A senior high school student. How do you relieve your emotions after an argument with your desk mate? I don't want to be controlled by my emotions.

Dear child, I'm here to give you a big hug! I can see that you're going through a tough time because of your falling out with your classmate. It's totally normal to feel the way you do, and I'm here to help. Let's talk about this together!

♥ From the additional description, it's clear that you and your classmate care about each other's friendship. And that's a wonderful thing! When you care about someone, you feel emotions and sadness when they ignore you or treat you coldly.

If you care, then you should definitely take the initiative to make up with your classmate! You might feel like you've done something wrong or that you're inferior to her, but you're not!

In fact, it's not! The fact that you took the initiative to make up with your classmate shows that you are more generous and more at ease in this relationship than she is, which is great!

Generous and composed people are the ones who end up making the best friends!

And there's more! Making peace is not about giving in to someone, but rather making peace with yourself. By making peace, you release kindness and also the negative emotions inside you.

When you don't have so many negative emotions in your heart, your studies and life will become so much more enjoyable!

Your classmate and the other students around them have become close friends because of your falling out! They're deliberately ignoring you, making you feel bad, and like no one is paying attention to you. It's a great opportunity to work on your resilience and self-esteem. You can choose to resent your classmate and yourself, or you can choose to embrace the situation and learn from it. Many students encounter this at school, and you can be one of the many who turn this into a positive experience!

When I was your age, I also encountered such a situation, and at the time I also felt very sad and resentful. But now, looking back, I would absolutely deal with this problem differently!

If they don't want to play with me, I can just go and play with someone else! If they ignore me, I can just go and play with someone else! There are so many people in school, and if you're brave enough to show kindness, you'll definitely get a kind response!

I truly believe that the world loves you and so do I! When you open your arms to embrace the world, love and friendship will come rushing towards you from all directions.

Dear Questioner, I extend to you a warm embrace from afar. Your words have illuminated the nuances of your depression and helplessness, confusion, loneliness, and resentment.

Adolescents have a need to develop peer relationships. It is unclear what experiences you had during your younger years that prevented you from fully developing your interpersonal skills in this area. What is commendable is that you have become aware of this yourself, which marks the beginning of a process of change. There is a popular saying that a good start is half the battle.

I recently encountered an intriguing assertion that I believe is worthy of your attention: "friends are chosen, classmates are randomly assigned." In the contemporary era, children are increasingly exhibiting individualistic tendencies. If they do not share similar perspectives and interests, it can be challenging to foster close friendships through flattery alone.

You indicated that you reside in a dormitory, which limits your social circle. However, the Internet connects people from all over the world, creating opportunities for individuals to interact across distances. It is evident that we have encountered one another despite our initial differences. You express your sadness in words, and I convey my warmth through words. Do you perceive a connection at this moment?

I am compelled to cite a line from the television series Story of Yanxi Palace: when Yingluo first entered the palace, she had numerous adversaries and a limited number of allies. However, she possessed considerable inner strength and was able to maintain her position in the challenging environment. She stated, "I, Wei Yingluo, did not enter the palace to make friends." It is important to note that this line is intended to elicit a smile and to dissuade the audience from taking it too seriously.

In the context of one's actual life, what are your hobbies? As the adage suggests, individuals with similar interests tend to congregate. It is reasonable to posit that children of your age have formed numerous small groups, developed their own interests and hobbies, and identified like-minded individuals in the tangible world or through online organizations. It is indeed possible to establish a group in which you can excel.

You perceive yourself as an introvert with a proclivity for introspection and self-examination, a quality that may render you somewhat isolated within the context of your peers. However, this is not inherently problematic, as extroverted individuals also exist. Li Qingzhao, in a poetic reflection, posited: "Why do you need pale green and deep red? They are the best in the flowers." This verse alludes to the blooming osmanthus flowers of the current season. It underscores the notion that every individual possesses unique characteristics and attributes.

One may gain a more accurate understanding of oneself by taking the Myers–Briggs Type Indicator (MBTI) personality test. It is advisable to be courageous and authentic, to cultivate happiness and ease, and to avoid the urge to please others or to fit in. Individuals who are inclined to introspection may also find enjoyment in activities such as reading, music, painting, and other forms of art. Psychology is a field of study that pertains to the exploration of the self. In one's leisure time, one may choose to learn more about psychology and interact with others who share similar interests on the aforementioned platform. It is essential to remember that the world and I hold you in high regard.

I am a psychological counselor, Zhang Huili. My interests include reading and singing. I recommend that you read the book The Courage to Be Disliked and strive to be courageous and happy with who you are.

Hello, dear child!

Hi, I'm Yi Ming, your heart exploration coach.

Take a deep breath and try to understand why you're feeling distressed.

Oh, don't we all go through these kinds of minor conflicts all the time during school?

I know it can be tough, but how we respond is actually a chance to grow and learn.

I'd absolutely love to chat with you! I really hope I can offer you a little bit of inspiration and comfort.

1. Learn to understand yourself and others, my dear.

You know, it's really no big deal, but it has made you feel unhappy, and you've been feeling a bit uncomfortable and lonely.

I totally get it. From your perspective, it's true that your tablemate herself missed handing you the test paper.

You could have just returned the sticky note to her without even thinking twice.

I'm sure your classmate didn't mean to forget to hand out the test. She was actually really helpful and wrote a note to help you two get the test back. I bet she was just hoping for a thank you!

So when you said, "You're the one who missed handing it out to me," she may also feel a bit disappointed and emotional, which is why the two of you are having a bit of a disagreement.

This is all just our way of showing how we feel.

It's so important to try to understand ourselves and why we say or do the things we do, especially when we encounter something upsetting or when things don't go well.

Also, it would be really helpful for you to try to put yourself in her shoes and understand why she reacted the way she did.

This helps us understand each other better and find a way to move forward.

Now, just imagine for a moment what you would do if she didn't ask for the test paper back. How many different outcomes could there be?

2. Let's try to let go of the ideas of "right and wrong" and "should."

We're all human, and we all get upset sometimes. But why are we unhappy? It's usually because things didn't turn out the way we expected.

Or, it seems like what we thought wouldn't happen has happened.

It's only natural to feel bad when reality doesn't work according to our expectations.

For example, we may think that sharing a table is wrong, but in relationships, it can sometimes be tricky to know what's right and wrong.

I'm sure she'll still think you're wrong from her perspective.

We can change our thinking and, in some small things, let go of the idea of who is right or wrong. Instead, focus on what makes us both comfortable.

Once we let go of right and wrong, we'll have fewer conflicts and feel more at ease.

You don't have to try to please your classmate, but you can definitely find a way to make things easier on yourself!

For example, why not take the initiative to chat with her?

Because we've stopped judging things as right or wrong.

I'm sure you'll be able to find a way to make things right again with your former classmate.

I truly believe you can find a way, my friend.

It's so important to learn to take care of yourself, my dear.

I totally get it.

It's totally okay that your classmate doesn't chat with you. She can still chat with others and play with other classmates.

I know it can be tough right now, but I'm here to support you. It's totally normal to feel a bit uncomfortable at this point.

This kind of discomfort is actually a reminder that we're temporarily unable to take care of ourselves, and it can make us feel a bit powerless.

I can see you're really struggling with this. I know you're hoping that your high school experience is going to be mediocre, but you're facing a cold war with your classmate. It's so hard when things like this happen. I can understand why you're feeling exhausted mentally and physically. I'm here for you, and I'm going to help you work through this.

I know it can be tough, but I'm here to tell you that in the third year of high school, focusing on your studies will help improve your grades!

It's also a great idea to try to keep a more pleasant mood!

It's also a great idea to get along with our classmates in a relaxed and friendly way, to help reduce any troubles.

And it'll also help us build great relationships with others in the future!

So, we get along with our classmates, not to please them, but to do what makes us feel more comfortable. And remember, this is for your own good!

I really think you'll feel better if you do this.

I truly believe that, with time and patience, you will also make a few more friends with whom you get along well.

Don't be afraid to reach out and make new friends! It's totally normal to feel like you don't know other classmates well or that you "don't have the ability to chat and joke with other classmates." The biggest possibility is that we haven't opened our hearts yet.

It's totally okay not to think you're popular.

Sometimes, all it takes is being a good listener to make a friend!

Just share these with your friends!

Wishing you all the best!

Hello, my name is Strawberry!

I can see how you must be feeling, my dear. I'm here for you. I know you have a classmate who is usually very accommodating, so I'm sure you'll be able to work through this together. It all started when your classmate forgot to take your exam paper, and then she asked the class representative for it using a post-it. When you gave it back to her, she got upset.

From what the questioner said, it seems like a very normal thing. So, why did she get angry after the questioner returned the sticky note to her? Let's first look at the question. Why did the classmate forget to take your table's exam paper? Was she distracted at the time?

From the way she acted when she asked the class representative for the test paper, it's clear she's a kindhearted person who's always ready to lend a hand. So, why does the questioner think she'll get upset if she leaves a note on her desk? What would make her happy? Maybe a thank you note?

Because she said, "I'll help you," she feels that the act of taking the exam paper is not for herself, but for the questioner.

I'd love to know where the emotion comes from!

It seems like there might have been a little misunderstanding between the questioner and her classmate because they have different ideas. The questioner might want to think about some of the questions I mentioned earlier. When we think about something too much, our body movements will be faster than the signals sent by our brain. Maybe she was thinking about something at the time, or maybe she was troubled by something, which caused her to realize after the fact that she had left the exam paper behind.

I wonder if the topic owner is feeling a little upset because she'd love to hear a kind word from the topic owner. From what the topic owner has written, it seems that she and her classmate get along really well, so I'm not sure where her emotion is coming from.

Has there been any unpleasant incident between the questioner and her classmate before? Or has there been a conflict that hasn't been clarified? I'm sure there's a perfectly good explanation, but I'd love to know if there's anything I can do to help.

It's also possible that the post-it note was just a way for the classmate to let out some of her emotions.

It might help to clarify your attitude.

It's totally normal to feel indifferent sometimes. But if the person you're sitting next to thinks you're being aloof, it can lead to some misunderstandings. It's easy to feel misunderstood when you're not sure what someone else is thinking. So, it's important to communicate and find a way to bridge the gap.

It doesn't matter what kind of relationship you're in, a cold war is really hard on a relationship. It's not helpful to refuse to communicate if you have some things you need to talk about. If you don't resolve the misunderstanding, you might find that you slowly drift apart and then look back with regret.

It seems like the classmate is feeling a bit unsatisfied with the question owner, but it's possible that she's the only one who knows exactly what it is. If she doesn't say anything, it's tough to guess. If you still want to keep things going, the question owner could try to take the initiative and ask the classmate what's been on her mind. That way, you'll get a better understanding of her feelings and can decide whether to chat with her to see if you can work things out.

It's so important to contribute equally!

It's so important to contribute equally and share your values in any relationship, whether it's with your family, friends or loved ones. If you want your children to love and respect you, you've got to show them the same love and respect in return. And if you want your friends to get along harmoniously, you've got to be on an equal footing and treat each other with kindness and respect.

It was just a little hiccup. If the questioner was feeling left out, the classmate could have simply said so and fixed it. But she chose to ignore the questioner and gave her a bit of a snub afterwards. Perhaps she knew the questioner well, so she was telling the questioner with her actions that she had other friends without her, and that it would be very different without her. She was telling the questioner to do as she wished, which was a kind of test and demand.

Ultimately, it's up to you to decide whether or not to salvage the relationship. But if the same behavior occurs from time to time, it might start to feel like too much work to keep up with. First, take some time to relax and let go of your emotions. You can also make some simple changes in your daily routine:

Hey there! I know you're feeling stressed, and I'm here to help. Exercise is a great way to relieve stress and feel better. You can go to the playground and run a few laps, put on your headphones, feel the wind, and see the difference in scenery on both sides at different running speeds. It's a simple, easy, and effective way to feel better. Give it a try!

2. Writing therapy: The questioner is in school and shares the same dormitory as his deskmate, so the questioner can use this method on his phone to avoid any misunderstandings that may arise if he writes on paper. It's always a good idea to think back to what happened at the time, what emotions the deskmate may have had, and list them one by one. Then answer the question, trying to put yourself in his shoes and think about how you would face and deal with the situation if you were the deskmate. Because emotions are written out, they can be seen more clearly.

3. It's so important to expand your social circle! The questioner has a small social circle, so she is worried about what her classmate is doing, and this has caused her to feel bad. A good relationship is one of mutual understanding and tolerance, not one of petty squabbles over trivial matters. Regardless of the outcome of this relationship, the questioner needs to expand her social circle and spend more time with positive and optimistic friends. This will help her to be positive and optimistic as well!

I really hope my answer helps the questioner. Sending lots of love!

Hello, sweetie, I'm Coach Fly, and I'm so excited to chat with you!

I totally get where you're coming from! I've had similar experiences and feelings. When you have a falling out with a good friend or classmate, it always lingers in the back of your mind. You either pretend it's not there or you really can't let it go, and that's okay!

She gets especially fired up when she sees you laughing and chatting with other people, as if you're a robot!

Give her a warm hug, and let's dive right in and solve this together!

?1. Schoolmates are still very simple because they care, so they care!

What happened between you and your classmate was a trivial matter, but you got angry and started a cold war. This way of handling things shows the "simplicity" and "naivety" of students, and it's something we can all learn from!

If you are in the workplace and want to advance in your career, you'll want to keep things on the down-low. After all, you don't want to be seen as the one who fights openly. Even if you have grievances or resentment, you'll want to keep it under wraps. That's why it's so important to keep things simple with your classmates.

The reason for the cold war is not the size of the matter, but because you both care about each other and the friendship between you at the same table.

The word "understand" is the root of the conflict between you. She thinks you understand her, but you don't understand her interpretation. This is the real reason she is angry with you — and it's an opportunity for you to grow!

You, on the other hand, feel aggrieved and innocent, and in this respect, she doesn't understand you either — but that's OK!

2. Give this minor friction a "ceremonial" farewell and move on to bigger and better things!

Whoever suffers changes. There's no such thing as losing face or being unable to lower one's face in a simple student friendship! Everyone has a common goal: to do their best and concentrate fully on preparing for the exam.

It's time to let go of those limiting thoughts and say sorry! Write her a little note, show her you're ready to make up and get ready to study together for the exam.

Don't worry about the outcome! By taking the initiative, you've already given the other person face. If she accepts your sincerity, then "all is forgiven with a laugh." If she rejects you, at least you'll have an internal "rationalization": I have let go.

The other person's ability to let go is their business, not yours. You can just go about your business as usual! Sometimes, things just need a "ritual," not for the other person, but for yourself.

3. Boost your self-esteem and take a good, hard look at yourself!

It's clear that your classmate has a strong influence on your emotional value. She's engaged in a bit of a cold war with you, laughing and talking with others, which is causing you to feel a bit isolated and lonely.

First, it's time to boost your emotional value and establish a positive, optimistic, and positive mindset! When a person has self-confidence, his vitality is also very energetic, and "no desire is strong."

This friction with the person sitting next to you is your chance to maintain a sense of awareness, see your own patterns, and understand how you interact with others. It's your opportunity to make choices!

You have the power to control your emotions! You are in charge of your feelings, and nobody can make you feel a certain way unless you let them.

Second, it's time to boost your sense of self-worth! When you feel isolated and lonely, it's because you have the limiting belief that "I'm not good enough."

Give yourself a big pat on the back! Then, you'll be ready to give others a big thumbs-up and enjoy the amazing feeling of happy, healthy relationships.

If you can't even be sure of yourself, understand and accept yourself, how can you expect to gain the respect, understanding, and acceptance of others? The good news is that you can!

Loneliness is caused by a lonely heart and an inability to connect with others. But guess what? It has nothing to do with personality! Extroverts and introverts alike can have friends and maintain connections with others.

The key to success is self-affirmation and establishing a correct self-perception!

I really hope the above is helpful to you, and I love you so much! ?

If you want to continue the conversation, just click "Find a coach" in the upper right corner or at the bottom. I would love to communicate and grow with you one-on-one!

Hello, classmate! I can see that you have described the whole situation very clearly in your question, which is very helpful for us to identify the problem, analyze it, and solve it together with you here.

Thank you so much for providing such a detailed description of the incident! I'm excited to give you some advice and help in terms of ideas.

Have you ever heard that the more attention you pay to something, the more likely you are to notice it? It's called selective attention, and it's a fascinating concept!

Do you see the catch? It's this: if you pay attention to the fact that your classmate is laughing and joking with other students and deliberately alienating you, making you feel uncomfortable, then you'll feel worse more easily and attribute it to your own lack of sociability and inability to joke with other students. But here's the good news! You can change this.

The more you focus on your inability to joke with other students, the more you will notice how happy your seatmate is with other students!

So, classmate, you are actually in a great position right now! You have the chance to show your classmates that you are capable of chatting and laughing with them. As classmates, you can show goodwill to your classmates in so many ways, like greeting each other or sharing an interesting story. And you know what? You will definitely receive a response!

Second, you're in your third year of high school, so the pressure to study is high, and the workload is heavy, right? That means there's so much to look forward to! Joking around or laughing together shouldn't seem to be the most important or noteworthy thing, right?

Absolutely! You can totally alleviate the situation where you feel neglected by your desk mate. Just discuss problems, discuss ways of learning, and interact with the students around you.

The good news is that we can help you! The core of your problem is that you care more about your relationship with your deskmate. Let's take a look!

Classmate, when you passed the test paper to your deskmate together with the note you wrote, have you ever considered why your deskmate had that attitude, questioning you and informing you that she was helping you get the test paper? It would be great to understand why she did that!

I think her reaction is actually pretty typical of preemptive action. She's realized that she was at fault for not handing out the test, and she's questioning you first to protect her self-esteem and share the blame with you. It's a self-defense mechanism that allows her to feel less pressure for her mistake.

In other words, her reaction was actually a fear of being accused or blamed by you, so she accused and blamed you first. This also shows that your classmate is actually relatively immature and not ready to take responsibility—but you can help her become ready!

If you realize this, you'll feel a little spark in your heart and start to understand her! From your description, it's clear you usually get along well. This conflict originated from a lack of effective communication. So, if you want to improve your relationship and boost your mood by adjusting your relationship, what adjustments would you make?

Or, you could write a note saying that you don't want to blame your tablemate and that you want to thank her for getting you the exam paper!

Or, you could even smile at her to show that you can tolerate a little problem in your relationship and are willing to make up for it!

I absolutely believe that as long as you recognize the root cause of this conflict, you will have the right response!

I really hope this is helpful!

Good day.

Take a moment to embrace each other. Breathe deeply and relax your bodies. Initially, the questioner sought to respond to the other person's feelings with honesty. However, the feelings were met with a sense of rejection, creating a rift in the relationship. This led to difficulties in communication and the inability to express emotions. As a result, feelings such as anxiety, fear, and helplessness began to emerge.

The person sitting next to you forgot to take the test paper, which led to a misunderstanding. How should we handle this situation?

In our senior year of high school, when the test papers were distributed during break, my desk mate forgot to take our test paper. She passed a sticky note to the class representative, who returned it with the sticky note stuck to the test paper. Then I returned the sticky note to her, and she seemed upset and said, "I asked if there were any more test papers left, and it was me who helped you." I was a bit confused and also felt a bit upset, saying that she was the one who forgot to give it to me. She then said, "Well, I didn't have any either." I felt a bit speechless, so I ignored her, and then we had a bit of a disagreement...

In describing the situation, it becomes clear that the individual in question forgot to take the test paper on our desk and subsequently made amends. However, the emotional response on both sides deepened due to the other's emotional rejection.

It appears that both parties may have experienced some difficulty in managing their emotions. The individual who forgot the exam paper did not feel guilty, but their actions were perceived as somewhat dismissive. The individual who was responsible for forgetting the exam paper became emotional, but did not receive a suitable response from the other person, which led to feelings of frustration. As a result, they were unable to accept the subsequent remedial actions and did not care about them, which ultimately led to an emotional conflict.

Could it be that we've strayed from the core issue and made emotions a central focus? Emotions arise from our perceptions and experiences.

For instance, if one person has a high impression score of another person and they have a disagreement, her emotions may not rise as high as they otherwise might because the impression score is good, which will ease the emotions. However, if the other person's daily performance or her current flaws in handling things are likely to be unacceptable to oneself, our emotions may increase in intensity because we do not have a positive buffer.

It's like this: although they don't chat much in their daily lives, and although they are good friends, when circumstances change and time passes, they may both have certain perceptions and emotional changes within, but they don't show them. When they encounter problems that they can't solve, they are likely to attack each other. What could be helpful during this period? A normal channel of communication, a way for them to let the other person know their true feelings.

How might we best address and resolve any misunderstandings?

I'm feeling rather drained, I must admit that I'm not particularly adept at handling these situations, and I'm not sure that I want to be angry all the time. I just want my high school experience to be, well, mediocre. Later on, she spoke with the student next to her, leaving me somewhat in the lurch. It was a similar story in the dormitory. I felt rather out of my depth with the other students and I didn't have the confidence to chat and joke with them. I felt rather lonely and sad.

1. It may be helpful to try to be open-minded and speak honestly about your true feelings.

It may be more challenging for children to resolve emotional issues in a mature manner when conflicts arise, as their cognitive and mental development may not yet be fully mature. This can result in conflicts turning into cold wars or situations where they ignore each other, which can lead to emotional isolation. However, even when issues arise that violate the relationship's fundamental values, such as violence, aggression, and insults, it is still possible to resolve some of the misunderstandings caused by friction through genuine communication. This is not about flattery but rather about maintaining an open-minded and tolerant attitude when one's thoughts and ideas encounter conflicting ideas and thoughts.

The questioner can maintain their own learning pace during the week, and when they meet their classmate, they can try to change their perception and return a relaxed smile. This may help the other person feel relaxed because of the sudden kindness and begin to be willing to reveal their true voice.

2. It would be beneficial to reduce anxiety and adopt a tolerant attitude.

From the topic author's mention of his own personality, and the fact that his classmates left and he still has friends in the small group, it can be seen that although the topic author is calm and peaceful, he may lack a certain warmth, while his classmates are a lively personality who can get along well with others. A calm personality sometimes gives the impression of being gentle, but it is possible that this may make it difficult for friends to get close because they feel introverted. A lively personality may not be as adept at managing their emotions, but they may be very good at dealing with people with different personalities, that is, being able to empathize with their emotions.

It might be the case that the person sitting next to you who forgot to take the exam paper is actually feeling guilty, but doesn't know how to express it. Perhaps subtle communication, such as posting a note tactfully, and the unusual tone of voice at the time could give the questioner a sense of trust that the other person is "unreliable."

3. It is possible for principles and flexibility to coexist in interpersonal relationships, which can help to broaden one's cognitive dimension.

When we put forward an idea or a viewpoint, we will inevitably encounter different ideas and viewpoints. Sometimes they may be contradictory, but there will never be exactly the same viewpoint. This is the difference caused by one's values. Then we may realize that when I circle a viewpoint and cannot accept other people's viewpoints, my own circle may become smaller and smaller, because the expansion of the circle requires the coexistence of more different ideas, rather than just focusing on one "point."

It is often thought that the best way to make friends is to share common interests. However, if we are to avoid losing out on the chance to broaden our knowledge, it is important to consider that not everyone will have the same values as us. Rejecting other people's views and ideas blindly may not be the best approach.

I hope you will accept my sincere condolences for the unfortunate personality conflict with your tablemate. I believe this was just a minor incident and that there was no intention to hurt the other person. I hope that both sides can give each other the opportunity to improve their personalities, be tolerant and forgiving, let bygones be bygones, and not dwell on the matter.

I wish you the best of luck and encourage you to keep up the good work.

Hello, question asker! I am Warm-hearted Girl 1219, and I am honored to have this opportunity to answer your question on Yi Xinli.

From what you have told me, it seems that you and your deskmate have had a disagreement over the missing exam paper, which has led to a cooling of relations between you both.

It seems that you don't have many friends outside of your classmate, and your classmate has other friends to play with, which might make you feel a bit lonely and anxious.

I hope the following suggestions will be of some help to you.

?1. Perhaps it would be helpful to communicate with your classmate, forgive each other, and make up.

It would be beneficial for you to find a time to talk about your conflicts with your classmate. Perhaps you could try to forgive each other and make up.

It would be beneficial to be generous with your friends and accept their shortcomings. This will help you to handle your relationship with each other more effectively.

It might be helpful to try to make friends with classmates other than your tablemate.

Perhaps you are more of an introvert. If so, you might consider making friends with other students besides your tablemate.

This way, if you do have a conflict with your seatmate, you will still have other friends to keep you company, comfort you, and help you.

It would be beneficial to have a diverse group of students in your class. By being assertive and proactive, you will have the opportunity to connect with individuals who share similar interests and personalities. I have confidence in your ability to make these connections.

I know it can be tough, but I'm here to encourage you to keep going.

3. It would be beneficial to spend your time preparing for the college entrance exam.

☀️If you are still struggling to find peace with a classmate or to make new friends, despite your best efforts, it might be helpful to focus your energy on preparing for the college entrance exam.

The college entrance exam plays an important role in determining your future development prospects. It is therefore advisable to pay attention to it. Once you have passed the exam and gained admission to a good university, you will have the opportunity to meet more friends who could prove to be valuable contacts.

☀️High school is where a group of people come together with the common goal of entering university, while university is where a group of people come together with their respective career goals. It is often observed that university classmates tend to think more maturely and act more calmly than high school classmates.

It is important to remember that focusing on the long-term future is key. While friendships may evolve organically, it is essential to maintain a sense of perspective and remember that, as long as you have given your best effort, any regrets will be outweighed by the positive outcomes.

I hope my answer has been somewhat helpful to you.

I wish you all the best in your future endeavors!

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