Am I not adapting to the demands of society, having been fired multiple times?

Work has many requirements for us, and it's up to us to figure out what they are! You can also see what requirements your current job will have, and what requirements those previous jobs had. When you find that you have been fired repeatedly, it's time to take a good look at what's going on.

Have you noticed a change in your personal ability and effort level? It's a great time to assess your situation and explore new opportunities! With so many people competing for the same position in the market, it's important to stand out and show your value. You have the power to choose your path and find the best fit for your skills and interests.

Maybe you don't really want to be fired, but something has happened that makes you feel really bad. You're worried that you might not be able to adapt to working in society, that you won't be able to make the right compromises. You're also doubting your character and professional abilities, but you can overcome these challenges!

You've tried a variety of jobs, including clothing sales, factory work, light rail security, and waiting tables. The range is impressive! While these jobs may not be the most stable, they offer flexibility and the chance to gain valuable experience. You've probably put in long hours and weekends, but it's been worth it.

If your job type is very scarce, you've got a great chance of staying employed! Employers may still take into account some things and make you aware of some areas where you can improve, rather than suddenly dismissing you. This can also explain why some doctoral graduates in society want to become urban management officers after graduation – it's a great career move!

The great thing about programming is that it's a very stable profession. You're not going to be dismissed at will. The steps involved are very tedious, but that's part of the learning process. Even if they don't think the person in the position is qualified, they will try to provide training or verbal guidance. They won't dismiss anyone so easily. You can also see that your self-confidence is constantly decreasing after repeated dismissals. Many of your debts are still accumulating like Tetris blocks. I recommend that you take a career personality test to find a job that really suits your expertise and personality. Good luck!

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Hello, question asker!

I'm not going to go over the incidents and problems you mentioned one by one, because I'm sure you've already got the picture!

I have had similar experiences, and I'm excited to share a few words!

Everyone has their own unique personality, and that's what makes the world an amazing place! There's no such thing as good or bad because everything in this wonderful world is different.

Your leader said you were proactive enough, so he advised you to quit. He was really excited about the job and wanted to make sure you were going to be able to do it well. He was also worried that your work efficiency would affect the unit's effectiveness and, subsequently, his own position.

If you were to replace that colleague with someone else, and if that person was proactive but sloppy and liked to make their own decisions without consulting their supervisor, then I believe your former leader would have advised you to dismiss that colleague as well. It's a great idea!

And then there's the job of the security guard, who was let go for being a little slow.

The security check position is a fast-pass security channel with a lot of people coming and going every day. It's a fast-paced environment, and anyone standing at that position can feel the energy! If the speed is slower, the number of people waiting to pass through the security check will increase, so it's important to keep up the great work!

Some people in a hurry rushing to work or run errands will become irritable because of the slow speed of the security staff. This is a great opportunity for you to step in and help! You can either speak to the security staff or the head of the security office directly to let them know how important it is to keep the line moving.

As the leader in charge of that point, he/she wants you to see that scene, but he/she also wants to make sure that such incidents don't happen within his/her jurisdiction. After all, they want to keep their future work looking bright! So, it's great that he/she's encouraging you to leave in time.

The waiter position is a great one in the service industry, and it offers a lot of potential for growth. While the salary may not be as high as some other positions, it's still a great way to gain experience and learn new skills. It's a chance to interact with customers, build relationships, and become a part of a vibrant community. To succeed in this role, it's important to be confident, presentable, and have excellent communication skills. Being able to speak kindly and politely, as well as being proactive and gentle, are essential qualities for this position.

A post with so many requests is a challenge for anyone, so the turnover is high — but that just means there are plenty of opportunities for new people to jump in and help out!

As consumers, we call out to the waiter a few times when we go shopping. They don't hear us and just stand there in a daze. We think, "Is that person deaf?" Then we call the waiter over and they come with a long face and speak angrily. We think, "What's wrong with him? We didn't owe him any money, so why is he so angry?" Many of us, including the original poster, have experienced this kind of situation.

Therefore, as a leader, the first thing you can do is avoid such things as early as possible. The best way to avoid problems is to replace someone who is proactive and basically meets the conditions. He/she is not targeting you, but the social requirements of this position.

Just because a job isn't a good fit for you doesn't mean you don't have a suitable job! You just need to understand your habits, hobbies, personality, etc., consider what you like and what suits you, and find the right job to bring out the best in you and your strengths.

Sand, in our shoes, we will dislike it. But if it is on a concrete road, we will love it!

If it's on a muddy road, we'll love it!

I really hope my analysis is helpful to you! Best of luck!

I love you, world!

Greetings! I extend a warm embrace from a distance to you.

It is important to be able to identify and acknowledge your inner insecurities and lack of self-acceptance. Additionally, it is beneficial to recognize and appreciate your ability to recognize and acknowledge these physical reactions in your relationships. This level of awareness is an essential first step in initiating positive change.

Many individuals experience a certain degree of apprehension and unease when confronted with novel circumstances and individuals, apprehension that often manifests as a fear of not performing adequately. The desire to be accepted and affirmed represents a fundamental psychological need inherent to human beings, one that can fulfill an individual's internal longing for a sense of belonging and security.

Indeed, the apprehension experienced when expressing thoughts and feelings in unfamiliar settings and in the presence of unfamiliar individuals can be attributed to the fear of inner self-rejection, which manifests as a concern about being rejected, disliked, or hurt by rejection. In response to this fear, an instinctual defense mechanism kicks in, prompting individuals to hide and suppress themselves deliberately in unfamiliar contexts. This phenomenon is akin to a form of self-defense observed in psychoanalysis.

The foundation of change is acceptance. Once the underlying causes of physiological reactions in unfamiliar situations with others are understood, greater acceptance and understanding of these reactions can be achieved. This allows for a more appropriate response to the underlying needs, such as the desire for affirmation, acceptance, encouragement, or praise, or the fear of rejection or disliking.

As an example, one may consider the practice of deep breathing as a means of alleviating a tense and uneasy emotional state. Another option is to inform others in advance of one's physical reactions in a humorous manner, with the aim of gaining emotional understanding, acceptance, and support.

One may also maintain a mood diary to document one's emotional state, physical and mental reactions, and changes in a timely manner. This practice can facilitate a more nuanced understanding of one's emotional state. Additionally, one may endeavor to develop social skills with the aim of enhancing one's social abilities.

When one attempts to fully accept oneself from an internal perspective, one's internal defenses are diminished, as a result of a reduced concern for the opinions and judgments of others.

It is my hope that the information I have provided will be of assistance to you.

Have a great weekend. I'll give you a big hug.

From what you've said, it's clear that this situation is making you anxious and disheartened. It's so bad that you're even doubting whether you can adapt to working in society.

Your question is pretty straightforward, and I can only give you a quick overview of my thoughts, which are based on some common scenarios.

From what you said, it seems like you've worked as a salesperson, security guard, cashier, and waiter. It seems like neither the security guard nor the cashier requires good communication skills. You may only need to say a few things, like "Hello, do you have a membership card? Here is your receipt," and so on. These fixed phrases are sufficient to meet the job requirements of a cashier. However, judging from what you said, you were asked to resign because your communication skills were not good.

I'm a bit confused here.

From what you've said, it seems like these jobs don't require a lot of skill and are pretty basic. But your current situation is the most exhausting work, and you've been fired a lot.

Is it possible that you don't want to work, but you have to? It's possible that your conflicted state of mind will make you unconsciously show that you're not suitable for this job, that you can't do this job well, and then you'll get fired.

Is there a chance you don't want to work at all? To be honest, I don't want to work either. I just want to relax.

If you're not interested in working, think about what might happen if you went to work. I think you might be a bit young.

Often, the symptoms you exhibit serve a purpose. You might want to consider this: if you go to work, what will happen to you and what will happen to your family?

Asking these kinds of questions can help you figure out what you're really worried about deep down. I'm not sure what it is exactly.

Or maybe you're afraid to do a good job. You seem confused. You're clearly working hard, so why are you afraid to do a good job?

Since your problem is pretty straightforward and there's no background to explain, I can only talk about it from some common scenarios.

For instance, you might have a colleague who seems to be completely ineffective at work. You might resent this situation, thinking, "Oh, I must not be like that; I must get my work done."

But if you really do your job well, you may feel like you're betraying him, so subconsciously you don't want to do your job well, and you express your approval of him in this way. Of course, this explanation is only a theoretical possibility and doesn't apply to your actual situation.

So, in your situation, you may want to think about what will happen if you work hard, what will happen if you don't work, what others around you think of you, what your family thinks of you, and how you see yourself. Find the reason from all of this.

You might also want to talk to a counselor.

I'm often a Buddhist and sometimes a pessimistic counselor. I love the world and I love you.

Hello! I just wanted to say that I admire your courage in facing up to and expressing your frustration.

You've been through four job rejections, which has really knocked your confidence and made you feel pretty negative. I get it, and I hope you're not letting it get you down.

In terms of employment, it may be better to first make a reasonable plan for the direction of the application selectively, because everyone has different strengths and advantages.

If you focus on your own needs and work in a targeted, fixed direction, you'll avoid a lot of uncertainty and risk. There's a saying, "Each expert has his own field of specialization."

Just a heads-up, this is all based on your actual situation.

Frustration can lead to negative emotions, so it's important to release and adjust these emotions in a timely manner.

First, you need to be aware of your emotions, identify the negative ones, and give them positive suggestions. You can tell yourself, "The current difficulties are only temporary. Failure is always the beginning of another success. A good start is half the battle. I need to let go of the burden and negative thoughts..." and so on. As long as it can restore your state and is helpful to you, it is worth using.

As long as it's helpful to you, go for it.

Secondly, talking through things with your loved ones and friends can help to relieve stress while also providing useful insights. It's a great way to approach things.

Finally, I just wanted to send you my best wishes. We all move forward by falling down and getting back up again. If you can adjust your emotions and encourage yourself, I think you'll find that a positive response is a great place to start.

Hello! I'll give you a big, warm hug from afar first!

You can feel the shadow of self-doubt and self-defeat in your heart caused by being fired one after another. But you can also feel the excitement of a new beginning!

You may even feel a deep inner inferiority, lack of confidence, and lack of acceptance of yourself between the lines. But here's the good news! You are not very aware of this part of yourself, so you will inadvertently attribute the reasons for your repeated dismissal to your own reasons, that is, your lack of excellence, your introverted personality, and your lack of expression. These factors all have a common characteristic, which is stability, and they are difficult to change through your own subjective efforts. This kind of unconscious attribution bias will to a large extent undermine a person's inner self-confidence and sense of self-worth. But here's the even better news! If it is not well perceived, it is easy to make a person fall into a state of learned helplessness, depression, helplessness, and powerlessness when encountering continuous difficulties and setbacks. But you can overcome this! You can learn to see the resources and abilities you have to cope with difficulties.

Now, try to be aware and find more comprehensive and objective reasons for your repeated dismissal. For example, perhaps your boss simply doesn't understand you. Or maybe the job isn't something you really love or are good at. It could even be that your leader is emotionally projecting. You might also lack familiarity with the new working environment and job requirements, and perhaps you didn't prepare as much as you could have. Or it could be that you lack confidence in yourself. These are things you cannot control, but you can effectively avoid through hard work, don't you think?

Finding a job you love is all about understanding yourself, your strengths, and what you're passionate about. When you know yourself well, you're more likely to find a job that's a perfect fit. And when you're passionate about your work, you're more likely to persevere through challenges and find creative solutions. Your enthusiasm and drive will not only impress your leaders and supervisors but also make your work more enjoyable!

One of the most powerful ways to gain control of your emotions is to record them in writing. Try keeping an emotional diary! This simple practice can help you experience, perceive, and feel your emotions more fully in the moment. It can also help you sort out the frustration caused by being fired, so you won't be affected by negative emotions. Plus, it's a great way to connect with your inner self and engage in a positive, constructive dialogue.

And there's more! It's also important for you to try to learn to better accept yourself and cultivate self-confidence. You can try to learn to better accept yourself by making a list of your strengths, which will enable you to see both your shortcomings and your many bright spots and advantages. You can cultivate a sense of self-worth and self-confidence by keeping a gratitude journal.

In your work and life, go out there and find more interests and passions for yourself! This is a great way to take control of more things.

I really hope that my sharing can give you some support and help!

Dear Questioner,

From your description, it appears that the incident of being fired has had a significant impact on your sense of self-confidence. You express feelings of helplessness, which I acknowledge. The following is my perspective, and I hope it will be helpful to you.

One can enumerate the reasons for one's dismissal. For example, one's introverted personality may not align with the standards of this particular position. Personality traits are neither inherently positive nor negative. As individuals with introverted personalities like ourselves are unable to meet the standards of this particular position, it is crucial to recognize that this is not a reflection of personal inadequacy, but rather a matter of not aligning with the specific requirements of the role.

Offending the leader indicates a lack of comprehension regarding the intricacies of interpersonal relationships. The organizational context and culture are distinctive across diverse business entities. When undertaking this role, it is imperative to gain a comprehensive understanding of the environmental dynamics and adapt accordingly. If one's communication skills are inadequate, it is essential to enhance them to succeed in this profession.

From the questioner's description, the majority of dismissals may be attributed to personality traits that are incompatible with the demands of the work environment. This has resulted in numerous challenges. Fundamentally, the questioner lacks sufficient self-awareness. By reflecting on their strengths and weaknesses derived from these work experiences, they can gain insight into their capabilities and identify suitable career paths. It is already challenging to be self-critical, to take risks, and to think critically about these matters. However, it is easy to think but difficult to act. Without action, all efforts are futile. For instance, if one has consistently acted rashly due to debt concerns, or if one has never identified the reasons for their job failures, then the same mistakes will likely be repeated.

It is important to note that being fired is not a disgrace; it is a common experience that many individuals face at some point in their careers. This presents an opportunity for the original poster to gain a deeper understanding of themselves and to grow. It is inevitable that one's career will not always be smooth sailing; individuals progress from being inexperienced to being experienced. However, it is essential to reflect on and learn from one's mistakes along the way. The ability to engage in self-reflection after being fired can prove to be a valuable skill in one's future career.

It is also important for the original poster to recognise that any outcome is a consequence of the initial decision. Indeed, it is often asserted that the ability to choose is more significant than the effort expended. However, in order to make well-informed decisions, it is necessary to possess the requisite capabilities. Currently, the individual in question has the option of summarising themselves, modifying their thinking patterns or preparing in advance, contemplating potential adverse outcomes and the measures that could be taken to prevent them, and developing their abilities, maintaining composure in the face of challenges and avoiding panic. This process of maturation is essential for effective decision-making.

It is recommended that the original poster adopt a more optimistic outlook and cultivate self-belief.

It is my hope that the aforementioned information will prove beneficial to the individual who posed the question.

Hello!

I read your description and felt your powerlessness. I want to comfort you!

First, look at your experiences.

1. I worked as a clothing salesperson and introduced employees to factories. My leader asked me to write a resignation report because I was introverted and not suitable for the job.

2. The light rail security guard offended his leader and was asked to resign.

3. The cashier said my communication skills weren't good enough.

4. The waiter said I wasn't proactive and I failed the trial period.

Why were you fired? Are you really an introvert?

Or are you unable to communicate well?

Secondly, think about why you feel this way.

The first is the fear of the outer self, feeling afraid and worried about certain things.

Another cause of suffering is not accepting who we are. We try to be good, work hard, and seek external approval to avoid our inner child's fears.

This fear and suffering come from a lack of self-acceptance.

In the real world, people use different terms for those in positions of power and their counterparts. Using other people's values as a standard makes us carry more baggage and feel more pressure. When we are bound by other people's values, we fall into the cycle of desires.

How can you change the situation?

The answer is to improve yourself! This is a world that respects ability, and capable people are welcome.

The internet is great for learning new things. Have you thought about taking online courses to improve yourself? For example, you could learn how to communicate with high emotional intelligence.

In the workplace, communication is key. I recommend the book The Art of Conversation. You can also watch more videos about high emotional intelligence conversation, as well as videos and books about psychology.

Try it!

Accept your imperfections and learn to change. Asking for help shows you want to change. You just need to learn new methods. You can learn anything at any age.

If you're willing to do it, you'll get results! If my reply helps, follow me.