After I started working, my parents suddenly treated me well. Do they really love me?

If your parents used to hit you and also tried to control you a lot, you may have felt trapped and unable to get what you wanted. Even as a child, you were treated violently at home, like with verbal, physical, and emotional abuse.

I'm not sure exactly what happened with the domestic violence, or how bad it was. You can talk about it as much as you want, because relationships are a two-way street. If they didn't respect you or love you, then the good times now might be a trick. Now that you're working and have discovered that your parents' attitude towards you has suddenly improved, it might be because they feel guilty or because they want you to support them financially.

It's totally normal to have these feelings. It's like you're questioning whether they really love you. This doubt comes from deep within you. We can usually tell when others love us and when they don't. If you're not sure whether they love you, it probably means that their love is not enough and they can't make you feel natural.

It's so sad when parents hurt their kids. It's a mistake that can't be undone. Domestic violence on children has a big impact that lasts a long time. It's not something you can fix overnight. If you want to judge, you need to know what the other person wants from you. Do they want your money? Or do they just want to be with you? It's probably easy to tell.

You could even tell them on payday that you've got a pay rise! It would be interesting to see what they say. Do you think they'll be concerned about whether you have enough money, or how your life is going? Or will they tell you to hand over more money? The answer will tell you everything! Of course, there's nothing wrong with raising children to provide for your old age. This is a common idea in Chinese families. But the domestic violence inflicted by your parents makes raising children to provide for your old age seem unnatural and despicable, doesn't it?

I really think you should seek psychological counseling to help you sort out the trauma you experienced as a child. I also think you should read "Born This Way: How Family Affects Our Lives," "The Original Family Survival Guide: How to Get Rid of the Influence of an Abnormal Family Environment," and "Family Can Hurt." This will help you understand the impact of your family on you and what considerations and attitude you have towards your parents. The direction of the family atmosphere will also be changed with your decision. I wish you the best of luck!

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Hello, I'm Gu Yi. I try to be modest and self-effacing, and I do my best to remain true to myself.

It is natural for parents who love their children to plan for their future.

From what you've shared, it seems there might be some conflicting feelings in your heart. It's understandable that you're looking for explanations or reasons that make sense to you, whether it's your parents' mindsets or your own desire to raise children to provide for your old age. It's natural to have these thoughts, but it's also important to recognize that there might be other reasons or perspectives that we might not initially consider.

Friends, we will play many roles in life, and most of them will be new. It is difficult to say with certainty whether you played the role well or not. It is possible that you were sad about the strict education your parents gave you, but it is likely that they were doing their best.

It is important to recognize that everyone's understanding is shaped by their unique experiences and knowledge. To facilitate a more harmonious relationship with our parents, it can be beneficial to gain insight into our own perspectives and the underlying factors influencing their thinking. By doing so, we may find greater understanding and be better equipped to navigate our relationships with them.

If I might offer a suggestion, it would be this:

It is natural for parents to love their children and hope for their wellbeing. Many parents also hope that their children will have an easier life than they did, and that they will not experience the same kinds of suffering and tragedies. While their methods may not always be perfect, it is important to recognise the love and care that they have for their children.

Perhaps when we let go of our inner prejudices and go in search of our original intentions, you will find that it is much simpler, you will feel much more relaxed, and your perspective on problems will also be much broader. At one point, parents may have hoped that you could accept and feel something other than the warmth of the world. Now that you are older, you have the ability to support yourself and no longer need your parents' encouragement.

I don't deny that this parenting style has had an impact on you during your growth process. In the future, we hope to be more mindful of our approach. You have the ability to work, and your parents have seen your growth and abilities. It's natural for parents to evolve their attitudes and approaches as their children mature. Perhaps in their hearts, they already feel old.

I wish you the best.

Hello, I'm Bian Peipei, a listening therapist. It seems you're feeling a bit confused about the way your parents are treating you now, compared to when you were a child. It's understandable if you're unsure of how to handle this. You might even have some doubts.

Our tradition is that filial piety comes from a rod. When you go to school, you may be considered disobedient by adults. What should you do? It's a difficult situation. It's possible that your parents believe that beating you and making you feel the pain is the only correct way to quickly correct you. This method, from your perspective as the one receiving it, may not be effective in changing anything and could potentially provoke your resistance and make you want to escape the current situation.

I'm not sure if you had a similar experience.

It might also be helpful to consider the saying, "A beating on the child's body hurts the mother's heart." It seems reasonable to assume that most parents love their children and want the best for them.

This is simply human nature.

You have grown up now, and your back is broad and you are stocky. Perhaps your parents do not have a broad back, and their bodies are stooped, making them appear short. It seems that your status has changed, and the way you show them is their direction. It could be that your back is the harbor they rely on. Have you perhaps become less used to the most ordinary affection after your status has changed? Would it help to trust your parents?

Perhaps you could try hugging yourself and asking your heart for guidance. I'm confident you'll be able to find the answer you're looking for.

I would like to take this opportunity to wish you a happy harvest.

Hello, I'm therapist Zhang Huili. After reading your description, I empathize with you. Your childhood experiences were really difficult, and you no longer trust even the people closest to you. Has your life always been so tense?

Is this something you should always be on guard for?

The parents' generation tends to believe that children become obedient when they are punished and that they cannot be successful if they are not beaten, because they were also treated this way when they were young. You have erected a protective barrier for yourself with your anger, which has done a good job of protecting your sense of dignity and self-worth. You have also set up a barrier for yourself in terms of trusting significant others, perhaps because you have had negative experiences in the past. When your parents start treating you like an adult and when they want to establish intimacy with you, your first reaction might be to be cautious.

I wonder if they might be trying to hurt me again.

Reconciliation with your biological family is a process of reconciliation with yourself. From a legal perspective, they fulfilled their obligation to raise you, and you may wish to consider assuming the corresponding obligation to support them. And it is possible that beating and scolding children is tacitly approved of by society as a whole. In the past, people did not consider it a crime.

It is possible that their attitude will not change, and that their interactions with others may still cause you harm. However, establishing a secure attachment relationship could make a significant difference to your interpersonal interactions and to your romantic and marital relationships.

You have grown up and are no longer the helpless child you once were. You have the opportunity to establish a safe boundary, speak up for your feelings, express your anger calmly, and repair your relationship with your parents. I believe you can both protect yourself and get along well with your parents, and you can build your own family and establish a completely different kind of intimate relationship with your family of origin.

Good day, host.

I am grateful for your invitation.

In response to your inquiry, I empathize with your experiences during your academic tenure. It is evident that you endured significant challenges and that your resentment toward your parents persists. As the adage suggests, "Some individuals are cured of their childhood experiences during their lifetime, while others are cured by their childhood."

It is challenging for me to provide a definitive response to this question and analyze the genuine sentiments of your parents. A shift in attitude is often the result of numerous factors, and in some instances, even the individuals themselves may be uncertain about their underlying motivations.

I am particularly inclined to share some of my perspectives and recommendations with you, as my loved one's experience is essentially analogous to yours, and I frequently engage in discourse on these matters with her.

My wife's poor health during her academic years often necessitated her absence from school and subsequent hospitalization, resulting in significant financial burden for the family. My father was characterized by simplicity and rudeness, while my mother exhibited a tendency toward sentimentality. Despite their concerns about the futility of her studies and the uncertainty of her future, they were also constrained by financial pressures, frequently expressing disapproval and discontent. After my wife's transition to university, she assumed the sole responsibility for financial obligations, while her family remained largely indifferent. She eventually received a diagnosis of depression, and on occasion, contemplated suicide.

Following her graduation from university and the commencement of her professional career, her parents' attitude towards her underwent a gradual transformation.

I discussed the reasons with her, and it is possible that

1. My parents came to recognize the value of their daughter.

My wife's experience influenced her to develop an A-type personality, which included self-deprecating tendencies and a competitive spirit. She also pursued perfection and recognition from others, which led to her working extremely hard, developing significantly, and generating substantial financial income for her family.

2. The parents' attitudes have undergone a transformation, accompanied by an awareness of their own shortcomings.

As knowledge of home education has become more widespread over the years, parents may have unconsciously absorbed some scientific parenting concepts, reflected on their own behavior, discovered their own problems, felt guilty, and slowly changed their attitude.

3. As an individual matures and develops, their perspective on various matters is likely to undergo a transformation.

In Adler's conceptualization of "subjective perception," the impact of external stimuli is not intrinsic to the stimuli themselves, but rather contingent upon the individual's attitude in interpreting them. The same phenomenon may be perceived differently depending on the perspective from which it is observed. For instance, my wife's transition to motherhood led to a notable shift in her disposition, characterized by increased tolerance and warmth. This transformation may have influenced her parents' actions, potentially leading to a more understanding and tolerant response from her.

However, it is challenging to provide an accurate response regarding the primary reason and the proportion of each reason.

Consequently, it is often futile to attempt to discern the underlying motives behind a parent's shift in attitude. This is because such an endeavor is frequently neither precise nor beneficial.

My recommendation, then, is to "trust your feelings and follow your heart."

To illustrate, consider the following example:

My child was raised by my mother-in-law from birth to 18 months old. We reached an agreement that she would be provided with food and accommodation, and I would provide her with an additional 3,000 yuan per month.

At the outset, we were unaware that we were obliged to remunerate her. However, she would occasionally indicate to my husband, whether intentionally or unintentionally, that other individuals were providing her with a higher level of compensation. For instance, she would remark that an aunt was babysitting her daughter and receiving 5,000 yuan per month or that her younger brother had recently married and his sister had presented him with a 100,000 yuan wedding gift. My husband was unable to tolerate this situation any longer and, following a discussion with me, we resolved to provide her with 3,000 yuan per month.

At the time, I was of the opinion that the process of raising children is so arduous that it prevents one from maintaining a healthy diet or adequate rest. Therefore, I believe that we should provide her with the financial assistance she has requested and express our sincerest gratitude for her willingness to assist us.

However, my wife stipulated a condition for her mother: in the event that she assisted her younger brother in raising his children in the future, she would not receive any support in her old age unless she received 3,000 yuan per month.

Subsequently, the situation underwent a significant transformation. My husband, during a conversation with the aforementioned aunt, discovered that her daughter had never provided her with any financial assistance. The aunt expressed disbelief at this revelation and perceived my mother-in-law's actions as insufficiently generous. At that juncture, my husband experienced a complex emotional state, encompassing sadness and anger.

When making a decision, it is advisable to begin with one's own authentic thoughts and feelings. This approach allows for minimal impact from external factors and other individuals' motives, as these can change without significantly affecting one's inner perspective. Conversely, when external conditions shift, a decision made with external considerations in mind may result in a significant shift in one's internal state.

It is not uncommon for me to jest with my partner that familial communication is akin to a game devoid of sincerity. This sentiment resonates deeply with me, prompting an instinctive aversion to forming close ties with her parents and a tendency to refrain from contact for extended periods. Despite the impolite nature of this stance, I experience no sense of guilt.

In such circumstances, it is advisable to place trust in one's own feelings and instincts, and to make decisions based on one's own judgment. The considerations and motives that inform the choices of others are, ultimately, their own concern.

It is my hope that the aforementioned information will prove beneficial and assist others in navigating similar situations.

I extend my best wishes to you.

Hello! I'll give you the best 360-degree hug ever!

Your question is very brief, which leaves lots of room for interpretation! For example, if your parents' attitude towards you has changed significantly, it is difficult to tell whether this is because they want to make up for lost time with you, or whether they are just planning for their old age.

But I think your feelings are more important than your parents' thoughts! It's our subjective judgment that prompts us to make decisions and take action, which is pretty cool.

For example, let's say you see someone running towards you with a knife. Our first reaction may be to get away from him as quickly as possible. The action of getting away from him is based on our subjective feelings, which is a great thing because it means we can react quickly and effectively in dangerous situations!

To put it more dramatically, we often rely on our own imagination when interacting with others, which is a wonderful thing!

For example, people who are good-looking are probably more capable, and people who are tall are a little more capable at work. And guess what? This is not just something I made up; it is supported by survey data!

Some researchers have made an amazing discovery! They found that in the workplace, people of the same gender in the same position who are taller do get a higher salary than those who are shorter. This just goes to show how unreliable our senses can be, and how much we rely on them.

But from another perspective, there's no need to fret over whether our feelings align with the other person's intentions! This is not a black-and-white answer.

Because every day we have to deal with a lot of external information, it's a great idea to find the so-called truth for every piece of information. For example, when you go out, the security guard looks at you for a moment, but not at anyone else. If you want to figure out the meaning of that glance, go for it!

Believe me, you won't be able to figure it out because there are so many possibilities! The security guard might have done it unintentionally, he might have looked up just at that time, he might have been looking at your back, or there might have been an explosion behind your hair. In short, there are so many possibilities! If he says so, will you believe him? Probably not, but that's what makes it so exciting!

I've gone off on a bit of a tangent, but what I really want to say is that, as you can tell from your question, your parents' attitude towards you has generally become more friendly than before, which is great news!

That's enough! You've got more important things to think about. Like whether to make amends for your guilt or raise children to provide for your old age. It's actually not that important. And when they get old, you'll have to take care of them anyway. That's your obligation! Even if they're abusive and violent towards you, the law will still hold you responsible for their support.

If they were abusive, you may be obligated to support them. Now that they are friendly to you, you will support them in the future, not only out of obligation, but also because of the affection between family members. And you know what? That's a wonderful thing!

You see, this is the same basic situation, but it's so much more compassionate now! Why? Well, that's a great question. The answer is, it doesn't matter!

It's a good thing, so go ahead and accept it! I've always believed that the cost of trust is higher than the cost of suspicion.

Of course, we may have trusted the wrong person, but that's okay! It's a small minority.

My advice to you is this: no matter what the reason is, if your parents showed you kindness, you should absolutely accept it!

Of course, you can say, "How can they just act like nothing happened after hurting me back then?" Well, I admit that the hurt has already happened, and saying or doing anything cannot help the young you back then, which is a separate issue. But guess what? You can choose to move forward!

I would highly, highly recommend that you talk to a counselor to see how to deal with the pain of those years. It would be so, so beneficial for you!

The great news is that these two things are not mutually exclusive!

Embrace it with kindness for now. If you need help getting over the pain, a counselor is there for you!

I am a counselor who is often Buddhist and sometimes pessimistic, but I also love the world and I love you!

Good morning,

Host:

From the post, I can see that the poster has some concerns about the kindness of your parents towards you. You are seeking guidance on the platform to gain a deeper understanding of your relationship with your parents and yourself, so that you can make informed decisions and judgments that align with your needs.

I hope that by sharing my observations and thoughts in the post, I can help the original poster to consider the issue from a more diverse perspective.

1. Cultural education

In the original post, the host mentioned that since starting work a few years ago, there has been a notable shift in the attitude of my parents towards me, particularly in comparison to when I was at school (there was often domestic violence). It is not entirely clear to me whether this change is a genuine reflection of their feelings or if it is a kind of investment. I believe the question you asked is very meaningful, so I would like to discuss it together.

I believe that people are complex beings, and human emotions are similarly complex and dynamic. It may therefore be helpful to consider multiple perspectives when examining our parents' attitudes and emotions towards us.

I wonder if the original poster has noticed that when many parents educate their children,

It is not uncommon for parents to engage in physical discipline when their children are young, but as they grow older, the frequency of such actions tends to decrease. However, it is not uncommon for parents to maintain a certain level of control over their children's lives even as they become adults.

Moreover, it seems that many parents may tend to be more involved in their children's lives until they go to university, and then become less involved after they start working. This is a sentiment that I have encountered on numerous occasions. Not long ago, someone I was chatting with shared that they didn't feel their parents' love when they were young.

I wonder if I might ask why this is so.

I believe this may be related to our cultural norms. In China, it seems that many parents express more concern when their children are young and have not yet started working and becoming adults. They may not yet trust their children to be able to be independent, and they may not yet believe that children who haven't grown up can plan for their own future.

It is therefore understandable that at this time, parents tend to worry about their children and worry that they will go astray. This is similar to the way that PUA works.

As children grow up and enter the workforce, parents often find that their influence over their children's lives naturally diminishes. This is because children gradually develop their own thoughts and ideas, and parents may feel that they have less control over their children's decisions and actions.

2. Unconditional love

We have discussed one of the effects of cultural education on us above, so next, we will discuss it from this emotional level. And from an emotional level, we will explore the nuances of unconditional and conditional love.

Human emotions are complex and nuanced. Some contemporary perspectives suggest that the traditional view of having children is to raise them to provide for one's old age, which could be viewed as an investment.

From this perspective, however, it may also be unreasonable. It is important to understand that raising children is not easy, especially when they are young.

It is often said that raising children is a way to prepare for old age. However, it is not always easy to predict how a child will turn out when they grow up. It is not always clear whether they will be filial.

It would be beneficial to consider whether they will be successful and whether they will be by your side.

I believe there is actually a lot of uncertainty. I would also like to ask the original poster if they have ever seen some children really like someone.

I wonder if I might ask you, the original poster, whether you have had the experience of feeling that someone is cute and wanting to be nice to them, regardless of who they are?

I wonder if, as parents, we have many such moments with our children. I think there are many.

It might be a bit narrow-minded to look at parents only from the perspective of raising children to prevent old age. Perhaps parents' love for us is a mixture of unconditional and conditional love.

It can be challenging for others to love us unconditionally, but there are always instances when it does happen. We often expect our parents to give us unconditional love.

On the other hand, it might be challenging to give our parents unconditional love.

It is not always easy to love others unconditionally, just as it can be challenging to find a partner who meets all of our expectations. We must recognize that we ourselves cannot be unconditional to others, and therefore, it is unfair to expect others to be able to do so.

We are all human, and so are our parents. We all have our strengths and weaknesses. Perhaps we should consider that parents may have even fewer resources than we do. Therefore, we may need to look at our parents from a more diverse perspective.

3. It might be helpful to ask how we feel.

Perhaps the question we should be asking ourselves is whether our parents truly love us. After all, only we can answer that question. So, how can we find the answer?

It might be helpful to ask how we feel. This can help us understand how we get along with our parents. I believe that if our parents love us, we will always feel it, and our feelings will not lie to us.

On the other hand, we could consider observing the language of love used by our parents and noting what forms it takes for them. It's likely that the language of love is different for everyone.

Some people may express love through words of appreciation and approval, while others may do so through actions, gifts, companionship, or physical actions like hugs.

It may also be helpful to observe the language of love from our parents, as it could provide insight into how they express love in their own way.

I hope these ideas will be of some help and inspiration to you.

Good day, question asker!

My name is Sunny Dolphin Floaty, and I'm a psychological counselor.

?‍♂️After you started working, your parents' attitude towards you may have shifted somewhat. It's possible that they're feeling a bit more relaxed now that you're contributing financially to the family, or perhaps they're experiencing some guilt.

Perhaps the only thing you don't realize is your parents' love for you. In fact, when I see relatives like you, I can't help but feel sorry for your parents.

I understand that my answer may not align with your expectations. However, I believe it is important to provide a response.

If this does not align with your preferences, you are welcome to skip it.

I would like to respectfully suggest that perhaps your parents' attitude towards you has changed because they are treating you as an adult, which is a natural consequence of you starting work.

?‍♂️When you start working, it signifies that you are now considered an adult. This transition may result in a shift in your parents' attitude towards you, from that of a child to that of an equal.

It is only natural that they treat you as an adult and that they do not scold you as often as they used to.

As an adult, it may not be beneficial to scold someone as often as one would a child.

You are already working, your life is basically set, and there is no longer any potential for growth. For your parents, they have fulfilled their responsibility to educate you.

Could it be that a change of attitude is simply normal? Is it perhaps unhelpful to view these issues through the lens of guilt or the responsibility to provide for one's parents in old age?

It's possible that your parents treated you that way before because they didn't know how to express themselves.

I'm unsure how to best support my children's growth and development. I've been exploring educational approaches inspired by their original family's methods.

It is possible that you may not understand your parents, but

If you would like to gain a deeper understanding, you might consider taking your questions home to discuss with your parents.

It might be helpful to ask all the "whys" that are on your mind. I believe that at this time, parents will answer you sincerely.

I hope my answer can be of some help to you.

I hope my answer will be of some help to you, even if you don't read it.

I wish you the best of luck.

I have a great deal of admiration and respect for the field of psychology.

The vast majority of parents are thrilled to raise their children with the hope that, in addition to being physically and mentally healthy, their children will be able to live independently and then have the heart and ability to show filial piety. From this order, you can see the priorities of parents, and it's a beautiful thing!

But when children are young, because they are so full of life and energy, parents often set strict rules for them. I think most parents would do this. After all, most parents will always be around to guide their children, so they are more worried about what will happen to their children when they are gone.

Of course, you say that it is impossible to absolutely tell whether your parents feel guilty or want to provide for you in their old age, because they may feel both ways. For example, they feel gratified that you have not gone astray, that you have grown up to be capable of independent living, and that you are able to support yourself.

For the strict requirements you had when you were young, there may have been acts of beating and scolding. But when they get older, they may feel guilty for being too strict with you when you were young. As parents grow older, they also hope that their children can keep them company, so they also have the mentality of raising children to provide for their old age. And there's absolutely nothing wrong with any of this!

Having children is a wonderful opportunity to embrace both social and family responsibilities. It's a natural and rewarding way to live!

And the parents are also first-time parents! They're learning as they go, just like you are. The traditional Chinese educational concept is that it is the parents' job to teach their children, that good people come from under the rod, and that if you don't beat them, they won't become anything...etc. They are not exceptional. It's just that if parents scold too much, they may lose their temper.

You work, which means you are an adult. It is normal for parents to have different attitudes, so it doesn't really matter what the children think now. You think so, which is great! If they are just feeling guilty, you can forgive them.

I think your answer is a resounding yes! Or maybe they just want to raise children to support them in their old age, and you work so they are happy. You wouldn't dream of neglecting to take care of them just because they think that way, would you?

And the answer is a resounding "no!" But wait, there's more!

Absolutely! You can count on your parents to be there for you when you need them.

So don't overthink it! Make the most of your time with your parents and enjoy quality time together as a family. When you have your own family, you'll understand exactly how your parents feel!

Hello, I'm grateful for the opportunity to share my thoughts with you.

Given the stark contrast between the various experiences of an unhappy childhood and the current level of parental care, it is understandable that the questioner might suspect the parents' motives. However, such suspicion can also lead the questioner into a challenging situation where it can be difficult to escape.

Sometimes, once suspicion is aroused, it can be challenging to prove what the motives behind other people's actions are. This makes it difficult to ascertain the truth. It's essential to recognize that the key to this issue is not what they think, but what you think.

It is rare for relationships between people to be purely innocent. There are often emotional bonds as well as ties of practical interest. Human relationships are two-way streets, so it is not possible to give unconditionally. This is not a shameful thing; it is simply a reflection of human nature.

Let's consider the example of raising children. Imagine a couple with two children: one is intelligent and well-behaved, while the other is more challenging to raise. Which child do you think the parents will like better? It's understandable that parents may have different preferences for their children, both practically and psychologically.

It seems unlikely that the future achievements of the two children will bring rewards to their parents. From the perspective of the children's emotional feedback to their parents, it is understandable that both parents will have a preference.

If we consider this to be an unusual situation and one that we would prefer not to be the case, it could be seen as being similar to asking our parents to be saints, which might be seen as a rather naïve and idealistic request.

Could it be that someone who really likes to help others does so in order to receive praise from others? Would that make his willingness to help others any less noble?

Perhaps the greatest challenge in speculating on others with malicious intent is that it may not yield the most accurate insights.

"Is there a way to quickly discern whether they truly feel guilty and want to make amends, or if they just want someone to take care of them in their old age?"

I may not be able to answer this question directly, but I was reminded of a line from the movie Reply 1988, and I would like to use it as my answer instead. In the movie, the father says to his daughter: "Mom and Dad are sorry for you. Dad wasn't born a dad, and this is the first time I've been one. So please be understanding if I do something wrong."

Love is not simply the expression of a subjective emotion, but also a kind of ability. While everyone has the capacity to experience love, not everyone is able to love in the same way. The ability to love is reflected in making the other person feel loved, rather than self-moving giving.

Perhaps now they may understand, even though they didn't before. Would you be willing to give them this opportunity?

My name is Xiao Dong, and I'm a psychological counselor. I hope you have a happy life!

Hello, I'm Qu Huidong, a psychological counselor who loves to speak in images!

After reading the questioner's description, I think you may have thought this when you were a student: "When I have the means, I will definitely leave this family!"

So work hard!

Let's dive back into the present! You've been working for a few years now, which is awesome. When did you first notice the changes in your parents?

Now for the fun part! What are these changes? Write them down on a piece of paper.

I'm not asking you to make any decisions, but I'd love for you to think about whether you'd be willing to support them in their old age or forgive them.

I really hope you can look at these changes objectively. It would be great if you could think about whether these changes are what you need. And it would be really helpful to know if the changes have been happening for a while or if they just started recently.

Were you totally cool with it when they did this?

Once you've done that, let's dive in and experience and feel your doubts together!

I totally get it. This feeling of uncertainty is totally normal. Your early experiences have left you in an insecure attachment relationship, making it difficult to establish real trust with others. But here's the good news: you can develop a new secure attachment relationship pattern! This will help you work and live more smoothly for yourself.

But here's the good news! Even if one day there is no longer a parental figure in reality, the parent within us may still give us ten thousand points of critical feedback from time to time, leaving you with nowhere to escape.

Guarding your own boundaries is something you can do now! You have the right to decide whether or not to support them in their old age.

And the great news is that the professional path of developing a sense of boundaries and reshaping a secure attachment relationship through psychological counseling is relatively convenient and solid.

I really hope I get the chance to explore you and all the amazing things you have to offer! I'm excited to see what an autonomous and fruitful life you'll have.

Wishing you all the best!