Good day. I am a heart exploration coach, Gu Daoxi Fengshou Slender Donkey.
It seems reasonable to posit that a significant proportion of the population has experienced a similar state of confusion to that which the original poster describes. Attempting to draw comparisons between the emotional responses evoked by disparate concepts may assist the original poster in developing a more nuanced perspective on change and success.
In regard to the subject of changing one's opinion,
The questioner's description evokes the parable of the half-full glass. Some individuals may perceive the glass as half empty, while others may view it as half full, recognizing the positive aspect of having a full glass of water. Different perspectives yield disparate experiences.
The ABC theory of emotions, as postulated by American psychologist Ellis, asserts that the primary tenet of the theory is that emotions are not precipitated by a specific triggering event in and of itself, but rather by the individual's interpretation and evaluation of the event subsequent to its occurrence. This illustrates that modifying one's mindset can, in fact, influence one's level of happiness.
One might posit that individuals with a higher happiness index are those who consider matters in a more positive light. It is generally agreed that no one enjoys the company of a constant pessimist. Those who are positive and objective can often provide a source of energy.
In regard to the definition of success
What I recall most vividly is the remark made by a female guest on a particular episode of the television programme "If You Are the One." She stated, "I'd rather cry in a BMW than laugh on a bicycle." This statement challenges the conventional wisdom that love is the cornerstone of a relationship. It is not a statement that can be definitively classified as either right or wrong. However, it does illustrate a way of life that the guest is willing to accept.
As there is no consensus on the definition of success, it is evident that there are as many definitions as there are individuals. Some may define success in terms of good health, while others may associate it with having many descendants or a substantial amount of wealth.
The concepts of success and feeling loved are analogous in certain respects. As the adage states, "Each individual is the best judge of the merits of their own actions." What external observers perceive is the aspect of our persona that others envy, rather than our intrinsic self, which is often overlooked. It can be posited that if an individual is regarded as successful, it is because they are viewed from the outside, akin to spectators observing a performance.
It is recommended that tasks be separated and that one avoid being unduly influenced by the demands of others. It is also advised that a distinction be made between one's own affairs, the affairs of others, and the affairs of the heavens. Ultimately, responsibility for one's own affairs should be maintained. The identification of one's own inner needs has been shown to result in greater feelings of relaxation.
I wish you the best of success!


Comments
Indeed, changing how we look at things can transform our entire experience and broaden our horizons greatly
Success is really about what you feel inside, not the accolades or accomplishments others see
When we alter our perspective, it's like unlocking a new universe of possibilities we hadn't considered before
It's important to focus on personal satisfaction rather than external markers when gauging success
A fresh viewpoint can reveal so much more and change our emotions towards situations profoundly