After the abortion in a large month, worried about bringing a crisis to the close relationship, how to be happy?

I understand how you feel. Labor is hard on the body and mind. After giving birth, your emotions are more affected because your body is not fully recovered. It's normal to have doubts about your marriage and feel anxious about yourself. You need to face these feelings and resolve them.

Tell your husband how you feel. He can help you if you let him.

You can also work out some ways to cope with your anxiety with your husband.

Second, you need to accept your imperfections and flaws. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses, and these should not be the only criteria for your self-worth.

Focus on your inner qualities and strengths. Build your self-confidence and self-esteem. Learn new skills, exercise, and develop hobbies to improve your self-worth.

Finally, if you're worried about being a burden or causing a crisis, you should seek support. Mutual support is important in a relationship.

If you feel you can't cope, you can ask your husband, family, friends or professionals for help. At the same time, you should look after your emotional and mental health. Don't rely on others or hide your feelings.

It's important to stay positive when facing challenges. I believe you and your husband can work through this and build a healthier relationship.

Hello, I am Coach Fly, a heart detective. Life is a beautiful journey, and it's time to appreciate it and let it blossom.

You are suffering the physical and mental pain of losing your child. This situation is a blow to both spouses, but the pressure and pain that the wife has to bear is greater. You are experiencing emotional swings during the month of your confinement. You are suspecting your husband of cheating, you are sensitive to what your husband says, and your husband's care and attention to you make you feel like a burden.

The internal damage caused by the loss of your child is significant.

You have been living with this for many months and have so many feelings and good expectations for this little life. But in the end, you were unable to meet it. As a mother, you have been mentally preparing and emotionally expecting for many months, and you are completely unable to accept it emotionally.

Your body is suffering from the pain of labor and the various inconveniences of the confinement period, and your mind is suffering too. It will definitely take time to recuperate and heal.

You have already blamed yourself for not protecting your child well enough as its mother.

You feel self-blame and guilt inside, so you see your husband's care and attention towards you as a burden. But it's not your fault. You bear all the responsibility for the outcome because of your emotional investment in this little life and your expectations, as well as your feelings for your husband.

At the same time, you have become more sensitive and vulnerable, and you have even become suspicious of your relationship. You don't suspect your husband of cheating, but you feel unworthy, so you turn your feelings about yourself into an attack on him: suspicion and jealousy.

?2. Improve emotional communication between husband and wife.

They are husband and wife because they form a family of one, share responsibilities, overcome difficulties together, and come together to share the joy and sweetness of their work.

He cares about you and is taking responsibility for his role in losing the child. Don't let your guilt increase his sense of guilt. When things turn out like this, everyone wants to "atone for their sins" in their own way and prevent further losses.

Your relationship is still there, and you can start again. In an intimate relationship, if you cannot enjoy the intimate connection from your partner to you, it also reflects that you have fear within you, because the so-called intimacy is the absence of fear.

He is your intimate lover, and you are safe in his presence. Open your heart and express to him your sadness, pain, confusion, anxiety, and uncontrollable jealousy. Let him accompany you as you see behind these emotions and realize that you just want to feel more secure.

Read "Knowing How to Love," a book about intimate relationships. Use marriage and family as a field for joint cultivation with your partner. This will help you see your emotional needs behind the emotions, allowing you to grow and achieve a happy, fulfilling marriage.

I am confident that the above will be helpful to you. The world and I love you.

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Hello there!

From what you've shared, it seems like you and your husband had a really strong relationship before and after you got married. It's so sad that you had to go through this difficult time when you had to have an abortion because of problems with the baby detected during pregnancy tests.

It's totally normal to feel a little anxious and worried during the postpartum period. It's also normal to have some doubts about your marriage and to wonder if your husband is being unfaithful. Given that the induction of labor is considered part of the postpartum period, it's possible you're experiencing postpartum depression.

Depression is when you feel like you just don't care about anything anymore, and you don't see the point in doing anything at all. It's also when you feel like you're no good at anything, and you're always worrying about everything.

It's totally okay to get some tests done on the platform to see if you're experiencing mild postpartum depression. You can even go to a regular hospital to find a professional psychologist who can help you with a diagnosis and differential diagnosis.

After all, the process of inducing labor in the third trimester is the same as giving birth. It's totally normal for your body to experience a rapid decrease in estrogen and progesterone levels, which can impact your mood and emotions.

It's so hard when you're stuck at home for a whole month without your little one. It's natural to feel lonely and desolate. After all, you've been pregnant for a long time, and there's an emotional connection. This is an emotional loss, and it's important to say goodbye properly. It's also totally normal to miss your child and to feel some self-blame if you think the child's problems are related to you in some way.

It's so much harder to blame ourselves than to be blamed, isn't it?

If you're feeling a little down after having a baby, it's probably because your hormones have dropped a lot and you're feeling a bit empty inside. Don't worry, these feelings will pass with time. Just take it easy and let your body get back to its normal rhythm. Once your hormones are back to normal, you'll feel better too.

You and your husband used to have a great relationship, so you know this deep down. It's not a problem with your marriage, your intimate relationship, or your husband. It's just your "suspicious mind" that's causing you trouble.

It's not that your husband has really cheated or fallen in love with someone else. Maybe your husband is unable to always be by your side because of work, which can make you feel lonely and alone, so you think a lot about it yourself. I don't think it's that your husband is belittling you or dislikes you, nor is it a problem of the quality of the marriage declining. It's just that you yourself have developed appearance anxiety and low self-esteem, which is totally normal!

So, even if your husband just says you've put on weight, you might start to doubt yourself and belittle yourself, worrying that you're not good enough for your husband.

It's totally normal to feel insecure about your appearance after pregnancy, especially if you've been carrying extra weight. We all go through this, and it's nothing to be ashamed of.

Please, try to rely on your own reason to adjust your state of mind. And don't forget to plan and implement a partial recovery of your physical appearance! This is not your fault, sweetheart. It's just a sign of maturity and a need for growth after these experiences.

The relationship between a husband and wife is the key to a successful marriage. Induced labor may be a loss for the husband, but the situation may be less severe for the wife.

So, it's really important to communicate and confide in your husband about certain things and negative emotions in a timely manner, be considerate of each other, communicate more, and try to care for each other. When you feel empty, focus your attention on activities that interest you.

You can also take control of your weight and body in a healthy way. Do something that you can do well, and take it easy on yourself. Do things that you enjoy to help your body and mind feel better as soon as you can.

It's okay to not be happy sometimes. We all feel this way from time to time. But when you're feeling down, it's important to remember that you're not alone. You can find a professional counselor to help you through this difficult time.

The world and I love you, and we want you to love yourself too!

Hello. I am a heart exploration coach, and I am in a position to offer you some advice.

From what you've told me, it's clear that you need to focus on the changes you're experiencing in your heart and body. This induced abortion has already caused harm, so it's crucial that you prioritize self-care.

Shift some of this attention from worrying about others to yourself.

I say that because you are weak right now. You just had a miscarriage, which is no small operation.

Your baby has a problem, and you have to do this. I understand you're reluctant, but you have no choice.

You need to start paying attention to your own care and self-awareness because your mind and body have both changed a lot as a result of this induced abortion.

I will help you analyze the situation based on the following content to alleviate your current state of mind. If there is something I haven't analyzed properly, you can send me a message on my personal homepage or click on "Ask a Question" to send me a message. I will help you.

You and your husband were thrilled to start a family right after getting married. However, complications led to an induced abortion in the late stages of pregnancy. You had also hoped to become a mother without any issues. Undoubtedly, this has been a challenging time for you.

Your husband believes he is particularly good to you. You also hope to contribute to your family by bringing a happy baby into the world. However, this result is inevitable, and it will undoubtedly leave you feeling lost.

Another thing is that even if you have an induced delivery, it is no less than giving birth to a child. After all, it is a late pregnancy. During your pregnancy, your overall hormone levels were high. After the induced delivery, your hormone levels will drop sharply.

Your internal emotional changes are also fluctuating greatly at this time.

Let me be clear: you are not suffering from postpartum depression. What you are experiencing are related emotional changes.

Your mood swings are a result of your close relationship with your husband. During the confinement period, you are understandably worried and anxious, and you are questioning your marriage and your husband.

You feel that if the baby is aborted, your husband will be disappointed. You wanted to bring a child into the family, but you weren't able to do so. You worry that your husband will distrust you or be disappointed in you.

This series of events has led you to doubt your marriage and him.

You suspect the marriage is in trouble because you feel this situation will affect it. Is it because of details?

I need to know more about this.

Also, do you suspect that your husband doesn't love you as much as before because he said you were fat or made comments about your appearance?

Tell me, has he ever commented on your figure or appearance before? In fact, what he meant was that we must judge according to the actual situation because he will always care about your state.

His concern for your state undoubtedly stems from his concern for your emotions and your body. However, if he has made some comments about your appearance, we must judge whether his comments are sincere or an objective expression.

When we're pregnant, we want to give our children the best, so we eat more and gain weight more easily.

He's not calling you fat. He's just saying your figure needs to be adjusted to its best condition.

If he's just describing the facts, there's no need to worry. We just need to eat reasonably during the month and resume a healthy diet after the month is over. For example, reducing the intake of high-fat and high-salt foods, or strengthening some exercise and fitness, will all help to restore your figure. We can't just stay at our current figure and self-neglect in response to your husband's words.

He cares whether you are being genuine and from the heart. You can sense this. If you are not in a good position to judge because of your current emotional swings, record some of his words that show concern for you in your daily life.

Send it to me on my personal page so I can help you with an analysis.

Let's be real, ladies. Gaining weight during pregnancy and restoring your image takes a lot of time, and it's a test for us.

If you feel self-deprecating or inferior, you need to be self-aware and practice mindfulness.

When we have these thoughts, we must tell ourselves that the situation is only temporary and that we can adjust our figure with a subsequent diet.

You can adjust your personal plan and learn how to return to your usual good state through books and videos.

You need to confront this persistent doubt, this hesitation, and this anxiety head-on and gradually overcome it.

You recently had an abortion, didn't you? We'll have to wait until your hormones stabilize.

This is the best way forward. We can work on both problems together, and your state of mind will improve a lot.

You're also concerned about being a burden to others. Let me be clear: two people get married to support and help each other. Inevitably, the other person will face difficulties or situations we cannot predict.

I am certain that you will help your husband get through the difficult times if you put yourselves in each other's shoes. This is also about mutual trust in marriage. Your husband will accept your current situation with the same heart if you believe that he will.

If your husband isn't thinking from the heart, or if you're wavering and indecisive, or if you're very conflicted, you can organize the words and things you want to talk about first.

Tell me, what are your expectations for your figure and appearance? And what are your thoughts on how you can successfully conceive again in the future, from pregnancy to childbirth? Think about all of this now.

This is a great chance for us to learn from experience. If you're currently in your postpartum period, you should definitely apply the conditioning methods you learned during this period to your future experiences.

This is a process that will continue to enrich your life experience. We know that experience can be painful, but it also teaches us valuable lessons that no one else has.

Think about what I've said. If you want to keep talking, click my homepage.

I look forward to hearing from you and wish you the best.

I sense a great deal of unease in the questioner's heart. Inducing labor will undoubtedly have a significant impact on the body and mind of the person involved. The body will become weak, moods will fluctuate, and it will be easy to become irritable, restless, and have insomnia. Generally speaking, couples will not make this decision lightly, let alone newlyweds.

However, if the examination reveals that there are some problems with the child's physical development that will affect the child's life after birth, then inducing labor after the discovery may be seen as a difficult decision, but it may be a kinder option than the child suffering more after birth. Therefore, I can understand the decision of the questioner.

The anxiety and worry described by the questioner, which can lead to feelings of low self-esteem, fear of losing something, and concern that it will affect the intimacy between husband and wife, may be a series of effects that have arisen following the induced abortion. It could be compared to the experience of having a cold, which can cause a range of symptoms such as a fever on the forehead, a stuffy nose, a runny nose, and coughing. These symptoms that the questioner is currently experiencing may be reactions to the lack of energy that affects the body and mind.

Perhaps the best course of action would be to try to accept these reactions. It might help to accept the fact that the child has problems inducing labor, to accept these emotional feelings in your heart, and to accept your own emotional changes between gain and loss.

I believe that accepting these feelings will help to reduce the distress experienced by the questioner. It may also be helpful to talk about these emotions with your husband and observe his reaction. This could help to relieve some of the pressure and distress, as well as fostering emotional communication between you and your husband.

The above are my personal opinions, which I hope the questioner will find helpful to consider.

Hello, topic owner! It's like seeing you in person after reading your words.

After reading your description carefully, I can feel the anxiety you are experiencing because of the induced labor. But don't worry! You'll get through this. During the postpartum period, you are worried about everything, and you have begun to doubt your husband. You feel inferior because of his comment about your weight gain or your appearance, and you always feel that you are burdening others. But you're not! You're doing great! After sorting through all of this, I want to take you to see another dimension behind these feelings: in fact, both you and your husband cherish this relationship.

Let's talk about this!

You said, "I just got married to my husband, but because of problems with the baby, I had an induced labor in my third month." Regarding this, I would love to know more!

1. I'm so excited to hear how your husband reacted when he found out that the baby would need to be delivered by C-section!

2. I'm so excited to hear more about what led to the induction of labor!

3. Before conceiving a baby, did both parties get to have a pre-pregnancy exam?

4. Was having this baby something you both planned for?

The above four points are to tell you that having a baby is a rather high-risk thing, so before conceiving, the couple should try to plan first, so that the baby can grow more at ease and happily in the mother's belly until it comes to your side.

You also mentioned that your husband will always care about your condition, which is so wonderful to hear! I'd love to know more about this.

1. I'd love to hear more about how your husband shows that he cares about your state of mind!

2. I'd love to hear more about why you're worried about being a burden to others.

3. What is your definition of happiness?

I totally get it. You don't want to be a burden to anyone. But you and your husband chose to get married, which means you're ready to work together. I see this induced abortion as a minor test in your marriage. Once you overcome it, your relationship will definitely grow! Okay, next, I want to share something very important with you.

My dear, throughout the whole process, you have been experiencing something called "a sense of internal conflict." This is actually a natural and normal response to a major shock. It's an excessive "self-protection mechanism" that arises in our hearts. This mechanism will alienate the shock received as "self-attack," which can drain our "inner strength." But don't worry! This is something we can work through together.

(See, this is the root of your inability to be happy.)

As I said earlier, after going through the experience of "inducing labor in the third trimester," you were under a lot of stress. But your husband is there for you, and so are your friends and family! You two value the relationship enough to support each other through this difficult time.

By the way, I have some more great ideas to help boost your sense of inner strength!

❤. I'd love to hear how you and your husband met!

❤. What qualities in him attracted you?

Oh my goodness, what quality of yours attracted him in the first place?

❤. What made you decide to tie the knot?

❤. What does the two of you have a shared vision for the future?

I really hope these five points will inspire you to recover from that state of internal depletion!

Take good care of yourself and your little family, and have fun doing it!

Hello! I really hope my answer can help you in some way.

As a wife and someone who has also had appearance anxiety and low self-esteem, I understand your feelings very well. In fact, it seems that everything is related to your husband, but in reality, everything is related to our inner being. When our inner being changes, we will not always be worried about our husband and intimate relationships. And when we change our inner being, we can change everything!

I have some great advice for you!

Although it is an induced delivery, there will also be huge hormonal changes in the body, which in itself increases the possibility of "postpartum depression." It is totally normal to feel depressed due to the influence of hormones, so don't worry about it!

After all, it is a major month of induced labor, and you still need to pay attention to your body, just as you do after giving birth. So, this will also have an emotional impact due to the sudden and drastic changes in hormones in our bodies, so there is a possibility of "postpartum depression." But don't worry! This is very common and nothing to be ashamed of. If you are not at ease, you can go to the hospital for an assessment and diagnosis and seek help from a professional doctor. So, don't blame yourself. You can't control physical changes. You have to accept and understand yourself.

Don't worry and don't be afraid. This is very common, and you're going to be just fine! If you're not at ease, you can go to the hospital for an assessment and diagnosis and seek help from a professional doctor. So, don't blame yourself. You can't control physical changes, but you can accept and understand yourself!

2. Find a way to release and transform your emotions! Let the flow of emotions within you guide you and allow yourself to flow with them.

I know you must be feeling very sad right now, but I'm here to tell you that you can get through this. It's so important to release all of those emotions and to talk to someone you trust about your concerns about intimacy. You can even talk to your husband directly. Tell him when he's saying something that makes you feel inferior or sad. Tell him what kind of help and support you need from him. He'll be so happy to help you!

You can also talk to a suitable friend or relative to release your emotions. If you have a mother who has had a similar experience, you can also learn from her and see how she got through it. I believe it will also give you some strength. You can also write an emotional diary every day and write out your emotions. This is also a good way to express and heal. And you know what? When you can enter the state of flow, you will gain more happiness and gradually increase your energy!

It's still important to emphasize that you don't have to force yourself to be happy. You can just allow yourself to be unhappy. Find out what exactly it is that makes you unhappy, and then express it! Don't repress your emotions. They won't just go away. They'll accumulate and explode later. Accept your unhappiness, allow yourself to be unhappy, express your emotions, and let your emotions flow! Your inner being will become more and more relaxed.

The good news is that you can start feeling secure within yourself right away! All you have to do is start practising self-care and enhancing your inner strength.

From your description, I can feel your worries about the relationship. But don't worry! When we feel insecure in an intimate relationship, it is precisely because we do not feel secure within ourselves. So what we need to do is build up a sense of security within ourselves. When you feel secure within, you will not be worried about the relationship, but feel secure and at ease. And you will!

The great news is that we can help ourselves build an inner sense of security through self-care, which can be practiced on three levels:

First, treat yourself like the amazing person you are! Show yourself kindness verbally, in attitude, and physically.

For example, linguistically, you need to say to yourself, "I may have gained weight and I may not have a child yet, but I still accept this real me, and I'm proud of who I am!" And in terms of attitude, it means being kind and friendly to yourself, regardless of what kind of being you are, rather than denying and suppressing it. Treating yourself well physically means that you can activate your care system by hugging and touching yourself, so that you can feel warmth and happiness.

Second, common humanity. You are not alone! Many women have had this experience. They are also afraid in their relationships that their husbands will not like them because they have gained weight. They are also worried about their figure and appearance, and their intimate relationships. We are all the same! When you can see that you are not actually special, that many people feel the same way you do, and that they are even experiencing similar things to you, you will feel better!

Absolutely! The sorrows of mankind are all interconnected, and in the face of difficulties and adversity, many people have also come up with very effective methods that we can all learn from and use to help ourselves get out of difficult situations.

Third, observe the present moment. In fact, all your worries have not happened! You just followed your thoughts in the future, instead of living in the present.

If we can pull our attention back to the present, we'll have so much less to worry about! We'll be able to maintain a more peaceful state, and our emotions will be calmer. When you notice that your thoughts have wandered into the future again, try to pull them back, take a deep breath, relax yourself, help yourself return to the present, and then do what you are doing, go to sleep when you should, eat when you should, and chat with your husband when you should... When you can live each moment well, you'll be creating true happiness!

I highly recommend reading "The Power of Self-Care," "Mindfulness: Self-Care," and "The Eight-Week Mindfulness Journey." They're amazing!

I'm so excited to share this with you! Have a great day!

Hello, question asker! I'm a heart exploration coach.

I have taken the time to carefully read through the issues and confusion you have outlined on the platform. It seems that you are facing challenges in your marriage. You mentioned that you recently got married and experienced a miscarriage in your first month due to complications with the baby. Initially, you and your husband were very close, but now you are struggling with anxiety and feelings of loss during your confinement. This has led to doubts about your marriage and your husband's commitment to you. He has made comments about your appearance, which have caused you significant distress. You feel that his actions may be affecting your self-esteem and confidence. He cares about you deeply, but you are concerned that his actions might burden others and potentially lead to a crisis in your intimate relationship. You feel that there is no way to make yourself happy.

It's possible that you're currently in the postpartum period and are still adjusting to various aspects of your life, the sadness of losing your child, and your own worries about the future. This might have made you more sensitive and suspicious. It's important to remember that your husband has not done anything wrong, but your state of mind has changed. This could have long-term effects on your relationship. It might be helpful to find a way to communicate with each other.

We hope to help you analyze and sort things out:

1. It might be helpful to communicate honestly with your family.

It is understandable that after an induced abortion, a woman's body is relatively weak, and her emotions may be affected. It is important to allow your body to recover at a slow pace. It may be helpful to communicate more with your family and tell them how you really feel. You can also communicate more with friends when you are usually in a bad mood, which could potentially improve your current situation to a certain extent.

2. Consider ways to distract yourself from your concerns.

If I might suggest, being anxious about this and that means you are a bit anxious right now. When you are idle, you tend to think of many things. The more you feel bad, the more you have to try to distract yourself. You might find it helpful to listen to some soothing light music, watch more beautiful films and television works, or find something you like to do. Distracting yourself from this matter might also help.

3. It might be helpful to try to fill yourself up.

The induced labor must have been very upsetting for you, but there's nothing you can do about it. You should still follow the doctor's advice and focus on getting well first. It might be helpful to try to fill your days with things that make you feel fulfilled. You could ask your family to spend more time with you, chat with you, and play soothing music. You might also like to read some of your favorite books. If you lead a fulfilling and meaningful life every day, you may find that you don't keep thinking about the bad things as much.

4. It might be helpful to consider some appropriate aerobic exercise.

After an abortion, the uterus requires a certain amount of time to recover. It is important to pay special attention to resting well and avoiding doing things that you firmly do not want to do. It is generally advised to avoid stimulating the uterus, as this may not be conducive to your body's recovery. Depending on your own situation, you may wish to consider doing some exercise as appropriate, such as practicing yoga and meditation. However, it is important to be mindful of your physical condition and avoid doing so too often or too vigorously, in order to avoid any negative effects on your health. It is natural to have some concerns, but try not to worry too much.

I hope my answer is helpful to you. If you would like to discuss further, you are welcome to follow me (click on my personal homepage), choose the Heart Exploration service, and communicate with me one-on-one. With love and best wishes for your wellbeing,

Good morning, I am listening to you.

I can perceive the physical discomfort and pain caused by your induced labor, as well as the distress caused by the changes in your body shape, and your lack of confidence in your marriage, worrying that your husband will dislike you and even cheat on you.

The following advice is provided for your consideration:

1. Enhance your sense of self-worth.

From your description, it appears that you feel troubled actions are burdensome, that you are undeserving of your husband's care and emotional support, and that you are afraid of being abandoned. However, it is the husband's responsibility to provide support when you are unable to do so independently.

Please explain why you believe it would be too much trouble for your husband to admit this.

2. Is this a mere assumption or is it a verifiable fact?

Fear of intimacy can cause a crisis in a relationship. Please clarify whether this is your own perception or whether your husband's behavior in everyday life has influenced your perspective. Additionally, please indicate whether your husband has discussed this issue with you or if you have encountered similar situations in your personal life that have led to a crisis in your relationship.

3. It is advisable to be honest with your husband.

The most effective approach is to communicate your concerns and thoughts to your husband in a transparent and constructive manner. Identify an appropriate time and setting to discuss these issues and observe how your husband responds. This is a matter between you and your husband, and it's essential to communicate it effectively.

4. Take steps to improve your physical health.

It is important to love yourself, find some scientific methods, or seek professional guidance from professionals, whether coaches or doctors, to actively rehabilitate your body. There is a clear link between physical health and mental wellbeing. Only when you are physically healthy will your mood improve. Poor mental health also has a physical basis and is based on the body.

The spirit is the overarching structure, while the physical body serves as the underlying foundation.

5. Seek assistance from a qualified professional.

It is beneficial to seek the support of both amateur friends and family members, as well as professional counselors. However, it is important to remember that ultimately, you will need to resume your normal life.

It is crucial to ensure that emotional issues do not impact your marriage and intimate relationships. Collaborate with your husband to address challenges collectively, and I am confident you can navigate this challenging period and emerge stronger and more mature.

Although labor induction is painful, it can help women understand themselves better, become more resilient, and find inner strength.

The husband's support is important. He can be a source of warmth and understanding for his wife.

This kind of support helps the wife cope with distress and deepens the bond between husband and wife, so they can grow and face challenges together.

The wife can also learn to accept her emotions and find inner strength. She can explore self-growth, learn emotional management, and face the future with a more positive attitude.

When facing emotional distress after an abortion, a new way to look at it is as a chance to strengthen the couple's bond and trust. The experience can also bring the couple closer.

Together, couples can support each other more deeply, grow, and build a stronger relationship.

The husband can support, listen to, and comfort his wife when she needs it. He can show he understands and respects her, help her release her emotions, and face difficulties together.

Sharing the experience of labor can strengthen the bond between a husband and wife and help their family.

The wife can learn to accept her emotions and needs and share them with her husband. With the help of a counselor, she can learn to cope with emotional distress and rebuild her confidence.

The couple can work together to decide on their future and face challenges together.

Induced labor is difficult, but it can also be a chance to grow and connect with your partner.

With support from their partners, women can rebuild their confidence and attitude. May you and your family find strength and growth in this process.

I'm so grateful for your kind invitation!

The original poster mentioned that because the baby in the late stages of pregnancy had problems and was induced, she began to doubt her husband and the marriage. She cared a lot about her husband's evaluation of her, was afraid of his concern, and worried that she was causing a burden on him, thus causing a crisis in the intimate relationship. It's so understandable to feel this way!

From what I've heard, it seems like your marriage is going well and that the induction of labor won't change anything.

Your husband's attention and care for you may be a kind of love for you, out of concern that your emotions will be affected by the loss of the baby. It's totally understandable to feel this way!

You've been through a lot, and it's only natural that you've experienced some changes, physically, mentally, and emotionally, after such an important event.

First of all, it's totally normal to feel more sensitive than before. It can be a time of big changes, and it's natural to feel a bit unsure of yourself.

There might be a few different things going on inside your head.

1. It's totally normal to feel like your relationship with your husband might be unstable now that you don't have the baby.

2. It's totally normal to feel like your body and appearance have changed after an abortion. It's also normal to worry that your husband will dislike you.

3. Given your current physical weakness and psychological inferiority, you may be longing for more love from your husband. This is totally understandable! We all want to feel loved and appreciated, especially after going through something as traumatic as an abortion. Your husband's comments about you may therefore be of great importance to you at this time.

4. They may feel a lack of self-worth, which can lead to them looking down on themselves. They might even worry that their husband's concern for them will become a burden to him.

5. The birth may have been induced because of a problem with the baby, and it's so easy to blame yourself when that happens. It's totally natural to feel guilty in this situation.

It's totally understandable that the above reasons might have caused you to distrust your husband and your marriage, which could have led to a crisis in your intimate relationship.

In the current situation, this is just your mind playing tricks on you. It's not actually the essence of your relationship with your husband.

If your heart can't be removed, it might really affect your relationship.

Secondly, it's possible that you haven't yet had a chance to process the grief of losing the child.

As a mother-to-be, I know you must be feeling very sad about having to have an induced abortion because of a problem with your baby.

At this time, what you really need is to feel a strong emotional and psychological connection with your baby.

Your husband might not be aware of this problem and is only concerned about your personal state and appearance as a mother-to-be after losing the baby.

You can talk to your husband about how you feel about the baby. You and your husband are both sad about losing the baby. You can thank each other for the baby's arrival in this world. It's a shame that the baby couldn't be yours because of other people's actions. You can burn some of the things you made for the baby to say goodbye. The baby will find another family and come to this world safely and healthily!

This process is really good for mourning the loss of your child and for your psychological recovery.

At last, even though the baby hasn't been born yet, you've induced labor in the third month of pregnancy, which is a huge physical and mental challenge. This might make your own past psychological issues worse.

It's also a great idea to look into some psychological counseling. This can really help you get out of your current situation and work through any past trauma.

I'm sure that as long as you adjust your mental state, it won't affect your relationship with your husband and your marriage will be as good as it used to be!

Hi, I'm Yan Guilai, your friendly counselor. I'm here to support you on your journey of self-discovery and truth-seeking!

Dear questioner, I hope my reply can support you.

The baby had a problem, so the labor was induced in the third trimester. I can only imagine how painful it must have been for the new mother! The family was overjoyed to welcome this little life. Life is unpredictable, so the best thing to do is to accept it.

I'm sure your husband also wants to please you. It seems like his concern has become a burden to you. You're afraid that you can't give it back to each other, that you can't find a balance, and that it will affect your relationship. At the same time, it's normal to care about your husband's opinion of you. After all, you're suffering physically and mentally.

Live with awareness, praise your kindness, and don't be afraid to ask for help. Women can be spoiled, and you are not wrong. It's also for the happiness of your family. The fact that your baby has not yet been born is also a reminder to those of us still alive to love and protect ourselves. This pain is valuable and meaningful.

In these tough times, you're still trying to understand your husband's struggles, worrying about the burden you've placed on him, and wondering about other people. It's okay to focus on taking care of yourself first. It's fine to release your emotions. Don't hold it in. Your family is also understandable. You can communicate with your husband and trust that he will support you too.

It's important to accept the care of others. You are worth it because the other person has the ability to love and it is also a source of their sense of worth. The essence of life is connection. You can avoid responsibility, not face it, and say you did your best?

You can ask your husband to find balance. He'll feel better inside, and expressing physical and psychological pain is a form of release. If you don't say anything, the other person won't know that you're feeling something. Your husband will also try to make you happy, and your happiness is very important to him.

Embrace your strengths and weaknesses, embrace the moment, and accept your sensitivity. But don't deny yourself. What's the point of not believing in yourself? Can you avoid responsibility and not face it? You did your best.

The answer is in your hands.

If you don't believe in yourself, you'll never be happy. You'll always doubt your marriage and your husband. You'll always live in resentment. But if you express your resentment, you'll feel much better.

Find more things that interest you, what you're passionate about, and what you're good at. Use your free time to learn and grow. Keep working on your ability to perceive love, and at the same time give love, and you'll see the benefits.

Wishing you the best!