A strange colleague, it seems she has no sincerity at all?

Hello, I'm Jokerev. I can see that you're feeling confused and distressed. I can relate to how puzzling this colleague's behavior is, and it does seem to lack boundaries and responsibility in interpersonal interactions.

First of all, regarding her mistakes and the subsequent series of events, I would like to say that everyone has their own way of dealing with stress and difficulties. It is possible that she is dealing with her current predicament in a way that seems to "divert problems" or "rely on others," but I don't know the full context.

Given the circumstances, your decision to maintain your personal boundaries was an appropriate one. While we cannot control the words and actions of others, we can choose to stand firm in our principles and values.

You expressed your feelings in a gentle but firm manner. While this approach may have caused the other person to feel dissatisfied initially, it was a sign of respect for yourself and others in the long term.

In terms of her attitude and approach to work mistakes, it's possible that they reflect a lack of emotional maturity in her interpersonal relationships. Sometimes people blame others, avoid problems, or even use other people's emotional support to relieve their own anxiety.

It's important to remember that not all of her actions were directed against you. They could have been unconscious reactions to the enormous pressure she was under.

You ultimately chose to resign, perhaps to find a more suitable environment and room for development, which is a way of protecting yourself and pursuing a better life. It's possible that her kicking you out of the science group and the subtle emotional changes you felt may have been her way of reacting to her own interests.

People are social animals, and in certain circumstances, they may choose a direction that is beneficial to themselves.

Regarding your speculation – whether it is better for her if you leave – it might be best not to dwell on it. Whether someone stays or goes in the workplace is often affected by many factors, including personal ability, attitude, and team needs.

It's possible that her staying is not necessarily the result of exclusion or calculation. It may also involve her own efforts and changes.

In any case, the past is over, and what matters is learning from it and growing from it, creating a healthier and more positive work atmosphere for yourself. Everyone's life script is different, and focusing on writing your own chapter is a practical choice that may be beneficial for you.

I wish you the best of luck in your new environment.

Greetings! I am a heart exploration coach. I believe that life is a beautiful journey, not for appreciation, but for blossoming.

I'm glad we could discuss the topic of relationships. It seems there may be a difference of opinion regarding the sincerity of this colleague and your perception of her attitude. You have been sincere with her, whether it's listening, giving advice, or saying no, but she hasn't given you the same respect and trust. What might be the reason for this? Let's take a look:

Everyone has their own way of "surviving," and it could be seen as a kind of model.

Our perception of the world is often influenced by our own life experiences. For example, we observe and learn from our family and parents during our early years of development.

Everyone has their own unique patterns of thought, emotion, and behavior. Some people tend to see the positive side of things more often than not, while others are more inclined to view situations through a negative lens. Similarly, some individuals exude confidence in their actions, while others may be more reserved.

It seems that these patterns are carried over into our relationships. They appear to be preserved because they have protected us to some extent.

For instance, this colleague is adept at confiding in people, which allows them to gain understanding and empathy, and provides them with emotional satisfaction. Similarly, your quick-wittedness enables you to automatically screen out some less engaging individuals and situations.

It's important to remember that people are different, especially in the workplace, where everyone is both a colleague and a competitor. Over time, you'll likely find a way of working that suits you. Accept what you can understand about the behavior of your colleagues, and be yourself when you can't understand it.

It's important to remember that you haven't done anything wrong. It's also helpful to maintain a sense of boundaries and protect your own interests and mental health. It's also worth noting that "circles" can have a significant impact on us, and that no one is responsible for another person's low energy or negative emotions.

We all have a lot on our plates.

2. How has her appearance in your life brought you precious gifts?

"Learning from others can help you improve yourself (and understand what you have gained and lost)." It could be said that everyone who comes into our lives leaves a precious gift. I like to think of it as "everyone is here to help us achieve self-improvement."

It might be helpful to consider the ways in which we can cultivate ourselves in life. Through interacting with this colleague, we can gain insight into her patterns, as well as our own patterns of interaction with her.

You are straightforward, and you listen, but you care more about your own feelings. You judge (using your own standards to measure others), and you expect (give your heart and desire to receive sincerity), and so on.

If we can maintain an aware heart, we can achieve self-maturity and growth at all times with the help of others and other things. From this perspective, everything and everyone we experience can be helpful to us.

The recommendation of "Growing for Life" is to establish a growth mindset with you, which may make life easier, happier, and more blissful. Regardless of the person's character, it's the insights and assistance they provide that may be most valuable to you.

I hope these thoughts are helpful to you, and that they bring joy to you and to the world.

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