A typical family, lacking the courage to venture out, what to do at 27 without a job?

Hello, question asker! I'm thrilled to share some thoughts after reading your question.

I see the spark of hope in your despair. The little things in life can make you feel like you're not doing enough, like you're limited in everything you do. This is what you feel in the present moment, and this is the state you are in.

In fact, it may not be like this at all! You just have a lot of judgment in your heart about yourself. You long for external people and things to give you certain things, and you may have neglected yourself, what you really want, and what you want to do.

Second, don't worry if you can't do something or get recognition. The most important thing is to ask yourself what you like to do. Let go of some judgments and standards of perfection, just make sure you like what you do, try it first, and don't expect results.

Often, we are swept away by the outside world because we want that perfect result too much! We want to be recognized by those around us, our parents, neighbors, and relatives. We never ask ourselves if we like it or not, but only if we can do it and if we can do it well. In fact, everyone has their own rhythm! Only true love will make you do your best. Only by doing your best will you encounter problems and try various methods to solve them, rather than spinning around the problem itself.

3. Your health is the most important thing in the world! It determines whether you can go further afield to see the world. If you don't have a better passion or something that you feel is worth all your hard work, then focus on your health first!

Dear Question Asker, From my perspective, your words convey a sense of life's challenges and difficulties. I recognize that this may not be an entirely accurate representation of your circumstances, given that you have experienced significant challenges.

It is important to note that the experience of life is not uniform across individuals. Each age group faces unique challenges and concerns, which is why there is a distinct field of study dedicated to understanding the developmental processes that occur throughout the lifespan. At this particular stage of life, individuals may encounter a multitude of pressures, including academic, emotional, career-related, and familial demands, as well as peer influences. It is not uncommon to experience fatigue when attempting to navigate these various demands simultaneously.

2. It can be reasonably assumed that most people have experienced a similar situation. My parents were ordinary wage earners who were unable to provide me with abundant material resources. Furthermore, they lacked the foresight to see the bigger picture.

In comparing myself with others around me, I have also considered the possibility that I could be doing better if they did not impose so many rules and if they were more knowledgeable and far-sighted. However, I then reflected on my mother's childhood and the circumstances surrounding her upbringing. Despite the challenges she faced, she made every effort to provide me with a complete home and supported me financially to attend college. She has given me everything she dreamed of when she was young, and while her efforts were not perfect, she did her best.

It is possible that your parents compelled you to pursue academic excellence because they have experienced the challenges associated with lacking a diploma. This may be an attempt to spare you from facing similar difficulties.

3. The current pessimism and hopelessness may be attributed to fatigue, which impairs one's ability to perceive the positive aspects of a situation. Prioritizing rest and recuperation is essential. Initially, it is crucial to disengage from self-blame. Despite the challenges, one has made significant strides and has accomplished a great deal.

It would be beneficial to take a moment to reflect on the achievements that have already been made. It is likely that the reality of the situation is not as unfavorable as it is perceived to be, and that the life in question is not as devoid of positive elements as it may seem. Should one be willing to do so, it is possible to discover a sense of hope, which may have been sought after previously.

3. I previously experienced a sudden sense of age upon reaching my 20th birthday. However, upon reflection, I am intrigued by the reasons behind this mentality. It is a curious phenomenon.

It is possible that, in the future, when reading the words written by the author at the age of 27, they may feel that the pain and anxiety of the present are not as significant as they currently perceive them to be. It is recommended that the following steps be taken: firstly, it is important to calm the emotions; secondly, it is essential to allow time to pass; thirdly, it is vital to give oneself hope; and finally, it is important to set off again when the time is right.

Best wishes for success and resilience!

Thank you for the question! I'm grateful for the chance to answer.

You seem stressed and confused about the future. I'm here for you!

Let's talk.

1. Accept yourself.

You worked hard. You took the civil service exam, worked as a teaching assistant for two months, an analytical laboratory assistant for three months in pharmaceutical research and development, and then worked as a security guard for a year. You stayed at home for a year and felt pressure from those around you. You lost courage. I hug you and can feel that you have really been through a lot. So your body is reminding you to see him, be gentle with him, accept and embrace him.

You are suppressing your emotions. Writing them out will help you understand yourself better. You also need to love and care for yourself. You can also find a therapist to talk to. This will help you feel better.

2. Summarize your experience.

Your university graduation wasn't perfect. You failed some courses and your grades were low. You're not sure you want to work in your major. Have you gained anything from it?

Can't these achievements help you find similar work? Unless you don't like the major.

Your undergraduate studies are broad, and not everything can be used in the workplace. But you studied it at a good university, which is still better than a non-major or many other universities. You can still find a job in your major and learn and improve at work.

I don't know if you chose this major yourself or if your family helped you choose it. If you like it and have some drive, you can still apply what you've learned to your work.

Your university studies don't necessarily determine your success. You can learn on the job. Ask yourself, do you like this major?

"I worked as a teaching assistant, a pharmaceutical research analyst, and then a security guard. What did you gain from these jobs? Which was your favorite, and did you want to keep doing it? What other insights did you gain? You can review and summarize all of this. You will discover that life is not easy, and work is not difficult.

To get a good job, you need to build up some psychological qualities. Take your time; you can do it.

3. Start over.

You don't have to go to a big city to find a job. Look around your neighborhood first. Search for jobs on major websites to see what you need to do to get one.

You can also improve your resume and appearance to help you succeed in the interview. If your hometown is in a small city, you can try applying for jobs in bigger cities. There will be more opportunities in big cities, and you will need to be more prepared.

Some jobs may not be right for you, but you can still try. This way, you'll get moving and feel less anxious. Maybe the other company needs people and you'd be a good fit.

Go out, interview, and talk to your classmates. You'll gain more confidence.

Knowing what you have, what you're good at, and your career path will help you grow in your industry and become who you want to be.

If you're stressed, anxious, or worried, you can talk to a platform listener or counselor.

I hope this helps. Good luck!

Dear Sir/Madam, I appreciate the opportunity to respond to your query. From your description, I can see that you have a rational analysis and consideration of the situation you are in. I will analyze the psychological changes and motives from a psychological perspective and provide strategic suggestions, with the aim of being helpful and inspiring to you. Best regards, [Name]

After attending university, you described yourself as lacking confidence and feeling that you were not up to the task. Despite attending a university ranked 211st, you resented the school's knowledge and the exam-oriented education within the national education system. You felt that school education was meaningless. After graduation, you found approximately three jobs, but you quit them all. In your description, what do you think your inner core is like? Is it strong?

Have you defined your objectives or are you uncertain about your direction? It appears that you have not yet identified your own goals or established a personal or spiritual foundation.

It appears that you have not yet established a sense of responsibility.

As you have indicated, your family is constrained in its resources and capacity. Your parents placed a primary emphasis on academic pursuits, with less attention devoted to your personal growth. This has left you uncertain and lacking guidance in navigating work and significant life decisions. You have opted to avoid taking responsibility by seeking multiple avenues and justifications for doing so.

You indicated that your dysfunctional family has left you to cope with challenges on your own, with only success permitted and failure not tolerated. This mindset is indicative of a negative outlook and potential depression.

I would like to suggest the following:

Firstly, it would be advisable to attempt to alter your current circumstances. You have previously indicated that you are prone to depression. It may be beneficial to attempt to relieve your inner pain and suffering by maintaining a gratitude diary and engaging in regular exercise.

Secondly, it would be beneficial to expand your social circle in order to broaden your horizons. Additionally, utilising developmental psychology could prove advantageous in viewing the current situation from a different perspective. It is important to note that the fact your family is facing challenges does not mean that you cannot take steps to improve the situation. It would be valuable to communicate with your parents about your inner struggles and share your thoughts and concerns with them.

If you are unable to find strength in your family, it may be necessary to develop it on your own.

Best regards,

I would like to extend my warmest regards to you and the world.