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By Anonymous | Published on December 18, 2024
Hello, everyone! I'm Whale Social Worker Kiss the Wind, and I'm so excited to be here with you today!
It can be tough to get along with people you don't particularly care for, but it's not impossible! Sometimes, we just have to put in the effort to make it work.
This is something we can all do! All it takes is a little effort to adjust our mindset and learn to control our emotions.
Have you ever wondered why we don't always get along with people we don't like? It's often because we can't control our emotions!
The good news is that often the other person has not done anything that makes us very dissatisfied. It is just because we have certain opinions about him that we cannot get along with him harmoniously. Therefore, at such times, we have the opportunity to calm down, control our emotions, and not allow our dissatisfaction with him to erupt at any time.
But here's the good news! Once an explosion occurs, the relationship between the two people will become very tense, and it will reach an impasse, which will become a major obstacle to future communication. And if it's a work relationship, we'll have to work with him, so this kind of relationship is very bad.
So let's all learn to control and regulate our emotions!
We all have a lot of resentment or dissatisfaction in our hearts towards people we don't like. But I have a suggestion for you all: maintain a forgiving attitude and be tolerant of his minor mistakes!
If you get angry just because of some small mistakes, you're only making yourself unhappy! So even if the other person is someone you don't like, if they haven't done anything particularly serious, then you can forgive them with an open heart!
Finally, we must stick to our own choices. Many people, when they get along with someone they dislike, will abandon their principles in order to please them. This is a mistake! It will only make the other person more and more pleased with themselves, and they will be even more outrageous in the future.
Because he will feel that although you hate him, you dare not do anything to him, he will become more and more arrogant. This is your chance to shine! You can choose to let this affect you, or you can choose to rise above it. You can choose to lose yourself, or you can choose to stand firm in your position. You can choose to give in, or you can choose to argue your case. You have the power to make a change!
So, in getting along with them, we mustn't just blindly cater to them and give up our principles. We must stand firm in our position and, if we're right, we must argue our case!
Wishing you the very best! (Yixinli Whale Social Worker)
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It sounds like you're going through a tough time with your roommate. It's important to set boundaries and communicate openly about how her actions affect you. Maybe you can find a moment when she's in a good mood to have a calm conversation.
I can see why this situation would be frustrating. It might help to approach the issue with empathy, trying to understand where she's coming from. Sometimes people act out because they're insecure or haven't learned how to consider others' feelings yet.
Living with someone who has such different habits can be really challenging. Perhaps you could suggest establishing some house rules that both of you agree on, like quiet hours and personal item usage, to make the living environment more harmonious.
Your roommate's behavior must be very distressing for you. It's crucial to prioritize your mental health. If talking to her doesn't work, maybe it's worth considering speaking with a resident advisor or finding another way to improve your living situation.
It's unfortunate that your roommate seems to lack selfawareness and is insensitive towards others. It might be helpful to build up your own confidence and not let her opinions affect you too much. Remember, everyone has their own insecurities and ways of coping.