A 35-year-old man resigns from being the deputy secretary of the Party committee at the town level to become an ordinary civil servant; what are the consequences?

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You are dissatisfied with your current state of life, repulsed by the role of "being a leader," and want to return to the ordinary and unremarkable life of a civil servant.

But you don't know what the price will be. You are filled with confusion and doubt, as well as some worry, fear, and trepidation.

Let's address your concerns.

1. Deal with your mood first before solving a problem.

Everyone is full of wisdom. You can only bring out the wisdom within when you are calm. Relax and let yourself see the problem clearly.

You are repulsed by the idea of being a leader and are tired of the work and life situation that this position has brought you. Every action has a positive motive behind it. You can ask yourself, what kind of need satisfaction do you want to achieve by resigning from the position of leader?

A life free from intrigue and backstabbing? More time to spend with family and children?

More free time and space? Or something else.

You need to look at your needs and ask yourself what other ways there are to meet them besides resigning from your leadership position.

The Franklin method is a simple yet effective way to make choices. Take a blank sheet of paper and divide it in two. On the left side, list the advantages of continuing in your leadership role. On the right side, list the problems that come with it. This method will help you make an informed decision.

2. You will see your conflict/confusion and achieve a breakthrough in life.

"This is the time for practice." Life is practice. Work or life, it is all about helping us grow. Of course, being happy is the most important thing. Work is not the whole of our lives, and everything is there to help us live a happier life.

You need to see whether his or her mind can hold two very different views without hindering the way he or she approaches things to see the upper reaches of a person's intelligence.

Conflict is the struggle of the brain when faced with different points of view. It is the collision between "it should be" and "it is," and the dispute between "I am right" and "everyone else is right."

Confusion is the inconsistency between "what was" and "what is."

Conflict occurs when two different points of view are placed in the same time frame.

[Confusion] is placing two different points of view in the same two time frames.

Turning conflict into confusion keeps you open to change. Put your point of view in the past to open up space for the future.

Our judgments about people and things are shaped by our beliefs. To see things differently, you must change your beliefs.

If you want to live in a broader world and you're not satisfied with your current one, try this exercise.

Write down the beliefs you hold fast to, that cannot be shaken, and that cannot even be denied. Count how many are facts and how many are just stubborn ideas of yours.

I am confident that the above will be helpful to you. The world and I love you.

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