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Accepted a boy, but I feel repulsed by his behavior and speech? By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024

I accepted a guy, but I am disgusted by his behavior and words. I am also a person who rarely chats. For example, one day he told me that he was bored and asked me to chat with him and flirt.

I resent the word flirt, and I blame him for not being careful with his words, so I haven't spoken to him for the past two days. He is very loyal to his friends, but arrogant and narcissistic, and he will ask for gifts like I would take the initiative.

I am the kind of person who will not tell others that I want to give gifts to others, but for someone like this who takes the initiative to ask me for a gift, I don't want to give it to him even more. I don't know if there is something wrong with the way I see people, or if the two of us are simply not on the same page.

He says he likes me, but it doesn't feel like a romantic relationship. It's more like he's just accepting me.

Dakota Dakota A total of 4212 people have been helped

Hello, I can tell from your writing that you don't like how you get along with your boyfriend. I'll tell you my point of view, and I hope it helps.

In a relationship, we can understand why we like or dislike others. At the same time, we may also learn things about ourselves. You mentioned that you accept this boy, so he satisfies a certain need in your heart. Ask yourself what kind of mood or feeling you had after accepting him.

Is this new to you?

If you know your needs, you'll feel nourished in the relationship. The clash between you and your partner is more about your different upbringings. Think about your parents' style of parenting. If they were strict and disapproved of flirtatious behavior, you'll probably feel the same. Try to accept your partner's differences instead of rejecting him.

Talk to him more. Tell him about your thoughts and about when he was little. Then you'll know why he talks to you like that and if he's being honest.

You said you get along, but you don't feel love. Try talking to him in a positive way and look at your relationship with a positive attitude.

Best,

I love you, world.

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Holden Holden A total of 1969 people have been helped

Hello! I'll give you a warm hug from afar first, okay?

You can feel your inner turmoil, helplessness, and desire for support and understanding.

From what you've told me, it seems like you've only recently started dating this guy, which means there's still so much for you to discover about each other! It's totally normal to feel a bit uncomfortable at first, especially when it comes to personality traits like character qualities. If you feel like you're constantly on the defensive, it might be time to take a step back and give yourselves some space to grow.

If you're open to understanding him better and want to embrace your own decisions and choices, then go for it! Nobody's perfect, and that's what makes life exciting. Focus on the good parts in him and watch your relationship blossom.

At the same time, you should also consciously try to be aware of those parts of him that you can't accept because you don't approve of them. Are these parts also in you? If so, you have the power to change them! You are not your flaws. You are worthy of love and acceptance. You are a beautiful, unique soul. When you accept yourself, you can fully accept the outside world.

So, this is a part of your growth that you get to do on your own! Are you sure you really accept yourself?

I'm Lily, the little ear of the Q&A Museum! The world and I love you!

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Sabine Anderson Life is a dream catcher, capture the good ones.

I understand where you're coming from. It's really important to feel respected in any relationship, and if his actions and words are making you uncomfortable, it's okay to step back and evaluate what you want. Communication is key, and if he values you, he should be willing to listen and change.

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Gomer Davis The more one studies different subjects, the more they can be a unifier of different knowledge streams.

It sounds like there's a mismatch in expectations between the two of you. He might not realize how his behavior comes across. Have you considered talking to him about how his words and actions make you feel? Sometimes people don't intend to come off a certain way, and a conversation can clear up misunderstandings.

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Mabel Miller The future is something which everyone reaches at the rate of sixty minutes an hour, whatever he does, whoever he is.

Feeling used or disrespected isn't nice at all. If you feel that your values and boundaries aren't being honored, it might be time to reconsider this relationship. You deserve someone who respects your space and preferences without having to ask for it. Trust your instincts on this one.

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Diego Miller The art of learning is to be able to apply knowledge in practical ways.

It seems like you have very different approaches to relationships and communication. Maybe it's worth reflecting on what you truly want in a partner. It's okay to prioritize your comfort and wellbeing. If he truly cares, he'll respect your boundaries and work towards understanding you better.

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