A 27-year-old woman has been in the workforce for four years. How can she accelerate her growth?

Hello, My name is Zaijian Qingxin, and I'm happy to see your request for help. It seems like you're not happy with your current job and want to change careers but don't know where to start. I understand you're feeling a bit anxious about it.

Let's look at this together and try to clear up the confusion.

1. Problem description

Four years after graduation, I'm currently working in book sales. I feel like my current job has no technical content and can be easily replaced. I'm hoping to learn a skill and change jobs.

You want to change jobs from the first year, but three years have passed and you haven't yet done so. You haven't learned a skill because you can't stick with it in one field.

Worried that after 30, you've already set your ways of thinking and acting, and it's tough to change them.

2. How to make your original idea of changing jobs successfully and growing quickly a reality.

Separate your job-hopping from your skills and just get started.

There's no real connection between job hopping and skills. You don't have to wait until you've learned a skill to change jobs, unless you're looking for something really specialized, like a doctor, nurse, or chef.

If you want to, you can go for it now.

It's time to figure out what you want to do with your career.

From what you've said, it seems like you want to change jobs but you're not really sure what kind of career you want to have in the future. So you haven't really thought about what skills you'd need for the career you want to have. Before you change jobs, I'd suggest taking some time to think about your career direction. That way you'll know what skills you need to improve.

If we focus our efforts, we can achieve twice the result with half the effort.

You can keep changing yourself as long as you want, and it's never too late to start.

You think that after you hit 30, your way of thinking and acting is set in stone and impossible to change. But the truth is, we can always change ourselves if we're willing to put in the work.

Huawei's founder, Ren Zhengfei, only started his business at 40. After more than 30 years of hard work, he founded a great company. Jin Yong, another successful entrepreneur, started his doctoral studies at 80. These examples show that, as long as we don't set limits for ourselves, we can take action at any age to change ourselves and achieve continuous growth.

Don't worry about being too late. As long as you take action, it's never too late.

I hope this is helpful. Best regards,

Hello, question asker.

I am a healer, and I will give you a big hug first. I am a 27-year-old woman who has been in the workplace for four years. I want to know how I can accelerate my growth.

In terms of career development, planning is looking at the present from the perspective of the future. You have gained valuable experience in the fire of the market over the past four years. You have honed your skills and transformed from a campus person to a working person. You have also gained valuable experience in the fire of the market. The older you get, the lonelier you feel, and the more uneasy you become. This reflects the psychological state of our first stage in the workplace. You have already gained work experience and job skills. You have set short-term goals for 1-3 years, medium-term goals for 3-5 years, and medium-to-long-term goals for 5-8 years or even longer. This is a critical period when you have already set goals. You have the opportunity to advance to the next level, such as competing for a supervisor position. You have gained valuable experience in the fire of the market over the past four years. You have set short-term goals for 1-3 years, medium-term goals for 3-5 years, and medium-to-long-term goals for 5-8 years or even longer. You have gained valuable experience in the fire of the market over the past four years. You have set short-term goals for 1-3 years, medium-term goals for 3-5 years, and medium-to-long-term goals for 5-8 years or even longer. You have gained valuable experience in the fire of the market over the past four years. You have set short-term goals for 1-3 years, medium-term goals for 3-5 years, and medium-to-long-term goals for 5-8 years or even longer. You have gained valuable experience in the fire of the market over the past four years. You have set short-term goals for 1-3 years, medium-term goals for 3-5 years, and medium-to-long-term goals for 5-8 years or even longer. You have gained valuable experience in the fire of the market over the past four years. You have set short-term goals for 1-3 years, medium-term goals for 3-5 years, and medium-to-long-term goals for 5-8 years or even longer. You have gained valuable experience in the fire of the market over the past four years. You have set short-term goals for 1-3 years, medium-term goals for 3-5 years, and medium

You graduated from university at 22, took the civil service exam for a year, and then used connections to get a job at your current company. You're a book salesman at a bookstore, and your work is undervalued and could be done by anyone.

In the first year after I first came here, I thought I would learn a skill and then move on to another job. I was wrong. I can't stick with anything for more than a few months.

For many young talents who aspire to go ashore, this is not an easy task. It is just as competitive as everyone's iron rice bowl, and it is sought after by young people because of its perceived stability. Let's be clear: it is not any easier than the college entrance exam back then.

It is a common misconception that young people in the parental system lack adaptability. In fact, they are often highly adaptable due to the influence of their parents and the example they set. Even students who have just started work are not much worse than colleagues who have been working for one or two years in terms of social skills and problem-solving. This is a sense of superiority that everyone recognizes.

You're 27 years old, and you feel like you're already half an old man in the workplace. I just read that after the age of 30, people's way of thinking and doing things is set, and it's difficult to change. I'm panicked. I need to achieve my initial idea and successfully change jobs. What do I do?

The term "thirty and established" is a false proposition. If we compare the ages of ancient people to modern people, their thirties are equivalent to our fifties. Many sources of stress and anxiety are poisoned by a lot of chicken soup and the so-called "dozens of decades" phenomenon. Outsiders may feel that they can hide from the storms in a stable environment, but deep down inside, they still have a lot of unspeakable secrets. A life that you can see the end of at a glance makes you lose all your fighting spirit. Looking at your colleagues around you and thinking about your future, you always feel bad. I can give you a few suggestions based on your actual situation.

1. First, set your own goals. It's easy to get lost in this environment, but for those with direction and ideals, it's a stepping stone. When you feel stuck, ask yourself: Have you done your job to the best of your ability? If you can do even the smallest things well, your leader will notice and give you important tasks. Those appointed in times of crisis have practiced their basic skills to perfection. They seize opportunities and change their fate. Look at Zhang Songwen in the current hit drama "Furious Wind." He broke through, endured fame and fortune, and honed his will and basic skills. Each small achievement requires a certain time limit to succeed.

2. There are all kinds of birds in the forest, and when you become a big bird, you are not afraid of anything in the forest. Lack of confidence is due to a lack of skills, which is in turn due to a lack of direction. Lack of direction is due to a lack of suffering. Beauty is impermeable. Not suffering hardship makes it difficult to become a leader, and this applies to everyone. You may not succeed if you try hard, but you can't succeed without trying hard.

3. If you look for external causes in everything, you will remain the same for ten years. If you look for internal causes in everything, every day will be new. We always complain about the oppression of our environment and the imperfection of our self-image, but we never consider whether we are just passing the buck to others. We never calm down and think about what we really need and what we really want. We must solve our needs to stop being so miserable about what we want. If we get it wrong, our whole life will be miserable.

4. The "more skills, less pressure" approach is simple: complete your work, then use your free time to learn one or two new skills. This not only builds a solid foundation for your livelihood but also gives you the flexibility to handle unexpected challenges. To truly own the world, you have to step outside your comfort zone and embrace new opportunities.

5. Seeing the present is about emptying yourself, embracing the wisdom of an open mind, and recognizing the true source of wisdom—the heart. Only by recognizing your own inadequacies and realizing what you cannot perceive will you know how to act with courage after being humbled. Only by accumulating a wealth of knowledge can you achieve success. Seeing the world is about constantly learning from those who are better than you, and investing in your own brain is the greatest investment and wealth in life. Seeing all living beings is about accepting all this peacefully, learning to reconcile with the other self, finding that ray of sunshine deep within your heart, and constantly forging ahead.

6. These suggestions are for your reference only. The world connects us all. All the best!

Hello, I'm an old donkey with a worn-out mind.

As someone who's been in the workforce for a while and has faced some challenges, I can relate to the questioner's feelings.

Qi Baishi painted shrimp at 70, and Jiang Ziya helped King Wu of Zhou take down the tyrant at 70. Their first half of life wasn't that exciting, but their second half was pretty impressive.

I think the questioner should give himself a little confidence. It's never too late to start.

It's great that the questioner can think about this at 27. Many people don't start thinking about these things until much later. The questioner said that books say that after 30, people's ways of thinking and acting are set. It's hard to change then.

This depends on how you see things. There are two personal factors that affect the way we act: habits and awareness. Habits are fixed ways of thinking that form routines, like using an umbrella on a rainy day or going to bed at night. Awareness lets us change our behavior to overcome our habits.

An egg broken from the inside is life, while one broken from the outside is food. It's not the environment that determines our trajectory, but ourselves.

The questioner can ask themselves: What kind of work do I like? What kind of work do I do well?

What do I understand by "accelerated growth"? Is changing jobs considered a career move, or is changing to a job with more potential considered a career move?

What kind of sense of accomplishment are you looking for? A promotion?

Should I ask for a pay rise, or a promotion with a pay rise?

Is it possible to get these things from within without having to change jobs?

If you figure out what you want, you'll know what you need to do to get it. The questioner mentioned wanting to learn new skills and change jobs, but they can't always stick with it. Can you figure out what skills you want to learn?

What are your thoughts on this? Where do you see yourself going?

Do you have a clear goal in mind? Why can't you stick with it?

Do you dislike it or lack the skills to do it well?

When I first started at the company, a leader told me that I'd see results in six months. I stuck it out for almost five years. Recently, the company went through some restructuring, and I was asked to take on extra work without a pay raise. I was already planning to leave, but my leader saw that I was struggling and had a long talk with me. He gave me a promotion and a pay raise.

I thanked him, but he said there was no need because it was still down to me. Otherwise, even if he'd fought for it, it would have been in vain.

I'd like to take this opportunity to share my personal growth experience with the questioner.

It's more important to choose the right direction than to just work hard.

-Make a list of the people in your life who have a positive impact on you. It's hard to see the way forward if you don't have the right support. Spend more time with people who are more experienced and more successful than you.

- Work on your core skills and find a niche where you're good at something or willing to develop your strengths. Being professional will make you more confident and give you a voice.

Even the worst industry has the best people, and there's a champion in every trade. If you think your work is dispensable, you won't be able to inspire enthusiasm and creativity.

Break down your big plans into small, quantifiable goals. Then, find a feasible plan to achieve them. For example, if you want to earn one dollar a day, you can find resources, methods, and paths to make that happen.

There's a big difference between "I have to do it" and "I want to do it." We need to change "I have to do it" to "I want to do it," which can really boost our motivation.

- Give yourself more positive feedback. Efforts without a sense of achievement will quickly lose steam.

- Be sure to ask yourself more often: Where am I? Where do I want to go?

How do I get there?

I hope these tips are helpful for you. Best wishes!

Hello, my name is Xixi.

From your question, I can see that you have a good ability to reflect on yourself, and you also want to improve yourself. This is a very good start. So let's analyze the current situation together.

1-Regarding the position of book salesperson, it may not be as valuable as one might think.

I believe this is a widely held view. I am intrigued to learn more. It stands to reason that a bookstore contains a vast array of books, and many people find joy in exploring the vast sea of literature.

Could I ask whether you think that having so many books to choose from every day is an advantage?

2-Regarding your decision to not pursue any new skills and to give up after a few months, I wonder if there might be a way to find a point of interest that could help you persevere.

I'm not quite sure which aspects of the skill you're referring to, so I'm not sure how to help you persist. There might be a few reasons why this is happening:

It's possible that this skill isn't something you're particularly passionate about. When we don't feel a strong connection to something, it can be challenging to maintain our investment in it.

I wonder if we might be able to find a point of interest for you to persevere with.

It might be the case that this skill does not give you a sense of accomplishment during the learning process. Without a sense of accomplishment, it is easy to become tired and give up.

Perhaps you could consider setting yourself a small, achievable goal and rewarding yourself when you achieve it.

For instance, when studying a lesson, you might consider it as a form of currency. After finishing a lesson, you could imagine that you have earned 10,000 yuan. In this scenario, would you feel motivated, and would you perceive each day of learning as an opportunity to earn money?

If I might share my own experience, I found that...

3-Changing your mindset can be challenging.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider whether you have noticed that when you think about this, you are already on the path to change.

You are ready and willing to embrace positive change and growth.

Perhaps we could look for ways to improve ourselves.

For instance, VIP members of Yi Xinli who listen to the audio attentively each day may find their thinking becoming slightly more inspired, and may notice subtle changes if they persevere.

(This is just an example; you may find other channels of inspiration as well.)

One possible obstacle to change is the belief that change is not possible.

If you believe that you can become better and improve on the path of learning, you have taken a step forward.

4-About panic.

It is important to recognize that there is nothing inherently good or bad about panic.

It is important to remember that everyone has thoughts and emotions. Panic is just one of the many emotions that we all experience.

It might be helpful to view this sense of panic as a mechanism that can actually promote progress. When we feel panic, it often indicates that we want to change, avoid mistakes, and improve.

5-About rapid growth.

This is a challenging issue. Human growth is a gradual process, and it's important to allow it to unfold at a natural pace. Sometimes, slow and steady really does win the race.

It would seem that our social environment is somewhat saturated with quick-fix propaganda.

It is human nature to want to achieve results without investing too much effort.

It is important to understand that without effort, there is no guarantee of gain.

If you're aiming to achieve something in a field, it's worth considering that accumulating experience, working hard, and taking your time could be beneficial.

It took us approximately 20 years to progress from a relatively inexperienced individual to one who is now capable of supporting themselves financially.

It might be helpful to remember that learning a skill takes more than a week or a month. It requires more time and effort.

Hello, I'm Fei Yun, a heart exploration coach. I want to be healthy and happy in 2023.

I'm happy to discuss your career growth. Many people stay in the same job for a long time, and it can be dangerous. Let's take a closer look together:

Growth is multifaceted. You can see the resources you already have.

You mentioned changing jobs, but you could also ask yourself why.

Do you feel stuck in your current job? Or do you already have a clear direction and goals?

Let's look at it in two parts. First, let's talk about "accelerated growth."

First, can you keep loving your job? I don't know what you do.

You can grow yourself at work.

Even if you're a counter clerk, you can use the resources I have: free time and reading for free.

These two things can help you grow faster. For example, you can use your free time to read and write. There is a lot of demand for book reviews and excerpts.

2. The link between action and goal

You say you wasted the past five years. You didn't follow through on your initial idea. Now you're complaining that you're "old."

Be more specific about your goals and plans. This is why you've been slow to take action.

Set a plan for this year with small goals, like reading a book a week.

A tells B he wants to leave because the company is terrible. B says, "Why don't you get more out of it before you leave?"

A followed B's advice and spent the next year learning various skills in the company. At the end of the year, B asked A if he was still leaving.

A said the leader reused him, so there was no need to leave.

?3. This belief is too limiting.

People's thinking and acting is set after 30. This makes you feel panicked. It is true, but it doesn't apply to you.

People live to be over 70. Many live to be over 100.

The choice of our lives is always in our hands. Combine 1 and 2, and then think about what you really want. A sailboat without a direction faces all the obstacles, while a sailboat with a clear direction is helped by all the winds. We can adjust the sails at any time.

I hope this helps. I love you.

To chat, click "Find a Heart Exploration Coach" in the lower right corner.

Hello, question asker! My name is Evan, and I'm excited to help you with your question!

From your description, it's clear you're ready to take the next step in your career planning! You're just starting to understand how to make decisions based on your own characteristics, and you're excited to find your path. When facing the future, others can't always give detailed answers, but that's okay! Your future is waiting for you to find and grasp it.

I'm here to give the OP a big pat on the shoulder and a little strength. It's totally normal to feel unsure about the future. It's all about knowing yourself better and discovering what you're good at and what you love doing. Once you find a path that's right for you, you'll be unstoppable!

What's right for you depends on your decision. No matter what path you choose, once you've made up your mind, go for it with determination! The most important thing is that you think about it. When you're old and look back at the decisions you've made, what do you want to be remembered for? What impression will you leave on others?

Since the question was asked on a platform, I can't go into all the details, but I can give you some simple advice that I think you'll find really helpful!

Be honest!

It's so important to be honest about your career choice! We all have different reasons for wanting to work in a certain industry. Some people want to learn a certain profession just to earn money, while others are good at it.

Everyone's reasons for choosing a career are different, so it's important to be honest with yourself. What exciting new skills do you want to learn, and what is the purpose of the career you want to pursue?

What an exciting question! What is your goal in learning this profession?

What amazing things can you get out of this career?

What are you looking to gain from this career?

How competitive are you feeling about this profession?

What do you think you need in this career to make it a success?

Write down everything you love!

The questioner can also write down what they love, who they love, and the things they love, as well as the life they want in the future. Learning professional knowledge is a great way to better survive and live! If the questioner loves the prospects of the industry, then the related industry is an amazing place for you to work in.

Work is just a part of life, and it can be a great way to find your passion! When you find the things you love, it's easier to focus your energy on your goals and interests. If you've chosen a field you're interested in, think about how far you can go and how you can make your mark. Have your own plan and keep improving yourself, and you'll be on your way to success!

Many people have a dream of turning their hobbies into a career. While it can be challenging, it is an exciting journey! If you are not sure about your strengths or the best way to turn your passion into a career, you can combine your interests to develop related majors. For example, if you want to learn a new skill, you can first explore which majors align with your interests and research the industry to see how it is growing. This will help you decide if your current path is the right one for you and give you a clear direction for your future career.

Absolutely! There are so many great career test scales out there.

There are so many test scales out there that can help the subject know whether they are suitable for a certain type of work! For example, the more popular MBTI, PDP, and other personality or career test scales.

These scales are a great starting point, but there are endless possibilities for people, so don't feel like you have to follow them exactly. What matters most is what the subject wants to do and what they like!

And see what stage of life you are in!

As the old saying goes, "At twenty, one is young; at thirty, one is established." This is an exciting time of self-discovery! From a biological point of view, the questioner's brain is still developing and will not be fully developed until the age of thirty. This means there is plenty of time for the questioner to explore what is suitable for them.

We get to play different roles every day, or label ourselves with different behaviors. So what does the questioner know about himself, and what role does he play in society?

Our roles may include "daughter," "technician," "programmer," "introvert," and so on. It's time to list your identity labels on a piece of paper!

Now, think about which role is the most sustainable and which role is the most important in your opinion!

Now, think about the roles you want to play in the future!

Some roles are forever! These include "daughter" and "civil servant." These are the nouns that can be used to describe you as a person when you leave the world.

Now, think about which roles you feel are extremely stressful and have a negative effect on your life. But don't worry! You can take these roles less seriously in the future.

And there's more! You can help complete this list by thinking about the things you want to accomplish. If there is a job that you like and that pays a decent wage, you can also consider whether there are similar jobs available.

What kind of career do you like? What can this industry bring you? If you like this industry and are motivated to develop it further, you can write it down and get started on your exciting new career!

Now, think about what career you want to choose!

Now, think about the reasons why the questioner chose to change industries, or why you want to do a certain job in the future. To make a life plan, the questioner must be clear about what their top priority is at the current stage.

The sky's the limit! Think about the skills you want to continue learning and the role you want to fill in the future. Why not choose to learn certain skills?

There's a great way to get the OP to think about these reasons. It's by imagining your funeral! (This method may sound a bit morbid, but it really works!) Who will be there at the OP's funeral?

The questioner can imagine how people will judge you. And you know what? Perhaps the thing the questioner most longs to hear is that you are an expert in a certain job, and that others admire you!

I'd absolutely love to hear your thoughts on other aspects of the question owner!

When faced with a choice, the questioner should follow their heart and choose what is best for them. Or, after investigation, choose a career that the questioner thinks is more suitable for them. Either way, it's an exciting opportunity for the questioner to carefully consider their options!

I really hope my answer helps the questioner!

You have to know what you like and what you're good at. That's the foundation for doing anything.

Knowing the answer to this question is essential for making informed choices and living a purpose-driven life.

1. Choose a career that suits you based on your abilities.

First, you need to see if your personality matches the chosen profession. If you are an extrovert, good at communication and adept at dealing with people, then you are suited to a sales-oriented career. If you are an introvert, not good at socializing and not good at sales-oriented work, then you should choose a management position such as financial accounting.

Next, you need to consider whether you have the skills and knowledge required to complete the chosen career. If you have the professional skills and are willing to keep learning and improving, then you can pursue this career. If you don't have these abilities and just work hard, then you should not choose this career.

Finally, you need to consider whether you have enough confidence and courage to face difficulties and challenges. If you lack the courage and ability to overcome these, this is not a career for you.

It will make you feel tired and you won't be able to stick with it.

2. Identify your career interests.

"Occupational interest" is the inclination of an individual towards a specific job or occupation. It is the tendency and predisposition for action that an individual displays in a certain occupational activity. Factors such as interest, motivation, values, and personality contribute to this inclination, and it can be measured through psychological tests.

When making career choices, individuals must first identify their interests and goals. This allows them to pursue their desired career with confidence and purpose. Next, they must assess their abilities and qualities relevant to career development.

There is no correlation between the two. Ultimately, you must make predictions and assessments based on the actual situation to determine if you can adapt to your chosen career direction.

3. Employees must reasonably arrange their time to improve themselves.

1. Set a goal for yourself.

Set a goal for yourself after work. Go all out to achieve it.

Break it down into smaller goals. It's as simple as that. You can't get fat by eating too much at one time.

For example, someone has set a big goal: to read 100 books in one year.

He also wants to improve his writing skills, so he breaks down his goal into smaller ones, such as reading a book, taking a writing course, and writing an article every month. This gradual decomposition of a big goal into smaller ones makes it easier to achieve.

We have to learn to set ourselves practical plans and goals! This way, we'll have more motivation to complete the next plan after completing the current one.

Choose entertainment that improves your work efficiency.

Entertainment allows us to temporarily escape from work and get into a better state of mind for work. If you want to improve your work efficiency, you must find a good way to entertain yourself.

You can have fun in many ways, and you should choose the one that suits you best according to your interests.

I often choose to go to the gym after work. I know that exercising helps me concentrate better at work and relieves my tired body, which helps me get more done.

Many people also enjoy sports such as running, playing basketball, and hiking. These sports not only exercise the body, but also release stress through exercise, ensuring we have the energy to meet the challenges of the next day at work.

You must choose a form of entertainment that you like, that is meaningful, and that improves your work efficiency.

4. How to prepare for a job change

The prospect of changing jobs is likely to make you anxious. If you can't find the right job or feel that your job doesn't meet your needs, you need to consider changing jobs.

If you don't want to change jobs, take a day to prepare yourself. If the thought of this makes you anxious, spend a little time improving yourself. It's a great idea.

The best way to prepare is to

First, you must do a thorough and detailed study of the industry and field you have worked in the past, are currently working in, and will work in the future. You need to figure out what skills you may need in that field.

Second, assess the skills you have gained at previous companies. Identify any untapped potential and consider what you could have gained from other companies.

Now that you've assessed the competencies required by the new company, it's time to get to work. Make a list of this information and start preparing for it immediately and in a targeted manner.

Hello. I can see you're in a difficult situation.

I'm a counselor, and I'll share my psychological perspective.

Your job as a librarian is a good resource. Libraries have books you can read to understand your dreams and skills.

Your thoughts today start your inner growth. You'll explore your value based on what you have.

At 27, I won't settle for mediocrity. I can advance my education, take entrance exams, or learn a technical skill. What's my major? What do I like?

There are many paths you can take, such as learning a foreign language or taking a test to prove your expertise. But you still need to plan well, talk to yourself, and follow the path you like. Don't blame or be harsh on yourself. See the experience you already have. In the past few years at work, you have also gained a wealth of experience. Accept your imperfect self. Through learning and communication, you can find your own path.

Love yourself! The world loves you. Good luck!

I'm Duo Duo Lian, and I hope my reply can help and support you.

I can see that you want to improve yourself and change the status quo. Even though you work in a library, you are also growing and refining yourself, pondering your life. You see that the book describes the age of 30 as basically set in your character. Do you feel unwilling? The truth is that as long as you are willing to change, it is possible at any age. So, there's no need to worry too much.

But talking about this also shows you're determined and responsible to yourself. It's also a way of hoping for change. In the three years of the pandemic, how many people have gone through the trials and tribulations?

How many people have fallen by the wayside? There have been some extraordinary people who have achieved great things.

How many people would love to have your lifestyle? Simplicity really is the best.

This year is going to be a big one for the economy. The country is really backing entrepreneurship, which is great, but it also means there will be challenges. Some people spend three years just going through the motions, while others are preparing for the future. There are so many possibilities for young people. Working in a bookstore has its advantages. Make the most of what you've got and get ready for what's next.

Find your passion and your talent, and then get ready to go. The live streaming market is full of big names these days. If you're willing to learn and grow, you'll have more choices and more opportunities. You'll be able to achieve long-term development, find the right platform, cooperate as a team, and achieve a win-win situation.

As a woman, you also need to keep improving in your relationships. You need to interact with others and exchange ideas, even if you read a lot or have a lot of abilities. But at the end of the day, you need to get along with others harmoniously, resonate with their hearts, and strengthen yourself through continuous experience in relationships. In the days to come, you must strengthen your beliefs and work hard in your own direction.

Hello! Thank you so much for trusting me and inviting me to answer your question. Before we get into it, if you don't mind, I'd love to give you a big hug. I'm here to support you in any way I can! ?

I see that you said you are "a 22-year-old college graduate who took the civil service exam at home for one year but failed and became a book salesman in a bookstore." Now you are 27 years old. It seems that you have been a book salesman for five years. That's a long time! It makes me think that you can work in a job that was not your first choice for five years. That also requires a lot of perseverance and adaptability. Perhaps, these five years have not been a waste of time as you said, "I have not learned any skills yet." It just means that the skills you currently have are still a bit different from the goals you set for yourself.

I'm not sure which book you read the quote "After the age of 30, people's way of thinking and actions are set and it is difficult to change" from, but I think there might be other expressions before and after it. You might want to read it again carefully. Meanwhile, I also have a quote to share with you, and that is, some people will be "young heroes" and others will be "late bloomers."

If you're looking to bring your original idea to life, the first step might be to revisit what that idea was and then take that first step towards making it happen.

I just wanted to share my thoughts with you, but I know they're just my personal opinion. I hope you're doing well!

It is evident that you are concerned about your future prospects. Your anxiety is such that you exhibit a number of anxious behaviours at a relatively young age of 27. For instance, you may be wondering whether you can be considered an 'old person' in the workplace at this age. In fact, the answer is no, as some people only enter society at the age of 30, having spent a number of years as graduate students. Therefore, at the age of 27, you are still very young and full of promise.

Given the current retirement age of 65, there is still much to learn. Additionally, your work experience appears limited in both depth and duration. These factors warrant careful consideration. What factors have contributed to your inability to remain in the workforce for an extended period? Is it due to a lack of organizational development opportunities, leading to a perception of limited growth potential? Or, is it due to difficulties adapting to the prevailing work culture and skill norms within that particular organizational context?

It is essential to identify the challenges encountered in the workplace, the types of professional growth that are not desired, and the skills that are desired to be acquired.

It is worth considering whether this skill should align with your chosen field of study. It is likely that, having pursued a degree at university, you will be required to utilise the skills gained from your major, regardless of whether they are overly relevant or insufficiently so. If this is not the case, it is possible that your decision to pursue this major at university was misguided.

In the event that one is unable to identify a position that aligns with their academic major, it may be beneficial to explore industries that demonstrate potential for growth in the future. One such industry is elderly care, which is poised to become a prominent sector in our country. The aging population and the gradual transition towards an aging society will drive the demand for a range of elderly care services, including nursing homes, mutual elderly care organizations, and various elderly care products. Additionally, the rise in single-person households, driven by the increasing prevalence of unmarried and childless individuals, is likely to fuel the growth of single economy-related businesses. This includes shopping and socialization services, as well as companionship services.

Additionally, there will be a gradual increase in the popularity of certain aspects of the tourism industry, such as camping and live-streaming of goods. These industries are not expected to undergo a sudden transformation. Currently, they are experiencing a period of growth, and it may be beneficial to establish connections with them in order to gain insights into the relevant knowledge and skills. These could include management abilities, proficiency in live streaming, editing skills, or customer service competencies. It is unclear what your current circumstances are.

Are you willing to learn new things? One can identify positions that align with one's interests through the use of job search software or by attending job fairs in one's local city. Following this, one must submit their resume and gradually adapt to the new environment. It is advisable to remain in the environment for an extended period, as this allows for a deeper understanding of the position. It is not recommended to work as a salesperson for a brief period, such as two or three months, and then quit.

This kind of short-term work may not be conducive to overall growth. There is a possibility that one's intrinsic desire for growth and development may be unfulfilled in such a context. In this context, there is still a need to learn as much as possible and observe other individuals. There are some advantages to this approach. It is possible to gain insights into the strengths and capabilities of others through daily interactions with colleagues. It is intriguing to consider why some individuals excel in certain areas while others may not possess similar abilities.

It is possible to reduce comparisons, but it is also possible to make corresponding generalizations and learn some of the bright spots in other people's lives. This has numerous advantages when applied to one's own life and workplace. It is also recommended that one take a career personality test to understand what kind of work one is really suited for.

Concurrently, it is advisable to peruse further news items pertaining to business and the workplace. This will ensure that you remain abreast of the latest developments and trends within your industry. It will also enable you to make well-informed decisions when faced with a plethora of information, thus preventing undue anxiety. It is essential to cultivate a sense of composure and an open mind, while maintaining a willingness to learn and earn money. Best wishes for success!

Please clarify the meaning of the acronym ZQ.

The original poster is really nice.

I'm Kelly Shui from Xintan.

You're a thoughtful person, and even though you've been in the workforce for four years, you're still thinking about how to grow quickly.

Let's have a chat about it.

1: The most important thing in establishing a mode of thinking that encourages in-depth reflection is to stop just skimming the surface. Always ask yourself why. As Rockwell once said, true insight comes from thinking and doubting a lot.

For instance, a bookstore salesperson's typical duties aren't particularly valuable and could be handled by anyone.

We can also think about what's interesting about this job.

I know a lot of people who have got their master's or doctorate and work in bookstores.

They enjoy reading a lot in bookstores, inspiring lots of reading enthusiasts, and also organizing salons to have in-depth exchanges and learn from many people who love to read. (Both online and offline are fine.)

Later on, they even opened their own bookstore, which just goes to show that interest is the best teacher.

2: You can also use this process to gain experience in book classification and management. You'll learn how to help others find the books they need as quickly as possible and recommend books.

As we go along, we can also brush up on our skills (things like accurate drainage, etc.).

3: Set goals every year.

Every year, set a learning plan for yourself. Growth is a lifelong process. We all feel like we don't have any skills sometimes, but it really does take 10,000 hours to master a skill.

Take some time to think about what you enjoy doing, like reading books or observing people with qualities you admire. Jot down a few notes about what you can learn from them.

You can break it down into steps.

4: Take the time to explore the most shining part of your student days, or your hobbies. Find one or two things you'd like to experience again.

5: We always keep a beginner's mindset and an even keel.

Know how to reset, train your equanimity, do a small thing well, and be the best at a place.

This is also a great way to keep ourselves motivated and maintain a sense of excitement about the future.

Often, what stops a person from succeeding isn't a failure that sends them plummeting to the bottom. It's a state of stagnation.

In a place like a bookstore, you'll find hidden gems in books. We're good at clearing our minds of people, and the path will become faster and wider the further we go.

Romain Rolland once said, "The biggest reason adults are slowly phased out of the era is not the growth of age, but the decline of learning enthusiasm."

6: Be happy with the way things are right now.

There's a saying that goes, "If you plant flowers with all your heart, they won't bloom; but if you plant them carelessly, they become shade-giving trees."

Take some time to reflect. You might be putting too much pressure on yourself. Accept your own ordinary self. Even though we'll encounter confusion and disorientation many times, we can think freely.

Get out there and walk with outstanding people more often. Expand your social circle with an altruistic mindset.

As Carnegie said, "Professional knowledge accounts for only 15% of a person's success, while the remaining 85% depends on interpersonal relationships." The key to expanding your social circle is not "asking for favors," but helping others.

[Let's talk about growth]

I'm 27 and I'm a "senior" in the workplace. I've got to thank myself? I've been around the block a few times and I can look back and see what I've learned in the last four years.

How can we help each other to grow?

1: The ability to stick with one thing until you get it done.

You say it's tough to stick with a lot of things, but I'd like to share my own experience with you.

It doesn't matter if you're reading, exercising, playing the piano, painting, dancing, singing, or anything else.

It also takes a habit to get each of us to stick to getting up early and going to bed early.

If you find a hobby, you'll really benefit if you stick with it for more than three or five years. (Or 10,000 hours.)

For instance, how many books have you read in the past four years?

Most people only have the passion for something for about three minutes, the patience for about five minutes, and the perseverance for about seven minutes.

Many people only get recognition and appreciation after putting in the time and effort. For example, Mr. Qi Baishi studied all his life and finally made a name for himself.

If we're determined to do something, it might not change much at first. Think about the "law of the lotus." The lotuses in a pond bloom twice as many as the day before every day, and by the 30th day, they've filled the entire pond.

But on the 29th day, the lotus flower is only half open. This means that the flower will bloom fastest on the last day, which is equal to the sum of the first 29 days.

This is the famous law of the lotus.

2: Self-affirmation

You mentioned that you read that after the age of 30, a person's way of thinking and acting is set and it's difficult to change. That made you feel a bit panicked.

Maybe you also have some insecurities and perhaps some inferiority complexes?

You can check out what's in the book. There's a saying that goes, "You should keep learning as long as you live."

A lot of people think that 30 is a good age to start something new. For example, I started learning Japanese from scratch at this time and entered a foreign company when I reached level 2.

We don't set limits for ourselves or deny ourselves anything, but we learn to understand ourselves, see what areas we lack in and need to improve, and figure out what we like and whether we have goals and plans to achieve them.

If I'm talking about learning a foreign language and you're at level 6, you could work part-time at a bookstore and study after work to take the TEM-8 exam.

You can also keep studying along with your previous major.

3: Self-discipline is about making sure you're not trying to do too much all at once. It's not about fighting your desires with willpower. That's too exhausting and you won't be able to sustain it.

Think about it. How can we make our original ideas a reality and switch jobs successfully? How can we speed up our growth?

If we push ourselves every day to grow, will we feel stressed?

Why not relax, read a book, and write an article? What if you kept writing for a year?

All things in the world grow slowly, and each has its own way of developing and a natural trajectory.

4: Take action. Since it's a change, we need to think in reverse and overturn the past.

We don't have to spend all day thinking about how to grow quickly or whether we're old or new.

This is how we've reversed the general direction and turned it upside down.

In fact, all we have to do is constantly outdo ourselves.

How do we exceed our own expectations? It's about doing everything to the best of our abilities, making the most of each day, avoiding wasted time, and not holding ourselves or others accountable for mistakes.

And then there's the old self, always thinking and doing the opposite.

5: You can also talk to a counselor if you want to explore some things about yourself.

You might also want to check out "Becoming Myself" and the biography of Carl Rogers.

We grow together.

I love you, the world, and I'm here for you.

There are steps you can take now to accelerate your professional growth.

1. Diligence is an important quality to possess, regardless of whether you feel your current role is below your level of education.

When you excel, your diligence and commitment will be remembered, even if your qualifications are too high or you consider it "below" your current level. This is what you gain when a future employer may call to check on your performance at a previous employer.

Additionally, you can assume additional responsibilities and assist colleagues who are overburdened on an occasional basis. This demonstrates dedication and team spirit, which are highly sought-after qualities in the workplace.

Additionally, you can assume additional responsibilities and assist colleagues who are overwhelmed on occasion. This demonstrates dedication and a team spirit, which are highly sought-after skills in the workplace.

2. Identify a mentor or a senior colleague. It is a common misconception that a mentor-mentee relationship must be formal.

Additionally, it is possible to have more than one mentor. For instance, you may wish to have one for each of the two fields you are considering transitioning to.

To gain a variety of perspectives, it is advisable to seek the guidance of a mentor from within and outside your organization. These mentors should be individuals whose opinions you respect and whose work you admire.

3. Develop your skills. What areas would you like to gain more expertise in?

In the current climate, there are numerous avenues for acquiring new skills without the need for significant financial investment or time commitment. A vast array of online resources offers free courses in a multitude of professions, providing individuals with the opportunity to gain knowledge that can be directly applied in their professional roles.

You may include on your CV details of any courses you are taking or self-study you are doing, as this demonstrates motivation and initiative.

It is important to recognise that there are numerous avenues through which one can rapidly attain their career objectives. It is not feasible to rely on praise and promotion as a means of advancement.

Take the necessary steps to achieve your goals in the most efficient manner. You may even discover new possibilities or interests along the way.

Hello! ?

After reading your message carefully, I'm really excited to hear more about your desire and reluctance to "go out into the world" over the past five years. I'd love to know what is holding you back from going out into the world you desire!

What is motivating you to think about changing jobs again at this moment? There is so much information to understand! Due to the limitations of the Q&A format, I cannot hear your response immediately. Let's chat about "discontentment"!

Unwillingness is a feeling that leads people to re-evaluate themselves, which is a great opportunity for growth!

Think about it. When we feel "unwilling," it's often because we think we can achieve a certain goal. We may not succeed at first, but that's OK! We can try again. We can keep trying until we succeed. We can't accept that we've failed until we've given it our all. We always feel that if we try a little harder, we'll get there. The feeling that we can do it again makes us unwilling to face failure. We may feel resentment, but we can overcome it. We can learn from our mistakes and keep moving forward.

The good news is that the resentment of minor things will gradually subside with time and self-reconciliation. The even better news is that you can do the same with the resentment of major events! These include failing the college entrance exam, not being able to choose a career path, and being broken up with. All you have to do is properly digest and deal with these frustrations.

I'm really interested to know how you dealt with the fact that you failed the civil service exam. Five years have passed, so I'd love to hear how you've dealt with this setback!

If every setback provides us with some value, think about what it has contributed to your work! What constraints has it brought?

How long are you going to spend on this? I'm excited to hear your ideas on how to let it go, lighten your load, and re-examine the personal value you want to achieve in the workplace!

Once you understand your own reluctance, you'll realize you don't need to choose a career to prove yourself to others. You'll be willing to spend more energy asking yourself what you're good at and what you love to do to maximize your value. When your value is maximized, your desired self-worth and self-identification will also be self-fulfilling! Try it. Start with your own knots. Once they're untied, the extremely persevering you who is willing to spend a year studying hard behind closed doors will be found again. That kind of you will know your career needs even better!

Come on! ??

Hello, question asker!

After reading your question, I could really feel how you're feeling right now.

We all have to face career development issues at some point in our lives.

I'm so happy to be able to help you with this question! I'm going to give you some analysis and suggestions based on what I've learned.

It's so important to have a positive self-awareness!

In the description, the questioner mentioned some negative emotional experiences, like feeling like they didn't realize how much time had passed, feeling like they're already halfway to being a senior in the workplace, and feeling a bit panicked.

This is all about your positive self-awareness, and the suggested questions are mainly self-affirming.

Self-awareness is the key to really getting to know yourself, accepting yourself, and making positive changes in your life.

[Respect your own choices, my friend!]

The questioner mentioned lots of different options, like taking the civil service exam, working as a book salesman, learning new skills, and changing jobs.

We all have to make choices in life, and they come up at every step.

I get it. It can be tough to stick with something when you feel like you don't know anything and you're not seeing any results after a few months. I've been there, and I know it's a choice you've made.

You've made a choice, and that's okay! Take pride in your decision and embrace the responsibilities that come with it.

It's best not to be fickle, as this can make you feel more panicked.

[Analysis of current position]

You said that "the usual work doesn't have much value, and anyone can do it." I can see why you feel that way!

Absolutely! Every position has its own value.

For example, a bookstore salesperson can really show what they're worth by learning all about the books they're selling and making sure their customers are happy.

And let's not forget that a book salesman has lots of time on their hands and plenty of resources at their disposal, which could be put to good use in achieving your goal of leaving the company to find a new job in the future by learning new skills!

[Career Planning Advice]

Career planning is a process that helps you think about your future and even your life.

This process requires you to constantly revise and improve in reality. The plan should be based on the individual's actual situation, be scientific and reasonable, and include both long-term stable content and goals and measures that can be adjusted according to social, environmental, and personal circumstances. It should not be limited to a particular occupation or position.

I would really love it if you could solve the problem of survival first, and then consider the problem of growth on that basis.

I really hope this helps a little bit!

Dear Sir/Madam, I hope this message finds you well. I am contacting you today to inquire about a matter that requires your attention. Thank you in advance for your consideration.

I have reviewed your description and the advice provided by the professionals.

Personal Understanding

Age 27: Initially worked hard as a civil servant, but subsequently resigned. Became a librarian. During the first year of employment, demonstrated high levels of ambition, but subsequently became less motivated. Showed interest in further studies, but lacked the persistence to see them through. Experienced a period of anxiety due to a particular sentence in a book.

1. Did the initial idea result in a change of employment?

2. How might I expedite my growth and development?

Personal advice (including answers to questions)

You have identified a sense of crisis, which you believe may be influenced by your family environment. This has led to the development of various ambitious goals.

Your current foundation is not robust, and you are susceptible to external influences, resulting in a lack of stability in your studies. The recommendation is to allow your mind to explore freely without dwelling on specific goals and plans.

For the time being, focus on pursuing activities that align with your interests, provided that your circumstances permit. Prioritize fitness and travel. Regarding the initial idea of changing jobs, it is advisable to dismiss it as it may prove to be a hindrance.

2. If you want to grow, you must start from scratch. It should be noted that rapid growth is not a realistic expectation.

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Secondly, your work environment is a valuable asset. In response to your two questions, if you wish to change jobs or develop professionally, it is essential to have a clear understanding of your current role and the potential for growth within it. You should recognise that your current work environment is the optimal setting for gaining experience and that there are opportunities for improvement in terms of behaviour, thinking, and ability to act and innovate. This aligns with the first point about building a solid foundation.

If you want to achieve your career goals, this is the ideal place to develop a strong foundation. You may not fully appreciate the importance of a solid foundation. Think back to your school days and the value of a good foundation in learning.

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Third, an excess of ideals and suggestions that are not implemented and fail to yield results will erode self-confidence. Without self-confidence, individuals are more vulnerable to negative influences, which in turn reduces success rates. A poor foundation, an overly vague plan, and overly ambitious goals will also erode self-confidence.

The resulting reduction in self-confidence will not be a negative sum; it will increase geometrically.

It is important to note that excessive planning is not beneficial, and establishing a robust foundation is of paramount importance. If you can accomplish these three key steps,

This will help you determine whether you should change jobs or look for a better one, or whether you should maintain the status quo. You will also be able to see your growth clearly when you grow and your horizons broaden.

Hello! I'm Qu Huidong, a psychological counselor who loves using imagery to help people.

The questioner has worked for five years and feels like she doesn't have any skills. Especially after reading the "stereotype" theory and other viewpoints today, she's feeling pretty panicky!

Oh, it says here that you're between 3 and 30 years old, so you've still got plenty of time!

It doesn't matter if what's in the book is right or wrong. It's always good to keep learning and growing! We've also seen in the news that some people only become successful after they change their lives in their 40s or 50s. They've found the meaning and value in their lives, and it wasn't by chance. They were brave and kept going!

The questioner said that they were unable to keep learning, but it seems that they haven't stopped learning over the years. It seems like there are just so many choices in front of them, and they want to try them all!

It's totally normal to be influenced by other people's opinions, just like the book you read today. But it's also good to remember that feeling overwhelmed by other people's ideas can sometimes be a good thing. It can help you to stop and think about what you already have and what else you can do.

You said you want to grow up quickly, and I can feel your eagerness to change and improve yourself. I totally get it! When we set a goal of "I want to do a good job at something," doing a good job is the key to achieving that goal.

There's no such thing as a noble or menial occupation, is there? When you say that anyone can do your job, do you see the value and meaning of the job itself? And what value and meaning can you bring to the job?

I'm really curious to know what your original idea was. I truly believe that a successful job change is just an act, and you have to realize your idea through a successful job change!

I'd love for you to think about this for a moment. Do you think the skills you've picked up over the years might be related to this idea? When you felt like you couldn't keep learning, what made you question your initial idea?

Or did you just find that you were drifting further and further away from that idea, so you stopped in time?

Don't be in a hurry to negate yourself. Age is just a number, after all! What you need to do is just do the job well. And only you know how to make this job shine in your hands!

I hope this analysis is helpful for you! Please feel free to share your thoughts and ideas in the comments. I'm always here to support you. ?

Hello, Thank you for your question.

From your question, it seems that in this job, you may be experiencing some challenges in finding your sense of worth and belonging. It's understandable that you feel that anyone can do this job and that you don't have any particular skills, which can lead to feelings of confusion and uncertainty about your next steps. I can relate to those feelings.

As we navigate adulthood, we begin to recognize the type of work that aligns with our individual needs and aspirations. It's possible that your perception of this role is that it's accessible to anyone, and that you may not possess the unique set of skills required to excel in this position. However, if this role provides you with a sense of purpose and fulfillment, it suggests that we still have a psychological attachment and hope for this profession, and we are willing to continue working in this field.

Here are a few suggestions for how you might be able to solve this:

[1] It may be helpful to learn to be aware of your own state and see what your skills are.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider why you are experiencing these psychological changes, whether you are overly concerned with what others think, or whether you feel the outside world is reacting and comparing us, which may lead you to believe you have failed. It is always possible to reflect on our skills and identify areas for improvement. Then, you can take the next step.

[2] It is worth noting that any industry presents its own unique set of challenges and that everyone's experiences and decisions are shaped by their individual circumstances.

It is not uncommon to desire a change of employment, yet the reality is that other professions may present similar challenges. On a daily basis, we encounter not only the drudgery of work but also the intricacies of interpersonal dynamics. Without a robust inner resilience, it is possible to become emotionally overwhelmed. It is not unusual for individuals to find the work environment untenable and to seek alternative opportunities, which is a perfectly understandable response.

[3] Please summarize what this job means to you, or how it has a role in helping you achieve a certain goal.

It is worth noting that every job we do should have some meaning for us, as this helps us to persevere. If a job does not resonate with us, it may be challenging to maintain our motivation over time. To gain this awareness and reflection, it is essential to approach ourselves with a sense of rationality, rather than allowing doubt and negation to cloud our perspective.

[4] If you are feeling particularly uncertain, you might like to consider speaking to a counselor.

A counselor may also be able to help us identify our inner needs and aspirations. This could empower us to recognize our potential in specific industries and pursue it with courage. Stereotypes about age are not entirely accurate. Each of us has unique potential, and with the right circumstances, we can tap into our full potential. The key is to be open to exploring our options and having the courage to take the necessary steps.

I hope you find the above opinion helpful.