At 15, I have a poor relationship with my family. Why do my parents think the things I want to buy are useless?

At the age of 15, I find myself in a challenging relationship with my family. I often find myself wanting to purchase items that my parents may view as unnecessary, but that I genuinely enjoy, such as stuffed animals. I recognize that my parents have a tendency to be somewhat frugal. I have a strong interest in learning ballet, but they have reservations about me enrolling in classes, citing concerns that it might distract me from my studies. However, I believe that if I were to pursue ballet, it would help me to channel my energy in a more constructive manner. I have consistently demonstrated academic excellence.

Hello, I'm honored to have this opportunity to answer your question.

At the age of 15, children often begin to desire greater independence and the ability to make their own decisions, just as adults do. I can therefore appreciate how you might feel restricted in this regard.

From what you've said, it seems like you have your own ideas and opinions. Your good grades show that you're aware that learning is something you do for yourself.

I would love to learn ballet, and I understand that temperament is also very important for a girl.

I understand that your mother's opposition may be the biggest obstacle at the moment. How can you communicate with your parents in a way that allows you to pursue your interests without affecting your grades?

I believe this may be best approached through communication.

I would suggest that the first step is to tell your parents what you want. Then, you could tell them how you feel.

"Mom, I'm sad to see you refuse to let me learn ballet. I know you're worried that dance will affect my grades, but I really want to learn it. I'd like to try to find a way for us to make it work, if you're open to it."

Secondly, it would be helpful to try to understand the parents' needs.

It would be beneficial to find a balance between your needs and those of your parents. You can satisfy your own needs and those of your parents.

When communicating with your parents, it may be helpful to be firm about what you want to do, so that they can see that you are serious and not just paying lip service or just fighting against them.

I also believe that your academic performance will improve, which I think is something that parents are often most concerned about.

I believe that your parents love you dearly and want what is best for you, even if their primary focus is on your academic performance.

If you are considering leaving home with the money, it would be advisable to communicate with your parents and demonstrate your desire to make your own decisions. I believe that when mom and dad are aware of your genuine feelings, they will also support you.

I hope this provides some helpful insight. If you have any further questions, please feel free to follow me and I will be happy to answer them.

I can relate to what it's like to be a child going through puberty because I have a child of the same age at home.

I would like to extend my love and support to you, my child, as well as to the world.

Hello to the wonderful student who likes stuffed animals, wants to learn ballet, and has pretty good grades! I didn't see your gender specified, but I'm guessing you're a cute and well-behaved girl in the best phase of your life.

Hi, I'm Jia Jia!

First of all, I think it's a great idea to use your spare time to learn ballet instead of looking at your phone. I also understand your love for stuffed animals!

Your parents understand you, sweetie. They think buying too many stuffed animals is a waste of money and that you should stop. As for your desire to learn ballet, they won't pay for classes.

I totally get where you're coming from, but I'm not sure I fully understand the context of your conversation with them. I'm not sure about the timing, their mental state, or the tone and demeanor between you. So I'm not sure I can give you advice on the next step. What I would suggest is that you raise your request when everyone is in a good mood and the communication is harmonious. For example, when the test results come out, or after being praised by the teacher.

You've got this! All you need is a strategy to succeed.

Second, I just wanted to say that it's totally normal and encouraging for kids in their teens to gradually become more independent and mature.

However, if you don't have any experience living away from home in a dorm or on your own, I'd say it's probably best to wait. Even if your family pays for it, living alone away from home can be really tiring, and it might not be the best for your studies.

So, it's okay to have the idea, but don't worry about implementing it just yet.

Your parents are really working hard, and it's so important to remember that. Put yourself in their shoes for a moment. They live within their means, are thrifty, and save so that they can make more provisions for your future studies and for the whole family. At the same time, they can also gradually make you aware of the importance of independence. For example, after going to university, you can work part-time, work hard, save money, and use your own labor to get what you want.

Third, 15 years old is a really important age and grade in middle school. Studying is the most important thing, but I'd love to know what other interests you have outside of studying!

For example, if you can't dance ballet for the time being, you can learn other hobbies that have low entry requirements, such as music, sports, and reading. It's also a good idea to be careful about making friends and to chat with classmates who you can have fun with and share the same interests.

I'm sorry to say that at 15, it might be a bit late to start ballet, which has very high basic skill requirements.

I truly believe you are a smart child. I'm sure you'll find that enriching your mood and body will make you feel more fulfilled, smarter, and better in every way.

I'm so excited to stay in touch! You can find me on my personal public account: Fake Modest Youth (ID: qingnianJIA2020).

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