Are college students often feeling particularly desperate?

Good day, my name is Flower.

I would like to reassure the questioner that they have thoughts and abilities. From the questioner's words, I understand their feelings of powerlessness and hopelessness, as well as their self-blame and self-negation. I can see the questioner's sadness at wanting to help but being unable to do anything. My aim is to provide the questioner with more solid strength at this moment and show them the light at the end of the tunnel.

As a university student, I often feel particularly desperate. I am indifferent about life in general and feel that I am incapable of anything in particular. I am preparing for postgraduate entrance exams, but when I am desperate, I do not want to do anything at all.

My father suffered a cerebral hemorrhage and is now paralyzed on one side. I am experiencing a high level of distress and am reluctant to confront the situation.

What are the reasons behind this indifference?

When our thoughts are dominated by negative emotions, our focus is on these rather than on positive outcomes.

It is as though we are unable to see the way forward or the light of hope, as if we are blinded by dust. At the same time, we feel as though we have tried hard, but at this moment, our efforts seem to have no effect.

From a psychological perspective, this can be attributed to a focus problem and learned helplessness. When our attention is concentrated on a single issue, it can become difficult to perceive other possibilities.

When we fail to receive positive feedback on repeated occasions, we may decide to cease our efforts.

This may be the reason for our current sense of indifference.

Some degree of growth may have occurred prematurely.

My father is unwell, and this is an unwelcome situation. We feel unhappy and powerless. Birth, aging, sickness, and death are an inherent part of life, with varying degrees of severity.

For those of us still in college, the illness of our family members appears to be accelerating our maturation process. This growth has occurred prematurely.

If the questioner is willing to give it a try, they can attempt to leverage their capacity for growth. If the questioner is not yet prepared, they should first accumulate their inner energy, and when they have the strength, they can proceed.

After reviewing the material, I would like to schedule a follow-up discussion with the original poster to identify additional steps.

Have confidence in your own abilities and judgment.

The questioner believes that everyone has their own strengths, whether it be good looks, the ability to think deeply, or psychological resilience. From the perspective of the fact that the questioner is asking a question here, I believe the questioner is an excellent contributor to this discussion.

The ability to think, a caring attitude towards family members, and a positive outlook on postgraduate entrance exam preparation are all valuable assets.

Regarding preparation for the postgraduate entrance exam:

The postgraduate entrance exam is a lengthy and challenging process. The questioner should carefully consider their motivation for pursuing a postgraduate degree.

Or are external factors, such as social and family pressures, influencing the decision? It is essential for the questioner to identify their internal motivation to take the exam.

Internal motivation allows you to affirm your current actions and demonstrates greater perseverance. If you have decided to take the postgraduate entrance exam, set a goal, establish a plan for exam preparation, define your daily objectives, start with incremental progress, and avoid excessive pressure to ensure long-term success.

For further information on postgraduate entrance exam experience, please refer to Zhihu.

It is important to maintain a healthy routine and to look forward to the future.

Additionally, the original poster stated that when they are happy, they are optimistic about the future. It is therefore important to establish a routine of going to bed and waking up early. This allows the body and mind to rest, enabling us to study, work and live better. Furthermore, it is beneficial to consider our goals and aspirations. By doing so, we can identify what we want our ideal future life to look like. Despite the challenges that life may present, there is always a positive aspect to focus on.

Finally, if you require a change of pace from your studies, you may wish to consider reading some psychology books, such as "The Power of Self-Care," "Live Your Most Optimistic Self," and "I'm Really Great."

Best of luck to the questioner! May they enjoy their university experience and be their own hero.