Being ostracized and ignored by classmates, feeling increasingly upset and mentally disturbed, what should I do?

Hello! I'm sending you a warm hug from afar.

I am grateful for the opportunity to help you. I hope that my advice will provide you with the support you need. It is clear that you have experienced the pain of being excluded, ignored, isolated, and alienated by your classmates. This has led to feelings of rejection, anger, fear, and helplessness.

From your description, I cannot see what your classmates did or said to make you feel excluded and left out, and feel aggrieved and sad.

Let me be clear: what causes us pain and discomfort is not external people or events. It is how we interpret and attribute these people and events.

Our interpretation and attribution of things is rooted in our internal understanding of our own evaluation. If we have too much inferiority, lack of confidence, and self-acceptance, especially when we are not aware of this part of ourselves, we will project this part outward onto others. We believe that others will not accept our true selves either. Therefore, in the process of getting along with others, we are extremely cautious and dare not be true to ourselves in the relationship. We avoid expressing our feelings and needs truthfully, always worrying that we will be disliked, rejected, isolated, and alienated by others. Moreover, we misinterpret the attitude of others towards us. We interpret an unintentional smile from others as teasing and ridicule, when in fact the smile has nothing to do with us.

Even if your classmates are unfriendly and hurtful, you can and should try to bravely and sincerely express your true feelings and needs. This will help them realize that their behavior hurts you and that you should not be treated so casually. Your attitude of not responding to being hurt reflects your inner inferiority, lack of confidence, and lack of acceptance of yourself.

Our relationship with external greed is often a projection of our relationship with our inner self. You must fully accept yourself from the inside out, confident that you are good enough and that you deserve to be treated well by yourself and others. This is the only way to establish a harmonious and nurturing relationship with others. Especially when you feel hurt, you can bravely and honestly express your true inner feelings and needs.

You are the source of everything.

You should read "Embrace the Perfect You," "Inferiority and Transcendence," and "The Courage to Be Disliked."

I am Lily, the little ear of the Q&A Museum. The world and I love you.