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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello, dear child!
At school, we had a lot of trouble making friends and socializing with our classmates.
I want to chat with you. I'm here to inspire and help you in any way I can.
1. Know that everyone is different and believe in yourself.
You can do this!
You know you're introverted but you want to be eloquent and humorous. You've been trying hard to talk to other people, so I give you a thumbs-up!
Everyone can change.
You will see a big change, even if you are not good at socializing at first.
We must accept that everyone is different.
There's absolutely nothing wrong with being introverted or not being very funny.
To become friends with others, you must be sincere, show goodwill, and understand each other.
You will make true friends and treat everyone sincerely. Your classmates will understand this, and you will definitely be able to make good friends.
Sometimes, we may feel suspicious or uncomfortable when we see our roommate, with whom we initially got along well, forming close bonds with other roommates.
We must adjust our mindset.
Making friends is simple. It goes from unfamiliarity to familiarity, and then back again. That's how relationships work.
So, reassure yourself, believe in yourself, and be a good friend to others. You will make friends more easily.
2. Trust others and be true to yourself.
You know you're a great person, and you're going to show everyone that.
You think, "Have they formed a new clique behind my back? I'm a bit of a proud person myself, but I'm also trying to change. I'm not good at warming up a group and creating a lively atmosphere." You have reflected on this and recognized your own characteristics.
At school, we had to learn how to make friends on our own, so it's normal to feel a bit lost.
We also care about how others perceive us.
This is all determined at this stage.
Don't worry about whether they've formed a new clique. When we spend time together, it's most important to feel comfortable in the group, as long as we're all friendly and respectful towards each other.
Don't doubt, believe.
Trust yourself. Trust your roommates. They want to get along with everyone.
You don't have to be best friends with them right away.
Give yourself some time.
Sometimes relationships naturally grow deeper over time.
People who are talkative are not necessarily more popular.
If we are good listeners and actively care about other people, friends will be attracted to us. It's as simple as that.
If you want to make friends with a certain kind of person, you have to become that kind of person.
You don't have to change yourself. Be true to yourself. Know yourself. You'll be attractive.
3. Learn to make friends.
Psychologist Adler was clear: "All happiness is the happiness of interpersonal relationships."
Troubles are also brought about by interpersonal relationships.
When making friends, you must learn to see with other people's eyes, listen with other people's ears, and feel with other people's hearts.
You will understand how you are perceived in the dormitory.
What will others think?
Tell me how you see your roommate.
When we change perspective and stand in the shoes of others, we understand each other.
This applies just as much to whether others like you or not.
We all hope for their approval, but what does it mean for us if they don't approve?
Is it an unconscious exaggeration on your part?
At the beginning, you told your roommate everything, and she knew whether you were happy or sad.
I want to know how she treats you.
Does it tell you everything?
There are many reasons why two people have grown apart.
Believe in yourself. That's the most important thing.
Be more open-minded.
I'd like to know how you get along with other students.
We must also focus on our studies.
Read books like "The Courage to Be Happy" to learn how to make friends.
A relationship is about contributing to others and working together. We can make ourselves and others comfortable.
Share these.
I wish you well!
The world and I love you!
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Comments
I understand how you feel. It's tough when you open up to someone and then things change. Friendships can be unpredictable, but it's important to remember your value as a person doesn't depend on others' reactions. Keep being true to yourself and don't lose hope; the right people will appreciate you for who you are.
It sounds like you're really trying hard to connect with others, which is great. Sometimes friendships evolve, and it's not necessarily about you. Maybe she's going through her own changes. Focus on growing at your own pace and finding your voice. There are many ways to be humorous and sociable that might come more naturally to you with time.
It must hurt to feel left out, especially when you've poured so much into the friendship. But try not to take it personally. People's social dynamics can shift, and it's not a reflection of your worth. You could consider joining clubs or activities where you might meet likeminded individuals who appreciate your qualities and sense of humor.
Feeling isolated can be really challenging. I admire your courage in reaching out and expressing your feelings. If you're comfortable, maybe talk to her directly about how you feel. Honest communication can sometimes clear up misunderstandings. Also, remember it's okay to be introverted; some of the most profound friendships develop slowly and deeply over time.
It's heartbreaking when someone you've been close to starts pulling away. But this situation could be an opportunity for selfdiscovery and growth. Try focusing on what makes you unique and interesting. Your sincerity is a strength, and the right kind of friends will recognize that. Keep working on your communication skills and trust that genuine connections will come your way.