After getting married, I felt very disappointed and just wanted to treat them as strangers. I wanted to replace this group of people.

Dear author, Your feelings are completely understandable. Marriages and family relationships are indeed complicated and require the joint efforts and understanding of both parties.

It is disappointing and disheartening to discover that the relationship with the man's family is not as expected.

First, you need to set your boundaries and stick to them. Marriage is a partnership, and you and your husband should be a team, facing life's challenges together.

If the man's family makes unreasonable demands on you, you have every right to refuse and express your own ideas. At the same time, you should also communicate well with your husband, make him understand your position and feelings, and work together to find a solution to the problem.

Second, don't blame yourself or complain too much. You haven't done anything wrong. Everyone's experiences are different.

These issues are common challenges in family relationships that need to be faced and resolved together. You must learn to protect yourself and not let yourself be hurt too much.

Finally, don't give up on the pursuit of a better life. Find things that relax you and make you happy, like sports, travel, and gatherings with friends.

You must also work hard to improve your abilities and value. This will make you more confident and independent.

Your comment that "I won't care if they grow old and fall ill" is an extreme way of thinking. You may feel disappointed and angry with them now, but you can't predict the future.

If you maintain a forgiving and kind heart, you will achieve a better outcome in the future.

Family relationships require mutual effort and understanding. You will find a way to cope with the current situation and live the life you want.

Good day, esteemed author. Allow me to extend a warm greeting to you first.

I can see the issue you're facing. From the details in the text, I can understand the confusion you're experiencing. At the same time, you're aware of your own situation, which is a positive first step. Here are some suggestions:

It is important to recognise that marriage is not just about two individuals, but also about two families. Consequently, managing the relationship with the man's family can present a significant challenge.

However, this does not imply that we must wholly accept their selfishness and demands, or that we must sacrifice our own feelings and needs in order to maintain family relationships.

We recommend scheduling a meeting with your husband to discuss strategies for maintaining family harmony. As a family member, your husband should take responsibility for fostering positive relationships within the family.

It would be beneficial to work together to establish some family rules, clarify your rights and obligations, and determine the best way to handle relationships with the man's family. Additionally, it is important to express your feelings and needs to your husband, allowing him to understand your inner world and seek his support and understanding.

Furthermore, it is crucial to maintain independence and pursue self-growth. Despite potential financial constraints and childcare responsibilities, it is essential to allocate time and space for personal interests and objectives.

This will not only help you relieve internal pressure, but also enhance your sense of self-worth and happiness.

I hope the above provides some inspiration and assistance. I look forward to meeting a more positive version of yourself, and I am confident that the world will embrace you with us.

Dear questioner, My name is Duoduo Lian, and I hope that my reply can be of some support to you.

You feel that after getting married, you have more male family members, and they treat you like one of their own. This has led to some unexpected challenges. It is indeed sad and tiring to raise yourself and your child. You can also understand your partner's attitude towards his family, and you are considering ways to improve the situation.

I believe marriage is meant to be a safe haven, but I never imagined I would have to shoulder so many responsibilities on my own. I thought I would be able to rely on my partner, but I have had to become the family's main source of support. There are always expectations and disappointments. When there is a gap between ideals and reality, it can be tempting to escape and end it all. A woman needs protection, but it is also important to be strong on your own.

In the beginning, your partner also had something that attracted you and met your needs, and that's why you married him. It's understandable that there might be a gap between what you expected and what you're experiencing now. It's important to remember that choice is greater than effort. Everyone is responsible for their own choices. Do you agree?

You are also capable of creating a good life. Although the current situation is difficult, I don't know what your partner has been through. Your family keeps asking for things, and he wants to take care of you but he can't. It's a challenging situation for him, and it's likely that he is suffering just like you inside. Do you agree?

Men are the sky, and women need a safe haven. After all, women will often bear a greater burden when it comes to raising children. They work to earn money to support their children. How much perseverance is required? You may feel the need to escape, change this group of people, and you may not even realize the heartbreak behind it.

In addition to financial support, it would be beneficial to consider the provision of moral support. It would be helpful to ascertain whether his family is able to provide the child with the necessary care and attention, to express your needs, and to acknowledge your limitations. The environment in which a child grows up is of great importance. Learning to show weakness does not mean that you are weak. You are very important, and it would be beneficial to consider letting go of your burdens. This would be for the sake of the next generation.

Everyone has their own challenges and concerns. It's important to be able to express them. It's not always possible to simply push through difficulties. Children need a happy mum. Your health is important. Even in the face of significant challenges, it's possible to find the strength to persevere and seek help.

From what I can see, you are not wrong. It seems that you want to pursue a good life and provide a good environment for your children, which is a common wish among mothers. No matter what the future holds, it seems that you believe that living in the present is the most important thing. Do you agree?

It may be helpful to allow yourself to feel your anger, express your emotions, meet your own needs, and recognize the tenacious self within you. Being a strong mother is worthwhile, and you deserve to have a good life.

I would like to extend my best wishes to you.

Good day. I am a heart exploration coach. Life is a beautiful journey, not for appreciation, but for blossoming.

As a woman, I empathize with your situation. You have no biological connection to your husband's family, yet through marriage, you are now part of their extended network. You assumed that "one family" would truly unite, but reality has shown otherwise. You are unable to alter this dynamic and have lost faith in traditional structures. Let's examine the reality of the situation:

1. The social reality of marriage

A marriage contract establishes a legal family relationship with a man and all his family members.

From that point forward, you are expected to bear children and raise them together, as well as support each other's parents and shoulder family responsibilities.

It is important to note that the responsibilities between partners are mutual. Each partner is responsible for supporting the other's parents, whether it be financially or in other ways.

The traditional family unit has historically dictated that a child will take the father's surname. However, the reality is that a child has the option to take any surname they choose, including the mother's or grandmother's.

A woman is "getting married," and a man is "marrying a wife." A woman "marries" a man (it is an outwardly focused process), and a man "marries" a woman (it is an inwardly focused process).

These social concepts and traditional ways of thinking lead people to believe that a woman's identity is lost after marriage and that she must align herself with her husband's family. This is similar to the public's perception of "moving in with the in-laws."

As you previously stated, they are "selfish" and expect me to bear children, support the family, serve as a nanny, and act as a tool for their family.

These are all personal feelings based on your experiences. In the context of a family, relationships are formed through interactions between family members.

As the adage goes, "Every family has its own challenges." There is no absolute right or wrong in family dynamics, and no individual within the family has the prerogative to impose their will. Each member is simply striving to achieve a shared objective.

2. Develop effective communication skills.

It is important to remember that home is a place where love is more important than reason. It is not worth losing your relationships for the sake of being right.

You have indicated that communication has been ineffective. First, we need to understand what communication is. Effective communication is based on mutual trust and respect, expressing your own views and feelings while also listening to the other person.

Complaining is not an expression of emotions; rather, it is an expression of anger that is hidden behind a facade of emotional satisfaction.

When there is a mutual understanding between individuals, emotions are conveyed, feelings are expressed, and communication is effective. However, there are instances when individuals lack the necessary skills to communicate effectively, leading to misunderstandings and differences in opinion.

If you have exhausted all these steps and the other party remains uncooperative, it may be time to reconsider your approach. It is important to recognize that you are dealing with this individual, not their associates.

It is important to maintain a sense of distance, protect your own boundaries, and take care of your emotions in order to effectively manage your own affairs.

I hope the above is helpful to you. Best regards, [Name]

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Good day.

You feel that your marriage lacks love and that your interactions with your husband's family oppress you, putting you in a negative state.

A father's love is often quiet, a peaceful mother is at peace with her children, and a harmonious household is a prosperous one.

Due to your husband's inaction and lack of consideration and care for you, you feel isolated and helpless in this family. You are solely responsible for raising your child financially, and you cannot rely on him. Mentally, he is not aligned with you, making you feel like you are fighting the entire family alone. This exhausts you, and then you experience disappointment and anger.

You have the prerogative to determine how you wish to interact with the man's family.

It is indeed feasible to refrain from engaging with each other. You and your husband can collaborate to lead a fulfilling life.

It is, however, a challenging proposition to consider the possibility of dying without having seen each other again.

As you mentioned, his family will also request financial assistance, and despite his failure to fulfill his commitment, he may also experience feelings of guilt and resentment.

It is important to understand who will be affected by the decisions made.

If you are experiencing discomfort, it is up to you to effect the necessary changes.

It is advisable to view each other's families as clients rather than as family members.

Despite the customer's mistreatment, I treat all customers with the utmost respect and care.

For instance, a salesperson may encounter rejection from customers. To close a deal, they may have to offer gifts to maintain relationships or greet customers with a smile, as they have an ulterior motive. To improve the atmosphere at home, a similar approach is required.

If you persist in being aloof, you will only perpetuate a vicious cycle. Effective interpersonal relationships are based on empathy and understanding. When others perceive your enthusiasm, they will be more likely to reciprocate.

In the TV series "Heart Residence," starring Hai Qing, the protagonist married into a Shanghai family from the countryside. She lacked employment and was treated as a nanny by her in-laws and her husband's children. Her in-laws were concerned that she was only interested in their wealth to purchase a house, and her eldest sister-in-law held negative sentiments towards her. However, after her husband attempted to win her back following an accidental fall from a building, she assumed responsibility for her grandmother and the entire family, secured employment outside the home, and ultimately received an offer of a house in Shanghai.

This is when there is genuine mutual understanding, recognition, and gratitude.

It would be beneficial to consider family therapy for your husband, if possible.

Additionally, he must learn to balance his obligations to his immediate family with those to his in-laws. This will require a commitment to improving the situation.

I wish you the best of luck.

Hello, dear. I can imagine how you must have felt when you went into marriage with such sincere desires to expand your family and enjoy more love and support. It's so understandable that you felt disappointed when you sensed that your in-laws did not share the same thoughts and did not treat you as an intimate family member.

It's totally understandable to feel frustrated when you feel like you're being used as a "tool." It's a really different feeling than what you probably want from a relationship. You've been trying to communicate, and it's clear you've put a lot of effort into it. It's natural to want to avoid feeling mentally exhausted, especially when you're trying to navigate these tricky waters.

In our traditional culture, marriage is often not just a matter of two people, but a matter of two families, which can sometimes make things a little tricky! Because the two families originally had no emotional relationship, their respective values and living habits may be very different, and it can be a big challenge to establish emotions, coordinate values, and accommodate each other's lifestyles and habits.

It's important to remember that this can't be achieved by just one person. It requires the cooperation of every member of both families, or the person with the most say. If there's a lack of consensus with your in-laws, you might want to consider adjusting your expectations of the relationship with each other.

It can be tough to separate intimacy from your biological family, but your partner's family is a side relationship from your marriage, not the main one. Psychologist Chen Haixian once suggested that you could think of your partner's family as a big client. We might not love the client, but we have to maintain a moderate relationship to meet certain needs.

It might help to think about setting some boundaries for each other, and to remember that you don't have to expect everyone to share your views or to be totally integrated. It's possible that your husband's lack of support and comfort is also a factor in your distress. It's great that you're open to having an honest chat with him about your feelings and to listening to his thoughts. You could then discuss together what can be done to make your little family life better.

People often call their partners "teammates," which is a great way to make the "I" in "we" stronger! It's a wonderful way to appreciate each other's contributions and differences. I'll share another method from the amazing teacher Chen Hai-xian. You and your husband can do an exercise together, writing down your respective thoughts using the sentence structure "Fortunately, my partner did what, so I could be like this."

Good morning, I am Coach Yu, and I would like to discuss this topic with you if you are interested.

There is a saying in psychology that I find particularly thought-provoking: "Six people are lying on a marriage bed." While it may be a bit of an exaggeration, I believe it reflects a common phenomenon in society, namely the complex and often confusing web of relationships between the nuclear family and the original family.

In "The Plastic Me," Chen Jiejun offers the perspective that many people may find it challenging to navigate their emotions and thoughts, and that this can sometimes lead to difficulties in dealing with things.

Perhaps it would be helpful to define what we mean by "feelings." We can think of feelings as the physiological and biological responses of the human body to external stimuli.

For instance, if someone were to stab you with a needle, you would feel pain. Similarly, if the north wind were to blow in the winter, you would feel cold. It could be said that feelings encompass not only reactions to external stimuli, but also to internal stimuli.

As the questioner wrote, before marriage, I had the impression that they would treat me like family, but after marriage, I was left with a sense of disappointment.

Perhaps we could define emotion as people's reaction to feelings.

For instance, if the surrounding environment is very hot, it can cause the palms of the hands to sweat and the heartbeat to accelerate. Emotions may be experienced as irritability or excitement when the body is very hot and the heartbeat is accelerating. Emotions and feelings generally respond through the peripheral nervous system of the nervous system.

As the questioner wrote, it could be the case that slowly remembering them makes them feel unwell.

Perhaps we could say that thoughts are how a person makes sense of their feelings and emotions.

It is generally understood that ideas do not originate in the peripheral nervous system, but in the central nervous system, as they involve understanding and interpretation.

As the original poster wrote, I just want to treat them like strangers and move on.

It might be helpful to take some time to reflect on the situation and try to understand our feelings, emotions, and thoughts. This could help us to manage and express our emotions in a way that helps us to understand ourselves, see ourselves clearly, and thus handle the relationship.

When I find that my in-laws are selfish, I wonder if it might be helpful to consider my feelings and thoughts in the situation. It can feel a bit overwhelming when there seems to be a lot expected of me, including bearing children, supporting the family, and serving as a kind of nanny and tool for their family.

Perhaps it would be helpful to ask ourselves what happened, what the situation was like at the time, and what led us to think this way. We could also consider what these words and actions of the in-laws might be expressing in their hearts.

When communication with my husband's family is ineffective and he is unable to resolve the issue, how do we feel and what are our thoughts? We are disappointed. Instead of getting caught up in the middle and getting tired, we might as well find a new group of people to help us out.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider whether my views on communicating with my husband's family align with his. It might also be beneficial to reflect on what might be motivating him in not fulfilling the financial demands of his family.

Perhaps it would be helpful to consider what the ideal relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law might be. Similarly, it could be beneficial to reflect on what the ideal husband might be like.

I wonder what my boundaries are and what I can do.

It might be helpful to think of feelings, emotions, and thoughts as a kind of coordination between the nervous system and the brain. When relationships are smooth, it's natural to feel at peace.

One way to begin might be to have a conversation with our husband. We could listen to him talk about his parents as he sees them and some past events in his family of origin. At the same time, we could also listen to what he sees in the relationship between his wife's parents, what he can do, and what he expects to do. It might be helpful to avoid judging, and instead focus on being a good listener and trying to understand our husband and his parents better.

It would also be beneficial to express our real needs and hope to reach an agreement with my husband on how to handle the relationship with my in-laws. This could help us maintain harmony in our small family. It is likely that the relationship in the nuclear family is better than that in the original family. Good communication can both release our pent-up emotions and help us understand each other, enhancing the intimacy of the nuclear family. It would also be helpful to be prepared for both eventualities. If my husband readily accepts and is highly in agreement with our ideas, then we could create a suitable opportunity for him to have a frank exchange with my in-laws and gradually improve the relationship. If my husband is still doubtful and doesn't want to offend his family, we shouldn't be discouraged. First, we should make our boundaries clear and wait for the next opportunity to communicate again.

If this is a challenge you're facing, it's important to remember that it's not always easy to overcome. It can be helpful to connect with a trusted family member or friend who has consistently offered you positive support. If you feel it's something you need, you might also consider reaching out to a counselor. Having a safe space to express and process emotions can be beneficial in finding ways to cope and move forward.

It is also important to empower ourselves, as any change often begins with ourselves. It is beneficial to maintain an ordinary state of mind, as we believe that we always have the right to choose. Of course, changing is also a choice, and a voluntary choice is the end goal of a good relationship.

We would like to suggest the book "Nonviolent Communication" as a helpful resource.

Hello!

I totally get it. I can relate to feeling disappointed after getting married.

I really want to help you, so I'm going to offer you some advice.

It's totally normal to find it tricky to live with your in-laws after you've tied the knot. It's a tricky topic, and it's not something you can judge by simple standards of right and wrong.

It's totally normal for you, your husband, and the man's family members to have strong beliefs about what's right and wrong. It's just that they're so convinced that their views are the best, and they don't want to consider that maybe the other person has a different perspective.

I can see how you might feel like you're caught between two conflicting ideas. It's totally normal to want to have children, support your family, and be a nanny. And it's understandable that your partner might not be able to support you financially. It's a tough situation, but you're not alone.

It's totally normal to feel challenged when someone questions your thoughts, opinions, or judgments. Our subconscious mind often perceives this as a threat, which can trigger negative emotions.

It's totally normal to feel emotional when you're faced with challenges. When this happens, it can feel like you're unconsciously forcing the other person to accept your point of view, which can naturally lead to discomfort and even conflict. It's okay to feel the way you do! Your feelings about saving money and treating male family members as strangers are related to a special psychological defense mechanism that can't handle such challenges.

But this mechanism also often confuses a person's emotions and judgment, and they will feel incredulity, even anxiety and impatience, just as you described "tired of the heart" because others do not agree with their views and practices.

I totally get why the questioner has that negative emotional experience and emotional judgment of "the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law generations live together, ignoring and not understanding each other, and now I understand." It's all related to that blurring of boundaries.

Your little family is a lovely new blend of two different original extended families, and you've probably picked up a few things from each of them.

However, when it comes to the original family, there's often a bit of a hiccup when it comes to boundaries.

It's totally normal for Chinese families to have a vague sense of boundaries or even no sense of boundaries at all.

It's totally normal for things to get a little blurry during those special stages or time frames when two or three generations live together.

When boundaries are unclear, it can leave you feeling lost, frustrated, and disappointed.

It's clear that the original poster's wish to "change the people in their lives" is not a realistic one.

It's so important to take care of yourself first. Try to calm down and understand what's going on. Don't rush to express your feelings or make any assumptions. Take a deep breath and try to face these situations in your family calmly and with kindness.

First, you can learn some communication principles and techniques that will really help you out! Things like taking the initiative to talk, being a good listener, changing the subject, and changing the environment to actively deal with problems with the man's family.

You can definitely find the right time and place to sit down and chat with each other, listen to each other's thoughts, and explore solutions together.

Secondly, it would be really helpful for you both to try to understand each other's points of view and feelings. It's so important to respect and accept each other's different emotions and feelings towards the two families.

It's so important to encourage equality and fair treatment of both families, and to avoid any bias or unfair treatment of either party.

For example, you could try to create opportunities to participate in some of the daily activities and important occasions in the man's family.

Spend as much time as you can with the man's family and enjoy strengthening your bond with them.

Again, it's important to be prepared to accept the reality of imperfection in family life. We all have our little differences, and that's totally normal! It's also important not to use these differences as the sole criterion for measuring intimacy.

You can absolutely find a balance and a sense of boundaries that are acceptable to both sides!

This might mean that you have to make some compromises when it comes to how close you are to the man's family. But remember, your little family comes from a big one, so it's important to make sure everyone's needs are met.

I really believe that if you have a clear sense of your own boundaries, it will be better in any family.

I really hope this helps!

Hello,

From what you've written, I can tell you're disappointed and sad about your current marriage. This includes your previous expectations, as well as the feeling that you want to treat your family the same way you treat them, but they're not meeting your expectations. Despite your wishes, things aren't going the way you want them to. You want to stay away from these people, but you feel helpless.

Marriage changes our moods. What exactly is family? Sometimes we think that being honest with each other will make us family, but in fact, there are mostly situations where sincerity is not returned. Can we easily give our hearts? People's hearts will be manipulated, and the same is true when facing unfamiliar environments and people. Giving our hearts will make us have great expectations. Sometimes the more you are good to someone, the less respect you will get. This is normal. So let's see if you can be a bit more realistic in your thinking and try to be a bit more selfish and see what happens.

From what you've said, it seems like your husband is unsure of how to handle the relationship between your mother-in-law and you. It's possible that he hasn't yet been able to appreciate your thoughts and feelings, which require reflection and expression. We can also try to guide your husband: a couple working together can overcome any obstacle.

What is the meaning of marriage? You can talk about it together, share your thoughts, and then talk about your feelings. Help your husband understand the value of your marriage. Of course, you don't have to abandon your own family, but you can identify what's important.

You might also want to look into finding a professional psychological counselor for consultation. Through consultation, you'll be able to see problems from a different perspective and find solutions. Try to improve yourself and find your own boundaries. It's not true that if you give, you'll get in return. You also have to consider whether the person is worth it. Love yourself well, and you'll discover a different self and a different way to solve problems from the perspective of loving yourself.

I hope you find this advice helpful.

Good day. I am Gu Daoxi Feng Shou Lu, a coach specializing in heart exploration.

As someone who has been in a similar situation, I am able to fully comprehend your feelings. Please allow me to extend my support in the form of a hug.

Some posit that the optimal approach to navigating the complexities of another person's family is to maintain a certain distance, while fostering a closer connection with colleagues. This strategy is believed to facilitate the preservation of relationships and the delineation of boundaries. My personal experience navigating the challenges of marriage has led me to resonate with this perspective.

Indeed, marriage is a process of blending two families. As a woman, one may experience greater challenges when navigating traditional views on marriage and child-rearing, such as the persistence of male superiority and female inferiority, and the pervasive idea that women should assume domestic responsibilities, including laundry, cooking, and childcare. When we begin with a low profile, we may be susceptible to harm, so it is crucial to establish clear boundaries.

It is a common assumption that all parents love their children. However, when this love crosses the line, it can easily lead to conflicts between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law. As a mother, she may feel like she has lost her son with the arrival of her daughter-in-law. This can result in the mother attempting to "compete for favor" with her daughter-in-law, hoping that her son will take sides and express support for her. However, this can lead to the questioner being rejected. It is important to note that this is not the questioner's fault.

In the context of a new relationship, some individuals may seek to exert control by attempting to dictate the decision-making process. This can manifest as an expectation for the other person to assume a dominant role and to defer to their authority. When such a dynamic is present, it is not uncommon for challenges to emerge. In such cases, it may be helpful for the individual in question to clarify their position and assert their needs.

There is a certain mindset that assumes I have endured hardship and that my daughter-in-law should also experience adversity. Consequently, despite their shared gender, there is still a generational divide, with one generation finding the other challenging.

It is imperative to consider the Buddha's teachings, not the monk's. The husband-wife relationship is of paramount importance within the family unit. Despite the fact that the questioner's parents may not view her as one of their own, the questioner's husband's actions suggest that he is a suitable partner for her. A harmonious couple is a strong one, and it is likely that the questioner will be able to maintain her own happiness.

As someone who has experienced this situation firsthand, I will share some of my personal experiences in dealing with it.

It is advisable to establish clear boundaries and to be firm in the event of a violation. Each instance of transgression represents a test of one's resolve. While initially resisting may result in a violent confrontation, repeated refusals can eventually lead to a more harmonious equilibrium within the relationship.

It is recommended that the significant other be encouraged to agree with the subject and allow him to negotiate with his parents. Given that there is no animosity between a mother and her son, it is more appropriate for the subject to assume the role of the antagonist in this situation.

It is advisable to refrain from interfering with the subject's filial piety towards his parents. This will encourage the other person to become more concerned about the questioner. It should be noted that the subject's parents raised him and that he is responsible for taking care of them. However, the questioner does not have to suffer as a result of this.

Treating others in the same manner they treat you is a viable approach to problem-solving. When the other party is entrenched in their own perspective, it is futile to expect them to alter their stance through mere reasoning. In such instances, adopting a similar stance in response may be the most effective course of action.

It is advisable to attempt to differentiate between matters that are one's own concern and those that pertain to others. Focusing on one's own affairs has the potential to facilitate personal growth and mitigate emotional exhaustion.

It is important to recognize that when one becomes angry at the behavior of another individual, it can result in a form of self-inflicted harm. Attempting to de-escalate the situation may lead the other person to perceive a lack of interest, and if they continue to encounter obstacles, they may eventually cease engaging in behaviors that are unpleasant for the individual in question.

One must acknowledge the existence of relationships that are not a matter of personal choice. When one has selected a partner, one may also be required to interact with their partner's family. It is possible to attempt to respect the boundaries of others and to adjust one's expectations of them, which may result in greater comfort for the individual being questioned.

It is recommended that the following texts be read: "The Courage to Be Disliked" and "I Just Love Watching the Way You Can't Stand the Sight of Me But Can't Bring Yourself to Do Anything About It."

I extend my best wishes to you.

Hello, I'm Qu Huidong, a counselor who uses images to help people.

Before marriage, the questioner hoped to interact with her husband's family. However, after marriage, various things happened that made her sad, cold, and disheartened. She decided to satisfy her own needs first. Her husband is understanding, but he is still financially unable to do much. Moreover, it is impossible for him to completely sever ties with his original family.

Your relationship with your husband's family is based on in-laws, and this kind of relationship is unstable. You are hurt because they don't treat you as their daughter. If we can allow this, we can also allow ourselves not to treat the other person as our family. This will give us more room for each other and make it easier to understand each other.

Your husband may not seem to be on your side, which may make you feel isolated. If he never tried to rebel against his family, or if he did but failed, then his current approach may be the best he can do.

He wants to be on your side, but he can't deal with his family.

We need to understand our own emotions and our husband's feelings. If you tell him how you feel, he'll understand you better.

This will help you solve problems together.

Best wishes!