A stay-at-home mom who feels depressed and is afraid to work or meet people?

Good morning, Thank you for your question. From the information you have provided, I understand that you are a full-time mother in your 30s who is reluctant to return to work. You are currently unemployed and finish work at 4 or 5 o'clock. You have to pick up your children from school yourself, and you feel that you have poor circulation, grey hair, and no employer would want you. I look forward to hearing from you soon. Kind regards,

A lack of trust in others and a preference for remaining at home and reading books.

The therapist recognizes the challenges of being a full-time mother, who has made significant contributions to the family, and who is striving to demonstrate her value in the workplace as her children grow up. However, she has been away from society for an extended period while caring for her children, and finds it difficult to keep pace with the demands of society, which causes her to experience anxiety and depression.

I'm not sure. What efforts and improvements have you made to deal with these problems? The current environment is not optimal, and there is a lot of pressure to compete in the workplace. If you are unable to work full-time, you may wish to consider adapting to the pace of society by working part-time. Only by first assessing your suitability for this and understanding the current workplace requirements will you be able to make an informed decision. You can gradually change your current situation in life by adjusting while working.

The prolonged absence of social interaction and exposure to new experiences, common in childcare roles, can lead to feelings of exhaustion. It is important to recognise that psychological issues and emotions often arise from the dynamics of interpersonal relationships.

The most effective way to address these issues is to introduce new elements, integrate into new environments, adapt your approach, and enhance your skills. Prolonged isolation at home will only exacerbate the challenges you're facing.

It is through experience that people are changed, not through knowledge alone. By stepping outside of your comfort zone and embracing new experiences, you will gain a deeper understanding of your goals. I am pleased to have an appointment scheduled. 1983. Best regards,

Hello. I am a psychological counselor. From your description, I can see that you have both expectations and worries. You want to go out, but you also have concerns and worries. When you take on the full-time responsibility of caring for your family, other areas of activity will also be reduced or eliminated. I understand your worries and concerns. When you take on some roles in life for a long time, the ability to perform other roles will fade. It takes time to adapt again. We often use fitness as an analogy. Strong muscles are the result of gradual practice. If you want to achieve your desired goal in a short period of time, you will feel anxious. You can set a general goal for yourself, then divide the goal into different stages, and set small goals. This will give you a better sense of efficacy. For example, my goal is to lose weight. First, I can make this goal more specific and achievable. I can add time, results, resources, and advantages. For example, I can lose 1 kg in 3 months, which is achievable for me, rather than losing 10 kg in a month. The way to achieve this is to exercise every day and plan your diet. To do this, I can set small goals. I can also use a punch card system, which can make our expectations more specific, actionable, and achievable, reducing the anxiety of facing a broad expectation.

If your mood does not improve after a long period of adjustment, you should seek help from a psychological counselor. This is the best course of action.

Please don't worry, this is a very normal psychological phenomenon. Being a full-time mother is a great career that involves silent dedication, self-sacrifice, and being easily overlooked. Although you are not working, you are still making sacrifices for your family, and it is no easier than working. Being a full-time mother all the time shows that you are a person with a strong sense of responsibility.

I admire your courage in choosing to be a full-time mother. It's a challenging role, but you're proving to be an inspiring example of resilience. I believe that with a little creativity and determination, we can find ways to improve the current situation, one step at a time.

You have concerns about your image, your employment status, your age, and the logistics of picking up and dropping off your children. You are apprehensive about work and about meeting people.

These issues often arise when we're isolated for extended periods or when we're preoccupied with concerns that can sometimes instill a sense of apprehension. While it can be challenging to take that initial step, once we do, the journey often becomes much easier.

It would be beneficial to take care of your appearance. Regardless of whether you are employed or not, showing love and care for yourself is an expression of loving life. If your hair is starting to gray, consider coloring it; if you are running low on clothes, it might be helpful to buy some more; and if your complexion could use some attention, you might want to explore ways to care for your skin and enhance your natural beauty with makeup.

I'm concerned that you may face challenges in finding a suitable employer. I believe you are in your prime, with valuable life experience and maturity. There are many potential job opportunities that could align with your skills and interests, such as telemarketing, online questionnaire answering, article ghostwriting, and more. Generally, you can expect to work five days and have two days off. You have the flexibility to choose your work hours and explore different options, such as working in a kindergarten or taking on a part-time job. It's important to consider what best suits your preferences and abilities. No matter how much money you earn, as long as you are engaged in work, you will make progress. It's essential to take your time and adapt to your environment.

If you find yourself in a situation where you have to pick up your child from school at 4 or 5 o'clock and your work schedule allows for it, you might consider letting your child stay after school. If that doesn't work out, it might be worth exploring other options that could better suit your needs.

I believe that, whether it's a full-time or part-time job, there is always one that can suit you to juggle both.

I can understand why you might be reluctant to meet new people after having been betrayed. However, trust is something that can be built up gradually through getting to know each other.

It's understandable that you're hesitant to meet new people, but it's important to remember that you'll inevitably have to interact with others when picking up and dropping off your children and when buying essentials. After all, we all have to interact with people in order to live our lives.

You are not isolated from the world, and you also interact with people on a regular basis. Our work is simply a different approach to engaging with others.

If you take the first step, you may find that success follows.

If you're interested in changing the status quo, it might be helpful to consider making some changes to yourself first. If it's something you'd like to do, I encourage you to give it a try. It's natural to worry, but it's also important to remember that life is short and we don't want to leave any regrets.

You are actually quite brave, but the current environment makes it challenging for you to recognize your own strengths. If you push yourself a little, you will find that your life can be very exciting. I encourage you to try it!

Hello. I appreciate you meeting here.

As a mother myself, I'll give you a warm and powerful hug first. I am a stay-at-home mother approaching 40 who wants to work but dares not go out to work, feeling a bit anxious, not feeling very well (with grey hair all over), feeling that she can't do anything, and feeling sad, inferior, doubtful, and helpless because of betrayal. I want to escape some problems by staying at home and avoiding people. I don't trust anyone anymore, and once bitten, twice shy. I don't trust others, at least not to hurt me, and I want to protect myself from being hurt again.

If you have poor blood circulation and are going bald, you need to find a traditional Chinese medicine practitioner to regulate your body. You should also dye your hair a color that suits you. This will ensure that you don't look bald and that you look energetic, young, and beautiful.

If you want to go out to work, you must first understand why you want to (is it to realize your self-worth, to supplement the family income, etc.). You also need to sort out your work skills and think about which industries you want to work in. However, you mentioned that the reason you "dare not go out to work" is that no one is there to take care of the children. Apart from the objective reality, is there any other reason?

You are afraid to see people because of the betrayal. You don't trust anyone and you just want to stay at home. Staying at home alone for a long time will inevitably make you feel lonely.

I don't know exactly what kind of betrayal it is, but I can tell you've been hurt, aggrieved, and heartbroken in this relationship. It's not your fault to be "betrayed," but you have to bear the pain left behind by being "betrayed." I give you a warm hug again.

You read at home, which is great. Knowledge enriches the mind and enhances one's temperament.

You've asked these questions, so you know you want to change. You just need to find the strength and courage to do it. Transformation takes time, courage, and overcoming difficulties. You can do this.

You need to find your strength, transform yourself, and be reborn.

1. Pay more attention to everything about yourself, inside and out. Keep reading, and also pay attention to your appearance (body, skin, clothes, etc.). Don't be superficial. Focus on the inside and the outside.

2. Do the things you like, and if you don't have a particular favorite, find a hobby for yourself.

3. Exercise, as it produces endorphins and dopamine, which indirectly improve your emotional state, making you happier and less anxious, while also improving your figure.

4. The "betrayal" has caused you pain and suffering, but it has affected many aspects of your life. If you want to continue to be defeated by it, then it will continue to affect you. But if you want to overcome it, you have to learn to let go. There are things we cannot change, but we can make ourselves feel better, learn to accept and compromise, accept what we cannot change and change what we can. If you really can't let go of the "betrayal", you can also find a counselor to help you.

You have to take care of your child, so you need to adjust your time management and strike a good balance between taking care of your child and transforming yourself.

I'm not sure if some of this is suitable for you, but I know it can help you. Believe in yourself. You can do it.

You will be happy every day, and the world and I love you.