An 8-year-old boy, his classmates always call him, but he neither responds nor looks up as if he hasn't heard.

I hope my response proves helpful to you.

From your description, it seems that your child lacks a sense of security. This manifests as a reluctance to communicate with others and nervousness when interacting with them. This is indicative of an underlying insecure attachment style. As parents, we need to provide our child with more security, encouragement, and support, and help him build inner strength. This will naturally lead to a greater ability to communicate with friends confidently.

It is important to remember that humans are social animals who thrive on love and understanding. For children, their parents' encouraging glances and affirming words are instrumental in instilling confidence. These seeds, planted by their parents, will gradually take root and sprout within the child, enabling them to develop their potential and become a more confident version of themselves. It is, therefore, essential for parents to learn to encourage and support their children. The question then becomes: how exactly do we do this?

It is essential to empathize with our children and be on the same wavelength. We must understand how our children feel, allow them to have emotions, and see and understand their emotions.

For instance, if he is reluctant to engage in conversation with others, it is important not to criticize him but rather to empathize with his feelings of apprehension, reassure him of your understanding, and inquire about the specific source of his concern. This approach can facilitate a deeper understanding of his emotional state.

2. Adopt a positive outlook. Every situation has both positive and negative aspects. To raise an optimistic child, it is essential to guide them to identify the positive aspects of any situation and encourage them to think in an optimistic manner.

For instance, when a classmate calls out to him, you can assist him in recognizing that the classmate is interested in forming a connection with him and that he is welcome. You can also encourage him to express his appreciation for the classmate, which will strengthen the relationship between them.

3. Provide unwavering support to your child. When we can accept and understand our children and give them unwavering support, believing that they can do it and allowing them to fail for the time being,

This will instill a sense of security and confidence in the child. Regardless of their personality traits, academic performance, health status, or any other factor, parents can provide their children with unconditional love and support, eliminating any potential concerns and encouraging them to pursue their goals.

4. It is important to note that children require not only verbal encouragement but also "silent" strength. In addition to promptly offering children encouragement and support, it is essential to learn to encourage and support them in non-verbal ways. At times, a parent's approving glance, a reassuring hug, a kind nod, and non-verbal encouragement such as a pat on the head or shoulder can have a more profound effect than words alone.

It is also important to be mindful of the messages we convey to our children, ensuring they are not inadvertently given negative cues such as doubtful looks or a helpless shaking of the head.

I am confident that with your encouragement and support, your child will become a confident young man who will become increasingly comfortable in social situations.

Please refer to the above for your information. Best regards,