Always feel that the supervisor likes me, a bit too self-complacent, afraid of going to work what should I do?

"I happened to catch my boss smiling at me. Given that I thought he might not be entirely satisfied with my performance, I felt a bit uneasy when he smiled at me this time. Later, I wondered if he might have been indicating a romantic interest in me, and I'm now trying to process this feeling...

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How might one respond to such a question? It is possible that some may be more sensitive and may recall every minor action of a stranger.

1. Mature or married men have likely experienced the challenges of navigating society. They may not have dated extensively, but they are still attractive to young women who are still learning about the world.

They are mature and stable, know the ways of the world, can flirt, and care for people. Therefore, sexual harassment in the workplace is difficult to avoid. For women, it is important to be very clear about these men's intentions, and to be mindful of their actions.

2. It would be beneficial for a leader to show proper concern for subordinates, particularly for a woman who is new to the workplace and may not yet be familiar with the nuances of professional conduct. It is important to be assertive and refuse any inappropriate behavior, and to take the initiative to set clear boundaries. Otherwise, it can lead to a situation where others may try to test those boundaries. Having self-respect and self-love can help gain the respect of others.

3. Do your own job well. It's important to remember that self-indulgent fantasies may lead to difficulties in the workplace. Instead, view your leader's guidance as a valuable opportunity to learn and grow. It's best to avoid getting involved in matters unrelated to work.

Hello!

You seem sensitive, care about what others think, and have a strong sense of self.

A woman's sixth sense is often very accurate. I can also feel the questioner's trouble. We don't want to be harassed, but we can't avoid dealing with our boss.

But we shouldn't jump to conclusions. The questioner said there may be a misunderstanding and that we're being oversensitive.

We live in two worlds.

One world is the real material world. The other is our spiritual world, created by our brain.

The spiritual world can change the real world by affecting our behavior.

If we have a prejudice against our boss, we will overinterpret his actions. For example, we will see a normal greeting as a hint and a normal criticism as a rebuke.

We can go to work with a sense of vigilance until our boss confesses.

We must also be able to separate issues. It is none of our business whether our boss likes us or not.

If the boss wants to take things further, he needs to take action. We can refuse. The initiative is in our hands.

Think clearly in advance about how to refuse when your boss invites you to dinner, on a date, or professes his love.

The questioner isn't good at refusing others. We can practice to avoid panicking.

I hope my answer helps. Thanks for your time. I'm Jiusi on Yixinli, World and I Love You.

Hello. I am a heart coach. I will listen to you and support you with warmth and sincerity.

I can help you understand your feelings. You have some misunderstandings and are stuck in the quagmire of low self-confidence. On the one hand, you want to be affirmed and recognized by your leader or others. On the other hand, you often have self-doubt and self-negation.

Liking and being liked are luxuries you no longer have.

First, we'll give you a warm hug. Then, we'll take a look at what's troubling you.

? 1. Define self-confidence.

You lack self-confidence, which is the root of the problem.

Self-confidence is an individual's assessment of their ability to successfully deal with a particular situation. It is a heartfelt sense of self-affirmation and belief.

Self-confidence is a conviction of one's own strength. It's a deep belief in one's ability to do something well (or be something) or achieve a desired goal.

Self-confidence is the foundation of self-esteem. Self-esteem is the sublimation of self-confidence. Self-esteem is a sense of self-worth and a subjective evaluation of one's overall value.

There are two types of self-confidence. One is based on what you have done, which is a manifestation of low self-esteem because you lack confidence in yourself.

You do something with all your might, building your confidence on the success or failure of a certain thing. You value your life based on external material proof. If you are hesitant and afraid to go to work, you are hiding and avoiding because you are not confident.

Another way is to have confidence in that person. This confidence does not depend on anything external as a standard. It comes from the heart, is unconditional, and is a subjective belief in oneself. This is true confidence. He doesn't need anything from the outside world to prove himself at all. He believes in himself and respects others.

I'll tell you what kind of girl is the hardest to get. It's not about looks or talent. It's about confidence. The more confident a girl is, the harder it is to get her. She's full of strength inside.

2. Boost your self-confidence:

You must have faith in yourself as a person and in the future. You don't need external, material, or other people's support.

Once this support is removed, they will fall back into a state of inferiority and loss.

A person with a high sense of self-worth is confident.

Self-worth is a subjective evaluation of oneself. When we were young, we were often criticized, blamed, and rejected by our parents. This was slowly internalized as our own evaluation of ourselves, leading to a reduced sense of self-worth and low self-esteem. We become sensitive and suspicious, with a fragile ego, and easily care about what others think.

There is a simple way to enhance self-worth: give yourself positive feedback. Affirm, praise, and identify with yourself. Understand and accept yourself.

A high sense of value brings confidence. It no longer depends on external, other people's affirmation and recognition. It comes from the heart, and it's about accepting and recognizing oneself.

"There is no failure, only feedback." What we do is not defined by success or failure, only by the feedback we get.

When your boss smiles at you, it is a response. Your interpretation of this smile is also a response.

The response is in the other person. This smile can also be interpreted as your boss recognizing your performance; it can also be interpreted as him seeing your cute side; it can also be interpreted as encouragement for you to create greater value for him.

The thing itself is not the problem. Our interpretation of the thing is the problem. Read "Inferiority and Transcendence" and "The Courage to Be Disliked." They're recommended for you.

Be true to yourself. Don't worry about pleasing others or yourself.

I am confident that the above will be helpful to you. I love you, and I love the world too.

If you want to continue communicating, click "Find a coach" in the upper right corner or at the bottom. I will communicate and grow with you one-on-one.

Hello, I'm Kimu the Little Angel, and I know my answer will help the questioner!

The description of the questioner allows us to summarize the following:

1. The main character's portrait:

1. This person is very introverted and not fond of talking. They have social phobia.

2. They have had little contact with the opposite sex since childhood, so they are unsure how to interact with them.

3. They are motivated and eager to succeed, and they will gain the approval of their superiors.

4. They are unconfident and think they are not doing a good job.

5. Sensitive and prone to daydreaming.

6. Their thoughts can easily affect other things.

2. The questioner's problems:

1. You want to do a good job, and you know you can.

2. Your boss smiles at you, which makes you think that he likes you. You can't stop thinking about it, so you can't concentrate on your work.

3. Lack of knowledge on how to interact with males.

3. Analysis of the questioner's experience:

I have been transferred to a new unit and assigned to an office with two male colleagues. One of the three of us is a girl, my boss is the other, and the other male colleague is married. I am not very talkative and am relatively introverted.

The environment in which the questioner is currently located is very typical of a novice protection period. It is not typical for the leader or senior colleagues to speak harshly to such a novice.

I want to do a good job and get recognition from my boss. When I went down for an inspection later, I saw my boss smiling at me. I didn't think my boss was very satisfied with my performance before, but this time he was smiling at me, and I felt inexplicable.

The questioner is undoubtedly putting too much pressure on herself in this experience. Her work performance was originally acceptable, but because she is not confident, she thinks that her boss is not satisfied with her performance. There is no doubt that she is overinterpreting the situation. As for the smile from your boss, it is also very likely that you are overinterpreting it.

For example, your boss sees a colleague smiling politely and says hello to you. Or, your boss sees that you are like a mouse in front of a cat when you see him, so he smiles at you to ease the tension, but it makes you even more scared.

[Later, I misinterpreted his feelings towards me, and I am now troubled by this.]

Think about this next misunderstanding. It's likely because you kept remembering him smiling at you, kept asking yourself why he was smiling at you, and then couldn't find an answer, so you just guessed that he liked you.

4. Advice for the original poster:

1. Boost self-confidence with the self-encouragement method.

You can improve your introversion through self-encouragement. Get up at 6:30 every morning and say loudly in the mirror, "You are the best! You can do it!"

"You will find yourself a different person if you stick with it for 90 days."

2. Be sociable. Take on a part-time job.

Get a part-time job handing out flyers or working in a service industry like KFC or McDonald's. Use this time to hone your communication skills with strangers and learn from your mistakes.

3. Overcoming shyness – the shame attack exercise

Go out with your family or friends and do things you think are scary. Overcome your fears by facing them head on. You will become a brave person!

4. Get along with the opposite sex – the balance method

Morality, the law, etc. are on one side of the scale, and the actions of the opposite sex are on the other. Any behavior that violates the law or goes against morality is unacceptable.

I am confident that the original poster will get out of trouble one day. If you need specific help or guidance, communicate at any time.

It's totally normal to feel uncertain about whether other people like you or not. We all do! You might even think that your boss likes you, but you know that you're being a bit self-absorbed. It's hard to reject that kind of thinking, isn't it?

We all have our own thoughts and fantasies, as well as our own weaknesses. It's totally normal to feel afraid to go to work sometimes, especially when we're overthinking things and feeling too much fear in our hearts. And it's okay if you don't know how to get along with the opposite sex — we all have to learn and grow in that area!

It's true that getting along with the opposite sex takes a bit of experience. When we were at school, we were all in our own little worlds, and we had the chance to learn some ways of communicating with each other. It was a great way to realize that everyone has their own way of life and personality.

It's totally normal to be introverted and not like talking all the time. When you see that's how you are, it's a good reminder that you're doing just fine! You're going to be working with two male colleagues, so you'll get to know each other better as you go along.

If you can clearly understand that "the company is a place for going to work," then it'll be easier to set boundaries with other people. This way, you can focus on working hard with a clear conscience. It's something you can think about. It's also important to know what your purpose is at work. Many other people come to work to make money and achieve their dreams.

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