A junior college student who lives away from home suffers from insomnia due to external changes. What should he do?

Dear student, I understand that you are going through a challenging time with insomnia. This is a crucial period in your academic journey as you prepare to transition into the real world. Your decision to seek support is a positive step towards making a change.

It might be helpful to view insomnia not as an inherent problem, but as a symptom of something deeper. When you're calm, you can identify what's troubling you and what's holding you back. Going to the library to take a nap might be a good way to do this. Why is this?

The pressure of studies or the troubles of various relationships. People are influenced by their environment, and they adapt as the environment changes.

Insomnia is just one of many challenges that we face in life. When we learn to let go of the anxiety, worry, and fear that often accompany it, it will eventually dissipate on its own. Our ancestors in primitive society often encountered many risks while hunting, and it's understandable that they would remember the negative experiences to protect themselves. This can also cause our inner world to linger, and the negative things to persist. Could we consider switching things up a bit, looking at more positive things, and imagining something beautiful?

It can be helpful to distinguish between imagination and reality. It's natural to wonder if our thoughts will become reality. Worry and fear can create anxiety. When we distinguish between reality and imagination, it might help to alleviate some of the confusion. It's okay to have insomnia. It's also normal for young people to have trouble sleeping. Have thoughts, strive for improvement, and accept the current situation. Everything in this world is changing. Accept what we cannot change and transcend what we can change.

I also experienced insomnia at one time. I got into a rut for the sake of my child and found it difficult to get out. Was it a real thing, or was it a self-directed script of my own? When I presented the lively and lovely image of my child in my mind, the colorful photos, and saw her step-by-step growth experience and her beauty, my sleep gradually adjusted as well.

It might be helpful to pay attention to your inner self, your breathing, and your body. You might find it beneficial to calm down and scan your body. If you persist for a period of time, you may discover that you are one and that your mind and body are closely connected. It's possible that the human mind can sometimes deceive us and cause us trouble. It might be helpful to let yourself be aware of this, and to sometimes step back from it. When you live in feelings and step out of emotions, you might find it helpful to live in the present moment.

Perhaps we could say that letting go is a kind of rebirth.

I hope things work out for you.

Good day. I am Cai Li, a practicing psychologist.

From your inquiry, it is evident that insomnia has caused you significant distress, and it has also had a profound impact on your daytime functioning.

Let us examine your circumstances together. I may have misinterpreted your statements, so I welcome your feedback.

Firstly, you stated that your insomnia improved gradually as your fatigue from illness subsided.

It appears that the fatigue has a considerable impact on the insomnia.

Secondly, the noise pollution caused by the recent construction work in the vicinity of the residence has had a significant impact on the quality of sleep.

It is therefore unclear whether the construction situation will conclude in the near future or persist for the foreseeable future. This uncertainty may inform a decision regarding whether to relocate from one's current residence.

In conclusion, the financial implications of residing in a residential building, particularly one that was recently constructed, are significant. However, if the associated costs have a detrimental impact on one's health, the investment may be deemed worthwhile.

It is possible that the apartment has undergone more renovations precisely because it is a newly completed property. Consequently, at the same price, it may be possible to find apartments with a higher occupancy rate and a more established reputation.

It is unlikely that there will be frequent renovations, and this kind of environment may prove conducive to sleep.

In light of the aforementioned considerations, it is this author's recommendation that the following course of action be pursued:

It is recommended that individuals engage in appropriate exercise to enhance the quality of their sleep, while also promoting a healthy level of fatigue.

Engaging in reading activities prior to retiring for the night has been demonstrated to facilitate the onset of sleep.

One may also consider the potential benefits of meditation before bedtime. Based on my personal experience, this practice has been shown to have positive effects, including feelings of calmness and the occasional occurrence of falling asleep during meditation.

It is my sincere hope that these thoughts have been of some assistance to you.

I extend my sincerest regards to you and the world at large.

Dear child, I hope my answer can be of some help to you.

Sleep is indeed very important. It helps you to recover from fatigue and regain your strength, and it also helps to maintain a normal emotional state and enhance memory. From what you have described, it seems that the recent change in your living environment may have contributed to a decline in your sleep quality, which in turn may have led to a lack of motivation in your studies and a feeling of fatigue.

It's understandable that you're unsure whether it would be better to rent another place or simply go back to living at school. It's possible that your sleeping problems are caused by external factors.

If the external environment is indeed the cause, then it might be helpful to consider making some changes. However, if the root cause of your sleep issues is not external, it could be beneficial to become more aware and make some adjustments.

From my perspective, it seems that many friends have poor sleep due to excessive stress. It's possible that poor sleep in turn causes stress, which could potentially lead to a vicious cycle.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider whether it is the pressure of studying or other pressures that are causing poor sleep, or if it is poor sleep that is affecting your motivation to study.

Then, perhaps we can consider making some adjustments in the following areas:

1. It may be helpful to identify the source of your stress and consider whether the situation is something you can address independently. If it is beyond your control, it might be beneficial to let it go. If it is something you can work on, it may be worthwhile to set aside time to address it.

As the saying goes in "A Change of Heart," there are only three things in the world: your own affairs, other people's affairs, and the affairs of heaven. It could be said that people are troubled because they don't control their own affairs, but worry about other people's affairs and the affairs of heaven.

It might be helpful to consider what is truly your own business and what is other people's business.

It is important to remember that our own actions and thoughts are our own business, and the actions and thoughts of others are their own business. The direct consequences of these actions and thoughts may affect us, but we cannot control how others see us or what they want to do.

You may find it helpful to choose your attitude and thoughts, as these can be changed.

When you are able to distinguish between what you can and cannot do, you can accept the things that cannot be changed, change the things that can be changed, and use your limited energy on the things you need most.

2. You might consider using some methods to help release your stress and emotions.

It may be the case that when emotions are suppressed and there is nowhere to release them, they will be reflected in the body and affect sleep.

You might consider releasing your emotions in one of the following ways: punching a sandbag or pillow, going for regular walks in nature, reading your favorite books, listening to soothing music, meditating, writing as therapy, doing your favorite sports, talking to the right person, relaxing with box breathing, releasing emotions with the empty chair technique, drawing mandalas...

3. There are a few techniques that can help you sleep.

For example, I often find the "safe haven" method helpful for sleeping. When falling asleep, it can be beneficial to avoid thinking about anything. You might try telling yourself that it's not helpful to think about anything at this time and that the most important thing right now is to sleep. Then, you could imagine yourself in a place where you feel the safest. You are there, feeling especially safe. When you feel unsafe, you can adjust your imagination until you feel safe. Continue to imagine yourself in that place of special safety and slowly fall asleep with this feeling of safety.

Another example is the breathing reduction method, which involves performing rhythmic breathing, first at a fast pace and then at a slower pace (gradually slowing down the breathing frequency). This method can help you enter a deep sleep state in about 7 minutes.

You might also consider using relaxation exercises. For instance, you could go for a walk outdoors before bedtime, walking slowly in the dim light and relaxing through deep breathing, stretching, yoga, and so on. This can help you unwind from the stress.

You might also consider music therapy. Listening to simple but rhythmic sounds, such as the sound of a train, crickets chirping, or water dripping, can help to establish a conditioned response that induces sleep.

4. When the mind is settled, you may find that you feel at ease anywhere and are able to maintain inner calm, which could allow you to sleep peacefully.

When Chairman Mao was young and studying, he made a conscious decision to seek out the noisiest place he could find to study. This allowed him to maintain a focused and attentive mindset, even in the midst of a busy city. This approach enabled him to remain consistently serious and attentive, regardless of circumstances or location.

There is also a classic story that one day, when the Sixth Patriarch Hui Neng was passing through the Faxing Temple in Guangzhou, he observed two monks engaged in a spirited discussion about a banner. Hui Neng approached to gain a better understanding of the situation and learned that they were debating the cause of the banner's fluttering.

One of them ventured, "If there is no wind, how might the banner move by itself? It seems that the wind must be the moving force."

The other said, "If the banner isn't fluttering, could it be that the wind is blowing? It seems as though it might be the banner that is moving."

The two men held their own views and were reluctant to concede. Hui Neng then offered them a different perspective: "Perhaps it's not the wind that moves the flag, nor the flag that moves, but it is your benevolent hearts that are moving!"

It could be said that the wind blowing the banner is an external phenomenon, caused by the interaction of the wind and the banner. Without the wind, the banner will not move; without the banner, it would be difficult to perceive the wind moving. Hui Neng, of course, also saw the wind blowing the banner, but he suggested that it was your mind that was moving.

So, if my mind doesn't move, will the wind van not move? It would seem that it will still move, but I just don't care.

So, whether it is the story of Chairman Mao or the story of "the wind moves the banner and the banner moves," what they are actually telling us is that it is important to be aware of how external environments may influence us, but that we can choose to be affected by them in different ways.

It might be helpful to focus your attention back on what you need to do, back on your inner self, back on the part you can change. This could help you to feel less disturbed by the outside world and more at ease when learning.

Please feel free to refer to this information as needed. Wishing you the best!

Hello, I can tell from your description that you're troubled by your sleep problems.

After moving out of the dorms, external factors caused your sleep problems. You felt confused and tired.

Are you worried about the cost and not wanting to move back to the dorms?

Sleep problems are distressing.

accept that you have had insomnia

You know when you had insomnia and when you recovered.

You've always taken your sleep problems seriously.

You feel insomnia has affected your life, so you must solve it.

But the more you try to sleep, the less you sleep.

Insomnia is common when people suddenly change their environment, especially if they are uncomfortable.

Insomnia is normal.

It may be easier to let go of the tension and anxiety and accept the temporary imperfection so you can get through this period of insomnia.

We don't need to make perfect choices.

You were torn between renting another house or moving back into the dorms.

Renting a separate apartment was expensive. Going back to school was a risk.

You wanted to make the perfect choice between cost, face, and sleep.

These things made you feel conflicted, anxious, and worried. You couldn't find peace of mind or sleep well.

There's no perfect choice. You have to give up something to get something. Know what you want.

I don't know why you left school and rented a separate apartment.

If you accept yourself and others, don't demand perfection, and go with the flow, you'll have a more peaceful mind and be more likely to get a good night's sleep.

Best,

Good morning, my name is Xin Tan and I am Coach Fei Yun.

You are experiencing difficulties with your sleep patterns. You previously suffered from insomnia, and now you are dealing with poor sleep quality. You are facing a dilemma between renting a room and living in an apartment, which is causing you significant internal conflict.

Insomnia can be a painful experience, causing restlessness and difficulty falling asleep. I have also faced this challenge. Let's share and discuss:

1. Be aware of what you are "fighting" against with insomnia.

This may seem unusual, but is it possible to exert control over insomnia?

Indeed, insomnia is a "symptom" that presents a challenge. From a psychological perspective, the reason why this "symptom" persists is that we engage in certain behaviors or avoid others that contribute to its perpetuation.

Similarly, you indicated that you had been experiencing insomnia for a period in July and August, and that it subsequently improved due to fatigue. Could you please elaborate on your feelings during that time?

"Tired" was substituted for "insomnia" to facilitate the attainment of the desired objective.

In essence, insomnia is simply a tool or resource that can be leveraged to achieve a specific objective.

Once a new tool or resource is identified or a goal is achieved, the value of the insomnia diminishes. It then becomes an outdated resource that is no longer necessary, resulting in the cessation of insomnia symptoms.

While the process may initially seem complex, we encourage you to take your time and allow yourself to fully experience it. If you require further information, we recommend listening to the 16 lectures by Li Songwei on "Cognitive Thinking," which are available on the Yi Xinli platform.

2. Adjust your mindset to address the root cause of your insomnia.

There is a Chinese proverb that says, "You can't walk the same path in new shoes." If you do not alter your approach to problem-solving, you will continue to face challenges. The issue of insomnia itself, rather than the specific location where you sleep, is the primary concern.

Similarly, while a favorable price may procure a superior bed, it cannot guarantee a restful night's sleep. Once the insomnia issue is resolved, the challenge of renting a suitable residence will also be mitigated.

Mr. Li Songwei once assisted a colleague in overcoming insomnia by encouraging him to "simply refrain from sleeping if you are unable to," and engage in other activities such as reading, checking his phone, or watching TV until he felt sufficiently "tired" to fall asleep naturally.

The reason for the prevalence of worry is the existence of the human mind. Attention is strengthened, and language has the capacity to influence our thoughts and actions. This is due to the power of meaning ascribed to words.

As with the word "milk," the physical object of milk immediately comes to mind. However, when read aloud for 20-40 seconds, it becomes evident that it is merely a word, and it even alters the original meaning: cow-milk-cow-milk-cow.

Could the same be done for insomnia? We hope you will find the answer you are seeking in our book, "Jump Out of Your Head and Into Your Life."

As a final note, I would like to mention that I now use meditation and hypnosis to fall asleep. You can find specific instructions online. The process involves adjusting your breathing, focusing on your breathing, and counting from one to twenty.

I hope the above is helpful to you. Best regards,

Should you wish to continue the conversation, please click on the "Find a Heart Exploration Coach" link in the lower right corner to chat.

Hello, I'm Teng Ying, your psychological counselor. I can see that you're struggling with anxiety-and-insomnia-19603.html" target="_blank">insomnia, which is affecting your energy levels and your ability to study. This is a challenging situation for you as a college student.

You've been thinking about changing your living situation because of this problem, and you're torn between two options. I get it!

Take a look at what's been going on with your sleep recently.

It seems like you've had sleep problems before, and you had insomnia for a while from July to August this year. It also seems like the place you live in is very noisy, with banging or drilling going on upstairs every day, and there is construction work going on nearby. It feels like there is never enough peace and quiet, day or night.

From what you've told me, it seems like you've had trouble sleeping in the past. You mentioned that you had insomnia from July to August this year. It also seems like the place you live is very noisy. There's construction work going on nearby, and you said that there's banging or drilling going on upstairs every day. It feels like there's never enough peace and quiet, day or night.

Could it be that because you've had insomnia before, you're more prone to anxiety about the quality of your sleep? Even though the insomnia in July and August got better because you were too tired from being sick, it seems like you haven't found the cause. It might have left you with some questions, making you more concerned and worried about your sleep.

If you've always lived in a quiet environment and then suddenly move to a noisy one, you'll likely feel uncomfortable. This discomfort can make your original worries about your sleep situation worse, leading to insomnia.

Also, are there any other pressures in your studies or life? Is there anything you've been worrying about and are reluctant to face that's troubling you?

Your body is your best friend. It's possible you're not aware of it, but your body will show you what it can't handle. So you can explore this perspective again.

It'd be good to let off some steam.

Your current insomnia is already affecting your normal life, so it's important to take it seriously. It'd be a good idea to go to the hospital for a thorough examination to see if there are any physiological factors causing your insomnia.

Once you get the all-clear, you'll feel more confident about your health and your insomnia will be less of a worry.

If you've ruled out physical factors, it's time to focus on the psychological impact. You can talk to a professional counselor or listener, or talk to a trusted relative or friend. Sometimes you can't see the wood for the trees, and being in the middle of it, the help of others can help you get out of trouble more quickly.

Whether or not to change your living environment is a big decision that requires a lot of thought. Sleep is a very personal thing, and everyone has different needs when it comes to their environment. Some people can sleep no matter how noisy it is, but others require a quiet environment. There's no right or wrong answer — it just depends on the individual.

You need to think about this after you've done the necessary diagnosis, examination, and counseling, and in light of your actual situation. As you said, changing to a different environment would lead to financial and other problems, and every kind of problem that isn't handled well will put pressure on you. You need to think about what's most important to you.

You need to think about this in the context of your actual situation, once you've done the necessary diagnosis, examination, and counseling. As you mentioned, switching to a different environment would mean dealing with other issues, like financial ones. Any problem that isn't properly addressed can cause stress, so you need to figure out what's most important to you.

Often when we're in a pickle and can't make up our minds, we can start with what's least important to us instead of what we want most. We can give up the relatively unimportant things to get what's important to us.

I hope this helps!