At 23, I speak with a blush, lack confidence, and dare not see people. What should I do?

Good morning, host.

I appreciate your invitation.

Blushing is a physiological phenomenon that is typically attributed to a lack of psychological resilience. Individuals who prioritize the opinions of others and are less confident in their interactions tend to experience a sense of tension or excitement, which triggers the sympathetic nervous system and the secretion of catecholamines like norepinephrine. This leads to an increase in heart rate and dilation of capillaries, which is commonly observed as blushing.

As it is a physiological reaction, it is something that everyone will experience to a certain extent. However, some individuals may be more susceptible to it than others. This can have a significant impact on one's social life. If you find yourself developing social anxiety, there are a few steps you can take to address it effectively.

1. First, adjust your mentality to accept this fact and go with the flow. I am a more sensitive system prone to blushing. Accept yourself or the current self. Do not resist, suppress, or cover it up. This is a difficult change to make in the short term. Learn to comfort yourself. I care a great deal. The other person may not even see or feel it (and in fact, most people don't care about what's on other people's faces). Even if they say, "Why are you so red?" it's out of concern, and they respond with a smile, "Oh, it's always like this. I'm used to it." Smile at other people. Don't think too much, and everything will pass.

2. We recommend that you try systematic desensitization exercises.

a. Create a list of the various situations that cause you to blush, ranking them in order of increasing intensity. Each situation should be written on a separate card, with the least embarrassing situation at the top and the most embarrassing at the bottom. The cards should then be arranged in order.

b. The method is to sit in a comfortable seat and take deep, regular breaths to relax the body. Once you have achieved a state of relaxation, take the first card from the above series and imagine the scene on it. The more realistic and vivid your imagination, the more effective the exercise will be.

Should you experience any discomfort or embarrassment, simply cease the visualization and take a deep breath to regain composure. Once you have achieved a state of relaxation, resume the visualization of the situation in question.

Should the sensation of unease and blushing resurface, cease the exercise and relax. Repeat this process until the situation depicted on the card no longer provokes an uneasy or blushing response.

d. Continue in the same way with the next scenario that causes you greater unease and embarrassment (the next card). Please note that each time you move on to the next card, you must imagine it in such a way that you no longer feel uneasy and blush when imagining it. Otherwise, you will not be able to progress to the next stage.

Once you have reached the point where you can imagine the most disturbing and blushing scene without blushing, you can then proceed with the on-site exercises, starting with the lightest sequence and gradually increasing the intensity. If you feel uneasy and blush in the scene, you should also take deep breaths to relax and calm your nerves until you stop blushing. This will then allow you to move on to the next step of the exercise.

Additionally, the aforementioned process can be practiced in real-life scenarios, in a step-by-step manner. For instance, one may begin by facing a familiar girl, then a group of familiar girls, then an unfamiliar guest, and finally, an unfamiliar group of people.

3. It is also possible to undergo surgical treatment for blushing. Should the situation be particularly serious and have a significant impact on your life, you are advised to visit your doctor.

Overall, this is not a significant issue. First, acknowledge the situation, then gradually adjust your mindset. With the assistance of behavioral exercises, you will make steady progress. Best wishes, host!

Thanks so much for the invitation! First, you were a little afraid of the girls, and then you blushed when you saw everyone, which is also a way of showing that you're feeling a little nervous around people.

You say this because of your internal inferiority complex. In fact, did you know that

People with low self-esteem are also often very narcissistic, which is totally normal!

We blush because we always think that other people don't like us and we feel that they will catch our mistakes. It can be really embarrassing, can't it?

So you become increasingly afraid of being noticed. This is totally normal! It's a sign of low self-esteem, which we all experience from time to time.

But you know what? Maybe you already know this deep down. It's possible that the girl you care about isn't paying attention to you at all.

You think everyone is looking at you, but they are all too busy with their own things to pay any attention to you. In other words, no one may have paid any attention to you when you were born.

But you feel like everyone is watching you and that you are the center of attention. This feeling of "I'm the center of attention" is actually a reverse expression of repressed narcissism.

I know it can feel like everyone is looking at you, but the truth is, maybe no one is paying any attention to you at all.

I want you to understand this truth. The next time you blush, take a deep breath and see how many people around you are actually paying attention to you.

If you're not quite as in the spotlight as you thought, there's absolutely no need to blush!

I'm so excited to hear how it goes after you give my tips a try! If you find them helpful, I'd love for you to click the follow button, give it a like, or even leave a tip. ?