A junior high school girl's grades have dropped due to interpersonal relationships and physical reasons. What should she do?

Hello, I hope you will allow me to offer you a big hug and some warm comfort.

The third year of high school can be a challenging period for many students. It is a time when academic expectations are high, and students may feel pressure from teachers, parents, and themselves.

For this reason, the third and fourth years of high school can be challenging for students, and it is important to find ways to navigate them successfully.

You are going through a challenging period, your health is not optimal, and the pressure is significant. Regarding the question of whether you require treatment for depression and whether the dosage should be increased or decreased, this is a decision that should be made by a qualified psychiatrist. It is important to note that the dosage cannot be increased or decreased at will and that these decisions must be followed.

Given that the third year of junior high school is an important stage that all students must navigate, it is understandable that you might feel a little worse because of illness and a decline in your academic performance. It is important to remember that there is no need to blame yourself too much. The most important thing at the moment is to reduce your mental stress and adjust your mental state.

If you are experiencing significant challenges, it might be helpful to seek professional support.

In life, it is important to face challenges head-on and find ways to overcome them. By doing so, you will reach a new level and a new stage. The third year of high school is a special time in your youth, so it is important to take your time and enjoy it.

You may find that when you try to slow down your mind, it has a different feeling.

I hope my interpretation is helpful to you! I would be grateful to hear about your new feelings next time.

Good day, question asker.

It is recommended that you engage in physical contact, such as a warm embrace, to convey affection and support. As a junior high school student, you are expected to complete 13 hours of academic work daily, which is perceived as challenging and demanding. This is the rationale behind the suggestion to embrace you.

The inquirer is a young woman with a strong sense of self-awareness. It is evident that her negative emotional state is influenced by a complex interplay of psychological, physiological, and interpersonal factors.

Through analysis, it can be surmised that initially, due to the considerable academic pressure, feelings of anxiety and nervousness were experienced, which subsequently resulted in negative affect and the formation of poor interpersonal relationships. These poor relationships then led to an exacerbation of academic difficulties, creating a vicious cycle.

In addressing this issue, it is essential to identify the initial step. This entails recognizing one's inherent value and capabilities.

While external factors undoubtedly exert an influence, a firm belief in one's own value and capabilities allows one to exert a positive influence on the external environment. This is evidenced by the fact that positive self-perception often leads to improved interpersonal relationships.

Secondly, it is imperative to reduce internal conflict. You informed me that you had a disagreement with a friend, yet it has since been resolved. This raises the question of why this political issue continues to cause distress. The answer lies in the fact that you are experiencing internal conflict. It is crucial not to blame yourself. Instead, adopt a forward-thinking approach.

One must refrain from incessant self-criticism, which is often rooted in the belief that one is inadequate or unworthy. It is essential to recognize that each individual possesses unique qualities and attributes, and therefore, should be encouraged and praised accordingly.

The third point is that behavior affects the mind. What is the nature of this assertion?

One can influence one's psychology through exercise, that is to say, through movement and behavior. Engaging in physical activity, reading aloud, singing, or smiling can all affect one's psychological state. When one's psychological state is positive, one is more likely to experience smooth functioning.

It is my sincere hope that this will be of assistance to you.

I understand that you have now reached the age of junior high school, and that the pressure and burden on you in terms of your studies will increase. In addition, you will have to prepare for the junior high school entrance exam. If you perform well, you can enter a better high school for further studies. Primary schools are reducing the burden, but the pressure of the junior high school entrance exam and the college entrance exam remains.

Your current situation is a cause for concern. The combination of declining grades, interpersonal challenges, and personal physical and psychological issues is a significant source of distress. It is important to recognize that life and studies inevitably present challenges, and while some of these challenges may be solvable, others may require a more comprehensive approach.

There are also times when we need to start from within ourselves and gradually adapt to the external environment, accepting its presence. We attempt to reduce our expectations of the external world and limit some of our excessive academic demands on ourselves. This allows us to live more freely and comfortably.

Previously, you had a disagreement with a female colleague, which resulted in a rift in your professional relationship. Despite the intervention of your supervisor, the situation remains unresolved. Consequently, you experience feelings of loneliness when you are not in the company of your colleagues. This may indicate a lack of strong professional relationships in your life.

It is possible that you have only a few friends, and that you may feel very lonely when you are not with a friend. This suggests that you may not yet be able to be alone, as being alone means being able to be happy even when you are alone, without the support or dependence of others.

It is evident that you are currently experiencing depression and are undergoing medication treatment. Depression requires long-term commitment to a treatment plan and may necessitate psychological counseling to address underlying psychological issues and alleviate emotional distress. This approach can facilitate greater self-awareness and help you identify and pursue your goals more effectively.

Given the stress and interpersonal challenges inherent to the school environment, it is crucial to prioritize relaxation and stress management. Seeking guidance from the school's psychology teacher can be an effective approach to addressing concerns and identifying strategies for maintaining a healthy mindset over time.

It is possible that what we desire is not what we require. Many things are transient and inconsequential. They may have had an impact on your life at the time, but in the long term, you will realize that they were insignificant. Whether it's studying, working, or some interpersonal relationships in life, they are no match for your physical and mental health.

It is essential to prioritize physical health. Establish a routine of going to bed early and waking up early, followed by regular exercise. Additionally, seek guidance from psychologists and counselors to enhance emotional stability, which is crucial for mental well-being. Meditation can also be a valuable tool for maintaining emotional balance.

Please advise.

Hello, question asker! I'm Warm-hearted Girl 1219, and I'm happy to answer your question about Yi Xinli.

I've read your description and I get that your social life and depression are affecting your grades, which is really tough for you. I think you'll only be able to improve your academic performance by changing your mindset.

You were scolded by a girl in your class at the beginning of your third year of junior high school. Although the teacher helped mediate, she became friends with your best friend, which left you with no time to spend with your friends. You're feeling pretty distressed.

You're dealing with depression, you're always dreaming about the girl who scolded you, you're anxious at school, you dislike studying, and you often cry. You're not in good health, and you can't stand the intense study hours at school.

I get it. I hope you can open your heart and see the beauty in the world. Forget the pain and find the real, happy you.

I've got a few suggestions for you.

1. Try to move on from the girl who scolded you and limit your contact with her.

You're in the same class, so you'll see each other a lot. It'd be a good idea to spend less time with her and more time with classmates you get along with.

At school, you'll always come across classmates like her who are strong and bully others. You've got to be strong on the inside to protect yourself from harm.

2. Focus on doing your own thing.

☀️It's important to focus on your own tasks, study when you should be studying, and play when you should be playing.

☀️ You'll be happier if you focus on your own affairs and forget about the troubles others have caused you.

?3. Get in touch with your good friends more often and rekindle your friendship.

I know you don't want to lose your best friend, and you need someone to keep you company when you feel lonely. Try to find some time to contact your best friend on your own initiative.

Even though she's become friends with that girl, you haven't lost her.

As long as she's a good person, she'll still be your friend. If she's not, you can make friends with other classmates. After all, she's not the only one in the class.

I hope you can stay positive and love yourself, regardless of whether she stays your friend or not. Nobody loves you more than you love yourself.

?4. Talk to your teachers and parents more often about what's on your mind.

If you're losing interest in school, feeling anxious, crying a lot, or struggling with long periods of intense study, it's important to communicate with your parents and teachers.

They're older and have a lot of experience, so they can help you think through problems. Talking to them can help you find solutions and move on from what your classmates are doing, so you can start fresh!

I hope my answer has been helpful to you.

I hope your studies are going well and that you're enjoying good relationships with others!

At Yiyi, we love what we do and we love you!

Hello, young lady. I can see you're feeling a bit confused, so I just wanted to give you a hug!

I believe what you are experiencing now are some growing pains. If it would help, I would be happy to give you another warm hug.

You are currently in your third year of high school and will soon be taking the high school entrance exam.

After the entrance exam, you and your classmates may be assigned to different high schools, where you will have the opportunity to make new friends.

I would gently suggest that even if your interpersonal relationships with your classmates are not good right now, it might be helpful to try not to worry too much about it, as I am sure it will all pass.

If I understood correctly, you said you have depression and are taking medication. Would it be possible for you to also consider receiving psychological treatment?

If that is not an option for you, you might want to consider receiving psychological treatment.

If I may suggest, you could perhaps try communicating with the class teacher.

Perhaps it would be helpful to speak with your class teacher about how your current workload is affecting you.

Perhaps it would be beneficial to take a year off and take the exam next year instead of this year?

One advantage of taking the exam again next year is that you will have the opportunity to make new friends and classmates. It may also be beneficial to try to move on from any negative experiences you have had with your classmates this year.

I truly hope that the issue you're currently facing can be resolved as soon as possible.

I hope I have provided you with some helpful insights. I am at a loss for further suggestions at this time.

I hope my above answers are helpful and inspiring to you, the girl. I am the answer, and I study hard every day.

At Yixinli, we extend our warmest regards to you and wish you the best.

Good morning, I hope this message finds you well. I am contacting you today regarding a query you raised. Please let me know if I can be of further assistance. Best regards,

You have just entered the third year of junior high school and are already facing a significant challenge. You were scolded by a female classmate, who also stole your friend, making your situation more complex. I empathize with the feelings of loneliness and the sense of being unable to find a solution.

I note that you have indicated that you are currently reducing the dosage of your antidepressant medication. This is a positive indication of your current condition. I am unaware of the duration of your antidepressant medication use, but the ability to reduce the dosage is a clear indicator of its efficacy. If it were not for the transition to the third year of junior high school or the influence of a particular classmate, I would posit that your condition would continue to improve.

The new situation has presented you with a new dilemma. I believe that your primary concern is the decline in your grades, and I empathize with your situation. As students, the desire to perform well is universal. The objective is to gain admission to a reputable high school or university.

In light of your current situation, it is evident that you are experiencing challenges in your physical and mental health, interpersonal relationships, and academic performance. This underscores the significant value you place on learning and your commitment to academic excellence. I believe that as long as you continue to value learning and demonstrate a strong dedication to your academic pursuits, you have the potential to excel as a student.

Your current grades are a cause for concern, particularly given the downward trend. It is also worth noting that you are taking medication. Even if you were in perfect mental health, I believe you would still experience the same feelings I have described if you were in the unique position of your junior year of high school and a classmate had insulted you.

I advise you not to blame yourself at this time. Instead, I recommend that you provide yourself with comfort and support. This period has been challenging for you. You have been preoccupied with thoughts of that classmate who scolded you for days, and you are uncertain when you will be able to resume a positive relationship with your good friend. It is understandable that you are experiencing anxiety and feelings of distress at school. It has been a difficult time for you. I encourage you to prioritize your well-being and provide yourself with the support you need.

How can we face the future when we are experiencing such difficulties? Let me share my thoughts based on what I know about you.

First, address the issue with your female classmate.

I believe that, despite the intervention of the teacher, you have not fully resolved this issue. The fact that your classmate is still friends with your friend indicates that there is still a degree of tension between you. I am unsure of the circumstances that led to your classmate's scolding, and I am also unaware of your relationship with him. Have you expressed your feelings of resentment towards your classmate who scolded you? Are you simply accepting the situation passively?

If you are experiencing emotional distress, it is important to seek support from a trusted individual or find an appropriate outlet to express your feelings. This could include verbalizing your thoughts, writing them down, or expressing them in any other way that you feel comfortable with. If you need to release your emotions, it is acceptable to do so in a public place or in front of a mountain, for example.

Secondly, it would be beneficial to re-examine the issue of getting along with that particular friend and classmate.

You have indicated that you are experiencing feelings of loneliness, and I can deeply empathize. If this friend were still with us, we could discuss our feelings with her. However, now that he is no longer with us, he is also no longer available to us. This does not seem to be a productive way to address our feelings. The reality is that we cannot control the decisions of others regarding their personal relationships. It is their choice whether or not to maintain friendships, and it is not our place to intervene.

We must respect others and ourselves. Adler, a renowned psychologist, posited that there are three categories of matters: those pertaining to God, those concerning other individuals, and those that are solely our own. It is not within our power to control the affairs of others, but we can heed the guidance of a higher power in matters of a spiritual nature. How, then, can we control our own affairs?

For the time being, we should endeavor to be alone. Given that we are currently in our third year of high school, there is a considerable amount of studying to be done. As you yourself have stated.

Given the limitations of your ability to handle 13 hours of school, it would be prudent to focus all our energy on that and avoid any distractions. We can leverage this experience to enhance our studies.

Have you considered the potential consequences of this decision? If they become friends, there is a possibility that one day your friend will seek you out.

I believe you may have encountered this issue at your previous residence as well. Therefore, we can allow time to resolve it.

Third, it is essential to prioritize the well-being of our bodies. Our bodies provide us with vital feedback, and it is crucial to heed this information. If you require a few days of rest due to physical limitations at school, we will support you for as long as necessary. When we are not feeling well, we will take the necessary time to recuperate. Despite the demanding 13-hour school day and the high intensity, as well as the recent challenges of depression, we will not let our progress be undone. We will monitor our bodies' responses and take the appropriate rest periods. As our great leader Chairman Mao once said, "People who don't rest can't work." To excel in our studies, it is vital to prioritize rest and recovery.

If our sole concern is academic performance, and if we neglect our health, and if we endure a challenging lifestyle, and if we still have to achieve good academic results, what's the point? Therefore, health is the most important factor.

How can you take care of your body? This means resolving any issues with a classmate who previously reprimanded you and addressing any concerns that classmate may have regarding your friends. What are the priorities here? Our health is the most important thing.

It is my belief that going forward, our physical condition will be the determining factor in all aspects of our lives. As long as our physical condition is optimal, we will be able to achieve our goals. Should medication or dosage adjustments be necessary, it is imperative that we consult with our healthcare professionals and adhere to their recommendations.

In short, if you take care of your body, you will achieve your goals. A healthy body and good health will lead to positive interpersonal relationships and mental wellbeing.

I encourage young people preparing for the high school entrance exam to consider this as a potential path to a brighter future.

I would like to take this opportunity to extend my love and best wishes to the world and to you.