A boy in class likes me, but I seem to have feelings for him, yet I'm not sure if I do or not.

Greetings, question asker.

The current situation is characterized by interpersonal confusion. The individual in question, previously regarded as a friend, has become markedly awkward, evoking feelings of discomfort. There is a desire to salvage the friendship, yet a sense of uncertainty persists regarding the nature of the relationship that can be sustained with him.

You indicated that you and he were previously good friends, which suggests that you two should have had a positive rapport in terms of personality and thought processes. Additionally, you should have been content with the nature of your previous friendship with him.

However, this individual's perspective differs from yours. He desires a romantic relationship with you, yet you have declined his advances.

Up to this point, I believe that your approach to the situation has been appropriate. He has expressed his romantic interest in you, and you have respectfully declined.

Both individuals demonstrated courage in expressing their authentic selves.

However, an unfortunate turn of events occurred. He now believes that you rejected him, which has caused him distress.

One might reasonably inquire as to why he holds this belief. It may be postulated that he assumes you will not reject him.

It is possible that in your typical interactions with him, his feelings differ from yours. What you perceive as merely being friends may appear to him as a prospective romantic relationship.

Your rejection was an unexpected outcome, which has caused him to feel wounded pride. For many men, the prospect of rejection when pursuing a romantic relationship is a significant challenge.

It is also important to consider your own feelings in this situation. While you may not wish to develop a romantic relationship with him, you are reluctant to lose such a compatible friend. It is important to note that your feelings of heartache and guilt are not a result of rejecting him.

The reason for this is that he demonstrated that he was hurt, and you assumed responsibility for allowing him to be hurt. For a romantic relationship to develop, both individuals must be willing.

The fact that he was hurt merely indicates that he is relatively weak-willed, and it is not your responsibility.

In an effort to salvage the friendship, you offered an apology and indicated your acceptance of his confession.

At this juncture, you may experience a certain degree of confusion. It is undoubtedly challenging to be ignored by a former friend for reasons that may be unclear, and you may feel the urge to retaliate in some way.

At this juncture, the subject's emotional state will attempt to persuade the subject that the object of interest is, in fact, a kind and appealing individual.

The above represents my analysis of your respective state of mind, which is not necessarily entirely accurate. You may utilize it as a reference point and then carefully consider your own feelings in this regard.

It is evident that there are numerous relationships between boys and girls in which the female partner treats the male partner as a friend, while the male partner treats the female partner as a romantic interest. This phenomenon may be attributed to the fact that the two sexes have disparate needs with regard to intimacy.

I once heard a male subject posit that if a male is socializing with a female, he is inclined to pursue a romantic relationship with her. Otherwise, he would likely engage in similar social activities with male acquaintances, which he perceives as less burdensome and more informal. It is important to note that this perspective is solely his own and does not represent the experiences of all males. However, it does illustrate a common tendency among some males to prioritize romantic interest over platonic friendship.

The question of whether pure friendship between boys and girls is a reality or merely a construct has been debated for decades. While many girls assert the existence of such friendships, a significant number of boys challenge this notion.

In light of the aforementioned, it seems plausible to suggest that the man is imposing his understanding of the relationship on you, and you are imposing your understanding of the relationship on him.

If the two parties in a relationship hold disparate views on the nature of the relationship, it is not possible to compel the other party to adhere to one's perspective. In the event that one party concedes, the relationship may be sustained, but only if the conceding party is willing to endure a relationship they do not desire, even if it causes them distress. Otherwise, the relationship will inevitably come to an end.

My name is Haru Aoki, and I extend my love to the entire world.