Can you get happiness by getting money?

Hello, question asker!

I really admire your thinking and awareness! Having a certain amount of money can help us achieve more personal needs, gain a sense of security in life, provide a better quality of life for ourselves and our families, and live more comfortably and decently.

But why is it that when someone makes a lot of money, they end up unhappy? They even give up their existing happiness in order to fight for more money?

There's a principle in economics called the law of diminishing marginal utility. When we have more money, we're happier about it. But when we have a lot of money, having more doesn't make us any happier. This is a psychological principle, not just an economic one. We often hear people say that when they have enough money to spend, it seems to be just a number.

Money is both a form of currency that everyone recognizes as representing wealth, and a highly unified social value. Money represents strength, personal value, class, and the recognition that can be gained. We agree with this, and to a certain extent it is a reflection of our socialization. However, money is also personalized in the eyes of different people, and the way to deal with it is also very different.

Some people see money as a way of defining themselves. I once had a client who lost five houses in the stock market, but he wasn't discouraged. He planned to sell his last house and rush into the stock market for one last gamble. To him, money meant "I am a winner."

To others, money represents love for one's parents. I have a relative who saves money to an extent that is hard to understand, because to her, every penny saved is a way of showing compassion for her poor parents.

Some people are afraid of success. I have a friend whose parents were so poor that they sold blood to survive. But he took advantage of some opportunities and gained a lot of wealth.

He borrowed money from friends and acted as a guarantor for them. In recent years, the economy has been tough, and he's even had trouble keeping his own company afloat. By losing his wealth, he's showing his loyalty to his parents and his fear of getting too wealthy.

In the example you mentioned, money represents "being seen." I was valued by my parents, and they showed it by competing for more inheritance.

What does money mean to me? How would I use it in the business context?

It's something we all need to think about.

Thanks for bringing up such a great topic for reflection and discussion.

Hello, question asker. I can see you're facing some confusion, and I'm here to support you.

You inquire as to whether money necessarily brings happiness.

I believe the answer is no.

I was born into a relatively affluent family and never felt the need to worry about financial security. I would consider myself to be in a position that is neither the wealthiest nor the poorest.

However, in the period following my mother's passing, I came to understand that having an abundance of wealth may not be entirely beneficial.

After my mother passed away, I came to understand that while she was alive, she consistently worked hard to earn money, yet she was not inclined to spend it.

After her passing, I came to understand that she had left me with a considerable fortune, more than sufficient for me to manage for generations. I must admit, I am still uncertain about how to proceed with such a substantial sum of money.

It might be said that having too much money is not necessarily beneficial. There is a possibility that it could lead to spending on impulse.

For instance, I would frequently allocate a considerable amount of my resources towards beauty treatments. One year, I found myself spending to a greater extent than usual, and it came as a surprise when I realized that I had lost a significant sum of money, amounting to over 200,000 yuan.

I have a considerable amount of money, but I must admit that I'm still learning how to manage it effectively. My husband often expresses concern about my financial decisions, and I can see why. I'm aware that I could probably benefit from some guidance in this area.

Of course, some people will choose to put their money in the bank for investment purposes, allowing the money to generate further returns.

Some people may also choose to invest their money in the stock market, but it is important to have a basic understanding of investing to avoid potential missteps. My mother, for instance, had a strong belief in the investment advice she received from her bank, which suggested that stocks were a reliable investment and could be purchased with confidence. However, she did not conduct her own research and placed a great deal of trust in the advisor. Unfortunately, after her passing, I discovered that her investment account had lost over 90% of its value.

If money is indeed the key to happiness, it would be wise for us to learn how to use it wisely and spend it in the right places. One such place could be adult education classes, where we can learn a new skill or gain valuable professional knowledge.

And there's a challenge: it can be difficult to earn enough money. When our annual salary is in the five-digit range, we may find that other people's annual salaries are in the seven-digit range; when it's in the seven-digit range, we may find that other people's annual salaries are in the nine-digit range.

That's all I can think of for now.

I hope my above answers are helpful and inspiring to you. I am striving to be the answer, and I study hard every day.

I would like to take this opportunity to extend my best wishes to you all at Yixinli.

I hope my above answers are helpful and inspiring to you.

Hello, let's talk about this topic.

Can you get happiness by getting money? This is another question that makes us think, and we're grateful to the questioner for asking it.

I don't know the questioner's age, but I'd guess that most of our parents experienced a time when there was a lot less stuff around. Back then, having food to eat, clothes to wear, a home and a bed was happiness, and money was the way to achieve these things. So we were taught from an early age to study hard, get into a good university, study hard, get a good job, and the ultimate goal, as the questioner wrote, is still to make more money, because money seems to have become the only measure of happiness in life.

We're living in a time of plenty and a fast-changing world. So, how we understand and measure happiness is always changing. Maslow's hierarchy of needs says we want more than just enough to eat and wear. We need love and belonging. When we're lost, we hope someone will listen and comfort us. When we're happy, we look forward to sharing and celebrating with others.

We also need respect. When we do well at work, we want our leaders to recognize that. When our careers are down, we look to our families for support and understanding. We also need to grow as people. At different stages of life, we set small goals to experience success and life in general.

So, money isn't the only thing that makes us happy. Having a healthy body, a happy marriage, a harmonious family, a job you like, and a happy life are all sources of happiness for us.

We can all take a moment to explore our inner selves and ask ourselves what our real needs are at the moment. What do I need to be to make myself happy and bring myself happiness?

When we act in line with our needs and values, we find that life becomes more harmonious and joyful, and we become happier.

The questioner mentioned some sad stories of people who won the lottery and gained unexpected wealth, which are also common in our lives. As the saying goes, "a virtuous person can bear a heavy load," which also reminds us that in the pursuit of happiness, we must always maintain a positive and optimistic attitude and focus on our work and career, because happiness is not about how much you have, but how little you care.

It's great that the questioner can always be aware of and have their own insights in life! We can also seek help by talking to a family member or friend you trust and who has always given you positive support, or if you feel the need, you can also find a counselor to talk to and gain a deeper experience.

I'd like to suggest we read The Happiness Trap.

Hello, dear questioner! I'm Liu, your friendly listener.

Let me give you a big, warm hug first!

I think it's a great question! It's so interesting to think about whether money can actually lead to happiness. As you mentioned in your statement, if money is the only answer to happiness, it makes you wonder why there are so many sad stories in the news about money causing problems.

I think it's a great question! It's so interesting to think about whether money can actually make us happy. As you mentioned in your statement, if money is the only answer to happiness, then why are there so many sad stories about money in the real world?

This shows that you're a curious person with excellent critical thinking skills. You think and doubt, and this is a wonderful strength of yours.

First, people have always been drawn to wealth. It offers so many wonderful benefits! We often think that wealth and happiness go hand in hand. One of the main reasons people want to be wealthy is because they crave a sense of security.

In Chinese mythology, there's a popular character called the "God of Wealth." If you go to the temple, you'll find that the God of Wealth temple is extremely prosperous! We often bless others with words like "Gongxi Fa Cai" and "Caiyun Hengtong." I believe it's natural for people to seek wealth. The key is to obtain it in the right way. But I also wonder what causes us to automatically associate "wealth" with "fortune."

If you have the chance to chat with the older generation, you'll find that in those days, it was already really tough for folks to have enough to eat and warm clothes. From a social perspective, China is also working hard to find a way out of poverty. It's been a long journey, but in the past decade, we've made some great strides.

Looking back at history, during the period of reform and opening up, we also used the term "affluence." It's so interesting how the more we seek something, the more we fear the opposite of what we seek. People fear a state of poverty where they have nothing.

So, to really understand why people want to be wealthy, you also have to understand why they're afraid of being poor.

We all want to live a good life, and that often starts with wanting the things we need to survive.

Our psychology is actually a pretty strange thing, isn't it?

We always talk about balance, but let's be honest, we all have a tendency to worry about extreme poverty and crave extreme wealth. It's only natural! We want to feel safe, and we think that having more money will make us feel safer. But, as we gain more wealth, we start to feel like there's no end in sight.

As a result, over time, ideas about wealth and happiness have become more and more connected.

2. "Misfortune is the foundation of good fortune, and good fortune is the source of misfortune." Our wise ancestors taught us a long time ago that we should look at problems in more than one way. It's good to think dialectically about the relationship between money and happiness!

You made a great point in your statement! Having wealth can definitely bring affluence and open-mindedness in life. We can have more opportunities and enjoy a higher quality of life, which is wonderful! However, it may also lead to family breakdown due to the inability to protect wealth, or even family disputes over wealth. Even the fight over huge wealth resources may lead to war, which is a scary thought! There is plenty of evidence for these examples in history and even in the modern era.

We'll see that this is a "double-edged sword." That is, wealth may bring happiness, but it may also bring unhappiness. In that case, it's tough to say that wealth is the be-all and end-all of "happiness."

I just want to say that we shouldn't fall into the other extreme and think that wealth is the root of all evil. A gentleman loves wealth and obtains it in a proper way. So, we can't sneer at money, or even despise and spurn those who use proper means to obtain wealth. There's never an absolute hierarchy of concepts in the world, and many people have the desire to make their lives better.

But if we define wealth as happiness, we might lose sight of the different kinds of happiness there are.

Money can definitely bring happiness!

But money isn't the key to happiness, sweetheart.

3. Based on your question, I'd love to offer some suggestions that I think might be helpful for you. They're just my personal opinions, but I hope they're useful for you to think about.

(1) We'll gradually start to notice that we're becoming more independent. It's a big step, and it's something to be proud of! As you navigate this new phase, remember to respect your own feelings, explore your interests actively, and stand by your own value system.

(1) We'll gradually start to recognize our independence. It's so important to see yourself as worthy of respect. Take care of yourself by respecting your feelings, exploring them actively, and standing up for your own value system.

It's totally normal to feel confused when our understanding of happiness is influenced by the important people around us. And when we have different values from our parents, it can make us feel a bit lost. Sometimes, we also question ourselves because we are facing "authorities."

It's totally normal to feel confused when our values differ from those of our parents. It's like we're caught between two worlds! We might even question ourselves, wondering if we're wrong and why we have different ideas. But here's the thing: the process of developing self-awareness, establishing our own assumptions about happiness, and then carefully verifying them is a sign of our gradual intellectual maturity. It's a journey that we all go through!

This shows that our values are no longer based solely on the construction of our parents, but on our own choices, which is really great!

As you mentioned, you believe that getting into a good university is for self-growth, but your parents believe that the ultimate goal is to earn more money and that this may be the standard of happiness. Please trust your own judgment. Happiness itself is a state of personal self-awareness, a reflection of one's own evaluation of oneself, and it is subjective in nature.

As you mentioned, you believe that getting into a good university is for self-growth, but your parents believe that the ultimate goal is to earn more money and that this may be the standard of happiness. Please trust your own judgment. Happiness itself is a state of personal self-awareness, a reflection of one's own evaluation of oneself, and it is subjective in nature.

For you, happiness is all about learning new things, using your knowledge, and working hard for your ideals.

(2) It's time to define happiness for yourself! We often get it backwards, thinking that wealth is the key to happiness. But maybe it's something that can come along for the ride when we're on our way to finding true happiness within.

Our values are shaped by our personal experiences. If you feel stuck or blocked, it's totally normal! You can always reach out to a professional psychological practitioner. Talking with someone can help you gain clarity and deeper self-awareness.

We may have already realized that wealth does not equal happiness, but it's still important to establish our own cognitive system of happiness. This process can be tricky, and we may be influenced or even disturbed by various factors. Just as we may misinterpret transient pleasure as happiness, or misunderstand comparison with others as the same, happiness itself is a sustainable psychological state. This means we need to slowly find our own "coordinate system" of happiness. Self-reflection can be really helpful here, as it helps us to visualize the subconscious and see what our inner desires are and what is hindering us. With a little exploration, I'm sure the fog surrounding happiness will gradually disappear.

I truly believe that you will find happiness.

(3) I really encourage you to try to make yourself a happy person and see the strength within yourself.

We all have our own ideas about what happiness is, but one thing we can all agree on is that happiness is a key topic in positive psychology. And it's something we've all been exploring for a long time! If you want to be happy, it's important to tap into your inner potential and give yourself lots of positive feedback.

It takes courage to ask a question, and you have this courage, which is so admirable. This also creates a wonderful opportunity for us to become happy people. If you have the chance, I highly recommend reading some books on positive psychology. They can be so helpful!

That's all I can say for now!

I'm so grateful you took the time to read this!

I wish you all the best!

Hi, I'm a listening therapist at Yixinli.

Please, don't hesitate to reach out to me for a chat!

Good morning, I'm listening coach Wang Lingfeng, and I'm pleased to discuss the relationship between money and happiness with you. Your question indicates that you are a reflective individual and that financial matters have caused you some concern.

Money can satisfy our material desires and help us achieve some of our life aspirations. However, having money does not guarantee happiness.

Maslow's hierarchy of needs classifies human needs into five levels, from low to high: physiological needs (food and clothing), safety needs (job security), social needs (friendship), respect, and self-fulfillment. Money can satisfy the lowest level of physiological needs and achieve safety needs. However, it cannot directly provide friendship, love, respect, or self-fulfillment. Therefore, while money can contribute to a rich life, it is not a guarantee of happiness.

You stated that the primary objective of pursuing an education is to enhance one's earning potential. I respectfully disagree. While a degree can undoubtedly facilitate access to more lucrative employment opportunities and higher earnings, this is not the ultimate objective. The primary reason for investing in education is to not only meet our basic financial needs but also to gain social respect and achieve self-worth.

Furthermore, everything in the world has two sides: good and bad. This includes money. It has the potential to provide affluence and a worry-free life, but it can also lead to a lack of motivation and even cause problems due to wealth. Therefore, I believe there is no direct correlation between money and happiness. Having money does not guarantee happiness.

I am a listening coach, Wang Lingfeng, and I am pleased to have this opportunity to discuss the relationship between money and happiness with you.

I would like to take this opportunity to express my gratitude to the world and to express my love for you.

Your inquiry is profound and pertains to a topic that is often misunderstood.

First and foremost, money can facilitate material abundance and enhance the range of available choices, which is of significant consequence. However, it is erroneous to assume that happiness is wholly contingent on financial resources.

Happiness is an internal emotional state that arises from one's attitude towards life, care for others, self-acceptance, and the sense of personal value that is derived from these factors.

The relationship between money and happiness is complex and multifaceted.

Firstly, the relationship between the two is that money can provide a material foundation for happiness to a certain extent. With sufficient financial resources, individuals can meet their basic needs, such as food, housing, and education. The fulfilment of these needs is an important source of happiness.

Furthermore, money can facilitate access to a greater range of options and prospects, including travel and entertainment, which can enhance one's overall sense of well-being.

Nevertheless, there is a clear distinction between money and happiness. Money is a material resource that can be used to assess wealth and economic strength, yet it cannot be directly equated with happiness.

❗Happiness is an inner feeling that arises from a sense of love for life, care for others, self-identity, and the satisfaction gained from realizing one's personal value. This inner feeling cannot be quantified in monetary terms.

It is also important to recognize that financial resources do not always lead to happiness. In some instances, an excessive focus on accumulating wealth may even result in a loss of well-being.

When money is regarded as the sole objective in life, other significant aspects may be overlooked, such as family, friendship, love, and personal spiritual pursuits. Consequently, despite possessing substantial wealth, an individual may not experience genuine happiness.

Therefore, there is both a connection and a difference between money and happiness. It is imperative that we adopt a rational perspective on the role of money, both in terms of utilizing it to enhance our lives and in avoiding excessive pursuit, which could potentially lead to the loss of happiness.

It is of greater importance to direct one's attention to one's internal emotional state, cultivate a positive outlook on life, and pursue authentic happiness.

Hello. From what you've said, it seems like you're a bit confused about the relationship between money and happiness. I'll try to explain it from my perspective.

Let me be clear: money doesn't just guarantee a comfortable life and freedom of thought. It also means you belong to a particular class. For the upper classes and the best resources, wealth is your ticket, and you must have wealth to have these.

Some studies have shown that there's a relationship between money and happiness. It's called the marginal effect theory in economics. Basically, it says that the ratio of the incremental amount of money to the incremental amount of happiness is gradually decreasing.

For instance, when your wealth goes from 100,000 to 1 million, your happiness level goes up more than when your wealth goes from 1 million to 1.9 million. So, it can be said that being rich doesn't necessarily make you happy.

I think that for chaebol families like the one mentioned in the question, their wealth is extremely large. For them, the purpose of wealth is not the use of money, but more of a kind of number that needs to be manipulated. By manipulating the numbers, they can protect the status of the family and pass on the spirit of the previous generation. They also want to achieve the goal of self-realization at the highest level in Maslow's hierarchy, as well as achieve the goal of moving towards the pinnacle of power and the society of wealthy celebrities. They use money to exchange for opportunities and power, just like ancient emperors. They want to pass on everything they have struggled for to the next generation and fight to maintain a strong competitive advantage for the next generation. After all, no one wants their descendants to lag behind others.

Their idea of happiness should be their own good fortune, peace and prosperity, and being admired by the world and recognized by everyone. Money is just a means to an end. Many wealthy people do charity work, but it's not because they feel they have too much money to give it away. They are not looking for the wine, but rather the fame and fortune. They value their influence in society, and influence and traffic itself can bring many economic benefits. Charity can be a good way to make a name for yourself, and it can also make your family business better known to the world, attracting more talent to work for them and pay. Not to mention that some people may have made false accounts, and the money has not actually been donated, but they have gained fame.

The excitement after winning the lottery can easily lead people to make the wrong decisions. I've heard that if such a good thing really happens, the best way is to immediately deposit the money in the bank and decide about the money in 2-3 months (although I don't think this is necessarily appropriate, after all, with such a large principal, who will bear the security risks). For example, if someone with a total asset of 100,000 wins a prize of 10 million:

It's possible that he'll want to live the life he's always wanted and use money to fill the emptiness and lack in his heart. Their trauma template will prompt them to spend recklessly, and they'll eventually use up all their wealth. This is a matter of mentality.

Some people may think about investing, but then fail because they lack the knowledge and insight to support their investment. This is a problem of thinking.

Mixing these two things can cause behavioral issues.

I think you can refer to the financial intelligence psychology class taught by the head of the One Psychology platform at the end of the article. If you progress in your mindset, thinking, and behavior, you'll be able to better control how you spend your money. I wish you wealth freedom!

I'm honored to answer your question, and I'm confident my response will be helpful.

A gentleman is guided by righteousness, while a scoundrel is guided by profit.

Confucius was clear: profit should be subordinate to righteousness.

"Why do wealthy families fight among themselves over inheritance and succession rights?"

The family brother mentioned here is undoubtedly against "righteousness." Realizing this is the key to happiness.

Money is not everything, but it is important.

In the book Little Dog Money, the author introduces a concept called the "donut theory."

The circle represents money and everything we can buy. The hole represents a person's inner self, which we cannot see.

If you remove the ring of the doughnut, you will see that without that ring, there is no hole. This means that without external conditions, internal conditions cannot be manifested.

To be happy, you must cultivate both external material things and internal character.

Be happy when you're poor and courteous when you're rich.

You can be poor and enjoy the present. You can be rich and continue to improve your character. At every stage of life, you can have the attitude of "living in the present moment," and you will be happy.

Happiness is not a laurel wreath picked at the top of a mountain.

Happiness is the little blessings of life collected along the way.

You must constantly improve yourself and never forget your original intention.

When you get wealth, take it and don't let go.

The world will be a better place because of your efforts, and so will you.

That's all I have to say. Best wishes. The world and I love you.

Hello, I'm Jane! From what you've told me, it seems like you're feeling a bit confused.

We're going to chat about the connection between money and happiness.

I'd love to hear your thoughts on the relationship between money and yourself.

I think this is a really important topic because how we think about money and ourselves actually affects how we feel about it and our happiness.

I hope you're wondering why I say that!

We all know that happiness is closely related to the wealth and desires we actually have. As the saying goes, people are the embodiment of desire, and money often represents one's own desires, both spiritual and material.

You talk about the purpose of going to college is to make more money, but you can't keep the wealth if it falls from the sky. We all know that wealthy families fall apart over money. Here you can see that your attitude towards money is negative, fearful, and confused. You think that getting more money is the goal of our lives, but money makes us tired and empty. So you will think about whether getting money is the goal and then happiness.

We often hear our family members say that money cannot be earned forever and that we must take care of our health. Although we hear this often, we may not really listen to it. The meaning of the saying "money cannot be earned forever" is that our desire for money can never be satisfied, while our health is consumed day by day.

There's another saying that money isn't everything, but without it, nothing is possible. This shows just how important money is! In today's world, money is like a foothold. In Maslow's theory of needs, our lives must first meet our basic survival needs, like having food and clothing. Money can help us do that!

Money isn't everything, and it can't fulfill our deepest spiritual needs.

So, when you think about your relationship with money, you're really thinking about your attitude towards money, the actions you take, and whether you have a good understanding of your own financial situation.

Once we've taken care of the basics, it's time to start thinking about our spiritual needs. We all have a spiritual side to us, and it's there that we find meaning and purpose. So, to fill that emptiness, we need to explore and discover it through our thoughts. This is what we often refer to as looking inward.

If you're hoping to find happiness by getting a steady flow of money, it's important to remember that this is really just a way of seeking happiness externally. This emptiness can't be filled because you're trying to heal your mental wounds through money, which unfortunately won't work. What you really need to do is free your mind through thinking, reading, and growing, and happiness will naturally start to emerge over time.

So, you might be wondering: what does money have to do with happiness?

It's true! Money can even reflect your own energy state. We all use money as an investment, so it's important to think about where you spend it.

People with a high sense of well-being have energy in their money too! They spend it on things that boost their energy, such as improving their learning skills, cultivating hobbies, etc. They can feel a sense of achievement from these investments! They can feel their own value, and this investment pays off. It can also be said that they choose to let their money work for them.

We like to call this approach "living money."

People with low happiness levels often find themselves hoarding money, only spending what they earn, and struggling to spend money wisely. This can lead to a lot of stress and fatigue, and it can be hard to feel the benefits of money. Sometimes, people believe that having more money will bring them a sense of security, but this isn't always the case. They might feel stuck in a rut, and it can be tough to feel happy when you're in that situation.

We like to call this approach "dead money."

So, it's all about how you make money, how you spend it, and how you view it. That's how the relationship between money and happiness works!

I really hope my answer is helpful to you!

Let's share the happiness together! ??

Let's dive into three fascinating questions!

So, can we obtain happiness by obtaining money?

In fact, everyone will have a different answer to this question. And that's a great thing! Because everyone's pursuits are different, if our own pursuit of happiness is equivalent to getting rich, then we will be happy when we have money. But if our pursuit of happiness is equivalent to a harmonious family, then we will be happy when our parents are affectionate and our family is healthy.

For example, if happiness is equated with having a confidant, then we can also be happy when we are with good friends and can talk about everything!

The great news is that there is no necessary relationship between obtaining money and being happy! The fundamental question is: What does each person want? And the good news is that getting what you want may be the first key to happiness!

The relationship between happiness and money is related to each person's understanding of money and happiness. And it's so interesting how this works! Happiness and money are not related in themselves.

Second, I know that enough money can make a person's life rich and their thinking open. It's true that I've also seen many stories of people suddenly winning the lottery and gaining sudden wealth. But that's not the end of the story! They often lose their family and home, but they gain so much more in return.

(The reason why people who are poor cannot be happy even if they become rich)

It's because most ordinary people are not rich, or rather, they have no money. And when we have no money, our pursuit is simple: to eat well and wear warm clothes, to eat the delicacies we want, to wear the clothes we want, to have the things we want. All these things require financial support, so our pursuit, or the feeling of happiness and well-being that can make me feel happy, can only be obtained with money.

So when we don't have any money, we think or believe that having money can bring us happiness! After all, having money can satisfy all of our needs because at this stage, all of our needs still require financial support.

But when we have money, our pursuits will be different. We'll finally have the freedom to eat whatever we want and wear whatever clothes we want. Then what we want will be different, and we'll want something else that may not be an object.

Not everything can be bought with money, so money is not as important. Because money cannot help me get what I want, I get to choose to be happy instead!

3. If having money can bring happiness, then why do wealthy families fight among themselves over inheritance and succession rights?

(Why aren't you happy when you have money? What a contradiction!)

It's all a matter of perspective!

The perspective from which we consider this issue is based on the perspective that we do not have money, or not enough money. Therefore, we think that having money can definitely lead to happiness, because it can solve many troubles in life, or even all of them!

So, why do people who have enough money still feel dissatisfied, and why can't they resolve so many conflicts? Well, it's because from our perspective, we think money can solve all problems, whether it's clothing, food, housing, transportation, illness, death, or anything else!

And there's another perspective: that of people who are rich enough!

What an amazing difference there is between what they pursue and what we imagine! And it's so fascinating to consider what the rich's perspective is and what they want.

So the things they argue about, or want to obtain and possess, will be different from what we imagine, and their points of conflict will also be unimaginable to us. They will be problems that they cannot solve at the moment, but they will find solutions!

Just like the emperors of old, he already has extreme wealth and power. But they still have a lot of conflicts and unhappiness because what they may be pursuing is no longer status and money, such as immortality. This means they will have more demands that are different from the common people, which is an exciting opportunity for them to explore their unique desires and find new sources of happiness!

So, it's important to be aware of these things and to remember that contentment is another key to happiness!

Indeed, this topic has been previously discussed with colleagues and peers: does the possession of wealth and social status necessarily result in the attainment of success?

The concept of success is multifaceted and encompasses both financial gain and social status, regardless of the means by which this success is achieved. In today's society, many individuals are willing to engage in any means necessary to attain fame and wealth.

For individuals who strive for financial gain and social status, upon attaining these objectives, they often discover that they are emotionally depleted and unable to experience even the most basic forms of joy. Why do a considerable number of individuals who have achieved considerable success in their careers choose to take their own lives in middle age?

It is precisely because they recognize that financial gain and social status are not the primary objectives in life. Regardless of one's level of success, there are always aspects of life that are less than satisfactory and a sense of helplessness.

It is not possible to determine whether this success is beneficial or detrimental, or whether it is worthwhile to pursue. It can be stated, however, that success in itself does not determine the quality of one's life.

The relationship between money and happiness is complex and multidimensional.

While money can provide for basic necessities, security, freedom, and additional opportunities for choice, it is not a guarantee of happiness. People often pursue money because they believe it is a symbol of success and happiness. However, this belief can result in an overemphasis on money and a neglect of other important aspects of life, which can lead to feelings of regret.

The following are some thoughts on the relationship between money and happiness.

First, it is essential to be aware of the marginal utility of money. Studies have demonstrated that beyond a certain threshold, an increase in income has a limited effect on happiness. Consequently, the impact of money on personal happiness will gradually diminish beyond this threshold.

Furthermore, the manner in which money is allocated can influence its capacity to enhance happiness. For instance, expenditures directed towards familial, educational, health-related, and personal growth endeavors are more likely to elicit satisfaction, whereas investments solely in material consumption may not necessarily foster long-term happiness.

With regard to the power struggles depicted in Korean dramas, it is evident that money can influence relationships, including those within the family, friendships, and social status. In affluent families, disputes over inheritance and succession rights can result in tension and conflict, which illustrates that money can also be a contributing factor in the deterioration of relationships.

Furthermore, the relationship between money and happiness is contingent upon one's personal values and life goals. If an individual's personal values are oriented towards inner satisfaction, such as personal achievement, interpersonal relationships, and creative work, then money may not be the primary source of happiness.

Money management and mindset: The manner in which money is managed and perceived is also of consequence. Even those who possess considerable wealth may encounter financial difficulties and even lose their wealth if they lack proficiency in money management and a robust psychological disposition.

For example, empirical evidence suggests that the majority of individuals who win the lottery experience a significant decline in their financial well-being within a few years.

The relationship between money and happiness is complex. Happiness is a multifaceted experience that encompasses mental health, emotional fulfillment, social connections, and personal achievement. Money is only one factor, and it is essential to maintain a balance between it and other aspects of life.

Consequently, parents who encourage their children to study diligently and gain admission to a reputable university may be driven by a concern for their offspring's future economic stability and security. Nevertheless, personal growth, the cultivation of interests and skills, the formation of relationships, and the pursuit of meaningful objectives are also crucial aspects of education and life.

Happiness is a composite outcome that is contingent upon a multitude of factors, including one's ability to effectively balance the various aspects of their lives.

The questioner: The present is good! Be grateful.

You've thought about money and happiness. Let's talk.

1. Understand parents' views.

The generation that grew up in their parents' era experienced material scarcity. Many of them did not study much before starting a family. They have seen the impact of education on a person.

They want their children to have a better future than they did. They think that going to university will guarantee a stable future and a good job.

After that, life was easy, and having a family was a natural thing. So they would have this view, and would always tell you to study hard, not to think about anything else, and to get into a good university in the future.

2. Money

You said that getting into a good university was for personal growth, but the goal was still to make more money. I think this is also because of your parents' views.

Parents grew up with little money. In those days, without money you could not survive.

They think money is important.

That's why you get into a good university: to earn more money.

Having a lot of wealth makes a person's life better. They have more choices and opportunities to improve their knowledge and do more of the things they want to do.

If virtue is not in place, disaster will strike. This means that no matter how much wealth a person has, it will not keep them happy if they lack virtue.

He can't keep the wealth because his virtues aren't enough. You described this in stories of lottery winners and feuds among wealthy families.

If he has the right virtues, he can let wealth create more wealth for him.

Money and happiness are not completely unrelated. But money is not the main part of happiness.

3. Happiness

Many people who have wealth donate it and find a secluded place to live. Money doesn't determine happiness.

Money can be convenient, but it doesn't determine happiness.

What is happiness? How do you define it?

You're asking what brings happiness. Money doesn't always do it. Everyone has a different idea of happiness.

My answer is different from what you think. Think about what kind of you you would be happy.

The current social climate may make you think that freedom means having a lot of money and things. I don't know how you identify with such a display.

Some people use external material things to hide their internal lack. It's like someone who appears to be extraverted but is vulnerable.

The more a person seeks to express themselves, the more they lack. His inner world projects his outer self.

Money is just an external pursuit. I'm not saying money is bad, but when you're rich inside, wealth will come to you.

Happiness is a state of mind. It's natural, peaceful, relaxed, and contented. It's not easily affected by the outside world.

You know what you want, you can satisfy yourself, and you know what you want to do. External people and things are just a kind of help for you.

We live in this world and need some things. But once we are happy inside, things outside don't affect us.

In that state, we enjoy the present, life, and experiences. We are grateful for external people and things without being attached to them.

I don't know how you define happiness. Join the discussion!

I hope this helps. I wish you happiness!

Hello, questioner! Your question is a topic well worth exploring, and I can sense your confusion from it.

First, our attitude towards money and the happiness it can bring is a complex and multi-dimensional topic. The key is that having a positive or negative attitude significantly impacts our happiness with money.

People with a positive attitude see the positive effects of money more easily. They see money as a tool to achieve goals, improve their quality of life, enjoy life, and help others.

This optimistic perspective allows them to make the most of their financial resources and create more happiness and satisfaction. They invest in personal growth, health, education, and social activities, which lead to long-term happiness and satisfaction.

People with a negative attitude are more likely to see money as a burden or a source of stress. They worry about losing money, are concerned about financial instability, and are overly cautious with money.

This negative emotion and psychological burden will prevent them from fully enjoying the benefits of money and may even lead to negative emotions such as anxiety and depression.

Furthermore, people's attitudes towards money are influenced by a variety of factors, including cultural background, values, education, and social experience. It is therefore incorrect to equate money with happiness. Instead, we must consider the combined impact of personal attitudes and the external environment.

It is indisputable that people with a positive attitude are more likely to make the most of their financial resources and experience greater happiness and satisfaction. Conversely, people with a negative attitude may not fully enjoy the benefits of money and may even experience negative emotions.

It is also important to understand that money can satisfy people's basic material needs, such as food, shelter, and clothing, and improve the quality of life. However, it is clear that money has a limited effect on the spiritual level.

Spiritual emptiness is the result of a longing for self-fulfillment, emotional connection, meaning, and value. Money cannot fulfill these needs.

Money may bring temporary happiness or satisfaction, but it is not the answer to the feeling of emptiness in the heart. It cannot replace true emotional connections, self-identity, or life goals.

Furthermore, relying on money to fill spiritual emptiness inevitably leads to a range of problems. It traps people in a never-ending pursuit of material things while neglecting spiritual growth and inner needs.

This pursuit often brings short-term happiness and long-term emptiness, and it can even trigger psychological problems and interpersonal tensions.

To fill the spiritual void, you must pay attention to your inner world and find things that bring you satisfaction and accomplishment. Build deep interpersonal relationships, pursue your personal interests and hobbies, participate in meaningful social activities, and find inner peace and tranquility.

People can enrich their spiritual lives and find true happiness and satisfaction by doing this.

Money cannot fill a spiritual void because it cannot replace people's true needs and desires. To truly fill a spiritual void, you must pay attention to your inner world and find things that are truly meaningful.

I am a listening therapist, Deng Hong, and I can help you. Every voice in your heart is worth listening to. Talk to me.

Hello, I'm Zeyu, and I'm thrilled to be here!

"Can you get happiness by getting money?" The answer is a resounding "no!" Money and happiness are not directly related. Some studies have found that the happiness of lottery winners drops sharply in the year after they win, but it eventually returns to normal.

One of the most common things we hear in life is "study hard and get into a good university." For parents, getting into a good university means a change in social class, and escaping their current social class brings them a strong sense of happiness. They feel a strong sense of happiness when their children become successful and capable, and can make a lot of money. As the questioner said, "Getting into a good university is for personal growth," and making more money is actually a reflection of the value of studying.

Sometimes, reading and making money can be one and the same! It all depends on the situation and the individual's pursuits and goals.

When it comes to money, it's all about what you value and how you feel about it. Everyone's perspective is different, and that's what makes it so exciting! Some people are happy with a modest income and enjoy simple pleasures like eating and wearing warm clothes. But for others, being wealthy and influential is the ultimate goal. Some people are so driven by ambition that they're willing to take risks to achieve wealth, and that's okay! We can't say who's right or wrong because it's a personal choice.

"If having money can bring happiness, then why are there feuds among wealthy families over inheritance and succession rights?" Money is better for most people, and the bottom line that money can carry is different for each person, so how to choose depends on that person's moral bottom line and values.

Money doesn't necessarily bring happiness, but it can certainly help you find it! Even if you're not rolling in cash, you can still be happy. But once you lose your sense of happiness, money can become a symbol and a representation.

Wealthy families are often torn apart by brothers fighting over inheritance and succession rights. The focus of the struggle is nominally material things like money, but in reality it is the rights and status derived from money and the various personal desires and greed attached to it. The nature of money is determined by people, and the relationship between happiness and money is also determined by ourselves. This is an exciting time to explore the nature of money and the relationship between happiness and money!

Hello! This is a question that demands your attention.

Let me be clear: money does not necessarily bring happiness. What it does do is provide more possibilities and opportunities.

Wealth may provide material satisfaction, but it does not guarantee inner happiness and contentment.

1. My parents always told me to study hard and get into a good university. I originally thought that getting into a good university was for personal growth, but I quickly realized that the ultimate goal was still to earn more money.

First of all, studying hard and getting into a good university is undoubtedly for personal growth. There's no doubt about it. Systematic theoretical knowledge, stronger comprehension ability, and a foundation of academic qualifications are all growth that comes from studying. With this growth and these results, we can have more opportunities to choose after entering the workplace, so that we can have a stronger ability to make money. There is a certain causal relationship between these. Looking at the process and also the results may give us a greater sense of meaning and value.

This description is misleading. Equating "studying hard and getting into a good university" with "making more money" ignores the beauty and value of the process. Making money is also meaningful and enjoyable in itself.

I believe that making money is about more than just providing financial stability and security. Having enough money to meet basic needs such as housing, food, and healthcare is essential for a sense of security and an improved quality of life.

Money gives us more choices and opportunities for ourselves and our families. We can pursue our interests and dreams, like learning to play a musical instrument, setting up our children's education, or investing in our future.

The process of earning money is also a source of my self-realization and sense of accomplishment. I will gain the recognition and respect of my family, colleagues, and friends through the success of my career, and I will feel my own value and ability.

2. The feuds in the chaebol families are undoubtedly the result of the complexity of human nature and the combined effects of various factors. Money can undoubtedly trigger power struggles, conflicts of interest, and interpersonal tensions.

We can and should look at the relationship between wealth and happiness dialectically. The disputes in these wealthy families are not caused by wealth itself, but by personal values, family dynamics, social and cultural backgrounds, etc.

3. I recommend the following books to help us establish a correct attitude towards money and understand the dialectical relationship between money and happiness:

"Puppy Money": The author uses a lively financial fairy tale to tell the story of how to start controlling money and how to invest and manage it.

The Path to Financial Freedom: This book is for young people and introduces the four pillars of wealth: dreams, goals, values, and strategies. It guides readers in transforming their financial concepts and using effective investment and financial management strategies to achieve financial freedom while ensuring the safety of their finances. The author is clear that you should "start saving money now."

"Making Friends with Money from an Early Age" is an invaluable resource for anyone looking to gain a deeper understanding of financial matters. The author draws upon his extensive experience in investing and studying money to provide readers with a comprehensive guide to money management. The book covers a range of essential topics, including the meaning and role of money, strategies for earning income, and the dual nature of money. Its straightforward and accessible style makes it ideal for parents and children to read together.

Fourth, happiness is a comprehensive concept that depends on more than just material wealth. It also encompasses multiple aspects such as health, interpersonal relationships, personal growth, meaning, and purpose. Everyone has a different definition of happiness and pursues happiness in different ways.

Read these books to improve your sense of happiness:

The Way to Happiness: The author, Tyler Ben-Shahar, categorically states that to be happy, we must alter our misconceptions about happiness and embrace a more accurate understanding.

In his book, the author Tyler Ben-Shahar confidently proposes the concept of "Happiness 2.0" to help readers understand the true meaning of happiness and how to find happiness in an imperfect life.

"Be the Most Optimistic Version of Yourself": Author Martin Seligman presents a revolutionary new attitude towards life and a groundbreaking psychological model to help you boost your mood and enhance your sense of well-being.

These books provide a comprehensive exploration of the nature and attainment of happiness from a variety of perspectives. They offer a valuable opportunity to gain a deeper understanding of happiness and to take positive actions to enhance your sense of well-being.

It is acknowledged that attending a reputable institution of higher learning may facilitate the attainment of a more lucrative position. This rationale is indeed compelling. The pursuit of material independence is a universal aspiration.

I concur with your assertion that the pursuit of wealth, in and of itself, does not lead to increased happiness. Instead, it can foster conflict and animosity between siblings, resulting in disputes over family assets and authority, emotional estrangement, resentment, diminished trust, and suspicion.

It can be reasonably deduced that the aforementioned factors contribute to the aspiration for a happy life that is not only financially secure, but also spiritually rich, with the freedom of time, a sense of control over work, room to develop our talents, and a position and dignity that is recognized by others.

These sentiments are intrinsic to the experience of pursuing higher education. It is not merely a culminating point, but also a pivotal juncture.

Furthermore, even if we are required to work hard and experience challenges throughout our lives, as long as we embrace a philosophy of living each day to the fullest, cultivate ambitious goals, and demonstrate a sense of responsibility, we will not experience feelings of regret or a sense of wasted effort or remorse.

As long as one has a group of friends, one will experience a sense of lightness and love in one's heart. One will have allies and partners, and one will receive quiet encouragement, a towel to wipe away perspiration, and a cup of warm water. One will feel satisfied, grateful, and happy.

In conclusion, it can be argued that there are numerous aspects of life that cannot be purchased with money.

Hello!

Interesting question.

When I saw this question, I thought of a cute, reflective person who likes to observe life.

You're right.

Parents often say studying is important because of money.

It's important to get into a good university.

It's important to have a good job.

As we grow, our experiences show us that this isn't true.

It's good you have these doubts.

You're thinking.

Many people lack this quality.

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In response to your question, I want to tell you a secret about how to view the world.

If you can't see through a contradiction, you need to change your perspective.

A person's happiness depends on their beliefs about money.

For example:

Some people are afraid of money.

They feel that not having money is miserable. They think they will be helpless in old age, bullied, unable to buy things they like, and unable to seek medical treatment.

When they don't have money, they panic and get anxious.

When they have money, they panic and feel anxious because they're afraid of losing it.

Some people think money is a status symbol.

TA thinks money is important for dignity and respect.

This is shame and lack, feeling bad and incapable.

How can someone who values money over dignity be happy?

When you don't have money, you can't say anything.

When you have money, there are always people who have more. Some people look down on you and say, "It's just a few bucks." There are a lot of these people.

How much money is needed for happiness?

Second,

Happiness has little to do with money.

Many people compare life to an amusement park. Money is your ticket or start-up capital.

But having fun at this playground also depends on other things.

Do you like the activities?

Are your friends happy?

Is this playground safe?

This is my answer. I hope it inspires you.

You started to question some common views after university, like "money buys happiness." This shows you think for yourself, take responsibility, don't believe blindly, and look at problems dialectically.

Marx said, "The material foundation determines the superstructure." This shows that economic construction is important. But as society develops, people seem to forget that our goal is to build the superstructure!

A spiritual civilization built on a material foundation can only develop and last. Money alone doesn't make you happy.

Many parents and children are blinded by the desire to earn money. They go to any lengths to do so, but in the end, they lose their wealth due to disputes with others.

The saying "a virtuous person can bear heavy burdens" shows that a good character is even more important than wealth.

Do you understand?

The world is not just about bad things in rich families. There are also good things, like teachers from Zhejiang University who have been looking for work for 11 years to support poor students.

Money is just a tool. You can use it to buy food and shelter, but not happiness. Happiness is not a physical object. You can't buy it or sell it. Just like a fortune teller, they can only tell fortunes about wealth and poverty, not about happiness.

How do you find happiness?

We are all new to this planet. Even though we may not understand what historical figures went through, they can still inspire us.

1- Wang Yangming's childhood ambition

When Wang Yangming was a child, he asked his teacher, "What is the most important thing in the world?" The teacher laughed and said, "To study hard and pass the imperial examinations."

"In my opinion, the most important thing in the world is to become a sage." A sentence he spent his entire life fulfilling.

2- Su Shi's rise and fall

Su Shi was a talented young man who came second in the imperial examinations. Ouyang Xiu recommended him and he became famous overnight.

This was the start of a winner's life.

He met the "Wang Anshi Reforms." He thought they couldn't be done too fast, but he couldn't change things. He had to go to Hangzhou and become a magistrate. Was his life a failure?

But in Hangzhou, he was not sad. He built the famous "Sutai" to improve West Lake.

After this, Su Shi held various official positions, but reformists still hated Wang Anshi's reforms and wanted to get rid of him. They made up lies about Su Shi, which became known as the Wutaishishi case.

Su Shi was imprisoned and considered suicide. His friends and relatives helped him, so the emperor demoted him.

Su Shi wanted to help the king rule well, but after the Wutaishi case, he knew it was impossible. He learned to let go and become an ordinary person.

If you want to know what happened next, you can look it up. He had many achievements and works.

3- Qu Yuan jumped into the river.

Qu Yuan was a descendant of Qu Xia, son of King Wu of Chu, Xiong Tong, a standard royal relative. He realized that King Huai of Chu wouldn't fulfill his political ambitions.

Qu Yuan wanted a wise ruler and a philosopher king. But the reality woke him up, and he threw himself into the river. Did he fail?

Then why do we have the Dragon Boat Festival?

Hugs! Your parents have high hopes for you. They'd love for you to become a dragon, and your sister to become a phoenix. This is because parents want their children to fulfill their unfulfilled dreams.

If you can see it as parents projecting their own unmet needs or shortcomings onto you, it might help. For instance, parents might think that if you like a dish, you must eat more of it because they think it is good for you.

I remember what Maslow said in his theory of self-actualization: the highest level of human beings is self-actualization, and everyone needs or must become the person they want to be. (Baidu) I hope this helps!

You don't have to live up to someone else's idea of what is good. As long as you become good and feel like your dreams have come true, you are the best self-actualized person!

Your view of money is that people fight each other over it, to the point of bloodshed. That's because they're seeking self-fulfillment: they won't rest until they've got their hands on the money. I know it can seem scary, but I'm here to tell you that there's a bright side to human nature!

I'm sure you can see now why wealth can be so frightening.

I really want to say that there is not only a bright side to human nature, but also a sinister and vicious side. We can look at that black hole and get sucked into it ourselves.

And when you look at something bright, you feel brighter yourself. This is the truth behind that old saying we all know: "Those who associate with scoundrels become scoundrels, and those who associate with honest people become honest."

I really don't think you want to become bad or gloomy. I know you want to get better!

It's totally okay if you have lots of questions about people. We'll explore them together! The world is so big, and there's so much to learn.

I'd love to share a quote from my teacher: "I am a human being, not a god." I hope that when you read it, you'll feel inspired to give yourself a new self-positioning.

I really hope you can understand the relationship between money and happiness, and I also really hope you can grow slowly so you can become stronger and accept everything without pain.

Sending lots of love, Your friend in middle school