from dissatisfaction with the status quo.

From your description, it's clear you're not satisfied with your situation. In terms of work, the stability is a problem. Your salary doesn't meet your ideal standards, and you're not happy with your work. You need the opportunity and ability to find a more suitable job.

In terms of relationships, you love but are unloved, and you are alone. In terms of life, you want to be able to enjoy leisure, but you don't have time because you are focused on improving yourself.

The root of your sadness is that you are too demanding of yourself. You are 26, and it is time to work hard. It is normal to want to improve while also wanting to live a comfortable life. First, you must face the rationality of this problem and understand your own needs.

Second, recognize the true nature of suffering.

You have standards for your future life, and you should be confident enough to achieve your expectations. Lack of confidence stems from a lack of a clear plan and implementation plan.

You have demands on all aspects of life. You know that work, family, and leisure are all indispensable parts of life. You play a good role in each aspect and you are a perfectionist. You pursue a perfect life, and that's okay.

However, it is crucial to understand that the brain is composed of two distinct systems: the primitive brain and the rational brain. When our higher cognitive functions attempt to regulate too many processes simultaneously, the primitive brain becomes overwhelmed, struggling to determine the most appropriate action and the optimal sequence for its execution. Without a clear operational framework, the primitive brain experiences a sense of being inundated with tasks, yet unable to accomplish anything tangible.

This inevitably results in the emergence of negative emotions, such as anxiety, loss, and frustration, which in turn lead to suffering.

Third, a good life starts with change.

Unmet needs cause pain, and pain drives change. It's like throwing a question from the platform. Pain is the fuse that ignites growth, so you should embrace your own painful stage. Regarding change, I have some suggestions for you to consider:

First, make a plan and decide on your direction. Be as specific as possible about your goals, such as finding a new job or a partner.

Second, you must manage your time effectively. Allocate specific time to accomplish each goal.

For example, how long do you spend each day learning new skills to prepare for a new job? How many parties do you attend each week to expand your social circle and prepare for finding the right partner? How much time do you set aside each day for leisure and entertainment to achieve a balance between work and rest?

Third, regularly review the situation and apply the results. Summarize your change plan, understand the progress of the changes, establish a reward and punishment mechanism, and be rewarded for your efforts. For example, have a big meal or go on a trip. Don't forget that our primitive brain needs a little sweetness to keep it going.

Fourth, improve your sense of emotional control. In the process of change, there will definitely be a lot of negative emotions. You must take control of your emotions. Learn to use emotions in the process of change, adjust when negative emotions prevail, find ways to generate positive emotions in yourself, and use positive emotions to break down negative emotions when they arise.

I am Cici Ai, an 80s generation person who relies on psychology to heal herself. I am confident that my advice will be of some help to you. Good luck!

I can feel your distress, my friend, as I hug you. It's clear you're not happy at work and can't find true joy. You're unable to love in your relationships. No one feels joy and has high expectations in life.

I'm so happy to see that the questioner has such a deep understanding of themselves. They've thoughtfully described their feelings in three key areas: work, entertainment, and relationships. It's so clear and well-expressed!

I just wanted to say congratulations! When you realize this, it is actually the moment to welcome the "bottom bounce."

I think the questioner's thinking is really clear when it comes to work and entertainment.

"I'm still thinking about improving myself while I'm young."

It's so important to set yourself a goal at work. What kind of path do you really want to take? Work backwards from the goal to plan each year, each month, each week, and each day. This way, you'll be clear about your path and achieve your goal after many years!

It's still important to relax when it comes to entertainment, but just be careful with the amount of time spent. You know, if you pull the string too tightly, it won't be conducive to progress at work.

People who know how to have fun also know how to work hard. So, enjoy your leisure time!

Love is the most mysterious thing in the world. Isn't it interesting how that works? In work, we can see certain results if we work hard, but in relationships, sometimes hard work has the opposite effect.

I heard a lovely story the other day:

If you like a butterfly very much, you don't need to chase it. Believe me, the more you chase, the further the butterfly flies!

The best way to do it is to plant a beautiful garden, and the butterflies will come every day to visit it!

In terms of love, it means working hard to improve yourself. And if you are blooming, the butterflies will come!

It's so important to take care of yourself and your appearance. While it's true that our appearance is something we can't change, we can absolutely take control of our bodies and our confidence.

It's also a great idea to learn to dress yourself and improve your taste. There are lots of inexpensive ways to match outfits on Xiaohongshu, too!

It would be really great for you to improve your inner cultivation, read more books on psychology, and for gender-related recommendations, I'd highly recommend "Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus."

When you meet a girl you like in the future, you can get along with her in a way that she'll really enjoy!

In the eight hours outside of work, give yourself the freedom to be your true self, explore the things you love, and expand your social circle through interest groups. Two people with similar interests are more likely to have a lasting connection.

I'd highly recommend reading more books about biographies. You'll see that other people's lives are actually full of misfortune, but there's so much we can learn from how they came out of the trough and encountered good times in their lives.

It's so important to make a 3-5 year plan for yourself and then just go for it! Live more in the present and enjoy the journey. You know, the best times to plant a tree are the present and ten years ago. If you just keep going, you can achieve your dreams. Come on, let's encourage each other!

You're currently facing some challenges in your work and love life, but don't worry! You're still young and have plenty of time to figure things out. Many people at your age choose to change jobs or pursue new opportunities, and you can do the same!

It's not ideal to have a stable job with a fixed salary, but it can be a great foundation for your career! While it might not be possible to do your job very well and challenge your abilities at the same time, there are ways to make it work.

Embrace more enjoyable and empowering experiences! If you're aware of your situation, take the initiative to make adjustments and see how you can improve in an integrated way. You never know what amazing things might happen!

It's time to explore new career possibilities! Look for jobs that align with your professional skills and experience. You never know what opportunities might be waiting for you.

You can't force things on an emotional level either. But you can look at why other people haven't accepted you, and whether it's because there are things you're not doing well. If it can be improved, then you can correct it! If you can't change it or it's not important, you can still accept it.

You want someone to support you and live with you, and you want to achieve a good state of mutual assistance. It'll take time, but it'll be worth it! Our lives won't be smooth sailing, but we'll still have to rely on our own efforts to achieve it. Whether it's work promotion or the cultivation of the quality of life, it's worth thinking about. I highly recommend you read "The Practical Handbook of Minimalist Living", "Independence Day 4: Can I Go to Your House and Take a Look?", "It's Okay to Slow Down", "Only by Running Your Best Will You Know", and "Starting Over Today". Heal yourself and continue on your journey in this era!

ZQ?

Hello question asker! I am happy to answer your question.

From the questioner's description, it's clear that they want a good life and to improve themselves. They also want a beautiful love and a good emotional connection, but they feel that these two things are in conflict, which causes anxiety. From the questioner's description, I can see that they're sad, lost, in pain, and anxious when facing conflict, as well as feeling lost.

I'm here to give the questioner a pat on the shoulder and a little support. I'm confident that the questioner will get through this low period and that the future will be better.

I am going to outline a simple solution to the problem the OP is facing.

You should own things you like and work hard to improve yourself.

You want many things, beautiful things, things you like. But your salary can't support your spending. So you're going to improve yourself. This is a very positive idea. Give the questioner a thumbs up.

If you want it, go get it. Self-improvement is the way to go.

Walking on the path of self-improvement means giving up a lot of leisure time. You feel lonely and want emotional support, right? I don't know what method you use to improve yourself, whether it's online or offline classes, but you should have a lot of classmates, right?

I left my old life behind and joined a circle of psychological counseling. I've been taking online courses and have met many like-minded classmates. I've also received a lot of support from them. If you feel alone on your journey of self-improvement, find friends with similar interests and hobbies.

Don't let anxiety about being single hold you back.

I believe the OP has noticed a phenomenon: many aspects of life are filled with advertising slogans that promote love or having a partner. For example, there are slogans like "half price for the second cup," "two for the price of one," and "the other person is free."

Having a partner will undoubtedly bring more benefits.

Such praise forms a mental blanketing that convinces people there's something lacking in single life. They believe if they want their lives to improve, they need to find a partner. When everyone around you is in a couple and you're still single, it's natural to develop anxiety about being single.

We can alleviate the anxiety of being single.

You are a work in progress. Staying together until death do you part is a result, not a goal. Accept and love yourself. Don't deny yourself.

For example, "I'm not good at relationships, no matter how hard I try, I can't achieve what I want," or "the person I love doesn't love me, I'm destined to be single." This way of thinking will block the possibility of change and add unnecessary worry and hurt. The next time you want to negate yourself, you can replace "fixed words" with "possibility words."

For example, replace the sentence structure of "I am" with "I may be" or "I can be."

I may not be very good at relationships, and I haven't done well in the past few times. But I can do better in the future.

The person I love doesn't love me back, and I may be single for a while until I find the next person I love.

A slight change in language can help us to be less self-deprecating and see more possibilities for change. Love should be your social life, not your life. Insisting on finding someone you like to be together is your life choice, not your life.

I am confident that my answer will be helpful.

Good day!

As a heart exploration coach, I believe that learning is one of the most valuable gifts we can give our bodies.

From your description, I can sense a range of emotions, including sadness, loss, disappointment, reluctance, dissatisfaction, pain, and helplessness.

It seems that you are experiencing some difficulties in aligning your current circumstances with your expectations. Without going into too much detail, I would like to offer three suggestions for your consideration:

If I may make a suggestion, it would be to try to accept your current situation.

I believe that if you do this, it will help to make your heart feel slightly lighter, which in turn will help you to think about what you could do next.

You say that you are a 26-year-old guy who sometimes feels inexplicably sad and feels that there is no hope in life. Although your job is stable, you can only earn a living wage, and a living wage cannot buy the lifestyle you want. Entertainment is also lacking at the moment; the same is true of relationships. You have not been in love yet, and you especially long for a sense of belonging and security at home. Moreover, the person you like does not like you. All of these things combined make you particularly disappointed with your current state of life. In fact, your state of mind is understandable, because everyone has the potential to improve and wants to live the life they want. When life is not as good as expected, everyone feels sad and upset. So you can try to accept your current state of mind. "Seeing" that unhappy, but temporarily overwhelmed and painful self will give you extra mental energy to think about other things, otherwise your mind will be filled with all kinds of negative emotions.

It is also important to note that allowing yourself to try to accept your current situation may help to facilitate change. While this may seem contradictory, it is based on the understanding that change is often a natural consequence of allowing for no change.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to try to view your current situation in a more rational way.

It might be helpful to consider that rational thinking can assist in gaining a deeper understanding of oneself and reality.

To look at things rationally, you might find it helpful to consider the following three steps:

First, it's important to understand that personal growth is a process, and that living the life you want is not something that can be achieved overnight.

It's important to remember that achieving the life you want takes time. It's helpful to recognize the value of time and to remember that you're still young at 26. While you've never been in a relationship, it's natural to want to improve and perfect yourself, including finding the love of your life.

Secondly, it is important to recognize that the status quo can be altered, as you have the capacity to change it.

As you embark on your journey of self-discovery and growth, you will gradually come closer to the life you truly desire. It is essential to recognize the importance of your own subjective initiative in this process.

Thirdly, it may be helpful to consider that the life you expect may need to be realistic.

It might be helpful to remember that it's not always possible to achieve an idealised version of a life. Having high expectations can sometimes lead to feelings of frustration and disappointment. It could be beneficial to take a step back and assess whether your expectations are realistic and well-founded.

Perhaps, when viewed from this perspective, some of the negative emotions you are experiencing could be alleviated.

If I may make one more suggestion, it would be to focus on yourself and consider what you can do to help yourself feel more relaxed.

After taking the time to think things through, you may also have some ideas about what you can do. At this point, it might be helpful to focus on yourself and do your best.

For instance, you might consider whether the standard of living you desire is realistic and attainable. An objectively reasonable quality of life is one that is practical and within reach. It is often helpful to make each point as specific as possible. As you do so, you may find it easier to assess whether it is realistic and attainable.

It might also be helpful to focus on the positive aspects of your character. Perhaps you are not entirely satisfied with your professional life or do not have a romantic partner, which can lead to feelings of insecurity. During this period, it is important to recognize your strengths. Based on your description, you appear to have a talent for public speaking and have sought assistance, which demonstrates your motivation. This will help you feel more confident and enthusiastic about life.

You might also consider addressing your own shortcomings, accepting what cannot be changed, and changing what can be changed. For example, if you would like to improve yourself at work, you could do so. Then you might look at your situation and see what aspects can be improved, and you could work hard to do a good job, which might help you feel better over time.

You might also consider reaching out to the opposite sex to see if there's someone you'd like to get to know better. It's often the case that falling in love requires a certain degree of communication and practice. It's important to remember that you have the power to influence the situation.

When you take action, you may find that the various negative emotions in your heart will naturally be resolved slowly. Sometimes, action can be an effective way to overcome these emotions.

I hope my answer is helpful to you. If you would like to communicate further, you are welcome to click "Find a coach" at the bottom, and I would be happy to communicate with you one-on-one.

Good morning, I hope this message finds you well.

At 26, you are in the prime of life, and it is important to remember that it is never too late to have hope for the future. It's understandable that you may have temporarily lost your confidence and motivation, but I believe you have the potential to regain them.

I am reminded of a class I took yesterday on social psychology. The teacher made an interesting observation that a woman's career is often at its peak around the age of 30, while a man's career may take longer to develop, often not reaching its full potential until around 40. This is an interesting perspective that highlights the differences in career development between genders. However, when we look at the details, we see that individuals may follow different paths. For instance, Gu Ailing became a world champion at the age of 18.

At the age of 57, Qi Baishi was engaged in the sale of paintings to support himself. There was a limited demand for his work, which led to feelings of discouragement.

It wasn't until he was 65 that he gained widespread recognition, becoming one of the most renowned painters in modern China.

Some people are fortunate enough to find success at a relatively young age, while others may take a more mature approach.

It seems that you are not entirely happy at work and are looking for ways to improve yourself. However, it's possible that you're struggling to identify the best path forward, and you're experiencing a period of uncertainty.

If I might make a suggestion, I would recommend reading more. It is often the case that the most useful investments we make in our personal development are those that require the least financial input. You may find it beneficial to develop yourself according to your strengths and interests, and to pursue your dreams. You are in your prime at 26, and the possibilities are endless.

It's understandable that, given the demands of work, you might feel like you don't have time for much else. However, it's important to remember that there is a balance to be found between hard work and relaxation. You don't have to be entertained all the time, but it's good to have some outlets for your free time. You could, for instance, plan to go out with friends or play computer games once a month.

This is a reasonable approach that can also benefit your health and work efficiency. It's important to remember to take care of yourself amidst your busy schedule.

It would seem that relationships are a significant source of pain for the questioner, and it is possible that this is a sentiment shared by many. It is natural for people to desire a companion with whom they can navigate life's challenges and share its joys.

Upon returning from work, you find that someone has prepared a delicious meal for you. After dinner, you and your partner enjoy a leisurely walk together. It's a truly special moment.

The questioner said that it is because they are not strong enough, but in fact, having this kind of wish is quite common. I can understand the questioner's feelings. And I am happy that the questioner is still longing for love and warmth, because as long as you are sincere and work hard, you will meet that person again.

If you like someone now but they are unavailable, you might have to accept that they are not the right person for you at this time. It is important to remember that relationships are not something that should be forced. I hope that the questioner can remain enthusiastic and motivated, and that they will meet the person they will spend the rest of their lives with on the path of hard work.

If you bloom, the breeze will come.

I hope the questioner has the opportunity to build a successful career and enjoy a happy life!

Hello, question asker! I'm thrilled to meet you here!

Let's dive right in and go through what you've said:

I'm 26 years old, and I'm ready to embrace the possibilities of life!

& You have a stable job, and you're ready to take the next step up! Your salary is not growing, but you're confident that it will soon. You are not very happy with your work, but you know that you can make a change.

You want to improve yourself while you are still young, and you have been working hard at it, which is great!

& You have never been in love before, and you will not marry just for the sake of it.

& You now think that you might be very happy if you had a family.

Questioner, your situation may be like that of many people who are stuck in dead-end jobs. But don't fret! You don't think your work is as good as you'd like, and you want to improve yourself. You've already taken the first step by recognizing this. Your efforts will surely bear fruit soon! Your marriage is also at a standstill, and you are torn between your ideals and reality. But remember, you're not alone! There are plenty of resources and people who can help you.

Let's dive in and explore how you can start moving in the direction you're striving for!

And most importantly, what kind of life you want to live!

From what you've said, I can tell you're doing great! You have a stable job, you're taking things one step at a time, and you want to improve yourself. What areas would you like to improve? Do you want to start from scratch or build on what you already have? For example, if you get promoted at your current job, what conditions do you need to meet? Are you preparing for this now so that you can deal with it calmly?

So, if starting a new business is to have a second career in the future, then it's time to decide: is this second career going to be a great way to supplement the family income, or is it going to be an amazing opportunity to develop a hobby? Either way, it's an exciting choice!

And now, let's talk about love!

If the person you love is not available, then let go and transform your love into blessings! Then go find someone who is available. There's a great saying that says whether someone is happy depends on whether they have no worries and no one to love.

Having a family means having a wonderful sense of togetherness and love for yourself and the people you love. It also means having a light on for you when you come home late at night!

Just look at that lamp! It's happiness in a bottle. So, from now on, let go and pursue the one you love and can get. Let the smoke and fire surround you!

And expectations in life!

All life's expectations can be divided into two types: personal pursuits and striving for the people you love. Even if these two situations are included, there will still be things that you feel have no hope. But don't worry! Many things require the right time, place, and people, and they cannot be achieved just by our hard work. So, keep going!

I think your situation is totally normal, and you're going to be just fine!

I'm me, and I'm here for you! I hope my answer provides you with a new perspective and is useful to you.