Been deceived after turning 18, afraid to report to the police due to parental reprimands, and worried about being mocked.

Hello! Thanks for your question and for bringing it to us. We're happy to answer it from the following points.

First, your confusion and fear may come from the fact that you may not have had much life experience and you may demand too much of yourself. On the other hand, it may come from your parents' upbringing habits. My guess is that your parents are more controlling and critical. So, now that this has happened, you have the exciting opportunity to objectively analyze how to deal with the problem. You are afraid that your parents will find out about this. If they do, what are you most afraid of them finding out? Are you more concerned about being cheated or about not getting your money back?

If you say you were cheated, think about the impact that will have on you!

Oh boy, will your folks give you a good talking to or put the brakes on your spending? In other words, what will your parents do if they find out, and what makes you feel afraid?

You can absolutely conquer this fear and emerge victorious!

2. And guess what? The school won't know, your classmates won't know, and they certainly won't laugh at you for being stupid! We've all done something stupid at some point in our lives, and that's okay! The key is how you view the matter. Plus, you know what? Reporting to the police won't be of great use. The amount is too small, and the police will only register it, not as you think.

So, you can see that all of this is your own internal fear and entanglement. What has happened cannot be changed. But, regardless of whether the money can be recovered and what the outcome is, you can still take action! First, you can figure out the purpose of reporting the incident to the police.

Do you want the police to step in and get that 142 yuan back for you? Or do you want to see the scammer face some serious consequences?

Or is there another purpose? It would be great to know whether reporting the incident based on the objective detection method is an effective way, or whether there is a better way to try.

Hello, I'm glad I can answer your question. I hope my suggestions help.

Don't blame yourself for being deceived. Don't blame the victim. The person who should feel ashamed is the fraudster.

Second, being cheated on is common. We don't need to think that only young people will never be cheated on. Everyone has been cheated on at some point. I was cheated on too. I lost more than 7,000 yuan. I was also 18 or 19 years old. My boss talked to me about it. She had also been cheated on when she was young. She lost hundreds of yuan.

Anyone can be cheated.

Relax and deal with it reasonably.

If you want to report it to the police, you can. But the information is confidential, so you don't have to tell your parents. If you're underage, you can tell the police that you want to handle it yourself.

We must resolve this matter properly. Properly means paying attention to our health, mental health, and values.

Don't blame the victim. Don't condemn yourself or others. We need to see this clearly.

I hope you can look at this objectively and find a way to deal with it that is right for you.

I love you, world!

Hello, I can see you feel tricked and angry. You don't want to give up the money you lost.

You're very courageous and good at facing problems. You've been looking for solutions and have had good results. There are still a few customer service issues, but you're learning how to handle them.

You said you were scared your parents would scold you if you told the police. How do you usually talk to your family? It seems like you feel scared and disgusted when you think about this.

Do you feel unhappy when your parents criticize you? Are you worried that your classmates will laugh at you?

Have you been teased for being a fool?

We will have all kinds of experiences, including being cheated, stolen from, or robbed. What's important is what we learn after these things happen.

This is a minor matter. If it happened to your best friend, what would you think? When we distance ourselves, we can understand and love ourselves more.

Think about whether you need to call the police. If you usually communicate well with your family, they may be able to comfort you.

If you're not sure how they'll react, tell your parents what happened from a friend's perspective. You'll learn what happened to you and move on. You won't have similar experiences in the future. If you can, you don't have to tell your family.

This is how we grow up. We will have some uncomfortable experiences, but we will gradually mature.

Bless you.

Hello, classmate! I'm thrilled to answer your question.

I have to say, I admire your courage!

1. You didn't stay silent after being cheated. You took action! You contacted customer service to recover some of your losses.

2. When you're not sure whether you should report the matter to the police or tell your parents, you choose to seek help!

Now, let me tell you about the time my son was scammed and how he handled it.

Freshman year, he was home alone and had an interesting experience. Someone posing as a property management staff member tricked him into paying 600 yuan for a cockroach pesticide. The scammer said that the 600 yuan was for three years' worth of fees and that the follow-up pesticides could be collected from the property management office. Lacking life experience, he didn't realize he'd been tricked until he asked a classmate in the same community about it. He made the excellent decision to report the case to the police. They said the amount was too small to open a case and told him to contact the property management office. He didn't contact the property management office, but a month later he called to tell us about it. We usually get along well with our children, so we didn't scold him, but just reminded him to be more careful in the future.

He made the great decision to report the case to the police in order to recover his losses!

He didn't tell the property management because he had the same concerns as you and was afraid that people would say he was stupid. But he did the right thing!

A month later, he was finally able to tell his parents everything that had happened. He had figured out why he had been cheated at the time and what he should do if he encountered a similar situation in the future.

Let's get back to your situation.

?Because you have already recovered some of the losses, if you choose to report it to the police, you may get the same result as my child, so you can give up. The good news is that you don't have to worry about the police notifying the school so that your classmates know about it.

The great news is that you get to decide whether or not to tell your parents. You can also choose not to tell if you think they'll just give you a scolding.

The great thing about learning from a mistake is that you can avoid making the same one twice! My son has learned to be cautious since then and has even helped his classmates avoid being cheated twice!

I'm so excited to share my views with you! You can make a decision based on your own situation. I really hope this helps you!

Hello, I can understand why you're feeling scared and worried about being cheated, found out by the school, and teased by your classmates. It's a tough situation to be in. I'm here to support you, even if it's just from a distance.

First, take a deep breath and think about the best way to solve the problem.

If you're caught in a state of doubt and panic, it could lead to you handling things incorrectly.

If you're worried about being teased, remind yourself that it's not your fault. We all make mistakes!

At the end of the day, everyone has been deceived before! It's important to accept your own mistakes with an open mind.

Fear of being scolded by your parents, fear of being teased by your classmates—maybe it's your imagination, and it hasn't really happened. Or maybe your fear is related to childhood experiences. It's been said that parents are their children's first teachers. They should teach you what to do after the fact and how to solve problems when you encounter similar things, rather than scolding you for wasting money!

If they give you a hard time after the fact, just ignore them! Don't assume that your parents are always right in everything they do.

If you're worried that your school or classmates will find out, you can ask the police to keep your information confidential when you report the crime and not to share it with your teachers or school.

As a victim, you can go to a police station or call the police report number to let them know what happened. Give them as much information as you can to help them understand what happened and what you've lost.

If there's been property damage, it's also a good idea to give the police as much information as you can. This could include details about which bank accounts are involved, how the money was paid, and how much was paid. This will help the police to quickly locate the flow of funds.

Once they get a report, the police will investigate according to the relevant laws and regulations and take the appropriate action. They can get information from different sources, like surveillance videos, phone recordings, and bank info.

This info can be used to prove the victim's losses and ID the suspect's personal and property info, so the corresponding property can be recovered and seized ASAP.

Finally, you can learn the basics of fraud prevention and what to look out for through the media or on anti-fraud websites. This will help you avoid being caught out by such scams again. By raising your awareness and improving your ability to deal with scams in this way, you can avoid being caught out again.

Thanks for asking! I'm glad we met.

I can see you're worried, angry and ashamed. Let's hug and talk about it.

1. Being ridiculed

You said you're worried your school will find out and you'll be laughed at. Is that right?

It's normal to have these thoughts. Everyone wants to be accepted.

But will this happen? Society still protects victims' information and privacy.

They'll probably just remind students to avoid similar fraud and not release names. It's unclear if they'll contact your school.

They will probably only contact you to open a case. How it's resolved may also involve only contacting you. You're an adult, so you can handle it.

They may contact your family, but not your school.

You're unlikely to be ridiculed. Even if you are, it's unlikely. These are just thoughts.

2. Listen to yourself.

You want to get the money back and punish these people. But you're stopped by what you've heard.

You did nothing wrong. If you keep going, you can help others avoid being scammed and make sure the bad guys are punished.

It's hard to say if we can get back the remaining $142. We know what we wanted to do, so we know what we care about.

3. Summarize your experience.

You learn from your mistakes. The amount wasn't large, so it's still a reminder. In the future, be careful not to be too greedy.

I also think about how I should communicate with my parents and how I want them to respond to me. You can try to express your feelings and needs consistently to your family. Everything is here to help us grow and improve. Maybe this can help you or remind your parents to communicate with you better.

Experience can also help you see things differently. For example, you might find that the facts are not what you think they are when reporting to the police.

I hope this helps. Good luck!

Hello, classmate, I read your account. I think that after you discovered that you had been cheated, your proactive approach to contacting official customer service to resolve the problem shows that you have a certain awareness of self-protection and the ability to solve problems.

Please eat. I want to tell you that reporting to the police is not something to be afraid of. The purpose of reporting to the police is to punish the wicked and protect more people from being deceived. If you are worried about being scolded by your parents, you can try to communicate with them and let them know your situation and thoughts. You can also tell them that you have realized your mistake and hope to punish the wicked by reporting to the police, and at the same time learn a lesson for yourself. I believe that as long as you communicate with your parents honestly, they will understand and support you.

You also mentioned that you're worried the public security system will contact the school and tell them what you've told them. I can reassure you that won't happen, and it's also unnecessary. When you report to the police, you can ask them to keep your personal information confidential, so it won't affect your studies or life.

Finally, I want to tell you not to blame yourself or be anxious. You are not a fool or a bad person. You are just a victim. There is nothing wrong with your actions. You must believe in yourself, the law, and justice. As long as you can face problems bravely and actively seek help, you will definitely be able to get out of trouble, regain your self-respect, and let the wrongdoers be punished!

Hello! I can totally feel your conflict and helplessness through your description.

I'm a psychological counselor, and I'm thrilled to share my insights from a psychological perspective.

Your problem is: I am 18 years old but a senior high school student. I was tricked into buying a certain coffee roll for a total of 600 yuan. You are a child in adolescence, and you are also curious about the world, and you are in a stage of walking from school to society.

Once I found out it was a scam, I kept contacting the official customer service to help me solve this problem. I got my money back—358 yuan! The customer service can't get the remaining 142 yuan back, but they suggested I report it to the police. You discovered you'd been deceived and handled it well. You also learned to evaluate and discern the truth from the false in the outside world.

But I'm not going to report it to the police because I'm afraid my parents will scold me. What I'm really worried about is that the public security system will contact my school and tell them that I've been cheated. That would be awful! I'd become the "fool" that everyone talks about and would be laughed at. But I think being scolded by my parents is a trivial matter that will teach me a lesson. I really want to get the money back and punish these villains, but I'm afraid of the latter happening. What should I do now? I've got to face the facts. You are in a state of self-denial, thinking that you are stupid and afraid of external evaluation. Let's change our perception. If you can accept yourself, this is also a process of growth.

How can you help yourself adjust?

First, get to know yourself! What are your amazing character traits?

How is your relationship with your parents? I'm sure it's great! And how do you deal with conflicts and contradictions when you encounter them again?

You also dealt with it in a positive way in the description, and by being aware and analyzing it, you learned that you were not fickle and were not deceived. This is a great lesson that you can use to improve your ability to recognize others in the future!

Second, accept yourself! What are your strengths and weaknesses?

You have so many amazing strengths! You're capable, independent, and able to think for yourself. You just need to work on accepting your own shortcomings and limitations. You can do it! Be self-aware and improve yourself through learning, communication, and discussion.

Third, learn to love yourself! You want to punish the dishonest manufacturers or people severely in a fair and just way. You want to report them to the police. As long as you express your thoughts, you will be protected with security and privacy, and you may even be commended! Reporting bad things is meritorious, and this can be commended and protected.

Adolescence is an amazing time! It's when you achieve self-identity integration, become aware of your thoughts, and learn to respect your inner feelings.

The world and I love you! You can do it! Learn to love yourself, understand yourself, and accept yourself so that you can grow into a strong person inside and do what you want to do. Go for it!

Dear questioner, From your description, I can sense the complex emotions you're grappling with: regret at being duped and anger at the scammer's actions, along with a glimmer of relief at having recouped some of your losses, the hope that you can make amends with your own efforts, and the concern of being reprimanded by your parents and teachers if they discover the truth. I want to offer you a reassuring pat on the shoulder.

You did well to discover the trap in time and recover some of the losses!

I can provide some information for your reference on whether the police will accept the case and whether they will contact the parents and school to assist in the investigation.

1. Call the 12345 hotline to find out which department is in charge of such cases (not necessarily the police). The department in charge will follow up.

2. Go directly to the police station and provide the fraudster's information to the police to prevent more people from being deceived. Get the specific process and possible results of reporting the case, express your concerns, and then decide whether or not to report the case.

The above approach will verify whether reporting the case will find the school and parents' concerns. It will also allow the relevant departments or the police to pay attention to the clues of the fraudsters, which will prevent the criminals from continuing to commit crimes or even catch them and punish them.

If not, I want to know if you think making things public will alleviate your self-blame and remorse about this matter.

The school and teachers will likely reassure and protect the deceived students if the case reaches them. If you discover the scam in time and recover some of the money, making it public will have a greater warning and exemplary effect, reminding and preventing more students from being deceived.

After I said that, I want to know if you're still worried that making things public will make you look like a fool in other people's eyes. If so, I'd like to hear about any other bad experience that makes you feel this way.

You need to explore your own heart further. I am certain you will find an early and successful solution to your problem.

You have every reason to be worried in this situation. First of all, you have done a great job by recovering some of the money, which shows that you are trying to resolve the problem. Now, here are some suggestions regarding the remaining money and whether to report the crime to the police:

1. It's time to weigh the pros and cons! Think about all the amazing benefits you'll get from reporting the crime to the police. Sure, it might make the fraudster know about it, but it's also your chance to make them pay!

And the great news is that the police will usually protect the privacy of the victim.

2. **Talk to your parents**: They're your rock! They may be able to offer you support and help. They may understand your situation and help you make the best decision.

3. Know the law! It's your right to know the relevant laws and regulations, and to know that fraud is illegal. You also have the right to protect yourself from losses.

4. **Protect personal information**: It's important to make sure your personal information is safe and not disclosed to untrustworthy sources.

5. Seek legal assistance! If you decide to report the crime to the police, you can seek legal assistance to understand your rights and possible legal actions.

6. **Psychological support**: If you feel stressed or anxious about this, you can seek help from a counselor. This is a great way to get the support you need to move forward!

7. Record evidence: It's a great idea to keep all evidence related to the fraud, including chat logs, transfer records, etc. This could be really helpful when reporting to the police!

8. **School support**: The good news is that even if the school knows about it, they may be able to offer help and support instead of ridiculing you. Schools usually have procedures and resources in place to deal with these kinds of issues, so don't be afraid to reach out!

Mistakes are just part of being human! The important thing is to learn from them and take steps to make sure they don't happen again. Whatever you decide to do, make sure your safety and rights are protected.

You're a high school student and an adult, so you can decide and take responsibility for many things yourself.

First, let's look at the choice aspect. When you make a choice, it's only your perception at that moment. But your choice may not be the best one, and it may be affected by your judgment, experience, abilities, and even luck. So, different people will make different choices in the same situation, and even if they make the same choice, they'll take different paths.

If you've been deceived, it's likely because your initial choice was limited by your experience and knowledge. This is normal, and it's not your fault. Even a 60-year-old man can be deceived because of the limitations of his knowledge and perception. The good news is that you can avoid being deceived by improving your experience and knowledge. You still have a lot of time and opportunities to learn and grow seriously. Just like coming here to seek resources to help yourself, it's a good move to improve yourself.

I hope this experience helps you become a better person.

If you can accept that you're young and inexperienced, allow yourself to make mistakes, and view this as paying for your own cognitive errors, or admit that you were just greedy and accept the consequences, doesn't it feel better? When you resist admitting you're young, inexperienced, and greedy, and don't allow yourself to make mistakes or have flaws, it's like forcing yourself to be right about everything so you can avoid ridicule from your parents and classmates. You're asking to be a god, and the pain is inevitable because you can't do it.

So the only way to avoid pain is to accept yourself, allow yourself to make mistakes, and give yourself time to grow. Then the ridicule you project onto your parents and classmates, which you interpret as such, will disappear. People who truly love you will not laugh at you; they will only worry about you. People who laugh at you will also hope that you will be stupid again soon. Do you really need to care?

So, worrying about being ridiculed is just your inner inability to accept yourself coming out. You practice acceptance, and when someone laughs at you, you just smile lightly and say, "Who hasn't made a fool of themselves?" You can experience the lightness and ease after letting go of the stone that blames yourself, and experience the magnanimity of "Big deal if people laugh at me, so what?" In no time, you'll definitely be laughing about this with everyone.

Let's talk about taking responsibility for this topic. Are you particularly concerned about the outcome?

Do you want to go back to the way things were and change how this event played out? I don't think you're trying to get your money back. It seems like you want to prove that you're not stupid, or maybe you just hate bad guys and want to punish them.

If you're looking to report it to the police, that's probably your best bet. As for the concerns you have after reporting to the police, we've already gone over those. As long as you're okay with yourself, you'll be able to move forward without feeling weighed down. If you're looking to rewrite the version of this event, you'll need to accept yourself and the result. Some people who've made a mistake are unwilling to accept the result. They can move forward after paying the price for their mistake. However, if they resist, dwell on it, or even delay their own work to correct the result with a bigger mistake and a bigger price, it'll be a very tiring life.

You need to evaluate this situation. You can't change what's already happened, so you have to decide whether it's better to pay the price and stop the loss in time or continue dwelling on it, spending time and energy to get a result that's not worth it. You can ask yourself, even if the result is rewritten, is the first half of the whole thing still there?

The shrewdness and hard work of the latter have nothing to do with the deception of the former. So, whether you choose the right or the wrong path doesn't matter. It all depends on what you really care about.

Don't let unkind ridicule get the better of you. You're worth it.

Not giving up is a valuable quality, and I hope that this light of yours will not fade with the passage of time. However, this quality is also a double-edged sword. Moderation needs to be cultivated, and the standard of measurement is cost-effectiveness. Best of luck in the college entrance exam, and I hope you can get into the university of your choice.

Hello! I just wanted to give you a 360-degree hug.

From what you've said, it's clear you're feeling scared and confused. You're worried about being blamed and mocked, and you're unsure of what to do next.

First of all, if you can keep your parents in the dark, then don't let them know. You've already learned your lesson, and you don't need your parents to teach you again.

I don't think telling them will change anything. From what you've said, they won't sympathize with you or understand you. They'll just scold you. So if you don't have to, don't tell them.

You still have 142 yuan that hasn't been recovered, which could affect your life, but you should be able to cope by cutting back on your spending. Then don't let them know. Not everything needs to be known to your parents.

You didn't do anything wrong. Whether you were lured in or inexperienced, you didn't intentionally lose this money, so it's not your fault. But you can hardly get comfort from your parents, so don't tell them.

When I went to university, my cousin and I were in the same city but not the same school. He was short on cash, so he asked me to lend him some, and he asked me not to tell my aunt. I don't know how he spent it, but he knew that if he did, my aunt would give him a hard time, so he borrowed from me.

This way, you won't have to answer to your aunt.

Second, you didn't want the school to know, so you chose not to report it to the police. But honestly, I don't think the police would be able to recover it. It's a small amount, and it would be difficult to recover. Even if the police could recover it, it would take a long time.

So, you just have to accept it. This kind of situation is pretty common. There's not much you can do about it. Sometimes you just have to suffer the consequences.

If you don't report it to the police, no one else will know about it, and you can pretend it never happened. You won't be teased, and you can deal with the teasing on your own. Maybe your classmates will sympathize with you when they find out.

But it's probably best not to take the risk. You might as well just pretend it never happened. We all have things we don't want others to know, so it's probably best to keep them to yourself.

You've already learned your lesson. The confusion and fear you're feeling is the price you pay for doing something wrong. You've paid the price and learned your lesson, so you can put this matter behind you.

Third, you said you're 18. I think you're trying to say that if you're under 18, your parents can ask for the money back because you're a minor. But now that you're 18, you have to take responsibility for your actions, but you can't get the money back yourself.

As an adult, you've already taken on your fair share of responsibility in this situation. It's a learning experience that'll serve you well as you enter the real world. It's also a reminder to be more cautious in the future.

From what you've told me, it seems like you're really scared of your parents and worried about what your classmates will say. This is obviously having a big impact on you right now. I don't think this is something you can just "learn from and let go" of. It's going to be tough for you to move on from this, so I think you should speak to a counselor.

I'm a counselor who tends to be a bit pessimistic at times, but I'm also optimistic. I love the world and I love you.

I would like to extend my congratulations on your growth.

The process of maturation inevitably entails the navigation of challenges and adversity. It is, therefore, prudent to confront these obstacles at the earliest possible stage. The sum of 142 yuan may appear substantial to you at this juncture; however, investing this amount at your current stage of development can prove invaluable in terms of learning and growth.

First, subsequent to this incident, you have sought out official customer service in order to resolve the issue, which demonstrates that you remain calm in a crisis and proactively identify solutions.

Secondly, as a result of this experience, in the future, when faced with persuasive attempts to influence one's decisions, one will be better equipped to think critically and resist such attempts.

Thirdly, this incident can facilitate the development of more rational consumer habits.

The aforementioned factors—namely, a reluctance to report the incident to the police, a desire to keep it from one's parents, a wish to avoid informing the school, and a hope of recovering the money—all contribute to feelings of anxiety and distress.

First, consider the potential outcomes of reporting the incident. What are the chances of recovering the 142 yuan?

The potential consequences of reporting the matter to the police have already been considered, including the possibility of providing a series of explanations, being scolded, becoming the subject of gossip, and even being used as a negative example, which could result in further anxiety. The perceived loss outweighs the potential gain, and it is evident that a decision has already been made.

One might inquire as to the nature of the emotional state that would be experienced if the decision were made not to report the matter to the police. Would the level of anxiety and distress remain at the same level? Even if one's parents were to become aware of the situation at a later date, it would be possible to respond with a positive and reassuring message, such as, "You should be happy for me. I have already taken care of this, so you don't need to worry."

It is not your responsibility if your educational institution or fellow students become aware of the situation. You have the option to inform them that the funds have been recovered and the issue has been resolved.

It is imperative that you resume your studies without delay. The stakes are high, and the consequences of postponing your studies for 142 yuan are significant.

It is my sincere hope that you will excel in the college entrance examination, gain admission to a highly regarded university, and ultimately pursue your academic aspirations at your chosen institution.