A 7th-grade girl, what should I do if someone is spreading rumors about whom I like?

Hello, question asker! I'm Enoch, and I'm happy to help!

I can see that the original poster is feeling a bit worried because some of her classmates misunderstood her and other classmates' concern on campus and spread rumors about her.

It's often best to stop a rumor before it gets out of hand. If you explain something, others may misunderstand even more. If you don't respond to it, maybe after a while everyone won't care. After all, this is a great time to focus on learning!

It would be really great if you could talk to the person who's spreading rumors about you. Chances are, if you tell her how you feel, she'll be really sorry and won't spread rumors about you anymore.

For your former classmates, you and your classmates in the new class can help each other because you know and love each other! There's no need to alienate classmates because of gossip. At the same time, you can also make new friends with other classmates. There will be less gossip when there are more classmates!

If you need any help at all, just ask your teacher.

I know this is a tough time for you, but I just wanted to say that I'm here for you. These changes are going to take time to complete, so I really recommend that you try to stay calm and patient. After a little while, things will start to look up. I know it's tough, but try not to let it get to you. Focus on your studies and remember to take care of yourself. You've got this!

Hello, classmate! I was lucky enough to read your text and want to help you understand the confusion between classmates during adolescence. My response is just for you, so please feel free to ask me any questions you have!

First of all, puberty is a time of big physical and emotional changes. Kids respond to other people intuitively, recognize their own feelings, and make decisions, which is partly why they are impulsive, excitable, and adventurous.

It's totally normal for kids at this age to value their relationships with friends more than their families. It's a natural thing to turn to your friends when you're having a tough time or don't understand something.

Secondly, for those who like to have their own understanding. It's totally normal to not understand the appreciation of the opposite or same sex at your age. The internet is a great resource, but it can't replace the guidance of parents.

I think children's vision and judgment only stop at the plots of TV dramas or movies, and they imitate them.

Then, as the person being gossiped about, you naturally feel aggrieved when your actions and thoughts are distorted by others. Let me give you a warm hug first, okay? At the same time, it is necessary to respond to this:

If you're looking for a quick and easy solution, I'd suggest finding the student who made the wild guess, making your position clear, and expressing your own thoughts and feelings. It's also a good idea to kindly ask the other person to mind their own business, because trouble might come from it.

2. If you'd like, you can always talk to the teacher in private to get things sorted. I'm sure the teacher will remind the students in the class to pay attention to the boundaries of social interaction and speech and focus on their studies. After all, at this time, the only thing you can prove to be yourself is your grades.

3. Do what you think is right. When you don't have to care about what's going on in the outside world, it will naturally fade away.

? And remember, no matter what stage of life you're in — junior high, high school, college, or even the workplace after you graduate — you might face similar challenges. It's always best to stay true to yourself, even when things change around you. Unfortunately, there's no true empathy in this world. They don't know how painful it is until it happens to them.

It's okay to be different, but it's also okay to want to be close friends with people who understand you. You deserve that!

It's infuriating when people say these kinds of things. You're going through puberty, so you care more about what others think. But what they say isn't always true, especially rumors or jokes. Some people will spread false rumors about you.

You have every right to refuse. If it makes you feel very uncomfortable, tell your parents or teachers. They will help you deal with it. Someone who went to elementary school with you is still a friend, so talk to them about it. This is just how old elementary school friends are.

It doesn't say what it is, whether it is an ambiguous feeling or a feeling of affection. It's likely that it is the person next to you who is stirring up trouble and deliberately creating a topic like this. If you take it very seriously, you can still go and explain that you and that elementary school classmate are just having a normal exchange and it cannot be misunderstood.

This is not based on fact. The person who labeled you is a stranger and has no right to make such claims. You don't know each other well, so it's best to reject this statement from the other person as soon as possible and express your current perception of the situation.

The other person's behavior has made you feel very uncomfortable and confused. Don't let them label you. Talk to a counselor. You need to understand your recent state of mind. You need to know if negative emotions are affecting your life. Others will always say things that don't match the facts. Don't let them sway you. Have your own backbone and determination. Best wishes.

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OK, hello, thanks for your question! I'm learning in silence.

First of all, I can give you some advice! Rumors stop at the wise.

Some junior high school students just love to spread rumors or gossip! It's because they don't like studying themselves.

In school, they just want to have some fun! They make fun of some of their classmates.

But it'll all be worth it in the end! You've got this!

Guess what? The more you care, the more interesting it is for them!

Because their rumors have an impact on you, there is feedback. So what do you do?

That's it! Just ignore them. Pretend you didn't hear or know.

In just two months, they'll get bored and stop getting any reaction or feedback from you!

They'll eventually move on and forget about it! It's not easy to remain indifferent, but you can do it!

But this is the best way! You can definitely try it.

Let me tell you a story. You know Yang Jiang, don't you?

She is the wife of Qian Zhongshu. At the time, when Yang Jiang was giving a lecture, one of the students stood up and pointed out an error in her work.

After listening patiently, Ms. Yang Jiang said nothing and continued with her lecture. At the time, it caused a certain amount of commotion, but it was well worth it!

But slowly this matter subsided. And it was all thanks to Professor Yang Jiang, who didn't give any feedback!

And everyone knows that Ms. Yang Jiang is really strict about her studies. She has such high moral standards that she doesn't take any of it too seriously!

So you should definitely know what to do, right?

OK, secondly: You are in junior high school, which is the perfect age to study hard!

Guess what! You will have the amazing opportunity to take university entrance exams and go to high school.

So you need to focus on your studies! When you are buried in your studies every day, you don't need to pay attention to these rumors.

You'll get over this! Just ignore the unreasonable and frivolous actions of these classmates. You'll get through this!

And you will absolutely do well in your studies and get excellent grades! This is very meaningful and necessary for you.

You can do this! Just calm down and focus on studying, listening to lectures, and doing your homework. Students who are disruptive are just being naughty because they don't study themselves and have nothing to do at school.

So stay away from them and focus on your studies! Study hard and pay attention in class.

Just do your own thing! Generally speaking, students who love to study don't have time to worry about these trivial matters.

If you dwell on it, it will affect your studies and make things worse. So just ignore it and concentrate on your studies!

OK, that's all for now! Finally, I'll give you a few tips to help you ace your studies!

You've got to listen carefully in class! That's the best way to learn.

If you listen carefully in class, you will absolutely do your homework! And your studies will be a total breeze.

And you should definitely read more books outside of class! For example, you could read famous works of literature, philosophy, and history.

Biography: All are great! Each has its own unique merits, and reading extensively will

You can lay a firm foundation for your future growth! If you have any questions, be sure to ask more!

If you have any confusion, don't worry! Asking more questions will help you solve them and you will grow faster. For example, asking questions on Yixinli is a very good habit!

In real life, you can also often ask your teachers, ask your classmates, and ask your elders for advice. They're there to help you, so don't be afraid to ask! You'll grow up faster if you do.

OK, that's all I have to share for now! I really hope you do well in your studies.

And don't forget to adjust your mentality! Stay calm in the face of change. Stay calm in the face of praise and criticism.

It's a bit challenging, but it's also an amazing opportunity for growth!

One day, you will be able to do it!

Hello, classmate!

I can tell you're feeling pretty upset right now. It's hard when people misunderstand you or gossip about you. It's natural to feel helpless and hopeless when things like this happen. It's a tough stage in junior high school, but you'll get through it. Take a deep breath and remind yourself that you're doing your best. Just go your own way and let others talk!

As they grow up, kids start to develop really quickly. They become more and more independent and often look for the approval and praise of their friends to boost their confidence. They start to pay attention to their appearance, care about how they look to others, and even start to have a crush on someone! It's totally normal for kids at this age.

It's totally normal to feel distressed by this incident. I'm sure anyone else would feel the same way you do. It's okay to accept your emotions and feelings, but try not to dwell on them too much.

Second, it would be really helpful for you to try to understand yourself. Do you really have a vague liking for boys? If so, how do you plan to deal with this feeling?

It's totally up to you! You can either respect your feelings or focus on your studies first and put your energy into that. Think about what you want to do, figure out what kind of goals you want to achieve, and work hard to achieve them without any regrets.

I know you'll make the right choice, I'm sure of it!

Third, try to understand the other person. I know you are innocent and aggrieved, and I know that the person who said that to you didn't mean any harm. He was just curious, bless him!

I can see that you are a very reasonable child. It's so important to be tolerant of others, even if they're different from us. With time, your tolerance will grow, and you'll become more focused on your own affairs, while still being kind and respectful of others.

Fourth, you ask if you should resolve the situation and how. I believe that "he who is clear can clear himself, and he who is muddled will remain muddled." Gossip is never the truth, and it will always be exposed one day. So, don't worry about it!

So, focus on your studies and I'm sure you'll beat the rumors with your best results!

Okay, that's all I've got to say! I really hope it helps!

I really appreciate you listening to me!

Hello, I can tell you're feeling depressed, worried, and distressed from your description.

If you spend a few minutes chatting with a former classmate of the opposite sex, people will start spreading rumors that you like each other.

The person spreading the rumors doesn't know you well enough to know how to refute them.

Does this make you worry that you're being misunderstood by others, and does this matter make you depressed and distressed?

It's really frustrating to encounter classmates like this. They're not in a position to know the truth, but they're happy to spread rumours. What's worse is that you don't know the other person well enough to challenge them.

It's important to be able to separate issues.

It's none of anyone else's business who you associate with and what kind of relationship you have with them. You don't have to care what other people think, and you don't have to explain yourself to anyone.

At the end of the day, what I do is my business, and what other people think is theirs.

If someone is out to start trouble, no matter what you do, they'll find a way to twist it around.

☑️Take a moment to reflect on your true thoughts.

You mentioned that you're concerned this kind of situation with a classmate you haven't interacted with much in the past two years might be misinterpreted.

It seems like you have some self-doubt, and you feel like your behavior is a little inappropriate, which is why people misunderstand you.

It's perfectly normal for a girl in the second year of junior high school to have a good impression of the opposite sex, to feel a liking, and to want to talk more and be more comfortable together. There's no need to feel embarrassed about this.

Maybe you think it's wrong or inappropriate to have a good relationship with someone of the opposite sex and to like them. That's why you're so worried about what other students are saying and why you're concerned that it will be misunderstood.

Stay with the right person. Don't doubt yourself. You haven't done anything wrong, and you don't care what other people think.

Wishing you the best!

Hello, my name is Strawberry!

It's so lovely to see how you've both grown! You're now in junior high school and also in adolescence. You're still learning about love, and it's easy to think that a temporary act or a good impression is like it. The questioner and his elementary school classmate are now also junior high school classmates. You feel that you've known each other for a long time and can still chat well. However, when you interact, one of you will start to talk about the two of you together.

This seems to be a very common thing when you are a student. It may also have something to do with everyone's upbringing and the education instilled by their parents. Some parents will tell their children that there is a difference between boys and girls, and that they should not have too much contact, otherwise they will fall in love too early. This concept is passed on to your classmate, and it is possible that he has also been instilled with similar ideas. So when you interact with a member of the opposite sex, it is misinterpreted.

This is the first time the questioner has faced this kind of behavior, and they're not sure how to respond. In this case, it's probably best to stay silent. Sometimes, silence speaks louder than words. This isn't a real issue, and rumors stop with the wise.

Oh, that would be really hard! What do you think I should do?

1. It's important to remember that everyone's thoughts are different.

Oh, it sounds like you're having a bit of a rough time! It seems like someone spread a rumor that you like the other person after you'd just said a few words to them. In your description, you said you were afraid that someone would take it seriously if they heard it. Who is this person you're referring to? Are you afraid that this person, your old primary school classmate, will misunderstand, or are you afraid that someone close to you will take it seriously?

It's totally understandable to be worried that others will take this seriously. We all have different focuses in life, so it's only natural that we'll have different thoughts on this matter. For instance, if the teacher hears about it, they might be concerned that you're experiencing early love and that it's affecting your studies. If your classmates hear about it, they'll probably think it's either true or false and will also speculate about how you interact with each other in normal times.

If the questioner is afraid that this elementary school classmate has misunderstood, then they may need to pay more attention to interactions in the next contact. It's totally normal for people to believe what they see during adolescence. It's a sensitive period, and everyone has their own way of processing things. If you're feeling afraid of being bothered, then keeping your distance might be a good idea for now.

If you're not too bothered by this, then I'd say it's no skin off your back. But if you are affected, then it's probably best to keep your distance for now.

2. Find the person spreading the rumor and kindly ask them to clarify and apologize.

This matter was said by someone the questioner does not know. It's likely that the other person didn't mean any harm in saying this. The other person is someone your classmate knows. Then the questioner can go through your classmate to find that person and ask him to apologize to you and let him know how upsetting it is to hear such things said without thinking.

If the other person really means no harm, they'll be totally honest and admit that they were joking at the time and apologize for their mistake. All the person spreading the rumor needs to do is come forward and explain the situation. As the number of people spreading the rumor decreases and more and more people realize that it was a joke when they hear it, people will gradually stop paying attention to it.

3. Take a moment to understand the background of your emotions.

It's totally understandable that the rumors have affected you emotionally. But why would you have emotional problems because of a few jokes? I'd love to know what's really bothering you.

I'm wondering if, behind all these emotions, you might also be afraid that you'll be passed around and taken seriously.

Or perhaps you're worried that the people you love, like your teachers or parents, might hear these rumors. Well, your teacher and parents are grown-ups, and they've been through this before, so they'll know it's not true just because someone said it. They'll figure it out. So if there's a misunderstanding, just explain it to them.

It's totally normal to care about things, but when we care too much, it can really mess with our emotions and make it harder to solve a problem. The good news is that there's a simple way to calm down and deal with it: just don't care about it! I really hope my answer helps the questioner. Best wishes!

Hello classmate, I can understand how you feel after reading your description. We were once in your shoes too. We were once suspected by others and also suspected others when we were in junior high school. I hope my sharing can be of some help to you.

The situations you described in the article are not uncommon in junior high school. As long as we remain calm and take them seriously, there is no need to be overly concerned.

However, there are instances when we ourselves become angry, which can further complicate the situation.

It is not the event itself that affects our emotions, but rather our perception of it.

Every day, we encounter a variety of situations that require us to provide explanations. Over time, our brains develop a relatively stable style of explanation.

It would be advisable to remain calm and collected when faced with such circumstances. It is important not to believe the rumors, to be confident in your innocence, and to address the situation with courage and determination. If you appear afraid, others may perceive you as guilty and reinforce their beliefs, potentially making the truth more challenging to discern.

If I might make a suggestion, it would be to talk to the homeroom teacher. You could explain the situation to him and ask him to tell everyone in the class, so that you can prove your innocence.

During our time in junior high school, we were navigating the challenges of adolescence and exploring our individuality. It was a period of curiosity and experimentation. When two classmates formed a close bond, it was often driven by this curiosity, which sometimes led to actions that were misguided.

In such instances, it is often advisable to seek guidance from a trusted adult, whether through communication with a teacher or a discussion with a parent.

If I might make one more suggestion, it would be to ignore those rumors. You may find this quote helpful: "Follow your own path and let others talk."

If you find yourself facing a challenge, it can be helpful to seek guidance from your teacher or parents.

I hope you find these thoughts useful.