A middle school student wants to get over something, but what is it?

Everyone has the capacity to act as a beacon, whether they are posing questions or offering responses. Through the use of language, they have the potential to shed light on the hearts of many people, and this is a power that is inherent to all individuals.

Good day. I am Xin Tan, and I am here to assist Coach Fei Yun in addressing the concerns regarding the aforementioned student. I empathize with your predicament and am eager to provide guidance. It is understandable that this is your first experience with such a situation, and I recognize that it has instilled a sense of trepidation and distress.

Let us consider how to respond to similar situations.

We will commence by examining the issues faced by female students in junior high school.

A junior high school student who is experiencing a romantic breakup, engaging in smoking and self-harm behaviors, and contemplating suicide.

Adolescents at this age are characterized by a strong desire to explore their identity and a heightened sensitivity to the opinions of others, particularly those of the opposite sex.

In the context of the Internet era, it appears that children are more knowledgeable than previous generations, yet their cognitive development is not yet complete. They possess a wealth of information but lack the social and life experiences that are essential for critical thinking and judgment.

A student who is "in love early" may experience a lack of parental love and support, despite material satisfaction.

In the event that their needs are not met by their parents, they will naturally seek fulfillment from other sources, including teachers, classmates, or, as in this case, boyfriends and online strangers.

Those who are lacking in love will inevitably experience distress and loss when they seek assistance from others and are unable to obtain what they desire. This is a crucial life lesson that must be learned independently, and it is not a reflection of you. Once this concept is grasped, it becomes evident why she has rapidly developed trust and even a sense of reliance in an individual she has only known as a "stranger."

As you have observed, the subject in question exhibits a lack of emotional protection towards unfamiliar individuals, which can be attributed to an absence of nurturing care. This leads her to persistently seek external sources to fill the emotional void within her. It is therefore evident that the individual encountered online is not an accurate representation of the subject's true self. If the encounter had involved a different individual, it is probable that the subject would have developed a sense of trust and reliance.

2. Let us examine the confusion that has arisen and consider how it should be addressed.

You have expressed concern about her self-harming behavior and suicidal thoughts out of kindness. You have also provided comfort, but you were unaware that the other party had developed a complete trust in you. She has even sworn that, once she becomes an adult, she will kill herself if she finds you.

It is not possible for you to assist her in this matter, as the lack of love stems from her relationship with her parents. The adage "the one who started the problem must end it" applies in this case; she is the sole individual capable of resolving the issue.

From an external perspective, it is not possible to address the underlying cause of the problem; only the symptoms can be treated. The emotional and behavioural patterns will continue to manifest themselves. However, if a connection is established, the patterns may become less pronounced over time.

Naturally, I am primarily offering these insights from your perspective, with the aim of assisting you in resolving the issue at hand. In the event that the questioner is indeed her, then any respondent on this platform will endeavor to provide the requisite assistance.

Therefore, the decision of what to do next is at your discretion.

It is my hope that this will provide you with a new perspective, facilitate your ability to see the bigger picture, offer you a broader range of choices, and serve as a reminder that you are loved by the world and by me.

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